#reblog for those of you who missed it

[antihibikase-archive]

It is incredibly isolating to navigate through fandom as an aromantic person. Aro experiences are so varied, and there is no definite aro experience that encapsulates the alienation that fandom spaces cause for certain people.

Fandom is mostly built and structured on shipping. And if not, the blorbofication of characters, which tends to go down the shipping pipeline; where does that leave the romance repulsed aro person who genuinely does not want to see any form of shipping? Platonic dynamics, right?

Yeah, sure. But by platonic dynamics, it's only "best friends" or "family" right? Where does that leave the aro folks with undefined labels? No, qprs aren't a get-out-of-jail card.

And qprs- they have no rules or standards set upon them by society, not even having a clear definition for what it is, because not all qprs are the same. Yet, for some reason, it ended up becoming the "nonbinary" option to a lot of people- not romantic or "regular" platonic? Qpr it is, right?

But where does that leave the aro folk who don't want a qpr? Who don't wish to see characters depicted in pairs or trios or so forth- who embrace the lack of a partner?

And these concepts presented; when aro folk talk about them, do you care? And if you do, do you understand? Do you try to?

If you aren't aro, but wish to be supportive, are you a genuine ally? Do you raise the concerns of aro folk you share the space with?

Or do you take a look at these concepts- and decide you understand them "well" enough? Do you decide to speak for aro folks instead?

Do you depict relationships outside of romance because you believe in the importance of platonic relationships? Will you accept the fact that not all platonic interactions will be familial or "best friends"?

Can you accept depictions of qprs outside of "more than friends, less than lovers"? Are you willing to accept it is not just "best friends" or "romance lite"? Will you accept that nothing is inherently romantic- and characters in a qpr may fall under your standards of lovers?

Can you resist the urge to put every character in a pair or trio or group? Are you comfortable with the notion of characters finding more joy in being by themselves, outside of all those lenses you see them in?

It's good if you can.

And if you can't, at the very least, do you understand why some aro folk in your space are upset? Embittered by your favorite ships? Starving for representation?

Did you depict these characters with these concepts with the knowledge that aromanticism is fluid?

#antihibikase.txt #Long Post #((I'm sorry. I have been thinking about this for weeks and I am unhappy.)) #((Honestly? I have been feeling more and more isolated in fandom recently.)) #((It hurts. I know non aro folks are trying.)) #((And its hard to describe. It's alienating.)) #((And the typical fandom response is more representation- which is well-meaning.)) #((But. Specifically to non aro folk. When you depict these aro concepts are you normal about them.)) #((Do you do so respectfully.)) #((Reminder that qprs are not restricted to aro folks btw.)) #((I'm so so tired. It's easy to say you care but then completely miss the mark.)) #((And just in case- this is NOT alluding to anyone. Please allow me to let my rage be my own.)) #((Or to share this with those who understand.)) #((And if you as a non aro person feel attacked by this- sorry.)) #((I did my best to word this as firmly as possible without sounding angry because I am aware that-)) #((-many will read this in bad faith.)) #((Okay to reblog btw.)) #((This isn't one of my usual rambles despite it being under my txt tag.))

[eternal-moss]

Falin panel in my style

:D I suddenly felt compelled to redraw the panel. Miss Touden you are my muse

Lineart + original panel under the cut

I mean, look at the improvement from one drawing to the other, Ryoko Kui’s art makes me think hard about anatomy + physics and it feels really good to draw :3

\/ original panel!

#I <3 Faligon #This was actually so much fun but it had me searching up weird stuff like ‘human vital points’ and ‘how to draw realistic boobs’ #I still have the child safety thing on my iPad so it was hard to find 😭 #Had a lot of fun with the ripping fabric! It felt very instinctual and kinda just like scribbling #A lot of people who have been reblogging my stuff lately have been copying all of my tags. Like not just the general/organisation ones #So can you stop doing that :) thank you :) #It’s when someone reblogged it copying me talking about my crush? Or something personal? It’s really odd to copy them 1 for 1… #Falin Touden #My art #Dunmeshi #Dunmeshi fanart #Dungeon Meshi #Dungeon meshi spoilers #Dungeon Meshi fanart #Falin #Farlyn Thorden #Falin fanart #Blood #cw blood #I drew more stab points then are in the panel because Kabru stabs her 3 times (not counting the neck) in the lungs kidney and heart #But only 2 of those are visible in the panel? The lung puncture is missing so I decided to add it #gore #I mean it’s fairly mild #I cannot draw wings for the life of me thank you Ryoko Kui for helping lol #Faligon

[miramisaki]

36(???) days until Charlie...

#mira draws stuff #fate charlemagne #charlemagne #fgo #fate grand order #fate extella link #charlemagne countdown #sorry for the relatively small ratio of Charlie to picture today I realized it was 11 p.m. and went oH CRAP #so smol Crane Game AU Charlie strikes again #the class work and the existential ennui have been kicking my butt #hopefully I'll feel up to drawing something more detailed soon... #thank you to those of you who've put well wishes in your reblog tags I see them and I love you #and for those who missed my post about it like forty(?) days ago I do know we'll be getting charlie earlier than my countdown predicts #but changing the numbering when we don't have an official release date would be too confusing #so I'm waiting until we have proper confirmation of the release date before updating the countdown number #prayer circle for Traum on May 10

[gayspock]

not to sound like a cunt but i swear like 2 jokes about something will get passed around and then a load of dipshits will start twisting that everyone is so Utterly Vacuous... god forbid if every post you post to your tumblr blog is not an indepth reflection of your thoughts and feelings. for your tumblr blog is reflective of your Inner mind and soul and you must summon yourself to the Calling of crafting the most perfect and eloquent analysis of the video essay that dropped 2 fucking days ago .

#egg.txt #this is about the hbomberguy shit soirry lol #like i see one or two jokes abt haha he took them out ) #and then suddenly its like: THE WHOLE CONVERSATION IS JUST ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU MISSED THE POINT #DUDE its like a 2-3 ppl on tumblr who made joke posts that got traction #not to mention yes: ive seen MANY ppl posting abt how sad and unfortunate this all is #but those posts arent gonna get traction bc theyre quiet fuckin reflections on a topic for now #as such yeah bro the tag is dominated by jokes that really arent that serious. #idk ugh sorry to be such a twist im just soooo sick of the vibe everyone brings of like: #i see lighthearted jokes in this tag. HOW DARE YOU ALL DO THIS. YOU ARE ALL SO FUCKING STUPID AND YOU TAKE NOTHING SERIOUS. #like yes its a serious topic but again .... TWO GOD DAMN DAYS AFTER THE VIDEO DROPPED NO LESS... the thing thats gonna ALWAYS float to the #top of a tag is quick jokes. #and besides its like if you WANT to have those conversations thats great??? like cultivate them bro?? #WHY not cultivate them instead of dominating the conversation with how stupid everyone is and how above them you are? #idk man its not just abt this #its abt sooooo much with the fuckn culture some ppl foster on this website #its the exact same with sillier shit like media #where some ppl think that u reblogging jokes abt a show / sth is like THE ONLY THOUGHTS YOU HAVE ON SOMETHING #blah blah blah you have such a superficial opinion of the characters and so forth #like relax. i just prefer to have discussions abt things not on my blog #jesus wept some ppl are desperate to think everyone is stupid

[rhythmicsystem]

What it feels like trying to get help for disabilities (in my experience)

Please note: This is based on my own personal experience with my physical disabilities, and with my car, lol. This is not meant to cover everyone's experience

tl;dr My experience trying to get help for my physical disabilities has been like trying to get your brakes fixed for your car, but somehow, nobody believes they're broken until it's too late.

Imagine you drive a car every day. One day you notice your brakes are not working as they should, basically you need to hit the brakes multiple times before they work - also known as pumping the brakes. Maybe this is a new experience, maybe you drove someone else's car and noticed they didn't need to do this. But for whatever reason you notice that your brakes are not working as they should.

You take your car to the mechanic and you tell them the situation. Instead of taking your car into the shop and checking it out, instead they ask some very weird questions that aren't related at all to the brakes: "What type of oil do you use?" "Do you buy the expensive gas or the cheap gas?" "What type of windshield washer fluid do you use?" "How full are your tires?"

You answer them anyways because, you aren't a mechanic so maybe those questions are related in some way you don't know. But after answering they basically tell you that you're doing all those things wrong, and don't even look at your car.

You are majorly frustrated but you try those things anyways. They don't help, as expected. You return to the mechanic and explain that changing those things did not help the brakes. You expect they will finally look this time. But they don't. Instead they say: "Well how did you drive here if your brakes don't work"?

You're angry at this point, they're clearly being unreasonable. You demand they look at your car because that's the entire reason you're here. They look at the car for a few seconds, and tell you there's nothing wrong and you should stop worrying.

You're extremely mad at this point, and your brakes are getting less trustworthy. You go to a different mechanic. They do the same thing. You finally find a mechanic who will look at the car, but they also say they don't see anything wrong with the brakes.

You've spent hundreds to thousands of dollars on mechanics at this point. You're absolutely sick of this. You start using your hand brake as it's the only reliable brake in your car, but you also know this is dangerous.

Eventually you get into a situation where the brakes fail completely, and you can't reach the handbrake fast enough. You swerve off the road into a ditch. Nobody is hurt but the car is totaled. The insurance asks why you didn't get the brakes fixed. And you scream at them.

#cripple punk #actually disabled #angry cripple #cripple posting #I'm new to using those tags so hope this post is cool to put there lol #but yeah I'm angry #this post is inspired by my most recent doctor who saw my blood labs and said 'oh you look fine just use joint cream' #like #thanks #miraculous cure truely #the joint cream is what ive been missing this whole time #please let me go tell the 7 year old version of myself that they need some joint cream #all their problems will be solved #rhythmic disability rants #rhythmic ramblings #okay to reblog

[snickerdoodlles]

there's a point at which someone's fear of being a dick wraps back around to them just being a dick anyways

#im side-eyeing those who reblogged my post on ethnocentrism and missed the point #but im also thinking about the tags i saw on being too scared to comment on fic #the first is being ~too scared~ to write cultures other than their own #(1. my point was people should be learning *as they watch the show* not just when they write #2. i just. jfC. stop saying youre too scared to *try* to write from another culture/POV different from your own as tho its a *good* thing) #the second is just annoying/frustrating because being too scared to participate in community is how community's die #i dont want to be dismissive of cancel culture because i do know the stories and there is always indv cases of a person ready to be a dick #but like. its just *not* a thing most people have to be worried about. very likely you're just not big enough to have that concern. #anxiety's no joke but like. u dont just accept the anxiety as the excuse. you have to challenge it. i've been there but u cant feed it. #and i dont want to sound dismissive of that anxiety but im really frustrated with seeing people throw that excuse around #without considering how their fear-based attitudes/actions come off in turn #such as not showing fandom creatives any appreciation for fear of saying the ~wrong~ thing #which comes off as creatives' stuff seeming to be ignored completely or otherwise very discouraging silence #when the only rule for tags/comments is to treat others the way you wish to be treated and apologize if you accidentally tread a toe #and being more worried about accidentally stepping on a theoretical persons toe than interested in showing actual people gratitude #like? pretty sure im not the only one side-eyeing that like ''have u really considered this feeling/logic????'' #again: its not saying that anxiety isnt a dick or easy to dismiss but i am saying maybe challenge it or at least reflect on it #i just #blahh #the commenting thing is way more mild than the other but tags arent for that conversation and i need a much better brain space for that one

[britneyshakespeare]

genuinely also curious from other ppl who have drawn from live models. whenever i talk about this experience ppl ask me if the models were all attractive and young and in-shape. in my figure drawing class only two of the regular models could somewhat fit that description. most of them were middle-aged or older people of ordinary (but diverse) proportions. like my experience may not be representative but i find it curious that ppl hear about modelling for a drawing class and wonder if that's like a hot 20-something job. it doesn't seem to be lol

#this is ok to reblog btw i wanna start a discussion #text post #reblog bait #life drawing #figure drawing #like i would be willing to bet there's some body discrimination in some places #where they might have a wider selection of ppl willing to work? #i DONT know anything about working as a model or how ppl get into it or do it steadily on the side #it does seem like an interesting gig for sure. not one i'd wanna get into myself but i'd love to hear abt it from someone who does it #or just observations from other ppl who have taken drawing classes w live models #in my experience (admittedly limited) of looking at reference websites of nude figures... some of them are more 'young and hot' #which kinda DOES NOT surprise me. bc they want ppl to BUY permission to use those photos as drawing references #and perhaps ppl are willing to lay down more money for pretty people? idk. or again it could just be a hiring preference by photographers #could be a multitude of factors. #but it's kind of unnecessary bc in order to learn the fundamentals of drawing realistic bodies u gotta draw a lot of them #u have to see different positions and different features and different shapes and overall different ppl #i miss drawing from live models. most of all for the gestural sessions. those were REALLY fun #very satisfying as warm-up exercises. quick and fast-paced and spontaneous. you cant get that at home

[finnpeach]

not that anyone gives a flying fuck but here’s my lineup guys. are u ready

1. finish this stupid vashwood/fleabag inspired fic. it’s good guys i promise. it’s my last one i’m gonna go out with a bang except the bang sounds like a sneeze. there’s religious discovery and sex and angels and—

2. jjk. obviously. i have 2 fics planned. no sex planned so far (holy shit?). trying to time it with the s2 so I’m completely feral and in a rabid state of horn

3. Patrochilles (i have been trying to write this since March lmfao)

#um that’s all. but my like writing inspiration is all gone it was spent on those like 7 vashwood fics I wrote in a week #when will it come back who knows #except if you haven’t seen fleabag you’ll miss half the references for my fic except maybe that’s a good thing bc you guys will just think #I’m really fucking funny and deep when really it all comes from fleabag HAHA #oh also if you post a hot ass jjk or vashwood fic and I don’t interact it’s bc if it’s not right in front of me i like will never #get around to reading it but one day when my horn blinds me into a rage I will go and read all of them #I’ve started reading some that are fucking AMAZING but then I get distracted and don’t get to the end to reblog so I’m SORRY FOR MISSING #ALL YOUR WONDERFUL FICS THAT YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN WRITING!!!

[larytello]

Small rant in the tags again, I guess, nothing serious tho

#Also the reason I didn't reblog a lot of Paw Patrol (my current hyperfixation) yet is simply bc they have a lot of DNI banners #It just scares me off even if I'm not in any of those specifications #Not to mention there's a lot of tags and DNIs I don't even know what they are #Even a few I know are not even harmful but they're in the list and even if I'm not part of it I have good friends who are #And it makes me feel attacked too #Idk man I just wanted to enjoy a goddamned KIDS SHOW with more than two or three seasons for once in my life #And I'm usually too busy to make content FOR MYSELF all the time #Maybe that's what happens when you're in your nearly thirties and miss the good ol' days when you could share stuff in your own blog #Without possibly starting a wave of “OMG YOU SUPPORT X BC YOU REBLOGGED FROM Y” and being put in block lists or whatever they do nowadays #Rant

[daincrediblegg]

#I'm just sick and bloody tired of the tags being unreliable and word not getting out bc time zones and so it gets flooded under the tags #or I post at 'not the right time of day' and people miss it who would actually like to read and reblog #I am very excited I've never felt more committed to a fic before and so I MUST ask #and if you'd like me to include you in the list now feel free to give me a heads up in the replies! #the terror #francis crozier #james fitzjames #one warm line #lady terror #fuck it those are tags now

[tvrningout-a]

how do we feel about this bio... be honest uvu

#grasping kojirou in my hands and SQUEEZING!!! #i should reblog stuff i wrote about him when i was first brainstorming bc honestly #there's so much more to talk about than what his bio reveals asdfg #i wanted to keep it similar to chiyo's in that it focuses on his personal/emotional development #so for those of you who missed out on my rambling the first time around kojirou is chiyo's ex high school boyfriend #who she thought hated her but nope!! he just lost contact after he moved away #and he's also a mangaka!! but for shoujo and whatnot!! #he's got a resting scary face but he's a very sweet person and emotionally intelligent #very similar to chiyo tbh but very different too hehe #get ready to ramble | ooc

[summerfly-blues]

My partner, the love of my life, and the largest blessing in my life, passed away last night.

@savetheghostswemakeforourselves has gone to her eternal rest and I am heartbroken.

In Pacem Recquesciat, my sunflower. You will always be loved, long after death. I will always be thinking of you.

#you can reblog if you knew her to add comments and share your love for her. I know she will be missed by many on tumblr #to those who are willing: please pray?

[elytrafemme]

you know i’ve had a lot of experiences of appearing and disappearing symptoms/issues. so every few months i discover a new problem and have to spend weeks trying to grapple with it, this is just kind of a thing for me. always. 

but i think the realization that i actually have like. severe abandonment issues? is probably the most devastating of any experience i’ve had with this. i miss my old friends so, so fucking bad. 

#nightmare.personal #don't reblog #ask to tag #like i. never realized i had abandonment issues #but when i think about it a lot of people have abandoned me and i can't figure out why #and i know there's a reason because it's genuinely good hearted people leaving me behind #the kind who hate excluding others the kind that felt abandoned themselves #but they left me and i don't think i'm bad but that has to be the answer? #it's like. i hate those ideas of 'i'll stay' 'everyone says that' 'am i everyone?' #because you are everyone and everyone abandons each other but there's a reason #and i don't understand what reason they have i don't know what i did #like i just have to live with the fact that the person i am in love with is going to replace me when she graduates #and i just. i can't stop that because there's something wrong with me #like the reason she hasn't gone is because she doesn't see my ugly side #she thinks she does but she doesn't and oh God she won't be there next week at all #i feel insane i know nobody should think they're constantly going to be abandoned that puts pressure on people #but i can't stop being convinced it's going to happen because i just. i can't. #it's been two years since i was close to these friends and i miss them every fucking day

[strangecowplant]

hey babes never feel discouraged to reblog your own posts, tzr the SHIT outta them this goes double for artists/writers ect

give your work the exposure and love it deserves 👏

#most people arent terminally on tumblr and cant remember to catch up on every single blog they love #like that post going around is the SHITTIEST take ive seen in a long time #dont let some asshole make you scared of reblogging yourself #for those of us who miss a lot bc of life or weird timezones your tzrs are graciously welcomed #txt

[airenyah]

i really wish people would realize that just bc someone can cry on camera it doesn't mean that their acting is very good

#this is inspired by my rant in the tags of the previous post i reblogged #later on i saw a bts clip on youtube of that scene and so many people in the comments were praising the acting of that person #and it's like no. just no. #oh god if i showed that scene to my camera acting teacher he would absolutely tear this person's acting apart #i can just SEE his face and PICTURE the gesture he'd make and HEAR him go ''hää??'' in his signature 'wtf was THAT?!??' tone #he'd always roast us so bad in class lmao #it was the worst class but also the best class tbh #(well actually we had one theater acting teacher who was also an amazing teacher with mind-opening classes) #(so camera acting shares that best class spot with that other class) #(honorary mention to my sprechtechnik class from my 2nd year with another amazing teacher) #(if there are teachers whose classes and knowledge i really miss now that i've finished it's those three) #airenyah plappert #the curse of having an education in something i suppose #you just can't unsee certain things #airenyah shut the fuck up challenge

[seapasture]

#my mental health has kind of been in tatters and going on tumblr has been exceptionally difficult from me for the past month #i'd like to wean myself back into it - i love the content and community on tumblr #but i have been suffering with quite intense paranoia and other mentally ill things i won't delve into #it makes doing anything other than liking posts extremely difficult because i ruminate over everything #so! i need to do some conditioning through reblogging on here again #but yeah just figured i would ramble asdfghjf i feel like a rude ghost #also i adored my last tumblr theme but i got an influx of attention here while i had it and i didn't process it well #so it kind of got tainted so i figured i would choose a fresh one even though it's kind of gloomy #maybe i'll bring it back when my brain is working a bit better #i know i've been tagged in things and thank you so so much to those who have tagged me in stuff - i really enjoy it!! #i'll respond to them as soon as i can - sorry if i take some time #and sorry if any mutuals have posted art or anything that i haven't seen - i feel like i've missed a lot :( #if you have read all of this then thank you for hearing me! i am not a concise person afsggdkl #sorry again - i'll try my best to get better but i may need some time #sea rambles #sorry if it's weird to have this pinned - just thought i would for a day or so to let people know why i haven't been around!