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vega-tenala · 7 years

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I just needed to rant about Karamel a bit so...

That first moment Mon-el arrived on the show, I knew what was going to happen. I know they were going to pair him with Kara. Say what you want, but I knew. I’ve seen it before, on so many shows it’s unbelievable. The white, male love interest seems to be the standard for ruining good, family shows like Supergirl and Once Upon a Time.

Then they brought in Sanvers and I was happy. It wasn’t what I was wholly invested in but it was nice to know that there was an f/f ship that was safe. That could have screen time that could be shown as just like any other health pairing on any show. But then Mon-el work up, and suddenly their screen time slowly evaporated, so much that we got what, 2/3 minutes an episode at minimum? So I was left there, a Lesbian who could watch a couple that was like any other, be withered away to nothing.

Before long, I saw the parallels people were drawing between Kara/Mon-El and abusive relationships and at first, I didn’t believe it. I honestly didn’t but then I read these posts. I recalled seeing the same things said against CS, a relationship I recognise to be abusive and unhealthy and I saw it. I saw how bad Kara/Mon-el could get and if we don’t stop it, it will get. Supergirl is only in its second season and it’s already fallen into the trap. Faster than OUAT ever did and it’s worrying.

I can see it, how Mon-el is like Hook. He takes up screen time, gets excessively jealous of our (blonde) female protagonist, 90% of the show is about his storyline and how he’s “changing” when in both instances there isn’t much change at all. It’s about the misogynist and their arcs to becoming “heroes”. We should have seen it, when Supergirl moved to the CW. We should have known.

For those that need it spelling out. Mon-el has insulted Kara repeatedly in arguments. I’ve seen the arguments of a healthy relationship and that is not what it looks and sounds like. He wanted to become a hero to impress her, treating her like a prize to be won, like an object. That’s not healthy. He doesn’t trust her to know how to deal with things like Mxy, a relationship which doesn’t have trust is not a healthy one. She asked for him not to tell everyone about their relationship, but the moment he gets to the DEOA he breaks her trust by yelling it out. This is not healthy. If you care about someone, you respect their wishes no matter what planet you are from.

Kara is the more experienced out of the two in fighting and heroics, yet he consistently goes against her like on Slavers Moon, which could have gotten them killed or even got Kara enslaved because how much do you think a surviving Kryptonian is worth? He wouldn’t become one, he was one of their customers. He didn’t even try to protect her. He was as weak as a human yet we see others who have tried to protect Kara even though they aren’t like them, when they could die (Len, 1x18 with all those people, that girl with them in the cell even tried), but they do it anyway. That’s not love, letting someone you have feelings for get hurt.

What miffs me off the most about that is on Slavers Moon he didn’t fight for her, but as soon as a rival comes into the picture suddenly he can fight for her. Suddenly he will stand up and grow a pair, but he couldn’t have done it on Slavers Moon? The odds were the same both times. He chose not to protect Kara until he felt she would choose someone else. That is not romantic, that is him getting possessive, far more than is good for a healthy relationship. They were barely even together and she was “his”. What part of that is a good message to send to young girls?!

I honestly don’t see how people can ship them together. Why would you want a man that treats you like an object? Why is it a woman’s job to bring the best out in a man? Why should Kara be the reason he is a hero. In the comics, he wanted to be a hero because it was the right thing to do. They have taken a fine character and turned him into Hook two-point-oh. It’s wrong that this message is on a family show.

Another thing, Kara/Mon-el is barely inter-racial, and that’s only because of slight evolutionary differences born of living on Daxam and Krypton. They are both of Kryptonian heritage as Daxamites were simply Kryptonians who migrated, and because of this chances are that they are distantly related because they are both of the House of El, a highly regarded House of Krypton. Which makes it incest. So they can show an incest-ship but barely give the Queer one a deep kiss? The shippers forget that James is human, which means that it is interracial as well as the fact that he is a POC. So while Kara/Mon-El is barely interracial (and most likely incest), Kara/Human would be fully interracial because they are completely different species.

Added to this, his behaviour in 2x14 was just downright rude. I would have expected him, a grown man, to have enough respect to wait until after to express his concerns in a calm and controlled manner. He could have waited and let Kara and Alex have their reunion with Jeremiah, he could have let them have that moment. But he didn’t. I don’t care who you are, you could be a god but you do not disrespect the parent of you host, adopted or not. I’m sure as a Royal he would have been trained in etiquette and manners. Over what I’ve seen so far, he is a man-child who does not display manners.

The worst part? They’ve pushed other character into OOC actions to make it work. Kara lets him walk all over her, she would not have allowed this in S1. James wouldn’t lie about Guardian to Kara, not the James we knew in S1 to create a rift between them. This gave Mon-El an in. Alex would not have missed Earth Birthday, she would have explained to Maggie that it’s Kara’s Adoption day, in a relationship or not. It was not Alex’s usual behaviour. They isolated Kara to push her and Mon-El together. The worst part is he is everything Cat Grant hates, and having worked for Cat for three yours you’d think Kara would know that. Which means Kara is twice shown to be OOC in terms of general behaviour.

To summarize:

Kara/Mon-el’s relationship IS abusive, just because there is no violence doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. It can be emotional and mental as well. It takes different forms, but it doesn’t mean it’s not abuse.

Their relationship is practically incest being both of House El

It is barely interracial, if even that.

The writers have made Mon-El openly misogynistic. I would not let my daughter (if I had one) near a man like that, openly or non-admittedly, no-noe treats my child wrong

Mon-El has lied about who he is, what’s to stop him from making large lies up to Kara in the furture?

Mon-El’s arrival has almost destroyed the show, this was not the show I was watching in S1

Characters have been made OOC to fit into this narrative of a “love” story between him and Kara

This is not a healthy relationship. It is not one we should want our children, whatever their gender, to experience. Whether you ship SuperCorp, SuperCat, Karolsen, Karwinn (the list goes on) or none at all, it is clear that Karamel is not a healthy relationship and detracts from the show overall, turning it into Cat Grant’s worst nightmare.

#anti-karamel #anti mon el #anti karamel #supercorp #supercat #superlane #karolsen #karwinn #karlena #supergirl #kara danvers #where is our supergirl?

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