#or poorly phrased

[nonebinary-leftbeef]

DEVASTATING the lyric you've been mishearing is better than the real one

#i've been listening to icarus by bastille #and for some reason my brain fills in 'this is how it feels to take a fall' as 'this is how it feels to take off all your skin' #and like fuck man #and I KNOW that’s technically not a misheard lyric but my post my rules cope #anyway my line now #also probably phrased this poorly but its ok #im allowed to be incomprehensible #as a treat #and then fuckin #from we sink by of monsters and men #the original line was 'please look away dont look at me' #and i kept hearing it as 'please learn a way to look at me' #anyway #shoving this post in the queue but please be aware that i am writing it very late at night #q

[tarantula-hawk-wasp]

Earth’s hottest day ever recorded by human instruments

Better way to phrase this is : top 3 hottest daily average-global-temperatures ever recorded by human instruments were this week.

#climate change #news #breaking news #destiel news #global warming #just saw this on the news and now I have to go back to writing my essay as of earth isn’t in crisis #phrased this kind of poorly bc I was basing it on what the news anchor said and then found the article on the channels website

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Los Chicos Peleandoooooo

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #song lan #xue yang #I know it makes jokes less funny if you explain them but I feel like I gotta for this one: #xue yang’s Spanish here is playing on the fact he’s a beginner (using a commonly taught phrase) #combined with the fact that he’s clearly taking what he’s heard Xiao Xingchen use. #of course XY would want to know how to cuss someone out in another language. Do you think XXC would teach him how? Nope. #XY would ask ‘How do I to someone I really hate them?’ #and XXC would say ‘You tell them ‘Te Amo Mucho’ :•)’ #As FAR as XY is concerned he knows *so* many swears. These words are just terms of endearment. #XXC would not swear or cuss anyone out but he *would* punctuate phrases with general terms of endearment. #More so directed towards A-Qing but Xue Yang has been proven to be a decent indirect learner. #That said he has also been shown to Not Quite Get The Nuances (consequences of observational learning). #Sadly he never had a good observational model for love or compassion B*( #Spanish speakers please oh god please correct me if I biffed something badly here. I can fix it.

[lm-thallen]

Minor Nimona Spoilers

So I just finished watching Nimona and for some reason two scenes paralleling one another that really stuck out to me is the Small-Minded Questions one and how Nimona reacts to them, because it feels so relatable as a queer person

The first time it is used, it's after Ballister, without realizing it, asks Nimona to justify her existence

"How did you get like this?" or "why are you [x]" is certainly a question that many queer people must've heard throughout their life. It's trying to act someone to justify their existence, treat something intrinsic to their nature as something "other" that corrupted them, not as something that is just... part of them And Nimona is understandably upset

And then the second time the words Small-Minded Question are used, is after Ballister asks this question

And this time she takes it a lot better. Because he's stopped asking Nimona to justify being who she is, and now he's asking about her experience, what it feels like from her point of view.

And I think for many queer people, they'd always prefer to be asked the second question rather than the first. To share our experiences with the people around us, without being asked to justify it and treat it as "other"

#nimona #nimona spoilers #I loved this movie if you couldn't tell #I'm not used to making my own tumblr post so sorry if it's wordy or poorly phrased #The newly arriving reddit users are a lot better than me at making posts hah

[orkbutch]

So, I'm not really in the weeds of Transgender Discourse on the internet (I have a life and also care about my mental health) but I've seen something discussed here about trans masculinity and I wanna talk about it.

I'm very masculine. I'm butch, I'm trans masc, I've always wanted to be masculine and I feel most comfortable when I'm presenting as such. Without much effort or any intention on my part I am read as a cis man day to day. Because I don't present more fem, in queer spaces I am read and recieved as a man, maybe trans, probably into other men. People do not even consider if I'm a butch lesbian unless there's Significant context indicating it. Because of this I'm viewed through 'Man Lens'; It feels a different if I say 'bitch', if I talk about my attraction to women. I don't get smiled at, people put physical distance between me and them as much as possible.

This is familiar for a lot of trans masculine people and trans men that aren't androgynous/fem leaning in their style, and it is an upsetting change to happen. It makes us feel judged or misunderstood to suddenly be causing this wariness in others; it feels prejudiced. I've seen people putting words to this like transmisandry. This is something they want to lessen in their communities, so they don't have to experience this anymore.

Now, here's my opinion part: That's not going to happen. You cannot tackle the "problem" of people responding to your masculinity with wariness. They aren't controlling the wariness, they can't. More importantly, their wariness toward masculinity and what registers in their brain as "man-like" is well founded. It's based in lifetimes of experiences and trauma that has told them men can be very unsafe to be around, and that is true. Most men are cis, and cis men are the most threatening thing in this world to non-cis men. They are usually* socially privileged above others, more likely to inflict violence, more likely to abuse and murder others, are typically physically more powerful than others. Everyone thats not a cis man DEEPLY internalises a very rational wariness of men, and masculine presentation as an extension. Especially men that are strangers. (*This is of course different when we consider intersections of race, colonialism, classism, ect. But globally this generalisation is still pretty accurate.)

Honestly, I don't think this wariness towards masculine presentation is something thats useful or realistic to challenge. Like many internalised processes it's probably a good idea to examine it and consider its usefulness, but I think it'd be easy to conclude that it is a useful wariness for people to have. Women have lots of reasons to be wary around men, including the unique threats of transmisogyny. Queer and gender deviant men have lots of reasons to be wary around men. This is The Reality of patriarchy.

Personally, the place I've come to with how women and queer people react to my masculinity (which is not entirely negative btw, the wariness is just one aspect) is that... I understand their wariness. I have it too, toward those my brain assumes are cis men. I cannot control how they feel or what they think about me. I can only be respectful to others and to myself and live my life. I flag my butchness where I can, I make my gender clear to those it matters to, and the rest I accept as largely beyond my influence. All of us have to do this in some places in our lives.

Even though my masculinity makes other queers wary, I have lots of friends! I've had no real trouble dating or finding intimacy. Initial wariness is just that. Once you understand each other, break the barrier, its usually settled. For anyone who finds my masculinity so offputting that we can't break the barrier, I'm glad neither of us put each other through that discomfort. I understand where a fear like that comes from. I will still hold community with them because that's what solidarity entails.

Anyway thats my ramble about masculinity in queer community, good bye until another. who knows how long

#back on the tumblr diary #personal #edited the section about women having reasons to fear men and transmisogyny; poorly phrased lol.

[official-megumin]

there is always this discourse about if transfem and transmascs have it worse

And like, I know it's not really quantifiable and measureable to find the objective suckiness of being trans.

But like

Man it's gotta suck to be a trans guy. This is coming from the perspective of a trans girl btw.

I know that not all transmascs care about passing and having a "fully male body", like everyone decides for themselves what they wanna do. But let's see this from the perspective from a trans guy who wants to be as close to a cis perisex man as possible, this guy is also perisex afab, meaning normal development and stuff.

Ok, so for this man to "finish" his transition, he would need like, what? 3 surgeries. All of which are gatekept. He would need top surgery, tit chop as you say.

This is already a lot, and it sucks fucking dick that y'all have to wait for that. But other than that already sucky and gatekept surgery, we also have phalloplastry, which many countries including Denmark, doesn't offer at all because it's more complicated than vaginoplastry.

This is also a hugely impactful surgery, and I assume that for many trans men, it also doesn't really feel good enough because no semen and dick pump. Of course I'm no expert, so don't take what I say as gospel, I might flat out be wrong about many things.

But that still isn't it. By now we have moved past surgeries the average transfem would "need"

Like yes, many trans women end up getting BA and FFS to combat dysphoria on top of bottom surgery, but they aren't "required" in the same way. So let's round it out and say one half of both of those surgeries count, so that means that transfems on average get two gender affirming surgeries. Which means that now, transfem and transmasc surgery counts are the same.

But wait, there's more!

There are also hysterectomies to remove the uterus and ovaries. Which again is very extremely gatekept because "devine femininity"(bleugh)

That's three surgeries to transition "normally" for a transmasc versus the two of a transfem, already there it's more sucky.

Of course this is not taking other typically gendered features into account like hip and shoulder width, which is too variable to really take into account here. Also it is not as widely different between the sexes as some people claim.

But this is just the surgery front.

I can't even begin to imagine how dysphoria inducing dealing with menstruation must be to a trans man.

Like periods suck dick, I know that from personal exprience. It hurts like shit for like a week at a time and there's blood everywhere.

But for trans men you add fucking dysphoria on top of that???? Hellish, the female reproductive system is so invasive and intrusive. For transfems we can just y'know, not touch the thingy and we won't have to worry about a visceral bloody reminder every month that stays even after hrt starts.

Really what I want to say is that yea sure maybe transfems struggle more with sexism and such whilst transitioning, I'd argue even that is not quantifiable and will be hugely variable on how the individual looks(speaking from experience as a trans girl who has not once had transphobia aimed at her in person in public from strangers)

But the physical struggle of transitioning? I think that trans masculine transitions take the cake by far here. Like objectively too.

And all the transmascs out there at all, doesn't matter how dysphoric you are, or how far you wanna take your transition. I respect you so god damn much, and I'm in awe of all of you. You're genuinely incredible

#I'm really sorry if I phrased anything poorly or if I triggered dysphoria in anyone #I just wanted to give a different look on this stupid discourse because I think trying to decide who has it worse is pointless #and I just wanted to elavate transmasc people in general

[gallus-rising]

i gotta organize my thoughts more on this but Dungeon Meshi being so unabashedly h*rny and in love w food/eating makes the scene where the demon eats Mithrun's desires perhaps the most viscerally uncomfortable SA scenes i've ever read despite technically not being that. i can't believe ppl praise this manga for being so uwu Wholesome and non-sexual. i Need ppl to understand that Anime Girl Flashes Her Panties Icky Fanservice is not the only possible depiction of sexuality

#*furious pecking* #dungeon meshi spoilers #i probably phrased this poorly #but like i said gotta organize my thoughts

[selfdiagnosedeyemotif]

oh yeah another reason to be pissed at porter is that now gorgug is doing his 400% course load, porter is just like. letting him do this? like if he approves his mcat right now then its better for EVERYONE. gorgug gets more time to spend on his barbarian shit, which is what porter wants. gorgug gets to reduce his course load by 250%. WHY ARE YOU NOT APPROVING HIS MCAT HES FORCED YOUR FUCKING HAND. IM GOING TO KILL YOU

#maybe im phrasing this poorly but like. hey porter. cliff-break yourself #gorgug thistlespring #fantasy high #fhjy #back to spyre!!!

[funkbun]

it's really disgusting how flight rising decided to associate "From the river to the sea" with phrases like "blue lives matter" and "maga"...

they claim that it's a "political slogan that can mean sooo many different things" but it's literally a call for freedom and decolonization, it's not that difficult to figure this out

if they're aware that "Free Palestine" on its own isn't political and is instead a call for freedom, why not do the same for "from the river to the sea, paletine will be free"?

#if i worded this poorly lmk of course #but seeing this post really bothered me and i dont see many other ppl mentioning it #'Oh but it can be used and interpreted in the wrong way!!' so can literally every phrase ever #it's just extremely disappointing how they went with this choice #flight rising

[centipedelightning]

if i started a fic about Reader being a bartender/server at Grilby’s and meeting sans, papyrus, and the whole multiverse cast slowly over time through the restaurant would y’all be interested?

EDIT: here’s the link <-

#i feel like i phrase that poorly but i’m sleepy and full of ideas #•centipede talks• #sans x reader #papyrus x reader #undertale x reader

[five-rivers]

Whilst it can be tempting to tell off a rude commenter on behalf of an author, most of the time we'd rather just forget the rude comment, so reflect deeply on whether or not it's truly necessary. In any case, a detailed comment about why you like the fic is much nicer to receive than a detailed comment about why a previous commenter was rude!

#ramble #also if someone is rude I can tell them off myself #and a somewhat poorly phrased comment does not need multiple comments of multiple paragraphs telling them off #At some point it's just disproportionate

[lacystar]

Treating Wilbur as I do dream currently: Expect to see stuff for his character still reblogged, but I won’t tag for him anymore, and I’m disengaging with him as a content creator at this time. Don’t ask me anything else about this, I don’t want to talk about it.

Still probably gonna be offline for a while bc I’m still processing and need to not be barraged by opinions rn. Mostly posting this so I can run my queue. Staying on the content grindset 💪

At the advice of Shelby and her mods, I’m not going to speak his name like this again because he is not the point. Shelby is. But if I didn’t say anything I figured people would think I was ignoring it, which I’m not. I’m gonna continue my break and I hope you all are taking care.

As a final note:

This has brought a lot of attention to Shelby that she didn’t have before and for good reason. But please do not make her abuse into her fame. If this has compelled you to subscribe to her, follow her, and support her, then stay for her and not for her hurt. Watch her streams, engage with her. Be normal. Don’t ask her more, even if it’s from a place of good intention. She’s more than a victim: she is an artist and businesswoman just as much as every other streamer you love. She isn’t “the streamer who was abused by xyz,” she’s shubble. Let her return be welcome and supportive, but please let her get back into the routine she wants. Normalcy is probably the thing she wants most right now, and the best we can do is help her achieve that.

#finally: I have the right to change my opinion. that’s what humans do if they get new information #I’m worried I phrased some of this very poorly and I’m sorry in advance if I did #as always there’s not a nice way to just say everything in my mind in a neat little way #please trust that if I worded something bad I meant it with good intentions 😭 #and please correct me but know I probably won’t see it for a while. being off tumblr is good and I want to keep that goodness going #alright. talk later ❤️ #abuse tw #discourse #wilbur situation #long post

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Jin Ling: Master Sleuth

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #jin ling #When you're so good at acting gay that you manage to fool even *this* fruity kid #Jin Ling's internalized homophobia once again saves the day #What a world we live in. #Jin Ling really said “Sorry my uncle's gaydar is so bad. Go out and frolic in the forest or whatever.” #Sure MXY's reputation helps out *and* the fact wwx was playing into that reputation #but at this point wwx has not caught feelings. This might imply that JL might actually have a good gaydar #The power is stored in his antenna. It's actually magnetized and repelled by magnetic forces similar to its own. #I ended up cutting it from the script but I really love the convo that follows this moment. #the 'two phrases' scene means so much to me. Its about realizing that there are times you *need* to put your pride aside #It doesn't matter if you feel its 'cringe' or makes you look bad. You can't connect with others up high on your self-made pedestal #I could go on but I'll leave it there for now B*)

[yuridovewing]

also its insane how ppl go to bat for appledusk so hard when like his only real traits are "-cheats on his wife'' and ''... existing i guess"

#also i feel like ppl always assume reedshine was his side chick and he just HAD to cheat on MAPLESHADE bc shes cray cray #when like... i get its bc we saw this from maples perspective but i always figured maple was his side chick skldfjskldfjdlksfjlsdjfldsf #bc like he lives with reedshine he shares a house and children with her. she is the wife hes cheating on #and i kinda get it bc its phrased differently but yknow #it reads more to me like he took reed for granted and got with a toxic person on the side and was shocked it turned out poorly #also ppl claiming hes a baby trapping victim are like........ where are these cats getting birth control #last i checked it was all consensual too. #like i dont think of it as maple vs apple i think of it as ''man apple set up his wife to fail here too''

[pjharvey]

the only ppl who rlly get what im talking about are other lesbians but i think the whole top/bottom thing has to stop because 1) i don't think topping/bottoming really translates as well for lesbian sex as it does for sex between gay men, like for lesbians i think people use top/bottom when they mean dominant/submissive a lot of the time. unless you're stone most lesbians are vers even if it's not evenly split. 2) everyone assumes i'm exclusively a bottom bc i'm 5'3 and it hurts my feefees...

#edit the first sentence is phrased rlly poorly but i can’t change it bc #i have another post thats a reblog of this one #i meant more like when i try to have conversations with lgbt people irl who aren’t lesbians they don’t get it

[naughtybg3confessions]

not a confession but regarding kinks scenarios etc implying poor hygiene and such concerning gortash: there's a huge issue i've seen brought up multiple times by turkish and middle eastern bg3 fans asking for people to be more sensitive and considerate about the racist stereotype of brown men looking and/or being dirty or smelly that's ignored over and over by the fandom. this isn't shaming anyone for kinks but it's something that needs awareness cuz it means something very different applied to other characters than it does with gortash. sometimes it's a genuine mistake of ignorance on their part but a lot of people are knowingly using it as an excuse for colourism and exoticism and it's important to listen when poc fans are literally pleading for people to stop calling the turkish man a dirty greasy rat. i mean no rudeness by sending this i just think it should be known and to help avoid future issues that might be encountered with running a blog like this

Let me start by saying I'm only part Turkish, so I'm coming from the place of someone who hasn't experienced discrimination in the same way. I honestly had no idea Gortash was intended to be Turkish, as Turkish names and words are used commonly throughout the game. But I can see the connection here, and it's awful that there are people out there saying such things with those intentions, and ignoring the people who are most affected by them.

I want to believe the average Gortash fan sees him as 'dirty' because of the yellow teeth, bloodshot eyes, bedhead, sloppily laced robe, and general evilness- though I guess it's also unfortunate that people associate poor character with bad hygiene. But I think he tends to attract fans who already have a particular set of kinks, and like me are probably wholly unaware of the implications. So, thank you for making us more aware. I'm not saying your experience isn't real, just agreeing with you that in some cases I don't think it's coming from a place of intentional racism. As I said, I was even clueless that Gortash was intended to be Turkish at all. I'm just not in the Gortash side of the fandom enough, I guess.

Exoticizing and bigotry are mentioned as explicitly against the rules here- I do my best to enforce this, but there are nuances to that I'm likely ignorant of. If anyone is talking about any character from that place- especially when POC are saying it's damaging- we as a fandom need to reflect on that, and not tolerate it. To anyone objectifying Gortash or any person with those intentions, you are not welcome here.

As for how I'm going to enforce this, I'm honestly not sure. I'm hesitant to blanket ban all stinky Gortash anons, since I allow those confessions for all the characters and banning them just for POC characters also has unfortunate implications, I feel. Anon or any POC followers, you are invited to weigh in on what you think I should do?

#in any case i will be keeping this in mind when i read how confessions are phrased and do my best for now #and im sorry if the confessions here have made you feel unwelcome. you are more than welcome to express your feelings here #answering asks #i hope im being respectful here. im autistic and tend to phrase things poorly without realizing :S #enver gortash