#nandor REALLY wants just a bid wedding

[ortofosforico]

I watched The Wedding Planner to understand why Nandor related to it so much so you don't have to.

Main character hasn't loved in a very long time, seems lonely and bam! A handsome doctor falls from the sky. Nandor tends to romanticise life, so a hope to get out of his depressing state and meet someone out of the blue is very much in his likes.

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Main character is a second generation immigrant. Her parents are Italian and I think Nandor can relate to the whole getting to a different country/living your life with different cultures clashing bit.

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The mc is the best in her field apparently, you could say she's the actual boss even though she's just a very successful employee.

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The romantic interest babies the mc a bit, takes care of her and runs to save her like a perfect prince charming.

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THIS ONE is the main problem. The speech about love that the main character's father gives her: he says he met his wife at their wedding, that they couldn't even stand each other; but after she tended after him during a bad fever, he started to appreciate her. And appreciation turns to respect, and respect turns to like, till like turns into love.

Ring a bell? Yu can't tell me this isn't Nandor and Guillermo's relationship during the show. Nandor is looking for a love that comes with time in Marwa, (who just doesn't love him) and can't see that he's already well past the respect step, and deep into the like- if not even the love one with Guillermo!

#nandermo #guillermo de la cruz #nandor the relentless #nandor REALLY wants just a bid wedding #he emphasized with the main character so much #and he's so fucking blind #the bloke in the film just smells toxic masculinity #I'll be onest I didn't like the movie that much #the wedding planner #wwdits season 4 #what we do in the shadows

[cookinguptales]

In reference to Guillermo not objecting, I feel like another portion of it could be linked to the fact that he doesn’t know about the recent wish. Like what if regardless of his feelings, being the heart guard, and overall desire for Nandor to be happy he also is in the mindset that he may be planning to leave and be with Freddy. He realizes that as much as he cares about Nandor, his time with him is limited and he can look to Marwa as a possible solution to guilt about leaving him. He personally knows about how hard it can be at times to love Nandor due to his selfish attitude and knows that whoever he is with needs to unconditionally love Nandor to take care of him. It’s like a changing of the guards situation. He also is likely unaware of Nandor not planning to turn Marwa so he may be under the impression that Nandor could begin to love Marwa as time goes on. Like part of me feels like most of the ‘not jealous’ behavior is genuine as it makes ripping the bandaid off easier.

I mean, some of that's true? But people who barely even knew either one of them knew immediately that they didn't love each other. (See: The Baron.) I think it was extremely obvious that Marwa was not a real viable option for Nandor, even if Guillermo actually wanted her to be.

Guillermo may not have known about the wish, but neither did most of the other people in that hour-long line -- and the only two that did know about it came up with completely different objections.

But Guillermo did know that Nandor chose her through process of elimination. He did know that Nandor didn't particularly like being around her and regularly avoided her. He did know that Nandor was changing both him and Marwa in a desperate bid to make things work between them because neither one of them loved each other for who they actually were. He certainly knew everything that Marwa's mom said.

The fact that he clearly kind of agreed with Nadja's criticisms really just hammers home that Guillermo knows this is a bad idea. In his heart, he definitely knows this is a terrible idea. The fact that he never said anything about it being terrible is weird, because no one else had that compunction and Guillermo has always been the first one to say something. He's been fairly bullish about it, in fact.

Honestly, I could see him wanting it to work? But I don't think he thinks it actually will. I think it's a lot more likely that he's telling himself everything is fine so he doesn't have to contemplate what he's actually feeling. If everything is fine and he has no objections to Nandor's wedding, then he doesn't have to think about why he's actually so goddamn stressed out about all this. It lets him ignore the fact that he's really not planning to go anywhere anymore. Not really. He may tell himself that he is, but I think it's becoming increasingly obvious that he has no intention of leaving this household for good. He keeps finding excuses to stay exactly where he is even as he says he wants to go.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Denial.

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