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#ive definitely said this exact thing on like several occasions
confield · 10 months
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hi! would not listening to your parents straight for a few hours or more constitute as defying authority? ive had more or less often - or at the least, frequent - fights w/ them because i literally refused to do what they tell me to do.
like… full-on arguments; where my mom (for example) would literally tell me to do something —> i don’t do it —> she gets more irritated —> i get annoyed + more irritated than her, something something along the lines of a physical fight would happen. and it ends up taking her a verry long while to calm down.
during these kinds of things that happen, i don’t actually feel any sense of regret, or remorse, towards what i did, nor for the consequences that follow.
this also happens w/ my ma on other occasions! i would literally stand up and start digging my nails into her arm / hand / wrist, and twist them around where she would exclaim that it hurts. like, having a very very tight grip on someone’s arm and clenching your fist around said arm. does that make sense?
would this, provoking, mocking what they say and other forms of this also show up as irritability / persistent anger? im mainly asking for a reference for my own behavior!!
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All of that sounds to me like the severe reaction to anger that is common with people with ASPD. Defying authority is a tricky one with parents, as children and teens naturally push against authority occasionally, but if you listen to them more often than not (for any reason besides "it's just easier to listen"/"it's not worth it")? Probably not. However getting physical with your parents (if they aren't abusive/didn't get physical with you first) is definitely a disregard for authority. Provoking them and mocking them are also in the boat where it could be normal if you're teenage, but if it happens frequently or has persisted throughout your entire life, it could be indicative of ASPD.
As for the arm grabbing, yeah. I'm diagnosed with ASPD I actually did that exact thing to a "friend" of mine when I was in elementary school so I *definitely* understand that one. (Context: They were gonna tell on me for accidentally breaking something of theirs and while I didn't feel remorse at the time, that was *wayyyy* more reaction than necessary and just made it worse for me).
It kind of depends on how outsiders would view the situation if they saw it? If most neurotypicals would see your situation happen and think "wow why are they going off like that at their parents?" then it could be a symptom. In cases of abuse though, many neurotypical people would also fight back.
It's also very normal for survivors of abuse (especially physical) to have intense "blackout"-like reactions to anger where in the moment they feel no remorse or concern for consequences, but feel it later when things have calmed down. With ASPD, that remorse doesn't exist or is extremely blunted, even long after the fact, even if we can acknowledge that logically, it wasn't acceptable/necessary.
Hope that makes sense, feeling a little off atm bc of a stressful appointment so if you need more clarity by all means let me know!
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BOBO DEL REY : BIOGRAPHY
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[    i.    STATS   ]
NAME.  bobo del rey , also known as robert svane . 
AGE. somewhere around 171; number provided via mathematics i did between a combination of the actors’ ages and doc’s mentions of his age/how long he was stuck in the well . the math may or may not be correct and i honestly don’t care enough to try and do it again .
DOB.  september 23, exact year unknown .
GENDER. cis male  :  prefers he/him or they/them pronouns .
PREF. pansexual
SPECIES.  human turned revenant .
RESIDENCE.  the  ghost  river  triangle  .
OCCUPATION. outside his stint as the owner of Shorty’s, his financial endeavours tend to be a little more under the table .
ETHNICITY.  swedish, danish, norwegian... most of his blood comes from that general area .
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[    ii.     INTROSPECTION    ]
POSITIVE TRAITS.   resolute ,  patient (how else would someone spend over fifteen years trying to find some lady’s dead children bones) ,  passionate ,   dedicated ,  perceptive ,   eloquent .
NEUTRAL TRAITS.  quick-witted ,  clever ,  irreverent , amoral .
NEGATIVE TRAITS.  hedonistic , short tempered , unforgiving , apathetic toward most things , self-interested (not quite the word i was looking for but when he sets his mind to a goal/decides that someone is in his inner circle, he’ll do anything to achieve/protect said things even to the detriment of others and this word is the closest i could find) .
DISLIKES. being rushed  &  law enforcement & comic books & ignorance/ignorant people & being under someone else’s authority  & having to repeat himself & hell flashbacks &  poker games &  cheap alcohol; he’ll drink it but he has a heavy preference toward the pricier stuff & interruptions of any sort & having to switch things up mid-plan & having to rely on others for anything & most sweets & neon colours &  thinking about his past & being cornered .
LIKES. expensive liquors &  lounging in the sun &  birds & organic materials for clothing; so furs, leathers, metals, etc. & accessorising (the amount of rings and bracelets alone that he has squirreled away is insane) &  neutral and earth tone colours & having all eyes on him/being able to give off a commanding presence &  at the same time he also values his privacy &  physical activities and how he feels after doing them & getting in the last word &  dawn or dusk walks & burning incense & avant garde jazz & 'experimental’ fashion (look at this man’s outfits in this show and tell me i’m wrong) & cigarettes and bourbon & flirting & the ocean .
HOBBIES. chess & puzzle boxes/rings &  origami & wood whittling & walks on the outskirts of town & he journals but it’s less for fun and more to keep track of everything he has going on & learning things .
WEAKNESSES. he has a hard time garnering any sort of sympathy for anyone/anything outside of his inner circles/soft spots & willa earp is one of his weaknesses because of how important she is to him and i will die on this hill & his short temper & his amorality means that his loyalties can and often do shift which leaves him with few he can steadily count on .
STRENGTHS. has a way about him that makes networking and forming connections extremely easy for him &  can be very persuasive when need be & once he sets his mind on a plan/task it takes a lot to get him to give up on it & has the ability to play the long game; isn’t impatient for results right away .
HABITS. he’s very expressive with his hands; like, very expressive &  will stroke his beard when he’s deep in thought (or pretending to be) & that thing he does where he kind of clacks his teeth together like he’s biting the air?? look he does it multiple times and i still don’t know how to describe it & has a habit of staring at people  &  leans back or lounges in chairs whenever possible & when nervous/thoughtful he’ll chew at the edges of his fingernails and/or spin the rings on his fingers .
EDUCATION. before he became a revenant, he was fairly well educated; about as well educated as anyone could be back then. he finished school and while he didn’t go to college, he did a lot of book reading before everything with wyatt began to get out of control. the fascination with/desire to learn about the world followed him even when he became a revenant - though often, his research now is done with an intention to learn information that might serve him well in the future.
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[  iii.     APPEARANCE     ]
FACECLAIM.  the beautiful michael eklund .
HEIGHT.  6 ‘ 0 ” .
EYES. a keen, watchful cobalt blue at most times - though when in use of his powers, or simply when he chooses to let them appear, his eyes will glow a fiery golden orange ringed with black . dark circles beneath them , long eyelashes, and generally a look that seems like it can pierce your soul .
EYEBROWS.   fairly average , again , there isn’t much to say about eyebrows . though small parts of his are white to match the partially white patch in his beard .
HAIR.  generally kept short in various mohawk styles ;  can be slightly wavy at times depending on the humidity in the air .  he keeps it short in such a manner that makes it easy to keep it styled , either smoothed back or shaped into a simple mohawk . there have been phases in his life where his hair grew out messy and long - dark brown streaked with white . if i recall, for a while after his return from Hell it was entirely white - whether from his own doing or from some effect of Hell I’m not sure yet.
SCARS.  a few long scars run down his back parallel to the curvature of his spine; they glow when in the presence of peacemaker or when he’s allowing his more demonic features to show . he has a variety of other scars; one faint one that slashes through one eye that is barely noticeable now; several across his abdomen and chest , some from bullets and some from sharper edges than those . he also sports scars from a knife that went through his hand and in certain verses , he has scars from the really nasty impaling he dealt with when fighting with jeremy and doc . 
DRESSING STYLE.  experimental . he tends to lean toward materials like leather or furs or metals (in the case of his jewelry anyway) . it’s not all he wears but it’s definitely the case with his favourite clothing items (the fur coat, leather pants, etc.) . tends to lean toward neutral or earthy tones and isn’t much for flashy , bright colours . wears lots of accessories as well , primarily rings and bracelets but also pendants on occasion .
LIPS.  i really don’t know how to describe lips, i’m sorry , lol . 
SKIN.  lightly tanned from time spent out in the sun ; he has an average but leanly muscled build , not overly hairy but not quite smooth either . pays careful attention to his facial hair and makes sure to take decent care of it . most of his body is covered in scars , some more noticeable than others , some verse dependent , but every version of him has quite a few regardless . 
CHEEKS. average cheekbones , doesn’t blush easily or often . 
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[    iv.     ABILITIES    ]
LANGUAGES SPOKEN. english  [ fluent ] ,  latin  [ a bit here and there ] , swedish [ a few phrases ] .
THREAT LEVEL.  moderate to high .
WEAPONS.  he can and does use anything around him as a weapon when needed . he isn’t afraid to get down and dirty - or play unfair .  that said , he is fond of simply using his own two hands to inflict the damage he needs to inflict . that or his magic powers . 
MAGIC. he has control over anything metal ; that means he can send anything metal coming at him - bullets , knifes, etc. - back at the other person or wherever he so wishes , amongst other things. generally speaking, if you’re on bobo’s bad side , you do not want to enter his presence with anything metallic on your person .
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[   v.   DETAILS   ]
➣➣ little is known about bobo’s younger years as robert svane - his family, etc. - and he sure as fuck isn’t going to tell anyone unless you’re very close . what is known is that he was a fairly quiet student and person in general, and got through school with little to no problems. chances were he had a fairly average childhood .  
➣➣ later on down the line, robert svane - as bobo was previously known - met wyatt earp and the two of them became fairly close friends. while he didn’t spend as much time actively in the field as wyatt or doc holliday did, he and wyatt stayed in close touch and spent time together in town often.  when wyatt left the area on one mission or another, the two would correspond via letters from wherever robert happened to be at the time. 
➣➣ then things began to go downhill. the nonstop snowballing of bad luck culminated in a battle between wyatt earp and the demon sheriff clootie - who took robert to use as a human shield. dedicated to the same cause and beliefs that wyatt held, robert told him to take the shot regardless, even though it would mean the bullet would go through him first. wyatt did. robert ended up in the local church nearby alone after that - perhaps on a search for help for his injuries - and bleeding out. 
➣➣ before dying, the demon clootie had cast a curse on the earp family - and on those killed by the earps, which meant that when he died, robert would be damned to hell along with the rest of the victims of peacemaker. one of the demon’s brides, constance, who told him such news, said that doc holliday - who was currently trapped in a well - had the third seal of bulshar’s entombment and that if robert went to the well, he could trick doc into giving him the ring. in the end, doc refused to give up the ring that gave him his own immortality and instead of rescuing him, robert, bitter of wyatt’s loyalty to doc first and foremost, left him in the well. as such, he eventually died (in wynonna’s arms.... yeah there’s a whole other flashback thing i’m not going into here), and was sent to hell.
➣➣ as foretold, he came back as a revenant. the years in hell had worn him down and down until very little of his former virtues remained above surface, all dormant and buried. somewhere along the line, ward earp became the heir. when waverly earp was born - to another father, but with the same mother - bobo came across them and, thinking waverly was the angel who had been with him when he died, kept his word to protect her, following her mother’s wishes and taking her to ward. he ordered ward to take care of waverly, and that if he ever harmed her, he would answer to bobo. 
➣➣ bobo kept watch on the earp family for some time afterward, eventually becoming waverly’s ‘imaginary friend’. around this time he decided to strike a deal with ward: bobo would make sure that the earp family remained safe but only if ward crossed the Ghost River Triangle border with him, effectively freeing bobo from the confinements of purgatory. ward agreed, but was accidentally shot during a raid on the homestead by the other revenants. the next heir was set to be willa, who was dragged away by revenants - revenants that bobo stopped in order to protect willa, who he hid away in a treehouse where the others wouldn’t find her. he watched over her as she grew, along with - unfortunately - constance clootie, whom he still needed to work with.
➣➣ unfortunately, clootie eventually erased all of willa’s memories and hid her away from bobo, in essence forcing him to work for her in order to ever see willa again, and, consequently, to be able to escape the Ghost River Triangle. it’s around this timeframe that the events of 1x01 begin to happen.
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