#im so fucking tired of people on the internet just casually throwing around these words

[moonofiron]

The Limits of Therapy-speak by Allow Volpe

“While these terms can prove validating for people who can now put a name to an experience, therapy-speak can eliminate all nuance from a conversation.”

““There are gradations of the human experience,” says therapist Israa Nasir, and therapy-speak terms are often the most extreme ways of describing those experiences. A friend can be selfish and not a narcissist. You can feel stressed without experiencing trauma. A partner can lie without gaslighting. Instead, mental health professionals urge, you should embrace nuance and avoid pathologizing normal — albeit annoying or painful — behavior.”

“...tagging people as “toxic,” for instance, is not productive, she says, because there is no dialogue, no interrogation of what “toxic” means or how it presents in a person or situation. Beyond the initial naming and identification of a person or experience, it’s crucial to consider your motivations in utilizing that label.”

“Think about a recent time you used therapy-speak. What was your intention? What message did you want to convey? Why are you drawn to intense emotional descriptors?”

Overuse of these terms can blunt their significance and minimize the experience of someone who has actually dealt with a person with narcissistic personality disorder, for example.

#ail #therapy #therapy speak #narcissism #trauma #gaslighting #if you do 1 thing today #make sure it's reading this #im so fucking tired of people on the internet just casually throwing around these words #i think i recently even ranted a bit about hyperbole being the only way to communicate now #just fucking take a breath #step back #and really take the time to explore and define what you're feeling #article