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mychakk · 4 years

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Questions about Sherlolly

I got tagged by @sherlollyandspoilers who apparently stole these questions from this post because they looked like fun :D I couldn’t agree more, so here is my take on those questions:

1. Coffee shop AU: Who is the barista, and who frequents the coffee shop?

Oh, I have a kind of neglected (for years! gulp) prompt for that one... I see this AU happening in Uni, with Molly being the barista ...and Sherlock, needing money, becomes her Intern lol. He, of course, was frequenting the coffee shop before, and being inept at flirting, antagonised Molly. Now, he has to not only win her heart by manage to convince her to let him keep the internship. :P

2. Highschool/College AU: Who is the straight-A student, and who’s the backrow slacker?

Molly is the straight-A student. Sherlock is a genius who doesn’t need to do any real work and still passes the classes, lazying around. It annoys Molly to no end. He isn’t impressed with her teacher’s pet position at school either, but once they start working in lab together as partners, their opinions change and of course feelings blossom :P

3. Rivals to loves AU: Who takes their rivalry seriously, and who is half in it just to push the other’s buttons?

School rivalry of course, maybe some science project of sorts. Molly takes the rivalry seriously, because she is offended on the behalf of hardworkers, because once again Sherlock does nothing and comes up with superb results. Sherlock is amused by her offended face and finds it cute, hence he riles her.

4. Enemies to lovers AU: Which one switches sides?

oh, oh! This is going to be my Criminal!AU. Sherlock is the Consulting Criminal ...and Molly switches sides to his, becoming his Dark Queen. And then they rule the underworld ever since :P I wanna read this so bad!

5. Soulmate AU: Who is eager to meet their soulmate? Who absolutely does not want to meet their soulmate?

Sherlock is wary of meeting his soulmate. Outwardly. Deep at heart, he yearns to meet her and not be lonely anymore. Molly is a helpless romantic by nature ...but doesn’t believe in love anymore because of the angst her own parents experienced. So she isn’t really looking for *anyone*. But once they meet, well, sparks fly, then there is some angst because Sherlock is tentatively hopeful, but Molly is categorically opposed. Sherlock is hurt, Molly is guilty and then they try to build first a friendship. Finally, they take the final step, rising it all, and have never been happier since.

6. Single parent AU: Which one is the single parent? (Alt. if they’re both single parents: Which one is open to starting a new relationship from the start? Which one is never planning on finding love again…Until they meet the other and are instantly smitten?)

...so I actually rather hate that trope. that being said, I can see two takes on it: 1) Sherlock is the “single parent” of his ward (maybe Rosie because Watsons died tragically), he isn’t interested in finding anyone (still suffering from the loss of his two best friends and people he loved most being gone), but Rosie decides she wants to have a second mum so she chooses Molly, her school teacher, and yes, they are instantly smitten, although they try not to be :P. or Molly ends up with a ward, maybe her nieces, and she suddenly needs to become a parent, and Sherlock, surprisingly, starts co-parenting with her, and the nieces (being too young at first) start consider them their parents and that’s how they brought them together. 2) Molly is the single parent after a drunken one night stand at the end of uni. She doesn’t know who the father is. Then during the Fall, Sherlock sees the child and is like, your son looks like me that age. And they compare notes and turns out Sherlock was that other drunken participant of the one night stand. I actually wrote this plot in one of my stories, lol.

7. Doctor AU: Which one is the longsuffering doctor? Which one is the patient?

Is this even AU, lol? Molly is the longsuffering doctor to Sherlock constant injuries from his cases. :P I can also see ...a smutty role play here lol but for AU, I think Molly is the doctor and Sherlock is the patient ...who comes up with tons of strange maladies in hopes to see his doctor, because the git doesn’t know how to ask her out.

8. Bodyguard AU: Who is the bodyguard? Who are they protecting? Which one is secretly pining for the other?

Sherlock is the bodyguard who is protecting Molly, and OF COURSE they are secretly pining for each other duh. lol. He is a self appointed bodyguard and Molly is not amused by this. But he will not take chances with her as she is suppose to testify against a serial killer, who turned out to be her best friend.

9. Pirate AU: Who is the pirate? Who is the member of the royal family who did not sign up for this?

Sherlock is the Pirate, or privateer with the Crown behind him :P Molly is no princess though, she is his noble-born wife, who definitely didn’t sign for this, alas turns out she’s better then her husband. They tackle Moriarty who, under the Royal Navy, has agenda of his own against the Crown. Then they sail into the sunset lol

10. Childhood best friends AU: Which one was super obviously in love with the other the whole time? Who was oblivious until they were older?

Sherlock has always been in love with Molly and vice versa. And they *both* are totally oblivious about the other’s feelings. Mutual pining FTW. :P

I loved this so much! I would like to hear what others have to say about our beloved ship: @mizjoely @juldooz @elennemigo @xenalous @cumbercougars @mrsmcrieff @colonialfire24 @musicprincess1990 @rabbit-in-blue @readstoomuch also anyone else who wants to do it, feel free! the more the merrier :P

#sherlolly #mollock #meme #tag game

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gcollectingwords · 3 years

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Covid-19 & Millennials

The effects that the Covid-19 pandemic is having on Millennials and Generation Z youth, respectively those born between 1984 and 1995 and those born between 1996 and the early 2000s, are mainly related to their mental health. In fact, the pandemic was considered a true collective trauma.

The real possibility of contracting the virus, the uncertainty of the future, job and economic insecurity, lockdown and constant exposure on social media to a multitude of information, which often turns out to be false, have done nothing but instill in young people (but not only) forms of anxiety and worry.

For Millennials and Generation Z, the comparison with previous generations, who considered them irresponsible, lazy, slackers and, in some ways, even responsible for the second wave of contagions, was inevitable. So, in addition to anxiety about the future, there is also the often unfounded criticism of parents, relatives and grandparents.

In addition, for young people the limitations to social relations can result in real psychological damage. What they are experiencing is in fact the age of group outings, of fun, of evenings with friends and of first loves. The pandemic, however, has forced them to stop their sociability and take refuge in technology. If, on the one hand, technology, with its messages and video calls, can be an excellent alternative for continuing to cultivate relationships, on the other hand, abusing the internet and social networks can increase anxiety and lead to depression.

In all this, distance learning for schools and universities is difficult, with questions and exams online, poor connections, hours spent in front of the computer, internships and apprenticeships often suspended or in smartworking mode. Doubts are growing: will I be able to complete the internship? Will I be able to graduate on time? Will I be able to pass the year? These are certainly the questions that are proving to be a source of anxiety for students today.

Teenagers are becoming increasingly lonely and, according to some research, 20-year-olds are even more isolated than retirees. The smartphone can become the only foothold for a social life, swallowing up any chance to meet and hang out with other people. People prefer sexting instead of having sex, ordering food on Just Eat instead of going out to eat, watching Netflix instead of going to the movies. And so gradually people stop meeting new people, because the situations in which it is possible to do so are increasingly reduced. For some, the cell phone and the potential it offers to be connected with a world that would otherwise be unreachable becomes the only reason to live. According to a survey conducted by Telefono Azzurro, 17% of adolescents are unable to disconnect from smartphones and social networks and 1 in 5 wakes up during the night to check them.

The smartphone is not the cause of all evil, but only a tool, as Cesare Guerreschi, psychologist and psychotherapist, founder and president of S.I.I.Pa.C., the Italian Society for Intervention on Compulsive Pathologies, reminds us. The center, which has five locations throughout Italy, deals with the treatment of behavioral addictions and, although it was founded to combat gambling addiction, today in the Bolzano location alone it treats 156 adolescents for nomophobia, the fear of being disconnected and away from the phone.

"With the advent of the new millennium and consequently mass technology, new ways of expressing discomfort have developed," Guerreschi explains. "All addictions, including new addictions, have at their base a unique pattern of behaviors, such as craving, which consists of a very strong and impelling desire for the object of addiction. For drug addicts it can be the spasmodic search for the substance. For the cyber addict it can be the constant need to access the smartphone." For the nomophobic, being away from the cell phone causes anxiety, malaise and uncontrolled anger.

The so-called new addictions, therefore, would be nothing different from those we are used to knowing. In the eighties, drug use was the generational response to a convulsive and incomprehensible time, despite the promises of widespread well-being of Reagan hedonism. The creation of a hallucinogenic para-reality was the most obvious way to escape from the surrounding reality - this also thanks to the contribution of a rebellious imaginary fed by the counterculture, especially music - and the return of heroin and cocaine on the market and the arrival of new synthetic drugs such as crack destroyed an entire generation. Today, smartphone addiction expresses a similar discomfort, although in a less dramatic and obvious way: as during the crack epidemic, the economy is recovering and unemployment rates are stable, but young people continue to create a parallel reality for themselves, in this case a virtual one, refusing to come to terms with the world.

And as in the 1980s, this other reality comes at a high price, even if it is no longer overdoses that kill young people: since 2011, suicide rates among teens have risen alarmingly. At the same time, other risk factors have decreased, such as drug and alcohol abuse and even traffic accidents, but this is not because teens have suddenly become prudent or diligent, but more simply because they don't leave the house to be on their cell phones. Millennials, in short, are safer than teenagers of any other era have ever been. As Jean Twenge, who for years has been conducting studies and research on those born after 1995 (whom she has dubbed iGen, i.e., the generation that can't remember the world without the Internet), acknowledges, parents have also played their part in this, translating an asphyxiating sense of overprotection into the possibility of letting kids do basically whatever they want, as long as they're supervised. Do you want to go to the disco? Okay, I'll take you there and stand in the corner with the other moms. Thus, the myth of adolescent rebellion has also fallen, because the space for insubordination is reduced and the desire for independence languishes in children. And the lack of independence leads to unhappiness.

In spite of the apprehension, according to Dr. Guerreschi, parents are still distant and are not able to talk to their children: "The virtual relationship has replaced the human relationship, even in the most natural relationship that is the one with parents. By now, parents and children communicate through cell phones and via chat, without talking to each other." According to the survey of Telefono Azzurro, four out of five respondents use social networks to communicate daily with their children: the paradoxical thing is that children are constantly told to put the phone away, when it is precisely the adults who abuse it, often using it as the only means of communication with them. Almost all of the young patients at S.I.I.Pa.C. were brought to the center by their parents, and almost all of them are in family therapy.

Twenge also argues that teen segregation occurs not only within families, but more importantly among friends. The progenitor of social, Facebook, is based on friendships that, while virtual, are still friendships. But millennials don't just use Facebook, they also use Instagram, where the number of friends is replaced by the number of followers, a much larger and more indistinct mass. So the desire to be part of a group, of a community, has been replaced by the desire to make a number, that is, not to be left out. This is a very common desire in young people of all ages, but it has become one-way and unrealizable: it is no longer a matter of not being left out of the coolest group at school, but of a social network that has a billion active users.

This phenomenon apparently particularly affects girls, whose depressive symptoms increased by 50% from 2012 to 2015 and who, according to Twenge, committed the highest number of suicides. Females experience more cyberbullying (males still prefer physical assaults) and feel more pressure from beauty standards. When they post a new photo, the research says, they obsessively check the number of likes they've achieved, not so much to have a gratifying confirmation of their appearance, but to not look bad to other users. This causes a strong sense of anxiety, linked to the fact that "you can't" not post anything, because at that point it would mean being totally excluded from social life.

Finally, affecting the mental health of young smartphone addicts is the issue of sleep, which may seem collateral or irrelevant, but is instead a key factor in the onset of depression. 43% of teens sleep less than seven hours per night, a percentage that rises to 51% in the case of 18-year-olds. Looking at a cell phone before bed stimulates the brain and the blue light from the screen inhibits melatonin production, making it harder to fall asleep. Eighty percent of teens admit to using their cell phones during the night, and waking up specifically to check them, a phenomenon called vamping.

Sleepless, depressed and anxious, these millennials are the portrait of a generation that is not at fault. If Deleuze a few decades ago identified schizophrenia as the capitalist disease par excellence, depression is the disease of our time. There is no doubt that mental disorders are not a personal matter, but a collective one. Not only is depression rampant, but it has actually become tolerable: the system, instead of acknowledging its own dysfunctionality, places all the blame on the individual, without considering mental health an issue and a political responsibility.

Adolescents are among the first victims of this system: not only do they work continuously with their cell phones, in the literal sense of the word, consuming advertising, entering data that are processed by digital companies or being at the service of the sharing economy, but they pay a very high price in terms of mental health.

This does not mean that cell phones are to be demonized, on the contrary: as drug addiction teaches us, prohibition serves little or nothing. The solution could instead be to disconnect from the system, and recover human relationships, not only virtual ones. But this won't be possible until we stop holding people accountable for mental illness. And so, kids will only ever be asked "But will you put that cell phone away?", without ever once asking "How are you?".

#covid #millenials

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