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smores100 · 4 years

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people have different opinions when it comes to public grand gestures. some people love it (say, a marriage proposal in the middle of a restaurant or a football game surrounded by strangers, or someplace where all your family and friends are present), other people hate it (and would prefer, for example, an intimate marriage proposal somewhere private, where it’s just the two of them). personally, i’m an introvert who gets extremely embarrassed when there’s too much (or at all) attention on me, so something like a wall with my big ass face painted all over it would’ve made me feel hella awkward and embarrassed. but it doesn’t matter what *i* feel about this kind of stuff, or what any of us feel about it. what matters is what *robbe* feels about it, and back when sander first mentioned it, he seemed to be pretty darn into it - at least in theory, so if a mural with his face is ROMANCE to him? enjoy!

having said that, i have mixed feelings about this, bc i’m not sure this is *currently* what robbe wants, and even if it is, sander couldn’t have been sure of that. yeah robbe was into it back when they were together, in their honeymoon phase, but the circumstances are different now. they’re not together anymore, haven’t been for a week, and back then there was no due date on when this mural would happen anyway, it was more hypothetically speaking at that time, a sweet sentiment but not something that would necessarily happen *now*. i think public grand gestures work best when you’re in an actual relationship with the other person and *sure* the outcome will be positive, otherwise things can get awkward and uncomfortable real fast, not just for the person making the grand gesture and getting turned down, but for the person *receiving* it and feeling pressured into reacting a certain way. what bothers me more in robbe’s case, is that he’s not out yet. the mural =/= outing robbe, bc despite what moyo believes (could someone please make him stfu for once in his life???) it could’ve been painted by ANYONE - a girl, a boy, no one knows! but a public painting like that screams 📢 SOMEONE’S REALLY INTO YOU!!! 📢 and that immediately turns everyone’s attention onto robbe, bc naturally people would be curious to know what the story behind it is! who is this person that’s soooo into you they would do something like THAT??? and that to me feels like a lot of pressure being put on a guy who’s still closeted (sander has no way of knowing whether robbe’s come out to anyone, and to whom), not to mention went through a gay bashing. bc either he has to tell the truth and come out, or he lies and pretends like he has no idea but it’s definitely a girl (which is what jens did for him when he said it might be noor). instead of his love life being kept private (as far as his friends - and probably everyone else too - know, he was with noor but it’s over), now all eyes are on him and everyone’s gonna be teasing him and bugging him with questions all ‘ooooh, what’s going on heeeere, who is this secret admire hmmm???’ he has no idea wtf happened b/w him and sander, he’s just now accepted that he’s ‘single’, and now this? he doesn’t need the added stress of trying to make sense of their relationship with everyone all up in his business.

i think what’s even more frustrating is that idrk what sander is trying to say with this mural? bc in og, despite even being hot and cold with isak, and the confusing mixed signals with the drawings, overall i understood what he was trying to say. by using the parallel universes theory they had talked about, he was saying - ‘the way things are in *this* universe, that’s just how it’s gotta be. but in *another* universe, things are different, there’s an alternative reality happening, one where we’re together.’, which is pretty much what he texted isak in o helga natt: ‘in another place in the universe we're together forever, remember that.’ it still made you go ‘ok??? why can’t he just be with him *now*, what’s he playing at???’, but you had a general understanding of the point he was trying to make with his drawings (which is what drove isak to text him in ep 7 and basically tell him ‘look idgaf about other universes, if you’re not gonna break up with sonja in *this* one to be with me, let me be’). but with sander, i have zero understanding??? which is a result of him going from ilu to kissing britt in just a few hours w/o even breaking up with robbe first + the fact that we have no idea what he’s been texting robbe all week! so yeah, i get that the mural is a romantic grand gesture, and obviously if he did that it means he still cares about him......aaaaaand? is he trying to apologize and win robbe back?? is he courting him?? or did robbe giving him the cold shoulder make him feel bad and he wanted to let him know he *does* still care, but he’s still gonna stay with britt anyway?? what is he saying! WHAT DOES IT MEAN.

i’m not saying sander’s public grand gesture was bad, and if robbe isn’t bothered by it then great! but i do think that due to current circumstances mentioned above (the state of their relationship and robbe not understanding what happened, robbe’s mindset and the fact that he’s not out yet), the timing might not have been the best, and something private, just b/w the two of them, something that would give robbe a little bit more insight and clarity, would’ve been better. for me, the mural reveal would’ve worked better if it had happened as part of their o helga natt. assuming we’re gonna get their version of it (so far they’ve followed most of og’s story beats, so i assume the mi storyline won’t be *too* different, but i guess we’ll see), can you imagine how powerful and emotional it would’ve been?? robbe is out to his friends, dating sander, not hiding anything from anyone anymore, something happens that makes him question whether sander’s feelings for him were real....then sander texts him a pic of the mural (along with a heartbreaking message) and robbe’s like ‘whoa, he really *does* love me!’ cue reunion and happy tears. now *that’s* an impactful romantic grand gesture.

#wtfock #mine #sometimes i have thoughts #when will we know what sander's messages said #when will we know what sander actually wants with robbe #when will i understand why the writers didn't have him text robbe 'sorry i need a break!' before he went on to kiss britt #when will moyo *not* be obnoxiously sexist or homophobic and *will* let robbe live #(will he ever???)#stay tuned #also js....not v cool how they're pulling a yann with moyo and having the only black guy react in a bad way =\#tumblr doesn't want this to go in the tag and maybe it's for the best

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