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lovelykhaleesiii · 6 months

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I have been going back and forth in posting this, but want to have a clean slate and a clear mind going forward.

this fandom if I am being honest (and from experience in many others) has been the most roller coaster ride. it has been wonderful and blossoming, yet also, toxic and disheartening…

my current state right now, I feel as though I have been shunned from the community from all corners. stranded alone, with only a few friends (I could count them on one hand) to talk to and to trust.

I have been incredibly disappointed in this fandom by people I had considered friends, people that I believed to be sincere and kind, but over time showed a very different and ugly side.

I am not going to sugar coat this topic anymore… and be warned, I will call you out if need be, from this point on. I always had hopes that as a community mostly dominated by adults, we would act more like it, but it seems not. then accountability is necessary, because this school yard behaviour is not it.

I work most of the time, I barely even have time for a social life on top of personal things… tumblr is not my priority. but when I log in on here, I do wish and intend for this to be a space where I can relax and enjoy myself, to be creative and write and share my ideas and stories. to interact with people, to bond over characters and stories that I don’t ever get the chance to in real life, because I barely meet people with similar interests.

this is meant to be my safe haven.

recently it has been quite the opposite…

I have been gaslit, bullied & ghosted/neglected. as someone who genuinely struggles to put herself out there, I have made attempts that I am thankful for yet hurt by the experiences. putting myself in discord chats only to leave in the matter of a few days…

I have said this before and I will say it again. If I ever say anything to you directly or indirectly, and it doesn’t sit right with you. I am open to talk privately about it. I am not perfect, in fact far from it. I have flaws as do we all. I can make mistakes, I am human. if the matter can be resolved, amazing, if not: I don’t expect to get along with EVERYONE on this hellsite. the block and unfollow options are there for a reason!!!

regardless, I understand everyone has their own personal lives and issues… believe me, I DO! I am a huge advocate for life > tumblr. you need a break, take the break. you want to go on hiatus, go on hiatus. you do not owe anyone in this fandom shit, as I have reminded myself as of late. In saying that, showing people common courtesy and decency is not by any means a stretch, it should be the bare minimum.

showing support to your fanfic authors/gif makers and creators is valid and ideal.

I have taken multiple breaks because the stress and exhaustion from my work and personal life has been a lot, that I am able to remove myself from a situation, to not allow anyone else to suffer my ordeal. your actions have repercussions, and you will be held accountable.

to wrap it all up, I will continue to write my little, silly stories, I will continue to read fics. However, I have of recent been so turned off by some of the people in this community, that if I’m being honest (which I also strongly advocate for, and believe I owe whoever read this that), I have no energy to interact with people that have crossed me and made me feel less of the person I am at this point in time. my friends who I respect and admire dearly, know who they are, I don’t need to tell them twice.

when I feel comfortable with this fandom, my interactions may change, but for now. I very much enjoy my small number of friends.

thank you to those who read this entire mouthful, I genuinely appreciate the small things and taking the time out of YOUR day to read and listen to little old me, says a lot.

please take care of yourselves, and I hope that we can create a better more wholesome fandom space.

love always, Hel 🤍

#rant #personal #thank you to anyone who reads this entire thing #I hope you have a wonderful fucking day

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crushpdf · 3 years

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Tumblr Etiquette Masterpost

Hi! Because I have (1) anxiety (2) been on tumblr for more than a decade, I have assumed the incredibly narcissistic position of making a post about how to interact with people on tumblr, since I think I’ve mastered the basic rules.

UPDATE: I started drafting this post a while ago. I'm not calling anyone out. I mostly made this because I realized I had a shocking number of followers who are new to tumblr.

In this post I’m covering Asks + Anons, Reblogging + Liking, Following, Tags, and ~Making Friends~.

TL;DR: tumblr etiquette is about social norms. These are the norms I have observed in my time here. You’re free to blog as you choose, but tumblr is a happier place when everybody is following the same guidelines.

Yes I use the words like “have to” or “rule” in this post. No, none of these are actual rules. Do what you want, but be prepared to face disgruntled users.

Let’s get started!

All About Following

Rule #1: You do not have to follow anybody you don’t want to. You do not need to let someone follow you if you don’t want to.

Tumblr is technically a social media site. If you want to grow your social circle, follow your mutuals’ mutuals. The internet is like real life. You do a Group Hang, and then eventually you get to the one-on-one friendship. (Please refer back to Rule #1)

Some of your mutual-in-laws might feel slighted if you follow everyone except them. That’s okay. (Please refer back to Rule #1) You might feel slighted if you’re the one not being followed. That’s okay. (Please refer back to Rule #1)

Tumblr is technically a social media site, but it’s also a place to see the content you like, not just the people you like. You can be friendly with people you don’t follow, or who don’t follow you. Some users are amazing people who just post the wrong content. That’s okay.

If someone posts content you don’t like, unfollow them. If you don’t like someone’s personality, unfollow them. Don’t be an asshole, don’t hate-follow, and don’t stress yourself out.

Asks, Anons, Messages

I tried to organize my thoughts into paragraphs. I really did. But talking to people on tumblr is messy if you do it wrong, and I’m just going to bullet-point some etiquette guidelines.

Rule #1: You do not have to answer any messages you don’t want to.

Your 500 word message should not be the first time a user sees your name

.....Before you get Venting Privileges, a user should recognize you from the tags you leave on their posts, or the comments you leave on their fic, or the other shorter messages you’ve sent them, or from being mutual-in-laws, literally whatever. But it’s Not Cool to dump things on people who don’t even know you.

The anon button should be used in two scenarios only:

.....1, to send a positive message. Not neutral! Positive message, the kind of message you send with heart emojis.

.....2, if you don’t want to admit personal information about yourself. The Venting Privileges Rule still applies even if you’re on anon (ie: you can’t vent! Because they don’t recognize your username!) and “personal information” does not include unpopular opinions. I’m talking messages like “Saw your post about living in Houston, and I agree!”

.....(Okay, three scenarios: if someone specifically asks for anons for an ask game or something!)

If you don’t want it posted publicly, don’t send it over an ask. Send it as a DM. You can always kindly request that the recipient doesn’t publish it, but typical tumblr etiquette is that asks get published by default.

Personally, if I follow someone back I like to introduce myself! Many of these conversations end after the “hi” stage, and I never force friendship upon someone. But many of these conversations also work as ice breakers, and make it easier to send the second message, and the third. Don’t worry that you’re being rude if you don’t do this—it’s also totally normal to just keep blogging as usual!—but it’s helpful in making friends.

If you reblog an ask game from someone, it’s just common courtesy to send them an ask of your own.

Tags, Blacklists

Rule #1: You do not need to use any tags you don’t want to.

(Are you sensing a theme? But this one gets a...)

But, be prepared to face disgruntled followers over this.

Tags are useful in so many ways. They’re a great place to organize posts so you can find them more easily later on! They’re a great place to show off your personality! They’re a great (and quiet! More on this later) place to show appreciation for content creators.

They’re also so incredibly helpful for your followers to avoid content they don’t want to see. If you’re delving into a new fandom and are about to reblog twenty posts in a row, tag it. If you’re liveblogging a movie, tag it. If your post (especially your photo posts) contains any common phobias or unpleasant things (gore, spiders, etc) tag it. And if one of your followers asks you to tag certain content, even if you don’t really understand why? Tag it, or else expect to lose that follower.*

*This isn’t about your follower count, btw. This is about being a decent person.

On the other hand, use blacklists and filtering liberally! If a user does tag their content, you have no right to complain about their posting it. Just filter it.

Reblogs, Likes, Comments

Tumblr is a blogging site. It functions on reblogged posts. That’s just how it works. This is not one of those sites where you scroll for hours clicking the like button.

Here are what likes are for:

Showing support for someone’s personal posts

Showing appreciation for someone’s tags

Admiring content that doesn’t exactly align with your blog (different fandom, inappropriate, whatever.)

Saving a post to find later

Showing double the love!

Here is where likes are most disappointing:

The original fic, artwork, or edits of your fellow tumblr users, especially in your fandom

(If you’re someone who regularly reblogs things, I’m not talking to you. You’re allowed to simply “like” posts. I’m talking to those users in my notifications that, day after day, like 35 of my posts and reblog exactly 1 of them.

Just reblog shit.)

Also, remember how I said you can quietly show appreciation in the tags? Only comment directly on a post if you are sure you’re adding something worthy to the post. If you’re just saying “haha me too!” or “I remember this!” just leave it in the tags. (Reminder! You can do what you want! It’s your blog and I’m not the police! I’m just teaching you etiquette! And the polite thing to do is to leave personal commentary in the tags!)

Let’s recap:

Aaaaand: Making Friends

Start small. Introduce yourself after you have mutually followed each other.

Leave nice things in people’s tags. They notice.

Send ask game messages.

Show off more of your personality. This isn’t a one way street!

.....You can do this by, well, reblogging things. Also by tagging things. Also by just making original posts.

Do not go zero to one hundred. You wouldn’t sit next to someone in class and start talking about your trauma (even if you heard that they share your own!). So don’t do it online.

Like people’s vent posts, and their asks, and their tag games. Reply to them, too.

Honestly? Do more tag games! If someone says “anyone can do this and say I tagged you” take them up on the offer! Tag other people you want to get to know more.

Last but not least, you do not owe anyone anything on tumblr, and no one owes you anything. Ignore the rude message. Block the annoying tag. Follow the users you like even if they don’t follow you back. Do not tell people to post more of X. Do not tell them to post less of Y. Do not ask them why they don’t follow you.

It’s so much easier to press the unfollow button than to be a dick.

#i have zero idea how to tag so i will just say #masterpost

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anxious-acushla · 4 years

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I’ve been wanting to do this for awhile. Or, rather, I’ve needed to do this for awhile.

And this post will likely get me in trouble but after some thought I decided it was better to be honest and then kind of leave it be than to just fade out and allow everyone to fill in the blanks with a story that is convenient for them.

I’ll start by saying that I’ve always been an outsider in fandom. I’m usually an outsider in life in general so it’s a natural role for me to fall into. I get involved in fandom because I love a piece of media. I obsess over fandom usually because I love a relationship. I actually used to be worse. I used to really lose myself in it all. It was an escape. Then it because almost unhealthy because as with everything else in my life, my passion came from things I found to be unfair. With fandom it was terrible plot lines and the absolute murder of characters I really identified with and rooted for. So I grew up and as I did I pulled back a bit, but I still enjoyed fandom.

When that happened (ie. my fog of rage cleared) I realized that regardless fandom was and still is my way of writing and getting feedback on my writing. So sure, I love the thing you love but I’m here to write. If I make friends along the way, then cool. But that’s not my goal. I’ve never been one to praise a work just because someone who was kind to me (or is even a friend) wrote it. I won’t read your fic just because you read mine. I won’t read fic I don’t like - period. (**It’s also worth noting that I work a lot and don’t have as much time to read fic as I used to.) And I get that sets me apart. I won’t apologize for it but I understand how foreign that may feel for some people. But that’s okay! That’s my entire point! We’re all different! But if I was able to write and able to share my work and able to receive feedback, I was fine because that was my goal.

The fandom I’m currently associated with is different. I’m not calling it out by name - I don’t want this appearing in any tags. This is for my followers and the people I have so much respect and love for. To put it bluntly, my experience has been really negative since the beginning. I noticed early on how prevalent these very cancel culture/write off posts were; how often opinions were posted as fact, demeaning a fellow fan’s differing stance in a very personal way. The beauty of fandom is that we all have our interpretations. We are literally here because we either love or hate the different interpretations writers presented us. Fandom is and has always been based on a fans passion for a story and if we start quelling different interpretations as if free speech isn’t a thing, in my opinion you’re completely ruining what fandom is about. Fanfiction cannot thrive or even exist without freedom of expression. So when I see passive aggressive posts about a fellow fan’s opinion, that’s what feels foreign to me. When those posts are based on something *I* said and stand by and continue many months after my opinion was voiced via my writing, it’s honestly just sad — disheartening and almost disconcerting but sad. And I’ve dealt with this for what feels like forever. I’ve dealt with it not in the way fandom is supposed to, with productive discourse, but with nasty anons and call out posts in the tags not dismissing the opinion but the person who has it. There are asks I’ve received that I’ve never posted because they were downright cruel. There are asks I’ve posted that I know a lot of people agree with but won’t reblog or even heart because they’re afraid of rocking the boat. I’ve literally been blocked more times than I can count, not by people I’ve ever interacted with but for no apparent reason other than that I most likely had an opinion that differed from theirs. I’ve also been blocked (I can only assume) because I stopped reading fic I no longer enjoyed. Again, I’m not here to be liked. That’d be cool and I care about it more than I’d care to admit, but I don’t expect it. I’m here to write. But I deserve respect just like everyone else and I don’t believe such a simple courtesy can be overlooked. That’s not something I want any part of.

Needless to say, it’s always been so odd to me when people talk about how much they love this fandom and how welcoming and accepting everyone is. I have felt and experienced nothing but the opposite since Day 1. And fandom should be what you make it but it has literally gotten to the point where all of the negativity outweighs the positives. The negativity I experience is not only unfair but blatantly toxic and I have bitten my tongue for so. damn. long. Bottom line: I don’t feel welcomed. I don’t feel like part of the community and I’m sick of acting like I’m not bothered by it. Popularity contests have never been my thing but when my choice to ignore it comes at a detriment of my main goal (writing and getting feedback on my writing) I wonder why I’m here.

I have a lot going on in my personal life. A lot. Especially lately. And fandom is no longer the escape I need it to be. This is not fun for me anymore. Realizing, accepting and admitting that is not easy for me. I’m honestly heartbroken. Fandom has been such a huge part of who I am since I was 11. ELEVEN.

I’m going to finish CFDD because I love this story and I love this version of these characters and I’ve worked too hard not to share the ending with everyone. There are some of you that have been so overwhelmingly supportive that I don’t feel right not giving you that ending. I owe it to the characters and I owe it to those of you who have invested time and emotional energy into a world that means so much to me. My readers and those who have given feedback mean the world to me. I mean that. It is everything to me. So I will give you the ending and then I think I’m going to go politely bow out. I had a story planned for when CFDD was over. I was so stoked for it and the storyline is one that is very personal and I’m so passionate about sharing. I just have no motivation. Again, this is not fun for me anymore. I want to cry writing that. I am gutted. I am lost. But this is what makes sense right now.

I’m keeping my tumblr. I’ve had this blog since I was 15. That’s 12+ years. It is mine and I’ve finally started curating it back to where it’s a productive place for me to share what’s important to me. Unfortunately that means unfollowing some people. So if I unfollowed you, it’s probably not personal. It likely has very little to do with you and everything to do with the users you reblog and the posts you promote. And that’s okay! You’re curating your blog to what you want, just like I am. I tried filtering and I tried blocking and blacklist. It wasn’t enough. Please still reach out if you need to vent or want to check in or just bullshit about politics or mental health or whatever else. Me not liking your blog likely has nothing to do with me liking you. Just like I’m hoping me doing this isn’t going to result in everyone writing me off.

Ya’ll, I was so fucking excited to post my next story. I love this couple. I loved Exhale and I love CFDD. I adore the fuck out of some of you. But I can’t do this anymore. This isn’t fun anymore but I hope it’s fun again someday.

✌🏻💜

#personal #in which my blog is a blog #quote: one of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say

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thebirbiest · 4 years

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What did ozpin-defense-squad do?

I would think one look at their blog would be enough to ascertain my reason for making that post? But just in case you’ve been sleeping under a rock, don’t recognize the name, or can’t see her malicious personality beneath the fake kindness she continues to use only for those that kiss her ass– let’s dive in.

Recently, an anon asked that they tag their self-insert ship posts. They expressed that such posts made them uncomfortable, and as someone who has their own triggers and who has also had those same concerns laughed at or mistreated because people don’t take the time to understand, I can say with all sincerity that ODS handled the situation poorly. More than poorly, really. How she still has followers is beyond me.

Instead of simply asking where these posts were, what exactly was concerning the anon, she took the question asked as an open, hostile attack despite it being a simple question, and lashed out on the anon. For like…no reason. She made a post prior to this anon about people tagging their ships because it made her uncomfortable, but couldn’t extend this same courtesy to her own anon simply because she “thought that it was passive aggressive.”

As it turned out, said anon was new and was hoping to blacklist posts that made them uncomfortable.

As someone who suffers daily from anxiety and depression and my own triggers, I can tell you right now, the vicious and angry response given to that anon and then repeated toward them later on when an “explanation” came through, is not how you treat people. That would have set me off in more ways than I can express, and it legit would’ve sent me into an anxiety/panic attack, had I been the one asking the question.

THIS is not how you treat someone; regardless of how sensitive you are, regardless of how you “perceived” the question. No one owes you an explanation of any kind when addressing their own discomforts and triggers. As a decent human being, you are to simply acknowledge these concerns and respect them. It’s not hard. At all.

I am not in support of guilt-tripping by any means, but what else was the anon supposed to think when she blatantly and un-apologetically made that anon feel unwelcome?

She’s also known to make other Ozpin shippers feel uncomfortable simply because they’re enjoying their own ship, and not feeding her self-insert delusion that Ozpin belongs to her and only her. She’s gone so far as to attack these shippers, specifically those involving LGBT ships, and has done so on many occasions with several close friends of mine.

She also had some sort of discourse about stickers(??) Which I know very little about, aside from the fact that she willingly encouraged her “fans” to go after and attack the anon that had some concern about them.

She does not take constructive criticism (clearly), she has no patience for anyone else’s emotional/mental concerns (aside from her own), and she is just not someone I want to be around or see on my dash. Her open hostility and negligence in regards to anyone outside of those that support her no matter what she does is, honestly, a little scary. She sets off most of my triggers at just the mention of her URL and after what I’ve seen today, I’m done staying quiet. She reminds me very much of my ex-girlfriend with her delusions and insistence that it’s ‘her way or everyone else can perish,’ and I will not stand for someone treating others so poorly.

So yeah.

I don’t want anyone @’ing me in the comments. You’ll receive an insta-block and your comments will not be heard. If you can skim through her blog and not see that her behavior is concerning, that it’s not how we treat those within fandom, that it’s not right in any way, shape, or form - then leave.

Everyone deserves to have their concerns heard. Everyone deserves the right to be treated with respect when their mental health is a concern. If you can’t do that for people, then block them or throw the ask away. It’s that simple.

I have very little patience for people like ODS, who sets off people’s triggers with little to no concern because she doesn’t try to concern herself with anyone but herself, and her behavior is toxic in ways that I am not comfortable being around - even among my followers.

Make your own assessments. Follow who you choose and agree/disagree wherever you please, but unfollow me now if you’re going to support someone like that.

#I'm tired of people treating other people like this #and I'm tired of the need to support people like this #it's not that hard to be a good person #you just have to take the stick out of your ass #and see a little further than your own world #Everything in regards to this topic will not be addressed #I'm asking you all now to simply unfollow and/or block #I will do the same accordingly #Thank you #Anonymous

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boystownhq · 5 years

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[ R-E-S-P-E-C-T Find Out What It Means To Me. On Communication! ]

Recently, I’ve been noticing a trend of people communicating out of character in the vaguest way possible, or alternatively being aggressive to the point of turning people off. I’m here to talk about the happy medium that helps us communicate our wants, goals, and limits. And to remind everyone of a few key things to always keep in mind when writing with other people in a group setting.

There’s also plotting and letting go of plots. Sometimes when you reach out to people, you’re really excited about a plot, and when it starts to play out, things go awry, and it creates a conflict that becomes difficult to deal with IC and we turn to OOC solutions. Character chemistry changes sometimes, or sometimes our writing styles don’t match. That’s OKAY! If you’re not feeling it, all it takes is a quick message. Something like:

YES ✓ “Hey, I’m not really feeling this plot/thread and would like to drop it. Thanks.”

NO ✘ Immediate unfollow and/or block.

Dropping threads/plots/etc does NOT give anyone the right to treat your fellow writers poorly. Being short with people and getting upset over in-character interactions is not the way to go. IC should never cross over into OOC, and we need to take a step back and really think about what we’re actually upset about. Be concise and specific when you message each other so nothing’s really left up in the air. Please remember that behind each character is a real, imperfect person using this roleplay as a creative outlet. Be patient with each other, avoid taking things personally, and if you can’t mesh well out of character, it’s easy to just bow out of a conversation with common courtesy and leave each other alone before things escalate. I’m going to go over a few points I think we need a refresher on.

Brace yourself, this is a long read, but worth it!

Consent: ALWAYS check in with your RP partners and make sure it’s okay to do something before just writing it, however insignificant it might seem to you. Please do not godmode dialogue, actions, or extensions of said characters (pets, children, parents, or other NPCs they’ve made) unless you’ve asked for permission. When in doubt, ASK to make sure it’s okay!

TAGS and Triggers: Please remember that a character’s actions and viewpoints do NOT reflect the actions and viewpoints of the writer. A little louder for those in the back: IC =/= OOC. We’re in a roleplay with a variety of characters that deal with things like infidelity, internalized homophobia, crime, sex negativity, sex positivity, family issues, race issues, gender norms, gender fluidity and other issues that affect people in the LGBT and POC communities every day. All we ask is that everyone portray these issues respectfully and if you don’t know how to, then please do not attempt to until you’re more educated. Nobody wants to read a mockery of issues we deal with on the daily in real life. While we love seeing diversity, you do NOT need to write about deeper issues to make your character interesting. That being said, don’t take it upon yourself to play blog police. Come to the admin if you see something that’s a cause for concern, and keep in mind that you do NOT have to interact with every character in the RP. We have a list of triggers, please tag them accordingly. As much as we all love seeing steamy aesthetics and faceclaim posts on the dash, please tag NSFW accordingly. Need something added to the list? Please reach out to the admin so we can add it!

SMUT: Sometimes, people bring in FCs that we REALLY like! And maybe you wanna write your character and that character getting together, but consider this: maybe that person doesn’t want to jump right into smut. It can come off as fetishizing if that’s the only thing you ever want to plot or write about. People do NOT owe you an explanation as to why they won’t write smut. Respect that. If your character is aggressively pushing a sexual plot and you are asked to stop OOC, then you need to full-stop. Sex is a sensitive subject, whether you think so or not, and we respect everyone’s boundaries here. We strive for a safe space to write IC and OOC. That doesn’t mean don’t write smut ever, just have full, explicit CONSENT. It’s that easy! Don’t be pushy or borderline creepy about it, because that’s the surefire best way to get unfollowed. Have a question? Come to the admin! You don’t have to tag NSFW, but you can if it’s getting extremely graphic, just out of courtesy.

Plotting: Are you reaching out to plot with someone? Have some ideas ready, don’t rely on the other party to come up with all the ideas. Is someone reaching out to you? Make an effort to bring something to the table, but if you feel pressured into coming up with a plot all on your own, it’s okay to decline if you’re not feeling it. Need help coming up with stuff? Reach out to us! We can help. Just don’t reach out to your peers, say you want to plot, and never come up with a starter or anything, then come back time and again asking for ideas when the other person still doesn’t have any. Not only is that annoying, it’s off-putting and indicative that the rp will rely on one person for the most part. Not cute!

Inclusivity: Don’t be afraid of branching out. Everyone likes writing with friends, and that’s a given, but make a conscious effort to reply to open starters. I understand sometimes people are nervous, but that’s something we need to work through. If you’re nervous approaching someone, consider that they might be nervous to approach, too. Don’t make assumptions about people based on what you see alone. Some people gravitate to certain characters, but that doesn’t mean they won’t interact with you. If I had a nickel for how many times people assume my characters won’t want to interact with theirs when that’s not true at all, I’d have a lot of nickels! Open starters are the best way to get a feel for a character. Be creative in your interactions and the way you invite other characters to interact with yours through starters for best results.

YES ✓ “Hey, a starter from this character I haven’t interacted with, let’s gooo!” NO ✘ Ignore starters because you think they only bubble rp and won’t reply to you. (Open starters are open for a reason!)

Respect Time and Muse: Sometimes, people have muse for certain threads, certain characters, and won’t always get to every single reply they owe. If you feel like there is a problem, too much time has passed, please approach that person because it’s likely they missed a response. Tumblr activity feed can be a little weird, and not everyone uses thread trackers. That’s okay! Again, this is a hobby. That being said, don’t agree to plot if you don’t see yourself following through, and please don’t disregard threads you have with other people. That’s frustrating, and you wouldn’t want the same done to you. Some people might be on sporadically throughout the day, or on for a brief time at night, or even be on all day! Either way, they don’t owe you an explanation as to how they’re using their free time. If it gets to the point where anyone is feeling pigeonholed in a plot, it’s affecting your ability to roleplay your character, and you’ve tried communicating, then reach out to us and we’ll help. Everyone’s got the right to write what they enjoy and progress their character’s development.

He Said She Said: Did you hear something from a third party about a person and now refuse to interact with them IC or OOC because of it? You should probably take a step back and ask yourself if it’s actually true or just hearsay just because someone else didn’t like them for whatever reason. A lot of us have similar or same aliases, but we’re not all the same people. If someone personally does something to you, if you SEE certain behavior, by all means bring it to the admin’s attention. But please don’t spread rumors or buy into unsubstantiated claims. That can be more damaging than you realize. Again, we’re all real people on the other side of the screen. What if it was you being talked about?

Unfollowing vs Blocking: Look, we get it. You’re not gonna mesh with everyone. Sometimes people won’t get a hint, or do things that you just do not agree with fundamentally on an OOC level. We have a no blocking rule because we don’t want anyone feeling left out. If you wish to unfollow a character, that’s not optimal, but allowed, but please respectfully let that mun know so they don’t continue to try interacting. If you have been asked to stop interacting, please respect that so it doesn’t HAVE to escalate to admin intervention. That being said, we are here to help and help keep the peace between everyone, so do reach out to us for any reason. Don’t block people. If it does escalate, reach out to the admin so we can step in. If you want to unfollow someone, be sure it’s not solely because of IC actions.

TL;DR: COMMUNICATE OOC and be respectful to your fellow writers. At the end of the day, nobody wants to feel ignored, disrespected, or passed over, so please don’t be the reason why somebody feels this way. Be inclusive as much as you can, but respect that you won’t mesh with everyone. Don’t spread false rumors. Character chemistry, writing style, or content will vary from character to character and mun to mun. If you have any questions at all, the admin team is here to help! But it’s not that deep, Jay, it’s just RP. YEAH, WELL that’s not an excuse to treat people poorly. We can do better.

#boystooc #Jay This Is A Wendy's #🙏🙏🙏#🌿🌿🌿

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