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buggybestfriend · 4 years

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thank you! so basically i was talking with my friend the other day and she ended up explaining about queer identities to my younger brother and her younger brother (who are also friends) and she said that she thinks she's demisexual. i've known that im ace for two years or so, and i was happy that she found that label bc she told me about how she needs to really know someone before liking them a while back, and i felt that demisexual would be a good fit but (continued) 🥭

part 2? bc i didn't want to explain how i'd been researching a spec identities lol :) so yeah she said that yesterday and i didn't say anything bc my younger brother was there and he knows that i thought i was bi before i realized that im ace and i havent told him that yet. anyways, idk if i should come out to my friend and tell her that im aroace, u know? like it feels like im copying her or something. and idk how to explain alterous attraction bc i told her about a crush (continued lol ) 🥭

part 3? that i thought i had (which turned out to be a squish and like societal pushing romance now that i think about it). also idk how itll be if i come out as aroace now and then i tell her later that im nonbinary... i kinda wanted to do it all at one go. to add to that i dont really have dysphoria? and i dont know how to explain anything. tl;dr- should i come out as aroace? if so how does one explain alterous attraction? im so sorry if none of this makes sense, ask any questions u have

ok so, obviously she knows about more specific and weird labels (demi is considered a microlabel by many, idk why but oh well) so she probably wouldnt be that confused or rude about it,

if you feel like she would be safe to come out to and you of course, want to then yeah come out to her! (u could also like unofficially come out and just mention it casually or idk paint ur nails the colors of a pride flag)

about the alterous attraction: thats pretty complicated but the best way i can think to describe it is like if platonic attraction is blue and romantic is red then alterous attraction is any shade of purple, you could also show her the lgbtqa wiki’s page on alterous attraction (u could also describe it as the type of love you feel for dogs, cats or whatever you really really love)

on being nb and not having dysphoria: just say you feel more comfortable identifying as nb, if u want an analogy its like everyone thinks your favorite ice cream flavor is strawberry and while youre not allergic to it or even if you dont really mind getting strawberry you would much prefer chocolate, and when you do get chocolate you feel happier and better about yourself

hope this helps and remember: coming out is your choice and you dont have to come out if you dont want to

#mango anon #wow this is a really long post #sorry about that #long post

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