#don’t wanna put too much on you

[butchmartyr]

Hi! I'm getting married (soonish, we haven't set a date yet) to a transfemme who is early in their transition. I met them when they were 18 and j a depressed anxious socially awkward nerd and over the past like ~year I've watched them blossom into themself (it's magical). But as a tme person sometimes i feel like I'm not fit to be the main person supporting them during this journey, bc they don't have any irl tgirl/transfem friends.

Do you have any suggestions? I'm always trying to learn more about transmisogyny. I took them to get an affirming haircut by a woman I met on Lex, I help with makeup. I've been trying to help them make friends bc they still do have like, a diagnosed social phobia lol. I think it'd be good if I WASNT the main support for this stuff in many ways. And they are like 10x as confident now that they present more authentically, but it's a process. And idk. I know them rly well and love them a lot but I worry sometimes that I'm somehow hurting them or doing the wrong thing.

I know I can't do everything for them (codependency lol) but I want to be the best partner I can be. I'm always asking what they want but sometimes it's like, j figuring out as we go bc it's all new. So what would YOU want from a tme partner ig? How do you assume I could be helpful, better, etc?

Feel free not to respond if this is too much. I don't mean to be putting too much on you. I'm just trying to treat my fiance better and better each day (failing sometimes).

hello and congrats!!! first off this is so touching and aaaa. my god. anyway.

it sounds like you’re really on the right track for sure :) friends are extremely important especially for ppl in minority groups that make socializing harder, so trying to help to her get out of her shell and get to know other people is certainly a great idea; both because she deserves having something of a social group, and because like you say, trans friends can be really critical. i can’t speak with authority since I don’t know you & your situation, but it could definitely help with supporting her and whatnot; i value my transfem friends irl a lot and they’re wonderful with buoying my transition. im not sure id say you’re ‘not fit’ for it unless you dont want to be, since there’s a lot of ways to support and be there for someone’s transition. my femme is tme and she has been wonderful with my transition and helping me explore different gender stuff by helping me with womens clothes, sometimes a little makeup, and her support when im mixing things up with my presentation. she’s happy to change and play with her vocab too; when i realized i like being called pretty from time to time now she works it into when she’s teasing me or being sweet, things like that.

as far as other things id want to see in a tme partner, the willingness to look at transmisogyny and learn about it and work it over is pretty important to me; but it sounds like you’re already working on this, so just keep your mind open with a clear heart. if you make a mistake, trust that you can learn from it and move on. id also say to let her be the one to define and speak about her transition and her past as well, and not to get tripped up on gender too much; i had an ex who was a lesbian and hated hearing me talk about my past as a boy. was very unfortunate. so keep an open mind and if you don’t understand something or you’d like to understand more, try not to be too afraid to ask; I can’t speak for her exactly, but I can say i really don’t mind getting asked about gender stuff or transmisogyny since it shows that someone cares and also gives me a chance to make sure we’re on the same page. and also, while this may be a little risqué, so long as she’s not ace or something id think about making sure you touch and love on her body holistically. a lot of trans women don’t get touched like how cis and other women do, so don’t be afraid to get a little handsy if she doesn’t mind it. having our bodies be actively wanted (touching sides, thighs, etc) can be really very wonderful when we’re taught that we’re repulsive in every way that matters.

so tl;dr: getting her more friends is a great idea for a milieu of reasons! don’t walk on eggshells with transmisogyny too much, just keep an open mind and maybe think about biases sometimes but don’t let it get to your beat and beat you up over it. but I think your concern sounds like it might be a sign that you care and are gonna try, and if that’s the case then approach any issues that come up from an angle of love and i think it should buff out. anyone wanna chime in in the replies?

#keeping codependency stuff in mind is smart too. it’d likely be for the best if her support network grew :) #don’t wanna put too much on you #good luck and much love :) #asks #anonymous

[bicheetopuff]

Here’s an upsetting realization to leave you guys with before bed:

Katsuki was kidnapped by the league in July

Izuku left UA in April

It’s an insignificant detail but it was definitely intentional. Hori, you angsty bastard🥲

#bakudeku #midoriya izuku #bakugou katsuki #bkdk #bnha #i know we don’t know the exact days they left but I wouldn’t put it past hori to make it so that they both left on each others birthdays #also if you wanna get really technical #Izuku had ten months of training before the entrance exam in February #meaning that the sludge villain attack also happened in April #oh and Japan starts school in April meaning that DvK1 also happened in April #how much you wanna bet Katsuki HATES his birthday now?💀 #Izuku probably hates his too even though he’s only had one bad birthday that we know of #although I think it’s safe assume that the arc we’re in now takes place around June or July considering that he left UA in April #hori pls stop my heart can’t take it (read as: pls keep going I love the angst)

[ariesbilly]

Not to be sad on main but like if in season 2 timeline after the fight at the Byers steve planned this whole scenario to publicly humiliate billy and get back at him and finish their rivalry once and for all

But once it’s been executed billy doesn’t look angry and embarrassed like Steve was expecting. He just looks…really sad. And still embarrassed but not in any way steve can enjoy. He looks scared. And what Steve doesn’t know is billy had gotten into a real bad fight with neil earlier that day that already left him shaken and downtrodden so this hit him at the absolute worst time and there’s no glory in it for steve when he sees billy sneaking off to the bathroom or his car or wherever. Is pretty sure he saw tears sun the guys eyes and Steve thinks he SHOULDNT feel sympathy for him after what he did to his face. Fuck that guy. But it doesn’t stop this remorse eating away at his chest, pulling him in billys direction to check on him

#harringrove #and then of course billy puts up the angry front and curses steve out and Steve gives in for a second before remembering how stupid this #all is and don’t you just wanna call a truce billy? be done with it? what does any of this even matter? #and the thing is steve doesn’t even KNOW how much this matters #how popularity is all billy has. his image. it’s the only thing he can control #and he needs neil to know he’s not a bitch and he needs everyone to keep off his ass and not realize the ladykiller doesn’t want ladies at #all and that billy needs to be around steve all the time otherwise he feels like he can’t breathe and #he of course can’t tell Steve any of this #but a truce…could be good too #MAYBE them being at each other’s throats isn’t the only option for billy to get close #maybe they can try… friendship 🤢 #and of course maybe it will grow into something more 🥰

[puppyeared]

I made a lmk oc

#they’re supposed to be some sort of experiment to see if people could recreate Sun Wukongs stone egg. the goal was to make a more controlled #and tame version using carved wood and cultivation. but eventually they got worried about it becoming too powerful and scrapped it #eventually they come to life and live in the abandoned temple they were built in #their bottom half is made of wood because when they came to life their creator/s left them unfinished when they scrapped the project #they had to carve the rest of their body out of hunger and frustration because they couldn’t eat or move much by crawling on their top half #this is also why they spite their creators and hate irresponsible creation. because of abandonment issues and feeling like they have no #purpose or direction in life #their power is also very limited to due being man made since they were originally a wood carving #meo gave me the idea but one reason would be because they’re half finished. the sculpture was still half stump so it was completely untouche #that half can channel power in its raw form but the other half cannot once it’s been carved by man #so technically they could have the same level or potential for power as the stone but that was dampened #the other thing is how they were created to be a duplicate or recreation of a stone monkey and a celestial looked at that and was like #‘we’re not doing that again’ LMAO #i think the case of them carving their own legs doesn’t take away their power though. that balance was made #before they came to life so carving the legs or not can’t affect it anymore. like making a cake and slicing it #their energy levels are also naturally low because of that so their movements are sluggish and they aren’t very active overall #constantly lying in the sun to charge their batteries and get some stuff done. just like me fr #I actually don’t know what I’m gonna do with this character besides Put Them In Situations with other ppls ocs.. so if you have #a lmk oc you have been warned /lh /j #I wanna make some backstory art for them though.. maybe even the animatic treatment if I can get through dear wormwood which is 25 #SECONDS OUT OF 3 MIN BTW #doodles #Lego Monkie kid #lmk #Monkie kid #lmk oc #monkie kid oc #myart #my art #xin ya

[theswedishpajas]

The man truly can’t take a genuine compliment 🙄

#my art stuff #digital art #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #astarion #astarion ancunin #this is part of a series I like to call “I’m never settling on a singular detailed artstyle” #I have no consistency in drawing realistic people/characters other than my shapy cartoon style #but I truly don’t get enough opportunity to properly shade anything with art in that style-!!! it always looks weird to me-!!!!! #I think some rude lil worm in my brain is wriggling around telling me it’s a futile attempt at still doing realism #cus I’m one of those “gifted” artists that grew up promising his parents he’ll end up among the big names or whatever #constantly training to become better at art but with realism oil paintings as the goal #you know how it is 😔 #I wanna shade my lil funky designs but they never feel good enough to really put energy into or whatever so I compromise with stuff - #- like this where I try to draw characters more accurately while still stylizing them and shading them however I feel like it #which is great and all but I should really learn to give my more relaxed and less perfectionist art a chance #I deserve to enjoy the process and the result without working myself dead #it’s so much easier and rewarding to copy cartoon styles - stylizing realism makes me too anxious of doing it “wrong” #at least cartoon styles give me a goal to reach or a reference to strive towards #man I really should just cut myself some slack altogether #either way - this man is a flustered mess and he’s embarrassed about being called adorable in public or something #being teased in an affectionate way about his sweeter side and stuff #don’t ask why he’s shirtless - anatomy is just a lot more fun for me to draw sometimes #tasteful nudity and all that is extremely gorgeous to me #i need to practice anatomy more cus I just kinda did some shit and went with it this time with a BIT of consideration for muscle structure

[deep-space-lines]

me and my girlfriend as nameless mass effect background characters. i am cringe and i am free 💕 (photo taken 5 minutes before we get killed by geth)

#mass effect #my art #mass effect art #mass effect fanart #artists on tumblr #i had too much fun with this #side note i did not realize how cool the science uniforms are #listen you don’t get it you don’t get how important it is to my gender presentation to be sexy in a lab coat #the long gloves? the fucking leather-looking THIGH HIGHS? slut. i wanna wear that #i kinda wanna sew myself that fit now i think i would rock it #i NEED to be a sexy evil scientist . for my mental health #i would be INSUFFERABLE if i could wear this on the daily. INSUFFERABLE. #i was pondering what weird little outfit to put my girlfriend in and then i remembered The butch outfit of all time #i am uhhhh. gay

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

“i’m an ally to disabled people!” mhm ok so you’re still masking then? oh you’re not? interesting

#i have a chronic pain disorder and a cancer diagnosis so i am very much still masking and even if i wasn’t disabled myself i’d like to think #that my commitment to allyship and community care would supercede any discomfort that comes from continuing to mask #i see a lot of people who are self described allies who have completely stopped masking. babe you are actively doing harm to disabled people #‘but but but-‘ nope. sorry. covid hasn’t just disappeared. people are very much still dying and becoming disabled from it #if you wanna be an ally you can’t just say shit. you have to prove it #i don’t go places bc they’re inaccessible usually but also bc people don’t mask and going anywhere means im putting myself at risk #the studies coming out about this disease are horrifying too #anyway. rant over. wear your masks #covid tw #ableism

[transmasccofee]

rereading saiki k and am on the catgun arc and I am a little confused about something. Bc. So initially I thought Kuusuke was the one who told Tori (in Kusuos body) to strip as a way to humiliate him, but now I’m rereading it and it kind of seems like Kuusuke had no idea he was going to do that. And now I’m like. Like what was the vibe there then.

#Am I just misreading something #Cause I was like yeah well Kuusuke is immature and kind of a perv so I wouldn’t put it past him #But he said “I hope Toritsukas games don’t distract too much” #So now I’m like ? Did he just mean the running outside part (which Kuusuke did state he felt was too far) #Or did he mean the whole thing #Cause if he meant the whole thing then? Um? Toritsuka..?? Toritsuka buddy? Ummm? #Anything you wanna share with the class man?

[alangdorf]

#meme #len’en #tsubakura enraku #took a break from working on a big project to make this and I dunno whether it’s actually funny?? #I put way too much effort into getting the spacing right though lol #the @ starts with ‘mugen_’ like JynX’s Twitter handle and then genchou is the normal reading of the kanji for tsubakura’s name #altogether means like ‘fantasy mysterious bird (swallow)’ so I thought using that drawing for the pfp would be appropriate #plus don’t wanna spoil what I’m still working on lol (jk I don’t care that much) #also I like having ‘gen’ twice in a row it sounds cute #oh ya the 17 is just cause the original is 7 and it was easiest to just add a one but that lines up with the very vague timeline in my head #that being the protags are like mid 20s rn #like me!! I’m turning 24 next week #anyway I don’t post them to tumblr much (I have a Kirby one I should at some point though) but I make meme edits allll the time #and I put wayyy too much thought and effort into them #would you expect any different of me though

[ssreeder]

Hi pook 😢 ( sorry if u don’t like the nickname) but I’ve been reading your series and I am reading Into the Fire (chapter 8) and I’m just wondering why you made Sokka give in so easily when people tell him to control himself that’s not Zuko. Because I would imagine that he would be more stubborn and more focused on what he wants instead of being caring. Even though he’s a caring and kind person I feel like being in prison would make him more selfish and less understanding of other people if than makes sense 😭

Like it just aggravates me when I see Katara try to idk really baby him and control him a bit (not mentally) it just kind of annoys me. Because even though Sokka loves his Sister I feel like he shouldn’t listen to her for real.

But that’s just me because that’s my opinion coming from someone behind has anger issues/ gets angry easily 🤷‍♀️

I love love love this series btw!!!!

I added your other ask too so I could respond to both! Hiiii hellooooo I don’t mind nicknames it’s actually nice because then I can keep anons apart haha

as for your comment about sokka I gotta say you’re probably the first person to tell me sokka isn’t angry enough haha. Which is fine because everyone’s allowed to have their own opinions, but my thoughts on LIAB angry sokka is his intelligence is often battling his emotions. I think sokka is smart enough to know he isn’t supposed to be lashing out at people the way he is or clinging to Zuko so tightly to where they both can’t breathe. i also think he is desperate to be back to his “old self” without actually wanting to be his old self. I do think he is fighting his path to healing every step of the way but even with all the time spent in prison he is still SOKKA. He cares for people he loves his family and he knows from watching his parents growing up what a healthy relationship looks like - his codependency to zuko is probably not it. I doubt it will change much, but when people tell him ‘you need to chill’ Sokka is very much like I FUCKING KNOW BUT I HAVE NO CHILL!!! NONE! ZERO CHILL.

but I can’t imagine sokka wanting to hurt anyone who doesn’t deserve it. Or fighting his friends and family to isolate himself anymore than he already is. I have learned that writing a more emotionally triggering fic does stir up emotions in people and causes them to project onto the characters a bit which is fine but everyone processing trauma differently. & sokka is doing it his own way just like zuko is.

Also…. This is a fanfic and I don’t know if people wanna read sokka being a raging asshole for 50k… so some of the realism in healing gets lost to word count because unfortunately I can’t spend years and 1000k helping these boys overcome their trauma so some of it has to be rushed a little for word count / plot purposes haha.

Liiiiiiisten here pooki-anon you come yell at me anytime about liab I’ll be right here to soak up every word! Thanks for the ask I’m glad you’re enjoying the series!!

#I have tried to take my time with the healing arc #Because we spent SO MUCH TIME dismantling the boys #I wanted to give them the change to be somewhat put back together to where they can at least function #I do agree with you anon! #Sokka could be 10000x angrier he could close up and say fuck off to everyone but it’s just another hurdle to climb over #His anger has been a reoccurring theme because I do write liab sokka angry #He has a right to be angry too!! #But I don’t know if people wanna sit and read sokka going in circles with his anger anymore than he already has #I love love love a good healing arc and I’m trying to take my time with the boys but…. #*word count and plot point and me eventually wanting to work on a project that isn’t LIAB haha* #I do think sokkas a mess right now #But damn it I want him and zuko to snuggle and him and Katara to laugh and his dad and him to pal around and toph and Aang to give him shit #And momo to pull his ears and appa lick him and idk all the fun sokka stuff we miss #I can’t do that if sokka won’t be open to healing and being less angry #Which is why I’m allowing him to progress haha #Ugh now we gotta work on zuko!! -> #Zuko: “why I’m fine??” #Boy is NOT FINE but he is damn good at acting fine haha #Thanks for the ask anon #Ill #give you the tag #Pookianon #Liab #ITF #ask

[just-rainbow-thoughts]

La creatura, part 2: oops he has emotions now

#particularly proud of that top left drawing #i am the op #jus sum doodly doos #pizza tower #fake peppino #feat. a couple others #mostly classic peppino #all his design inconsistencies are explainable #don’t look too into that drunk conversation definitely nothing there haha #I can provide translation for the reverse text if need be but there’s a bit too much to put in the tags #actually anything you wanna know I Will be willing to explain

[sableeira]

sometimes I forget that I have creative freedom over my projects and I can put tiny little references to my favorite stories in there

#I started texturing a boat I modeled and I want to put a name on the hull #and I’m extremely bad at naming stuff but then I realized that it literally doesn’t matter and I can name the boat either A5158 or A258 #because no one will know I named it after the ginger mafia guy from the author fanfic manga #also putting a mackerel into my scene so my chuuya boat can have a matching Dazai fish <3 #I love seeing little references to other media in games because you can always see a bit of the devs personalities in there #the longer I’m studying the more I have forgotten to put a bit of that part of my personality in my projects too #also I don’t have too much time left on my project so these past weeks and next few weeks have been/will be super stressful… #I’m doing great time wise but I want to do a lot of additional stuff and getting everything done and polished will be a close call u_u #but I wanna do fanart so bad rn I have two wips and dozens of other ideas #<- a good drawing session could fix me #watching the new episode without drawing fanart will be hard :( but only 3 1/2 more weeks until I have free time again #but at the same time only 3 1/2 weeks left until I’m done with my project u_u and my degree u_u #sina’s rambling #uni tag

[foxgloveinspace]

See the thing about Sleep Token is that every song is probably just about about rough sex and toxic break ups and a fake god, but they all could have about 30 different meanings, and everyone of them is valid, and also so ridiculous, but I love them and also, it’s probably just sex, you know?

#very much so #sleep token #these tags got long and I don’t think this is a shit post anymore #just so you know. these tags. are something. and should you choose to read them I give you a kiss *smooch* #every sleep token song is about X and you are correct cause I do not think Vessel puts All This into it?? like they have meaning #and it’s personal meaning to him. but it’s probably Not This Deep. and I think some of them are just ‘hey what is my character up to?’ and #some of it is ‘hey. this is how I feel about this certain thing that happened too me that you’ll never know about but I hope it resonates #with you.’ and then some of it is ‘lmao I wanna get fucked/fuck someone to the point it feels like worshiping them’. #so yeah. I think we put our own meaning behind the songs and each interpretation is correct cause Vessel isn’t going to actually ever give #us info and I think that beautiful.

[hecateisalesbian]

Okay y’all got on my butt for the Wittebane so I’m sorry here’s a new one

#Lemme give you my opinions #I think Noceda is best because rlly Camila was the first parent parent to him #And Luz was the first one to call him family #I don’t really think Darius did that until after the finale when he truly realized how much he loved the kid #But if it was Noceda-Deamonne I’d be good with that #Raine would just be the cool step-parent bc they just are okay #Clawthorne would be cool too but Eda already has like 20 kids #It would be funny if Luz and Hunter were called Noceda-Clawthorne #Toh is Just sad 😭 #Give the boy a name please 🙏 #If you put all at once im murdering you because I will not be typing Hunter Noceda Deamonne Clawthorne Whispers Park every time I wanna #Talk about hunter #And we know that Hunter is taking Willow’s last name so why bother just choose that #Toh #the owl house #luz noceda #hunter noceda #hunter deamonne #hunter whispers #hunter clawthorne #hunter toh #Hunter Noceda Deamonne Whispers clawthorne #Hunter Park

[coulrology]

So what's the lore with Juniper n their relationship with Vitimir n Hettie?

WELL for both, their relationships go back to their school days! Although the difference being that Juniper and Hettie went to St. Epiderm together, while Vitimir went to a different school (Glandus at the time he met Juniper).

I’ve briefly touched on how Juniper and Vitimir met here, so that explains their first meeting. To reiterate, Vitimir was a shy kid that didn’t really have any friends growing up (aside from bugs/whatever little creatures they spent their time around) and was bullied frequently, so that single positive interaction with Juniper, though small, really stuck with him and he never forgot it. Juniper didn’t forget it either, but being the sociable type meeting and talking to lots of different people, that moment sorta blended in with the rest of their memories. So fast forward to them both working as Coven Heads at the same time, Vitimir immediately recognizes Juniper. Despite Juniper changing a lot since his child self, that one good memory left such a big impact on Vitimir as a kid that he still held that soft spot for them. So of course, when Juniper eventually approached him on their own time, Vitimir already had this layer of vulnerability. Even though they might not have recognized him, from Vitimir’s perspective, there was that sense of familiarity and comfort; Juniper might have changed, but that kind kid was still in him. Now that they have the chance, Vitimir wants to actually get to know this one person who had plagued so many of their thoughts as a kid. And the rest is history!!

As for Hettie! Again, she and Juniper attended St. Epiderm together. Hettie was just as terrifying as a kid as she is now. She was everything- a jock, a princess, a bully, a weird girl, whatever you can think of. Though she’s very open about who she is, everyone around her was always so intimidated by the fact that she was unpredictable (and the fact that she’s both the smartest AND strongest person you’d ever meet is terrifying enough on its own). Most everyone- except for Juniper. To Juniper, Hettie was always such a character. She’s always been so confident and unapologetic, able to command people’s attention without even saying a word. Her unpredictability made everything she did so interesting. Juniper so deeply admired this about Hettie. And the fact that she’s 100% his type only drew them closer to her. Hettie was Juniper’s first ever crush, and that love Juniper had for her never faded. Though as kids, they weren’t in the same social circles, they did cross paths a lot, whether it was through Sonia (Scooter Crane’s daughter and childhood best friend to Juniper, who was also in the Healing Track), or Juniper getting injured for whatever ridiculous reasons. At this age, Hettie didn’t reciprocate her feelings (yet), but she had a fondness for Juniper because he was so different from the other kids for the fact alone that they had a (very obvious) crush on her. And while their crush may have caused them to do embarrassing things, and foolishly being used as her own guinea pig from time to time to practice her magic on, Hettie had cared about Juniper. To her, he always made life more fun and interesting. Fast forward to them as Coven Heads- Hettie has grown a stronger affection for Juniper. He’s changed over the years, but he still makes life so much more fun and interesting. Perhaps now, Hettie admires Juniper for the same exact reasons they always have her. They’re still a bit pathetic around her, but Hettie finds it endearing. Not to mention, Juniper still makes for a good doll to experiment on, and she takes good care of her favorite dolls ;-)

#ask #juniper jazz #vitimir #hettie cutburn #junimir #medical mirror #I HOPE THIS ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION I tried my best to make it sound coherent and not ramble on about certain things 🙏 #tried to talk about hettie more bc i don’t think I’ve explained much of the medical mirror stuff publicly yet #or. anything tbh 😭😭 #BUT I MEAN I GOTTA GET EVERYONE ON THE SAME PAGE EVENTUALLY SO THIS IS A START 🙏🙏 #I can always expand on anything else if anyone wants me to and is curious :3c #you KNOW how much I love yapping about my stupid peacock I didn’t put all my blood sweat and tears into him for nothin 🫰 #ALSO!! FUN LIL THING I WAS GOING TO MENTION BUT DECIDED NOT TO IN THE END BC IT WOULDVE BEEN TOO MUCH- #long story short lets just say hettie chose to hang out w juniper during the night of a school dance 🤭 #THAT’S ALL I’LL SAY FOR NOW ABOUT THAT i have Art Ideas for that i -really- want to get to one day #okay i gotta stfu now i told myself i was gonna hold back on the yapping 😭😭😭 #OKAY WAIT ONE LAST THING- #idk if anyone actually cares but reminder that I’ve got both junimir and med. mirror playlists if you wanna get a better idea of them!! #theyre not perfect but theyre still fun Okay I’ll shut up for real fr now ✌️

[squuote]

realizing that maybe I am just some crow who does not like labels. or at least using too many

#crow thoughts #sorry this is about queer stuff tehe ^___^ #but fr I’ve kinda decided that queer is enough for me. like I’m comfy with aro and enby as defining terms #but in terms of my overall sexuality queer is enough for me :-) #honestly while this is about queer stuff I think this also can be used for an sort of identity label for myself #I think I’ve just come to the conclusion that I hate being put inside a defining box for others to assume of me #aside from the ones I actually want to be in #finding out I was aro was kind like one of the best things for me in terms of identity #cause I’ve never rlly given a shit about my sexuality. if I think someone’s cute I think they’re cute #if I don’t think they’re cute then I don’t think they’re cute! simple easy and flows just right for me #in the end it doesn’t matter because to me that aspect of myself is tiny like it doesn’t rlly define me that much #I’m glad to have any identity that allows me to push away the forceful nature of heteronormativity #same with being nonbinary! tho that one was an easy fit hehe #but I’ve also been thinking about other identity stuff as of late too. not just gender n sexuality #like religion and the whatnot. you know the deal #and like yknow what? nah you don’t get a defining term on that personal shit #you don’t get to know why I like calling myself a crow or my religion or whatever other personal shit I got going on #I’m just me. just foster. I’m not one defining characteristic I’m just me #I’m more comfortable with myself than I’ve ever been in my life. I know myself and I will continue to learn more #but I’m comfy not telling anyone until I wanna mention it :-)