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#and how inappropriate it is for him to assign or revoke from me certain gender labels over the act of throwing string on a stick in water
mars-ipan
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4 months
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HOOO my brother just touched a nerve
#marzi speaks
#he asked if i wanted to fish with him and our grandpa
#i declined bc i only really like flyfishing
#HE goes ‘oh alright. i don’t mean to be misogynistic [bad sign] but it’s kind of a more masculine thing anyways’
#i am immediately reminded of one of the first times i became infuriated at gender roles
#my great uncle was taking a lot of cousins on a fishing trip
#i asked to come with (i knew how to fish at this point- my aunts had taught me)
#he said no- fishing is a man’s sport
#my mother tore him a new one when she found out
#so THAT memory is fresh in my mind
#combined with the fact that i am now trans and have had my masculinity called into question
#so i get Irritated. and go off on him about assigning arbitrary gendered attitudes to things that don’t require them
#and how inappropriate it is for him to assign or revoke from me certain gender labels over the act of throwing string on a stick in water
#and he pulls out my LEAST FAVORITE defense: well it’s not a big deal
#‘it’s not a big deal’ is the FASTEST way to piss me off. because it’s CLEARLY a big deal to me if i’m bothering to get in your face about it
#it’s so damn dismissive i hate it.
#so i yell a bit more (‘you’re embarrassing me’ ‘be embarrassed i do not care’) and eventually get myself to a point where i go
#‘Look. i’m setting a boundary here. don’t assign values of masculine or feminine or whatever to anything i do bc that isn’t your place’
#and he goes. ‘okay. i’ll try for you. for YOU specifically. and i’m not gonna be perfect’
#which is frustrating as HELL. every promise this motherfucker makes comes with 50 disclaimers like he’s signing a goddamn contract
#so i tell him ‘quit with all the extra shit i’m not expecting perfection you’re a goddamn human being. just tell me you’ll try.’
#so he starts again and i have to cut him off after ‘i will try’ so he doesn’t put his damn foot in his damn mouth again
#UGGGHHHH. GODDD
#i’ll probs apologize to him about blowing up later and try to explain how he touched a nerve
#but right now i am going to be frustrated
#also i feel like he’s gonna start saying too much because he can never let dust settle and frustrate me all over again so is it worth it?
#i dunno
#but AGH. GOD
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