#and be like. you fuckers. every single one of you would impel your daughters to get abortions without thinking twice. choice my ass

[elainemorisi]

I know this, but like. sometimes I am again struck by the fact that my parents had/have uh, remarkably sound parenting-esque politics. in a way that you really don't notice until you notice

#like these people's actual for real instincts are (and more relevant were always) genuinely and effectively to treat their kids like humans #in matters of like actual behavior and structure #like the more widely applicable example to me is always going to be that my mom #would get into glancing discussions of pro-choice politics with other parents in our very liberal environment #and be like. you fuckers. every single one of you would impel your daughters to get abortions without thinking twice. choice my ass #not in front of me at the time just because it didn't come up but we've discussed since and yeah that was the case #I knew that was her attitude even without being explicitly told #and then many other such similar attitudes re: actually and without Deciding About It because it was not even up for Decision #approaching us their kids as human beings to whom they were going to proactively + ASAP grant actual agency to without question #and not as a matter of like beneficent enlightened parenting but because it would just be scummy to do otherwise + so was never on the tabl #like they were 90s hippies but it really doesn't seem to have come from there (they were crunchy but pretty skeptical of the psych-y parts) #it's partially my mom looking at her mom's parents and wisely doing exactly the opposite of all of that #but then the rest is just good luck re general decency of both people + circumstances really #anyway was discussing more specific stuff re my kid with my dad and the shared assumptions within this family unit. are not widely shared!