I really deeply hate how the correct statement "using man-hating as a cover for transmisogyny is awful and you need to be able to recognize when that's being used as a dogwhistle" has somehow evolved into "misandry is real and that's why terfs are wrong" like no I don't think it is. Can we please retire Not All Men I can't do this
Nothing gives the same kind of random ego boost like managing to finally clean up your home and making it nice. Like ooh look at me, I'm living like people do, I made myself iced tea and I am eating my snack from a real plate. I got floors and shit.
the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.
André Emmerich (photograph), A crew installing Helen Frankenthaler's painting 'Guiding Red' (1967), mezzanine of the World Trade Center II, New York, NY, 1977 [André Emmerich Gallery Records and André Emmerich Papers, circa 1929-2009. Archives of American Art, Smithsonian Institution, Washington, D.C.]
Bibl. ref.: «Guiding Red, 1967, measured 30 by 16 feet. The painting is no longer extant.», in E.A. Carmean, Jr., Helen Frankenthaler. A Paintings Retrospective, Harry N. Abrams, New York, NY, 1989, in association with the Modern Art Museum of Fort Worth, Fort Worth, TX, (note) p. 22 (pdf here)
there's this borderline hysterical laugh garak breaks into a couple of times during the early seasons that is so special to me. like. this man. this man is so high (constantly) and probably drunk (frequently) and he's at all times teetering on the very brink of despair that only pure spite, immense stubbornness, and getting to gaze at julian bashir's smiling face across the lunch table once a week is holding him back from tipping over. and then he has to deal with people like skrain dukat and gul toran on top of that and you can practically hear the cracks forming as he's barely holding on to whatever remains of his sanity by the skin of his teeth