#and I also think it’s obtuse to pretend that people outside queer spaces are going to read me as nonbinary they’re just not

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hey i get that you probably have your reasons for using 'afab' instead of 'woman' or something similar in your retail/sex shop/mattress store anecdote, but i wanted to point out people cannot tell assigned sex at birth by looking. many trans women also experience sexual harassment like what you describe even when people clock them. so im not sure 'afab' even covers what you were talking about fully.

I’m nonbinary but I appear female, and I’m only ever read as female. The point of using it there is just that what he saw was a tiny female even though that’s not what was there.

I’m not making a statement on how people read genders, but I’m not going to interrupt a funny story with a million disclaimers as to my intentions, I just trust that my readers are smart enough to know he was being sexist because of his interpretation of me.

#ask ffs #this is a little bit of a ‘please go touch grass’ ask if I’m honest #it’s like desperately reaching for ill intent because I didn’t include a disclaimer that trans women get harassed too? #thats just really silly #I know trans women get harassed but that’s not the point #and I also think it’s obtuse to pretend that people outside queer spaces are going to read me as nonbinary they’re just not #they’re gonna read me as female