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theriverdraws · 2 years

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ANALYZING THIS ONE NOELLE UPDATE ABOUT SUSIE AND KRIS BECAUSE HOLY FUCK.

First of all, I might be biased, but since this "post" is called "The newest girl", and Susie seems to really hate Kris in particular, I feel like this is great proof for the "Susie was from a human community" theory. Because she seems to really dislike Kris - who is the only human in the city - for no particular reason.

Also Susie never bullying Noelle because she was the only person who was ever nice to Susie... I love them so much.

Well, even if Kris cared about it they wouldn't be able to do anything because.... Yeah. But considering later additions to this it doesn't seem like Kris ever hated Susie? The thought of "wasting no opportunity to expell her from school" is something they never thought of, and they seemed to get the worst of it. Who knows, Kris is weird snsjsjs.

We know that Susie being "mean" is more of a persona she puts up since no one is nice to her, so it's really hard to read her true intentions here but I mean if I were to assume.. Susie has very bad eating habits, and it seems like she's trying to warn Kris here but she's not being nice about it.

.. And she made Kris laugh! They maybe thought it was a joke, or maybe it's just their weird sense of humor but it seems like they really vibed with Susie's whole thing, because they are both literally the same level of chaos. They seemed to like her while she hated their guts.

Susie clearly misinterprets Kris' reaction and throws the apple at them and we can see Kris being a true gamer and also a weird little shit kRIS DON'T EAT THE APPLE WHAT ARE YOU DOING--

And then Susie makes an oopsie. Listen, I know Susie and Kris are THE bestest of friends now, and it's very clear that they like each other a lot, and can never be separated, but I really hope they talk it out about everything she said.

Because that clearly hit Kris really hard. While Kris sure has uh, a lot of other worse things to worry about now, I'm sure they would still remember this no? They really need to talk everything out I think :(. Perhaps in the diner scene in ch4 haha hello please Toby?

(Also maybe Susie was projecting a bit when she said that? It's very unclear if she has parents soo, it would make sense) .

This part is very interesting. Because if Kris really did say something, there's no way that what they said was a threat. If a threat scared Susie that much, I doubt that she would completely brush it off and start bullying them again in the future. But what else could have they said to make Susie run away like that?

Well, we do know Kris is going through a lot, so I imagine they probably had a pretty bad reaction that wouldn't be a threat, but it would make Susie leave, out of shock perhaps?

So what I think Kris would have said (if they said anything at all, and it wasn't just their expression) , would be some short but very self-deprecating sentence like: "Yeah. She would". And that, together with whatever face they were making, would be enough to push Susie away I think. Anyway those are my 2 cents to this.

Also Noelle hid inside the locker lmao, and Kris knew she was there all the time and just slowly shut the door on her again. They're so weird I love them so much.

#WOOO THEY ME WHAT YOU THINK THO #deltarune #susie deltarune #kris deltarune #kris dreemurr #noelle holiday #noelle #noelle deltarune #kris

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marislittleworld · 3 years

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Liane’s mission - chapter 2.5

WARNINGS: none

Liane was combing Filia's hair while she played with her teddy bear, Twilight. Yoru, her boyfriend, was just watching the two

Liane - hehe, what are you looking at, dear?

Yoru - nothing, I'm just watching a beautiful scene where my girlfriend is combing our future daughter's hair.

Liane - do you want to try?

Yoru - of course, in this I am an expert

Yoru started to brush Filia’s hair

Filia - daddy, you just comb your hair, it doesn't mean you're an expert

Liane - *holding in laughter*

Yoru - now I'm speechless.

Liane - in addition to appearance, has the same personality. She really is your daughter. *laughing softly*

Yoru - my version of the future should be proud just as I am.

Phoenix- Hey Yoru, Viper and Brimstone want to talk to us.

Yoru - what does that old man want with me? I'll be right back dear

Yoru kisses Liane and Filia's foreheads

Yoru and Phoenix are on their way to Brimstone's office

Phoenix - so Brov...

Yoru - what is it?

Phoenix - I'm still jaw-dropping

Yoru - and why?

Phoenix – because you are taking care of a child

Yoru - shut up Phoenix, Liane wanted us to take care of Filia until we find her parents, in other words, our versions of the future.

Phoenix - do you believe it? Do you think that little girl is really your daughter in the future? What if she is Liane's clone in disguise?!

Yoru - it's not her...

Phoenix - how are you so sure?!

Yoru - Liane's radiant abilities are too powerful, she can have health problems if she uses them all the time. Viper said that our clones are just a reflection of each of us. And if Liane trusts the files Kurt sent her, so do I.

The two arrived at Brimstone's office, they knocked on the door and then entered.

Yoru - hope it's important, old man. I don't want to babysit our prisoner again

Phoenix - looks like someone woke up on the wrong foot today.

Brimstone - ok, that's enough! Viper, tell them about the mission

Viper - ok, Liane went to the old Kingdom lab, which unfortunately exploded. But we still detect signs of radianite there, we want you two to go there.

Phoenix - but usually it's Liane who does this kind of mission.

Viper- Liane won't be able to do this mission for 2 reasons, the first reason is that she is busy with Filia, and the second reason is because I want to.

Yoru - and can I know why?

Viper - Liane went on 2 missions and she found her clone 2 times, but in the last mission she mentioned that Filia appeared right after her clone disappeared, me and Brimstone are suspecting that little girl, if she's not from future, so she can clone Liane using her abilities.

Yoru - but what about the files Kurt sent?

Viper- Yoru, I trust the files Kurt sent to us after he died, but when that little girl showed up at our base, I started to raise suspicions if she's Liane's clone.

After the two left the office, Yoru was worried and wondering if Filia is really his daughter in the future.

The two took their guns and went with Yoru's new car. Viper gave them the location of the old lab, when the two arrived, the place was all collapsed

Phoenix - looks like the place was abandoned a long time ago

Yoru - Viper said we have to be careful

Phoenix - you're not one of those following orders.

Yoru - you're right, I'll do it my way

Yoru takes his mask from the dimensional fabric and checks the location, Yoru starts talking to Phoenix on the communicator:

Yoru - after all, what does Viper want so badly in this place?

Phoenix - well, to sum up what she said, that this place may or may not have radianite, she wants us to investigate whether it has radianite or not.

Yoru - ok, this is like taking candy from a kid.

Phoenix - if any enemy but Liane's clone appears, it means that Filia is Liane's clone.

Yoru - I'm still refusing to believe this theory

Phoenix - and if it's true?

Yoru - and if not?

The two were arguing until they heard a strange noise

Yoru - did you hear that?

Phoenix - I heard

Yoru - Phoenix, go to room A, and I'm going to room B

Phoenix - understood

The two went to both rooms

Yoru - there's nothing here, what about you? Is anyone there? Phoenix? Kuso. The communicator stopped, perfect.

Meanwhile, Phoenix entered room A and readied his weapon and headed for the enemy. He made his wall of fire to corner the enemy

Phoenix - hands up, come on!

It was a hooded woman, she raised her hands

Phoenix -now come slowly

The woman walked until she got her whip and took Phoenix's gun and shot him in the leg.

Phoenix - ARGH!

The woman took off her hood and revealed that she was Liane's clone

Liane - don't fuck with Chameleon. And don't disturb me!

Liane's clone took her grappling hook and went out through the ceiling.

Yoru came out of his dimensional fabric and saw the Phoenix writhing in pain on the floor

Yoru - Phoenix, what happened?

Phoenix - that damn clone shot my leg and got away! Why didn't you call?!

Yoru - because your communicator stopped! We have to get you to Sage.

Phoenix - no need *argh* I can heal myself

Yoru saw the Phoenix heal using his fire.

Yoru - I will inform Viper

Phoenix - ok

Yoru - Viper, are you listening?

Viper - I'm listening Yoru

Yoru - Phoenix and I explored the site, and no sign of radianite.

Viper - that's good to hear. Any enemies?

Yoru - only one

Viper - is the clone of Liane

Yoru - correct

Viper - great, I'll get that little girl out of the interrogation room

Yoru - y-y-you put her there?!

Viper - yes.

Yoru - why?!

Viper - I put her there in case you don't see Liane's clone on your mission

Yoru - Viper, is Liane there?

Viper - so is she.

Yoru - oh thank God

After the Phoenix had healed, the two went to the car and returned to base.

Filia - おとーさん!

Filia ran and hugged Yoru's leg.

He lifted her up and hugged her. When Phoenix tries to pat her head, Yoru always hits his hand

Phoenix - come on, man?! She is my niece

Yoru - since when? As long as I'm her father, you're still not allowed to touch her little head

Phoenix - so ok.

Yoru was stroking her head, until Filia started to laugh

Filia - hihihi, that tickles .

Yoru saw that it was Phoenix poking Filia's belly, Phoenix saw that Yoru looked at him angrily

Phoenix - what? You said I'm still not allowed to touch her little head

Yoru wanted to curse him, but he saw that Filia was beside him. Phoenix took this opportunity to stroke her little head.

Yoru - oh no, now you're asking!

Yoru put Filia down and went after Phoenix

Phoenix - come get me, daddy Yoru

Yoru - now you're pushing the limits! My patience is limited!

Sage stood beside Filia while she drank tea

Sage - they're both very childish, but that's one of the keys to being a father

Filia - Aunt Sage, where's ママ?

Sage - if you're asking about your mom, she's resting in her room, she took care of you all day

Filia yawns, catching Sage's attention, making the healer laugh.

Sage - it seems that games have made you sleepy. I'll call your father... Yoru

Yoru stopped chasing Phoenix and went to Sage's direction, he noticed that Filia slept in her arms, Yoru took her and took her to Liane's room, he placed beside her.

He kissed Filia's forehead and Liane's forehead. And he slept with them.

(if all of you try to figure out wich anime I inspired to draw the first drawing, click on the heart <3)

Mari - OC from @kanaesparadise

Hera - OC from @runeterrankhaleesi

#Liane interactions #valorant oc

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beatsfortheillperth · 3 years

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Words with Jetson

Our next interview is with a producer and rapper out of a beautiful place known as Tauranga, in New Zealand, This creative is known as Jetson.

He happens to be one of my cat, Rain's personal favourites for sleep time and regardless of the amount of thumping bass Jetson's music creates and picture frames it knocks over, I understand why he sleeps so sweetly.

Probably a lot to do with the fact that bass has rhythm, just like the sweet sweet words Jetson correlates with his word-plays in tracks such as "Milk" and "SENSEI". Not only impressing cats, Jetson has made moves and connections beyond the long white cloud, proving isolation doesn't always silence brilliance. Jetson brings words any generation can hold some sort of relevance to, words that allow one to notice life moves fast and slow and sometimes you just have to chill and become an observer rather than an instigator.

This is something I feel Jetson has accomplished with his rather low-key approach to releases and interviews.

Jetson is a natural, a true prodigy of sound and a sharer of moods, and to me, is a reminder that with a little bit of passion and persistence, great things can happen, whatever your field.

Jetson’s collective and label - Chill Children is evidence of that, as through it , Jetson is able to work and release with producers and beat-makers all over the globe.

emo the optimist, BACKWHEN, fuyu, eets, and junyii are just some of the diverse talents working with Chill Children and everyone on the catalogue are game-changers that make music that’s anointed in chills.

Creators that push boundaries and portray emotion through sound in the most soothing way, one must check Chill Children.

So with that I hope you enjoy rare words with the nuance wonder, and in his own words.

Sit back, relax, get baked, create, f**k it.

Enjoy and much love.

Hey man thanks for the opportunity to share words. Let's start with a few random quick questions to get things going. Favourite Beverage: Lemon water. Favourite thing to do in your down-time: Make music/skate. Views on Reincarnation: It will be cool if it is true but I guess it doesn't really change anything if it is 🤷‍♂️ Favourite Food: Sushi. Favourite Album of All Time: Tribe Called Quest - Midnight Marauders A song to break it down to: Ethereal & Playboi Carti - Beef A song to chill to: Durand Jones & The Indications - Cruising to the park Do you prefer Sunrise? or Sunset? Why?: Sunset, because I'm never awake for sunrise. A childhood memory in regards to music: I remember saving up to buy Graduation by Kanye West and listening to that shit front to back for weeks straight. Favourite Place to be: Probably on an island.

Thanks for that, so let's start by asking what inspires you to produce and not only produce but continually produce, what to me is an array of tunes fitting so many genres?

Do you have a set of goals in place when you release a track or do you just hit upload and just hope people are feeling your sound?

What I like to listen to is constantly changing so I like to challenge myself to try and make the things that I'm inspired by.

I like to think that you never know what you're gonna get when you listen to my music but I've still got so much to learn and experiment with. I just try have fun with it and not think about it too much.

How long have you been producing music, and what did you find was hardest to get the hang of when it first came to producing beats?

I had no music theory knowledge or anything when I started making beats (I still don't have much) so there was a lot to learn right away.

Probably the hardest thing that I still battle with is knowing what you should release, what you shouldn't etc. It's hard to balance knowing when something is finished and when it still needs work.

Could you give a quick run-through of the process you follow when it comes to making a beat?

I try to change my process as much as I can to keep things fresh and fun for myself. But I really enjoy hearing a sample somewhere like keys, a quote or a rapper I want to remix, then I start working with that piece and see where it goes.

I'll mess around with the beat for a while and sometimes a track comes out. It can take one day, it can take months. Just depends.

Oldies are always goodies in my books and I have to mention your "bumps from 2014" mixtape, it truly is something special.

What inspired those little bumps? What were you doing back then? Also, can you remember the mood you were in when you made them?

I'm glad you like it haha. That was when I really had no clue what I was doing in terms of making beats, I was making all of those 'off the grid' in Ableton so I was placing drums in random places, I had no idea what bpm the samples were or anything. I really didn't know wtf I was doing, just going off of a vibe.

My mood was really just being excited about making music, I was living in the basement at my mum's house blasting beats on the speakers all day.

[bumps from 2014] - https://soundcloud.com/sleepgodd/bumps-from-2014

You are also a rapper. My favourite NZ rapper to be more precise so thank you for the vibes you create. How did you find out you had it in you to rap and how old were you?

Damn, I appreciate that ✌️ I started rapping with a friend of mine, Jesse aka j cafe when we were around 20. We'd sit in my room smoking weed, and free-styling over beats on Soundcloud all night.

Then we decided to make a track, so we found a beat and jumped in the closet to record some vocals on the laptop microphone.

We put it up on Soundcloud and I've been addicted to making music ever since.

Link to j cafe’s Soundcloud here - https://soundcloud.com/j-cafe

Cover art for Jetson’s 2019 rap release - bluntscraps

Album cover art by Takuroh Toyama

When did you first start rapping in front of others? What did it feel like in the beginning compared to now when you perform live?

I was insanely nervous the first time I ever did anything live and that feeling really hasn't left me lol.

Except now I know how to deal with nerves a bit better and actually enjoy the whole experience of doing something live.

I definitely think I'm a lot better now than my first time doing it, but I still kinda suck 😂 Staying on topic with your rapping, material-wise you have mad skills, your music is forever helping me chill out so thank you.

When did you start writing down your words and turning them into structured songs? Do you have any other artists that inspire your writing style?

When I was younger I really liked the flow of rappers rather than what they were actually saying.

Dudes like MF Doom and Earl Sweatshirt really influenced me at the start wanting to come up with lines that were catchy and different.

To form an actual track I usually just mumble over beats to get the flow, then I start placing words in the spots where I think they fit.

Does your family know you make music? If so what do they think of it, any dance parties in the Jetson Family Household?

My immediate family all know and support my music. My mum used to have one of my tracks as her ringtone for years lol.

No jetson dance parties yet, but seems like every year more people in my extended family know about my music.

You were also a member of NZ Duo, Chill Children of which you rap and produce with yet another kiwi talent, both having low-key approaches when it comes to presenting yourselves through social media. What happened with that?

Me and J Cafe started Chill Children as a rap project in the early days but we moved to different places in the world and started doing our own solo projects so things sort of stopped happening with it.

I still credit those times with really getting me started on music though. He's still making dope shit and we'll probably link up on a track soon.

So then it became a sort of collective community, and through your Chill Children Soundcloud, you allow a platform for other artists to have their music heard.

Much Love on the concept, What inspired you to start sharing other artists music and what keeps you sharing? I'm very grateful btw, too many gems.

I work on music a lot with my friend emo the optimist (aka kodama) and we always wanted to run a label/collective kind of thing so we could release music from artists that we really liked.

After me and Jesse started doing our own thing, Chill Children seemed like the perfect place to start doing that.

It's one of my favorite things to work on as we have a hand in working with the artists on every release. I just love that we're able to share so much music that we really like with the world.

Check Chill Children here -

Bandcamp - https://chillchildren.bandcamp.com/

Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/chillchildren

Instagram - @chillchildren

Any new Chill Children material we should keep an eye out for?

We always have new music from new artists dropping so definitely follow our instagram/twitter if you want to stay updated on it.

We're currently working on a phonk compilation with guys like DJ Yung Vamp, Genshin etc. It's gonna be crazy 🤯

Back to your solo releases through your alias Jetson. What made you want to start putting out your material alone? Also, do you have a favourite Jetson release?

I really felt like I had to release music solo to see what I could do.

I've learned so much about myself through that process, became more confident and a better musician.

Probably my favorite rap track I've made is called 'Escape'.

Not many people have heard it but it's on Spotify and other places.

My favorite beat I've made is probably 'dylan rieder'.

Have to ask, are you working on any new releases we should keep an ear out for? If so, what can we expect with your coming releases?

I just released an album on Bandcamp called THROWED TAPES which was really influenced by DJ screw and other phonk producers.

I'm working on a lofi R&B tape for Bandcamp, a lofi beat tape, and I really want to release a rap EP.

Who knows when those will come out though haha

Taking it back a little to your rapping again I have to mention "Milk". What inspires the words in this track?

Also please share the story behind your track "Melancholy"? The words are somewhat mesmerizing, thank you!

With milk, I just heard the beat from bsd.u and really wanted to make something weird that just followed the flow of the beat.

On melancholy I tried to think about what I was saying a little more. The instrumental is so introspective and smooth I knew I had to come correct on it.

THROWED TAPES By Jetson, released August, 27, 2020

Musical Recommendations?

junyii - emo the optimist - knxwledge - j cafe - jesse james solomon - the smiths - dj yung vamp - shuggie otis - hm surf - alicks - MIKE - baccyard - meraki soul - steve hiett I could go on for days though lol

Creatives to keep an eye out for in music and art? Takuroh Toyama (photography) Moebius (visual art) Steve Hiett (photography/music) Any Last Words?

It really trips me out that people enjoy something I love to do so much.

So just thank you for vibing with me, I have a lot more to share ✌️

Support Jetson here -

Soundcloud - https://soundcloud.com/highimjetson

Bandcamp - https://jetsonbumps.bandcamp.com/

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/2bkf2PmiVyfCqg2uzIFIqJ

Twitter - https://twitter.com/jetsonbumps

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jetsonn/?hl=en

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Milk by Jetson (Production by bsd.u)

#soundcloud #spotify #bandcamp #jetson #rapper #producer #beatsfortheill #interview

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cowtale-utau · 4 years

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Hello again! You offered to "get more into the nitty gritty" of matchups and such if we'd so desire—may I ask for that? For my original matchup, please. I hope I'm not sending too much, please take as much time as you like! I know you've got a good amount of people interested in these. .u.

You’re not sending in too much at all! I’m happy you’re enjoying it this much. I feel so bad that this took so long. Every time I sat down to work on it my brain said “nope”. Anyway, finally was able to get it done. You wanted some nitty gritty, I’ll do my best to deliver. I didn’t want to do these as outright anti-matches, just a little less idealistic. Lets take a look into some hardships in these relationships.

So starting again with Calico. I mentioned he doesn't need reassurance. And this is true, when he enters a romantic relationship he's already comfortable with you and your feelings. He doesn't make that move to romance without being certain. However because of this certainty, you are also unlikely to get much reassurance without asking for it. It might seem like it shows in his actions and behaviors, but much of that is simply Calico's nature. He's naturally nurturing and tends to the needs of those around him, regardless of relationship. This can leave you feeling like your relationship isn't special. This isn't true of course, but the displays can be so subtle that they're hard to find. Luckily Cal picks up on subtle cues easily, and as long as you aren't actively hiding your discontent he'll figure it out and compensate. If you do try to actively hide your feelings, be prepared for a gently confrontation. He'll want to know why, and what is bothering you. If you open up he'll apologize, and make minor changes to compensate. He never wants you to feel unloved. If you react defensively, expect him to pull back. He wants to give you distance to cool, but can over compensate, creating a greater rift between you. Calico tends to move between two extreme ends of the spectrum. Moving slow is no problem for him, however he may move a bit too slow. Boundaries and consent are among the highest importance to him, so if you show even slight hesitance, he will back off. This sounds like a good thing in theory, but means that you'll never be pushed at all. This of course means no forward movement. On the opposite end, if you express you want him to take over, without setting hard limits, then he can become somewhat overbearing. He's a mother hen, and if you don't express any upset at his decisions or limitations, he'll move forward with them. Being clear in your communication will clear this up quickly. He's adaptable, and wants whats best for you, within the constraints that you set. You just have to set them first. He really only gives you trouble if you don't set any lines at all.

Calico is an ENFP, 9w1, Pisces. Which is actually a minor change from my original typing of him. It doesn't change anything in the original match up, as the traits I focused on are ones found in both healthy 9s and healthy 2s. The ENFP/INTJ pairing is very good at balancing each other out. You run into issues when that balance gets skewed. Maintain an even power dynamic or everything will start to fall apart. 9s and 5s are both non-demanding and want to avoid conflict. The problem here is that in being so, you can end up avoiding necessary conflict. Don't hold back when something is bothering you. Speak up, or anger/upset/hurt can be left to fester, causing irreparable damage. Pieces and Aquarius is a pairing that starts well, but if not properly maintained can sour over time. This is largely due to differences in emotional expression. Communication and compromise will be needed to see this through long term.

And now let's revisit Doc. I've gone over Doc a bit before. Loud, abrasive, he comes off as quite harsh on first. He comes off as cold and arrogant. He's blunt and articulate and can easily cut with some borderline cruel, well chosen words. Getting past that initial self-protective wall can be difficult. Despite his apparent confidence, he will need occasional reassurances of your feelings. Being a bit distant naturally is something he can get used to, but he will need occasional assurances. This is especially important early on, and if you come off as too distant he can start to fall back into previous behavioral patterns. It doesn't have to be elaborate shows of affection, but make sure he knows you still care. As more time passes he'll grow more accustomed to the ways you express your affection and the doubt will fade. Doc is a control freak to his core. He needs control to feel safe/secure. He has no problems taking over and will do so without you're even asking. If he pushes to much too quickly, tell him. If left unchecked he can run roughshod over a partner. He doesn't mean to cause any harm, its just in his nature to take over. Make sure you express you discomfort. His paranoia makes him very perceptive to the people he surrounds himself with, so he will notice even a subtle expression, and back off. He's good at giving off the illusion he's got full control while still letting you take the lead. If this dynamic works well, he may use it to gradually push the balance. As you grow more comfortable and he learns more of your needs he'll take more and more control. Be careful however that you don't let him passed the point your comfortable at. If you let him he will take over entirely. The more comfortable he becomes with you the more he can begin to look over the more subtle hints you give off, so you may on occasion be more clear in your needs. He absolutely will not let you push your limits. He believes in hard work, but despite it being hypocritical, will not let you work until you've damaged yourself. If you push it he may physically remove you from a situation. He's gentle about it, he'd never harm you, but that doesn't mean the action doesn't potentially cross some lines. He will take your condition as a challenge. He's a healer, and although he acts otherwise, his skill is a point of pride for him. He'll want to constantly attempt healing you. Early on it'll be largely symptom mitigation. But if it goes to far, he can develop something of an obsession. His ability to separate you from your condition may get blurry. Getting to that point my prove disastrous for your relationship. You may have to get pretty firm about reminding him that your still a person and not just a medical issue to be cured.

Doc is and ENTJ, 6w5, Leo. ENTJ/INTJ obviously have a fair bit of overlap. There's a lot of similarities, just make sure you don't allow his E to overrun you. Double Js have to be careful, as both sides are very opinionated, and don't like backing down from their convictions. Try not to allow arguments to escalate out of control. To a 6, 5's can seem impractical with frivolous, useless ideas. To 5's a 6 can seem closed minded and fanatical. Conversely, with clear, open communication they can find a deep respect of each others intellect and ability to view things from a different angle. Aquarius/Leo pairs are naturally quite compatible. Air signs tend to fan the passions of fire signs. However this can get explosive. Find ways to stay grounded, so no one gets burned.

Oof. This got absurdly long. I tried to cover a bit more of each relationship. As I do things I’m just constantly reiterating one thing. Communication is important to make any relationship work. Hope this fulfilled what you were looking for. As always I’m open to any kind of requests/questions/etc.

#anti-match #match up #matchup #nitty gritty #Doc #Calico

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pickledchickenetti · 5 years

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(pt 1) I'm a woman and am happily married to another woman and I don't understand why everyone was so upset at Krista. She openly supports marriage equality and has defended it. She has close LGBT friends (I know having black friends doesn't make you not racist but in my experience people that have been opposed to my sexual orientation stop being friends with me) and advocates for LGBT persons to be included in the church and conservatives to accept us.

Hi friend, thanks for your thoughts! I don’t know your background, so I hope that my answer doesn’t come across as condescending or rude as that is certainly not my intention. My opinions on Krista’s stance on gay issues are strongly colored by my experiences, which I have no problem admitting. I’m sure plenty of other LGBT folks have different feelings, which is totally fine. For what it’s worth, I saw more people upset with Krista over her posts about abuse victims not remarrying after a divorce than I have over any of the LGBT posts she’s made, but I’m not going to pretend that I haven’t regularly made critical comments about her LGBT posts/stances here.

In order to be fair to her, I decided to go back through her blog (on Tumblr, not her other blog) and re-read her posts on gay issues in order to make sure that I’m not taking other people’s comments about her or vague memories I have of old posts and projecting my own frustrations with other conservative Christians’ opinions onto Krista.. I’m going to do my best to source anything I reference via links to that post, but I apologize if I miss anything.

I will also be focusing on issues regarding people who are sexually attracted to the same sex (using the blanket term of “gay”, which also represents bi/pan/etc.) for this post. I am cis myself, and your question references your same-sex relationship and family, so in this case it feels appropriate to stay in my lane and not offer opinions on a cis person’s stances on gender issues as another cis person. I do not mean to exclude gender nonconforming people from the overall LGBT community in any way.

The oldest about posts I can find from Krista about anything gay-related are anons asking her opinions. I’m fairly sure that this is the first one, where she essentially gives a fairly neutral action that could be interpreted as “I don’t think being gay sends you to hell” or as “I think gay people can go to heaven too as long as they repent of that sin along with the others”. She does not make it clear what her opinion on same-sex attraction specifically is, as another anon then pointed out in this post. Does her tone in addressing the anon bother me? Yes. Does she have the right to call out people she feels are being rude to her? Also yes.

Early on in the post she says “First, you missed out on a lot of people. It’s actually LGBTQIAAP.” (likely referencing the anon saying LGBTQIA), and it’s just a personal pet peeve of mine for straight people to try to act like they have any authority on things like the acronym, but I realize that that’s just me and she also has no way of knowing the anon’s sexuality so perhaps it was one straight person (sarcastically) informing another straight person of a perceived shortcoming. Perhaps not. She then goes on to defend her refusal to give a “straightforward answer” by, in my opinion, continuing to dodge the question.

Further down she brags that she “was actually named best advocate at a national moot court competition this past year arguing that Title VII protects against sexual orientation discrimination”. Now maybe I’m wrong, but it’s my understanding that moot courts aren’t typically events where you’re expected to defend your own personal beliefs, but events where you are assigned a stance and have to argue it regardless of what you believe. If that’s the case, mentioning that is irrelevant. If it is not the case and she was able to choose that stance, bragging about it for some sort of ally point is, in my opinion, arrogant.

She ends the post by saying that her LGBT friends “are entitled to all of the rights, privileges, and safeties that I enjoy as a straight woman. Who you love and who you’re attracted to does not change your place in society or the rights that you have or opportunities you should be able to pursue.” Sure, your sexual orientation SHOULDN’T change your place in society or your rights, but it DOES. It absolutely does, and to say that LGBT folks are entitled to the same rights as straight women is, at best, misguided. Krista is a lawyer who has, in theory, interacted with multiple members of the LGBT community, so she should realize that regardless of what should or shouldn’t be true, LGBT still DON’T have the same rights as her in many states, and even in states where legally we have the same rights we still live with fears she will never experience.

As for the claim that Krista is “not only tolerant of my family but accepting” and that she “accepts me and defends my rights”, here are my thoughts. I don’t want to be tolerated. If you’re cool with just being tolerated then more power to you, but as someone who is merely tolerated by a number of Christians, it really hurts and feels extremely de-humanizing. I do feel that “tolerates” is an accurate word for Krista’s stances on gay people (with the possible exception of the gay friends she claims to have). I do not feel that Krista “defends” gay people and our families beyond her belief that she is legally obligated to uphold the law. She has said that she is “totally fine with gay couples adopting”, which is a positive. She has also said she feels families with same-sex couples should be treated like “any other couple”, which again, is a positive. I guess I just don’t feel like that’s the same as defending. She recently admitted that she has never voted for a Democrat, and while I understand why someone from Vermont might see third-party candidates as viable (because in many Vermont races they are), she has to realize that voting third-party for president is throwing away your vote in the current political climate. Beyond voting, what is she actually DOING to “defend” gay people? Nothing she has ever said makes me think she’s using her privilege to truly defend us to her conservative Christian circles. Unless proven otherwise, I can’t help but feel that she’s able to talk a (vague) big game about being supportive without actually doing any supporting.

I have recently said that it is my belief that she thinks gay sex/acting on same-sex attractions is sinful, even if our marriages should be legal. I will admit that I formed that opinion largely based on a private conversation I had with her, and which I will not share publicly without her permission. In going through old posts, I came across this post, which I feel also supports this opinion. An anon says that they can’t see any good qualities to overcome “when the thing they disagree with is gay rights/gay marriage/that being gay is a sin”, and that they’d “say the same about someone who identified as a Nazi or a white supremacist”. In Krista’s response, she literally says “But, by the same token, you and I are talking right now, and hopefully, I’m not reminding you of a Nazi”. That statement seems to imply that she falls into at least one of those categories or else why would she remind the anon of a Nazi? In another post she also says that “I do believe that all people are responsible for their sexual BEHAVIOR”, which seems to imply that there is something sinful about sexual behavior between people of the same sex.

If we want to get down to it, this is the post that was the cause of my initial feeling that Krista was not a safe person for gay people. If someone asks you if you think being LGBTQ+ is a sin and your answer is to tell them they are trying to “stir division”, it is only fair to assume that you think they won’t like your answer. If I ask someone their belief on that subject, I am asking because I want to know their opinion. This anon echoes the same sentiment. If she’s really worried about “stirring division” she should have just ignored the question.

To anyone still reading at this point, thanks for sticking it out with me. Honestly Krista’s recent posts (paired with some events in my life offline) have really got me thinking, and I have a lot of things weighing on me. I’m glad that you are able to feel that as long as she believes you deserve the same rights as she does it’s fine. I hope you continue to feel safe in that. Unfortunately, many of us aren’t that lucky. Many of us have lived too much of our lives feeling disgusting and broken and worthless because of teachings that that same God she worships and we were brought up to worship disapproves not only of any relationships we have, but of an inherent part of who we are. The biggest reason that I continue to speak out against Krista’s posts is because I just need any scared or confused young gay teenagers in the church to know that they don’t have to settle for being tolerated, and no matter who thinks they’re sinning, they’re not.

Krista’s posts (in the context of the rest of the blog) would have devastated me at one time in my life. When I speak out against them, I’m usually saying the sorts of things I wish someone would have said to me then.

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What does it feel like being aro? Because I identify as demiromantic and lately I've been wondering if I'm just full aro. Like I've had crushes before and can imagine being in love but like actually being with someone??? Wouldn't know what to do or anything. Or am I just being paranoid because never in my 20+ years have I had a relationship?

Hello, anon ! This got very long (I apologize in advance !), so I'll be putting this under a read more.

It's... different.

You often feel alienated from everyone else. Everyone outside of the aro spectrum (alloromantics), whether they're straight, gay, bi, pan, or any other identity, experiences romantic attraction and can, on some level, relate to other alloromantics (the shared desire to fall in love, go on dates, maybe get married, etc.) That's not exactly the case for us aros. While some of us are okay with and can appreciate romance in theory, that's not true for all aros. Some have varying levels of repulsion towards romance. For me, I don't usually mind the idea of romantic relationships, but I'm repulsed by even the mere thought of being in one myself. I feel physically ill and uncomfortable at the thought of someone being interested in me in that way, and my mind completely blocks out the idea of me being in a romantic relationship with all the fixings. It's a complicated relationship with romance. While I can enthusiastically talk about, say, a couple in a series I'm watching and share that excitement with another fan, or I can feel real joy about a friend getting into a relationship and listen with interest about what that relationship is like, I can also be really repulsed with certain discussions of romance and struggle to understand certain kinds of relationships that are just not logical to me (like people who date who aren't friends or people who say they fall in love after a week of knowing someone). Society also puts a huge emphasis on romance and makes it seem like such an enormous and important part of your life. People around you are always talking about it starting from a young age. Television shows, movies, and other types of media are oversaturated with romantic plotlines. (As a result, representation for us in mainstream media is practically non-existent.) Romantic relationships are even placed on a pedestal and viewed by some as being more valuable and just overall better than platonic ones. None of it makes sense, and you feel a real disconnect from all these ideas and feelings that are just natural and commonplace to just about everyone around you.

It's tiring. Amatonormativity also leads to a lot of negativity and ridicule directed at single individuals. You're seen as immature if you've never dated before, and even in middle and high school kids will make fun of you if you've never had a significant other. If you're not married by the age of 35, people will assume you're undesirable, have a terrible personality, or something else of the sort. It's always assumed that there is a problem with you. A person who wants to live on your own with a pet makes you the Crazy Cat Lady who is someone you should avoid or never become yourself. When you try to tell others that you don't experience romantic attraction, they might say you sound ridiculous, that you just haven't found the right person yet (or worse, they might even see it as a challenge and try to pursue a relationship with you), that (especially if you're cis aroace or cis aro and heterosexual) you're just making it up so that you can feel special and weasel your way into the lgbtq+ community where you don't belong.

It's scary sometimes. Society tries to hammer into you (starting from a very young age) the idea that you're meant to find the love of your life with whom you'll spend the rest of your days. You'll have your 2.4 kids and spouse by your side, so you won't die alone. It's almost like there's this guidebook for the future, and yet you find yourself flipping through the pages trying to find the chapter or even just a footnote about people like us and what we can expect. Society tells us we'll be forever alone. Yeah, you have your friends, but they're likely alloromantics and at some point they'll be too tied up with their nuclear families or romantic partner(s) to fill that lonely void you'll have. Society doesn't have a positive outlook for people like us, so we have to forge our own paths.

There's usually a lot of inner struggle involved. Because of society's emphasis on romance and amatonormativity, there can be some internalized arophobia that some of us struggle with. Plus, a lot of us don't learn about aspec identities until later on in life, so we've spent many hours, days, even years distraught because we were under the impression that there must have been something wrong with us. I only found out about aromanticism and asexuality when I was in university, so I had my fair share of years where I just couldn't understand why I was so different from my friends, the people on TV, and all the others around me. I know some aros who would have panic attacks because they thought that they'd inevitably have to get into a relationship, have kids, and so on because they were led to believe that there was no alternative or that it'd be even scarier to live alone for the rest of their lives. A few of my aro friends and I (and I would think a lot of other aros) have talked about how we're all almost always going through these bouts where we doubt whether or not we're actually aro. It's really hard to know if you're outright lacking romantic attraction or if those people are right and you're just a late bloomer or haven't found the right person yet. Like I could be demiromantic ? I can't really be sure, so there are times where I think I'm feeling something, and I have a crisis because it could be romantic attraction ? Or maybe it's just indigestion ? I've also gone 20+ years without being in a relationship, so I can understand your concern there. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer.

It's a lot.

But it's also really liberating and something that a lot of us are very proud of.

When you're able to climb past the internalized arophobia and learn that you can absolutely live a very fulfilling and happy life without being in a romantic relationship, you really start to see life through a new lens and have a much more positive outlook on the future. There is nothing wrong with wanting to live alone, with a pet, with a close friend or friends (this is especially important !!! it's often looked down upon and people will insist that there must be something going on between two friends living together but that doesn't have to be the case !!!). All of these are options available to you. You're never truly alone, either. A lot of us have really great relationships with our friends and family (blood or found), in part because we don't put romantic relationships on a pedestal and tend to spend more time with them since we're just not involved in romance. There are interest groups out there (both locally and long distance like on the internet) that you can join to meet new people and do or talk about something you really enjoy (ex. a dnd group that meets weekly). Maybe even get to know your coworkers ! In most cases, you see them eight hours a week, five days a week, and it can be nice learning about these familiar faces (some of my closest friends have been current or former coworkers). There are communal housing initiatives out there where you can have your own space, but you are also surrounded by neighbors (similar to dorm life in university). You want kids but don't want to have a romantic partner or spouse ? You can adopt and coparent with a close friend ! There are so many possibilities out there, and I hope that one day they will become more accepted and even commonplace in society.

It's a lot to consider, and these are only my own experiences and those of my friends and others that I've read about over the years. The best way to figure out whether or not you're aro is to talk to other aros, read the accounts of other aros to see what their own concerns, experiences, and thoughts are on their own identity, and read through some helpful resources on aromanticism ! This blog is a really nice place to start, and this is also a really great resource (that I found on the aforementioned blog). If you're still unsure, that's totally valid and understandable ! If you feel more comfortable using the aromantic label in the meantime, that's absolutely okay, too ! Just like with sexuality, romantic attraction can be fluid, too. If the you today feels closer to aromantic than demiromantic, then you can identify as such. If you realize that you are demiromantic or even something else later on down the road, that's also okay ! You're just as valid either way. Remember that, anon. It's okay to be aro, it's okay to be arospec, and it's okay if that changes down the road. At the end of the day, you're you !

#i hope this helps out in some way anon !#i ended up rambling a lot...#thank you for the ask and please feel free to reach out if you have more questions or want to talk more about this !#asks with min

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I may not have a doctorate (or a bachelor’s degree,) but I HAVE been having copious amounts of butt sex for the last decade, so I'm here to answer all of your sex and relationship questions.

Hi, everyone! I'm Asa Akira, and I’m officially now an unqualified sex and relationship columnist. This is the fifth installment of Ask Asa, my column for Men's Health.

I may not have a doctorate (or a bachelor’s degree,) but I HAVE been having copious amounts of butt sex for the last decade, so I'm here to answer all of your sex and relationship questions.

If you have any questions for me, shoot them to Men's Health on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagramwith the hashtag #AskAsa. Don't hold back - I certainly won't.

I’ve been super shy my whole life (I’m 35 now). I think every girl is out of my league. What advice do you have on breaking the shyness? I’m getting older and want to have kids and get married!

I grew up really shy, and at the core, I still am - so I understand how unhelpful it is when people say, “Just get over it!” or, “All you have to do is gain confidence!”

For me, a trick that’s worked is when I just think of socializing as my job. When I’m in a social situation, I actually pretend I’m being paid to be there and talk to people. It weirdly takes the pressure off of getting rejected, or “failing” to be engaging. Because if those things happen, oh, well, I still did my job.

Of course, the goal is to be engaging; and if there’s one thing everyone loves, it’s talking about themselves. In the beginning, when you’re still getting acquainted with a new person and warming up, ask a ton of questions about them: What do they like to do for fun outside of their job? What kinds of things make them laugh the hardest? If they could only eat one food for the rest of her life, what would it be? It’ll show them you’re interested in who they are as a person, and more importantly, it’ll give you insight into whether or not they're ultimately a good match for you.

Does pineapple juice actually change the taste of your semen? Have you tested the theory?

I’ve tested the theory so much, I’m practically a scientist.

No, but seriously: while I have not found that pineapple juice specifically can alter the taste of semen, most men's health experts agree that your diet affects the taste of your semen, and any sugary or acidic foods can cut down on its naturally bitter taste. That includes lemon, cranberries, and yup, pineapple.

In my own personal experience, I have found that the healthier the diet, the more inoffensive-tasting the jizz; the unhealthier the diet, the worse it tastes. In fact, I am proud to say that once, upon sampling one gentleman's seed, it tasted so bad that I gently recommended he go to the doctor to see where his insulin levels are. The doctor reported he was, in fact, pre-diabetic, and through an improved diet and exercise, he was able to avoid a lifelong disease. To this day, this is still one of my proudest moments.

How do you deal with the stigma attached to shooting porn?

I deal with it by reminding myself of my own morals, values, and ethics. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with me shooting porn - I am having safe sex and fulfilling my fantasy of being watched by eager and horny viewers. The career choice has afforded me self-worth, a comfortable lifestyle, and the kind of sex life that most people can only dream about. If there are people out there who think that’s bad, then so be it; I’ll be orgasming all the way to the bank.

Porn has given me self-worth, a comfortable lifestyle, and the kind of sex life that most people can only dream about. If there are people out there who think that’s bad, then so be it; I’ll be orgasming all the way to the bank.

What's your advice for keeping a relationship alive?

The last time I spoke on relationships, I got divorced (for the second time in my life) a few months later, so my first piece of advice is to take my advice with a grain of salt.

That said, I’ve found that as cliché as it is, the keys to a healthy relationship are honesty and communication. And therapy.

I cannot express how wonderful couples' therapy has been in my current relationship; we started sessions early on, and it has been a truly educating and infinitely helpful experience. I’ve learned so much about myself, my own insecurities and weaknesses, and how to avoid falling into the same patterns I’ve been repeating with other relationships throughout my entire life. It’s given us the vocabulary to communicate clearly and efficiently, and it’s allowed me to be intimate in a way I have never experienced. Every conflict is now an opportunity to grow closer, and in turn, I am having the best sex of my life because my guards are all down.

So final answer, after two failed marriages and and dozens of toxic breakups: Get professional help.

"Porn has given me self-worth, a comfortable lifestyle, and the kind of sex life that most people can only dream about. If there are people out there who think that’s bad, then so be it; I’ll be orgasming all the way to the bank."

Is it bad to want to have sex everyday? Should I hold out and find a partner who feels the same, or accept the fact that I'll never find that and settle for less?

If wanting sex everyday is wrong, then who would want to be right? Seriously, though, there are definitely women out there that want sex every day naturally. (Hello, me.) In fact, contrary to the stereotype that men have inherently higher sex drives than women do, some studies have shown that women not only desire sex just as much as men do, but that they're turned on by a wider range of stimuli.

Most importantly, many women are capable of wanting sex every day - it’s just up to you to consistently make her feel that way. Many studies have shown that the most reliable way to turn a woman on is to make her feel like you're turned on by her, and this is absolutely true: personally, I feel the horniest when I’m feeling hot and sexy, so the more you remind me of that, the more I’ll actually want to have sex.

So find out what turns your partner on, and do it often. Keep in mind that it's not really realistic to expect to have sex every single day, as there are a lot of real-life factors - work stress, having kids, etc. - that get in the way. But know that yes, there are tons of women out there who are just as horny (if not hornier) than you.

How do I last longer in bed?

I don’t have a penis, so I can’t speak from personal experience. But I am a woman, so I can tell you from my perspective: sex is not all about penetration. If you keep us satisfied, we are never going to complain about how long you last in bed, and there are so many ways to do that without relying on plain old penetration.

If you are more on the minute-man end of the scale, mix it up! Go down on your partner, use your fingers, use toys, engage in a lot of dirty talk, etc. If you're having sex and you feel like you’re getting close, take a break and go down on her - that is NEVER going to go under-appreciated. I love a man who uses variety way more than the one-trick pony who just wants to have straight-up vanilla P-in-V sex for 20 minutes straight.

"If I want to have sex with a consenting adult for money, it's silly that the government won't allow me to do so. I hope we are soon living in a world where we are all horrified by the way things used to be."

Do you think that the future of porn is activism?

We have seen a huge rise in political action from the porn industry in the last few years. Performers and producers like jessica drake, Julia Ann, Jiz Lee, Connor Habib, and so many others have been on the forefront of big issues like the fight for marriage equality and the battle against Measure B, the law that would have required performers in porn to wear condoms on camera. I think this will only continue to rise.

I would also love to ultimately see all sex work legalized. As a porn actor who primarily shoots in California, my work is legal, but that is not the case for escorts or other women who make their living selling sex. Violence against sex workers is remarkably common: in fact, the mortality rate for female sex workers is much higher than that of women in pretty much any other profession.

To me, it's obvious that the very thing that makes prostitution dangerous is the fact that it operates behind closed doors, where it can't be regulated. If we could legalize prostitution, we could finally implement procedures like regular STD testing and background checks. If I want to have sex with a consenting adult for money, it's silly that the government won't allow me to do so. I hope we are soon living in a world where we are all horrified by the way things used to be.

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