Ed and Stede would try to do sexy roleplay but get so distracted by making up the story that they'd end up doing a three hour improv routine and forget to have sex
Ed and Stede would try to do sexy roleplay but get so distracted by making up the story that they'd end up doing a three hour improv routine and forget to have sex
Like, even if OFMD is focused on a romance (rightfully, it's the story they set to tell), it's never felt amatonormative to me. There are multiple characters that are shown having funny, whacky, fulfilling lives without a partner, there are several canon poly characters, and the show celebrates platonic love often (Izzy's "big love story" in s2 is about falling in platonic love with the crew; it's often remarked upon that the fact that Ed and Stede are each other's first real friend is equally important to them being each other's first romantic love...). Even if a romantic monogamous relationship is the focus, it's never alienated me as an aro person bc the team has crafted a world in which I know I'd feel free to be myself. That's my two cents.
The main thing sitting in my gut that hurts from these episodes isn't that Ed and Stede "break up" (they're obviously going to be fine). It's that Ed and Stede don't get the soft, touchy, post-first-time honeymoon vibes. They do a bit with Ed bringing Stede breakfast in bed and going on a date, but there's distance between them, literal and metaphorical. There are episodes in early season one where they touch more than they touched in episode 7.
And when I first watched it last night I was worried it was just a pacing issue, but now I'm settling more into the thought that it's very purposeful staging to give us the sense something is off from the start. There's still so much space between them to cross. Finally sleeping together didn't fix it.
Because this isn't how this scene was supposed to happen. They were supposed to be able to take it slow and have a beautiful, tender first time. And then yet another person appears to make them feel, once again, that they can't be safe. They don't have time. It's now or never.
We're back to rushing and whims. How can you not, after you just saw the love of your life tortured? When you were tortured? (Also the killing someone thing but Stede is unhinged, I don't think that's what got to him lol). And to be clear I mean this for both of them, Ed also gave back into feelings of needing to rush. He regretted it, understandably, but he also fell into that trap.
I hope we get a scene at some point (probably not this season bc oooof 30 minutes left?? That's it??? There's too much to cover???) where they get to take their time with each other, to wake up slow with no literal or metaphorical space between them. To spend a morning holding hands and feeling like they have all the time in the world.
Ed watching Stede kill for him is a parallel to Stede freaking out over Ed shaving his beard for him. Ed thinks Stede has lost some of the kindness he admired in the same way stede thought ed lost some of the toughness he admired. They both see something they want and idealize in the other person and struggle with the parts of each other that they hate in themselves. And that's a gorgeous meaty dynamic to explore.
No because Stede had already saved the day by talking to Ned's crew like people!! Kill them with kindness!! That's what he does best and that's what Ed loves about him!!
But he thinks it's not enough, he's still stuck thinking that he has to be this toxic masculinity no mercy pirate/man, not just for Ed but for everyone else too
Him killing Ned and then refusing to talk to Ed even when Ed was about to tell him about his own trauma was in character but it was HEARTBREAKING