You should cut autistic people some slack when it comes to being blunt, not understanding social cues, or not understanding social norms.
But.
If somebody is being a dick to you, if theyâre flirting with you and wonât stop when you ask them to, if theyâre being really inappropriate or invasive, it doesnât matter that theyâre autistic! Youâre allowed to be uncomfortable with that.
I am autistic and sometimes I do have trouble with social interactions. I often cannot detect sarcasm unless itâs clear from context, I canât always tell when something is a joke or when somebody is exaggerating, I often canât tell what people are âsayingâ if they donât say it outright, and, though I try to guess anyway, it is extremely taxing and confusing for me.
But that doesnât mean I can walk around stomping on everybodyâs boundaries after they make them explicitly known to me.
I have read far too many stories of specifically some autistic men being completely inappropriate around women, only for the women to be told something along the lines of, âhe canât control it, heâs autistic.â If he can independently go places, he should be able to learn to stop when you say to stop. If he really canât learn that, then he needs more support (maybe a carer to be out with him and to help him navigate social situations), but, either way, it is completely unacceptable to write off sexual harassment or bigoted behaviour just because somebody is autistic.
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Me: *to my therapist* I had the spoons, so I did heaps of stuff and now I'm so exhausted I feel sick.
My Therapist: This is where you got to treat spoons like cash. Just because you have them, you need to figure out if you have enough to spend, or else you're going to be in debt. Remember, you're autistic, so you regain those spoons slowly and use them quickly. Everything, good and bad, uses that cash for you. You may enjoy the activity but it's going to exhaust you just as much as a bad activity if you're not careful.
Me: Goddamnit....
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PSA: If you are one of the few autistic people who work in an office (this would probably help ADHD people too), get yourself one of these in addition to your office chair. It is amazing for stimming at the desk while I'm doing work and it is socially acceptable at most workplaces.
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There was a young man from Peru
Whose limericks stopped at line two
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getting disabled over a period of time is so weird, because sometimes iâll just see something, letâs say about running, and think âi should do that!â and then i slowly realise that i canât run anymore. i can barely even walk. itâs weird because there wasnât one event that happened that made me like it. there wasnât a day where i woke up and couldnât run anymore. it was slow and gradual. and sometimes i realise how much ive lost that i didnât even realise because it all happened so gradually. sometimes it feels like yesterday i could run and today i canât, and sometimes it feels like forever ago that i could.
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this is a way better model... you'll still get transphobic & intersexist drs of course but i prefer this to male / female or even having separate questions for gender & sex.
[we can't see the full form, but i'd suggest having a "something else" option and dominant hormone question too.]
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After S2 David Tennant and Michael Sheen discuss driving the Bentley :)
Michael: Series One David spent his whole time moaning about how hard it was to drive that Bentley.
David: And cursing. Cursing.
Michael: This series, I get to drive it.
David: Yes. How are you finding it?
Michael: Awful.
David: Yeah.
Michael: Absolutely awful. I understand everything youâve-
David: It's terrible. Itâs beautiful. It's a thing of great beauty, but you don't want to have to actually drive the blooming thing.
Michael: Just turning the wheel...
David: Yeah.
Michael: It's like The World's Strongest Man event.
David: Yes.
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Murphys law of being a trans man is that you're only considered a man when it can be used to hurt you
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labs that are also churches. to me
(1. annie dillard, teaching a stone to talk 2. the deep underground neutrino experiment, a.k.a. DUNE 3. the large hadron collider 4. the sudbury neutrino observatory)
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