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So I made this self-care and exploration jar. I promised myself that every week this year I'll be pulling from the jar and enjoying whatever the piece of paper says. I'm thinking of maybe adding as I go and pulling when I feel down. Just so I don't remain in my bubble.

#self care #explore #miami florida #self care journey #healing

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I long for peace and a life of leisure

#peace #vacation #virgin voyages #black girls in luxury #leisure

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2023 is the year for healing and moving towards what you deserve. I'm on the journey to discover my true self. #selflove #healing #journeytome #2023

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take the time to appreciate the version of yourself that exists right now, in this moment

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“You never pretended to be a bride when you were a little girl?” No???? Like literally never?

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Just quietly upgrade your appearance, secure your financial future, invest, and max out on the benefits of it all. And don’t say a word about it in public.

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I will get up again. And again. And again.

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shoutout to people healing from things they never discuss

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I love being alone in my room, I love not having to be a person

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I'm open to receiving things that exceed my expectations.

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You are a creator. Creators must create.  You can’t wait for life to happen to you, you can’t wait for opportunities, you can’t live your life by default. You must be clear, you must identify your needs, you must show the Universe your vision. Your life is going nowhere if you don’t have a goal, if you don’t have the reason to open your eyes every single day, to wake up with joy and excitement.

Think about your ideal life. What kind of person do you want to become? What are your goals? What do you want to achieve?  Where do you want to live? What do you want to do?  What is your definition of sheer happiness?

You see, you can achieve anything you want, but you have to be specific; you must have a clear vision for your life and then work towards this vision every single day. When you set a strong intention, when you believe that you can achieve it, the entire Universe starts working in your favor. 

Start living your life by design. Maybe for the first time in your life ask yourself: what do I really want? And don’t be afraid to dream big, don’t be afraid to create a massive vision. If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough. You have to switch from thinking to doing and then to being. Remember, if you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs. Which option do you prefer?

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Level up Dating Guide Part 1. 

1. Always look like you’re about to run into your ex or worst enemy. Hot as fuck. Ready to slay. And remember, greasy hair, chipped nails, bad fitting clothes have no place in your level up journey. Aim to look immaculate. Find what clothes suit your body shape and stick to those styles. Use Pinterest, and Instagram for style inspo. 

2. Arouse everyone’s senses around you with expensive perfume. Everything about you should scream luxury and regal energy. Oil based perfumes have more depth and smell rich as apposed to overpowering au de toilette. So stay away from anything cheap and sweet. Luxury fragrance brands such as Penhaligons, Le Labo, and Tom Ford are good options. Spray a little of each for a unique scent. Smelling divine on a date levels you up from a 5 to a 10 instantly. 

3. No dates where it’s easy for him and harder for you. Dating has to work for you from the get go. Never go out of your way for a man you’ve just met. He needs to learn from the very beginning that he has to put in work and that means dating is convenient for you, so regardless of how the date goes, you benefit. If you’re meeting him in the evening, make sure it’s a dinner so you don’t need to cook that night. Have a list of favourite restaurants and tick them all off with different dates. He wants to spend the day with you? He can take you for a spa day, that way you get massage, champagne and relaxation out of the date. Men are going to want this to be easy, they’re going to want to invite you over for a movie and take-out, or ‘cook for you’ after the first date and ladies this is a simple test to see how easy you are. He either takes you to that Michelin star restaurant or bye Felica. Next. 

4. Under no conditions do you spend any money to meet this man or spend time with him. There is only gains when it comes to dating, which means no losses, and no spending your own money because ‘you thought it would be polite to split the bill’ is a basic move. Get comfortable with smiling and continuing the conversation when the bills comes. If the man suggests splitting the bill, smile and tell him ‘you’ll get the next one’ and be sure to block and delete that dusties number while he’s paying. We never waste any time on basic men. 

5. We don’t deliver pussy. Ever. This means, no house dates. Don’t put yourself in a position for a man to lure you into the bedroom. It’s not worth it, all the post date anxiety about if he will call, and what are we now. No honey, just no. Keep your legs closed and meet him only in public. There will be plenty of time for house dates once you’re with your chosen man. This also filters out the men who are after a quick bang vs the men who want to get to know you.

6. No chasing. Chasing a man implies he’s running from you. You don’t chase anyone, the only thing you should be chasing is your dreams and goals. You need to have the confidence to know that what is meant for you will not pass you by. And chasing a man and feeling stressed and anxious is not a healthy start to any relationship. If you find this is your default feeling when you get close to a guy, or constantly feel triggered when dating, I recommend CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to work through these issues (otherwise if you don’t seek help you may continue to play out the same situations). 

7. Always have at least 3 men on your dating roster. In the world of dating apps (even during pandemic), the turn over can be crazy fast, one week he is your number one guy, the next week you find out he’s heartbroken over his ex and he can’t see you no more. Or maybe he realises you’re not an easy fuck so disappears suddenly. Whatever the reason, you need to remember ALL these men are disposable and replaceable, keep your options open. Always. Never over invest, men are the best actors and often can take weeks if not months to start seeing their true colours. This is the reason why you need options, as soon as one guy drops off, be prepared to replace him with another. 

8. Get clear on your dealbreakers. Actually, get crystal clear on what you’re looking for. Understand what type of man is going to give you the life you dream of. If you love luxury and finer things in life, then why date the guy who only takes public transport and only enjoys basic restaurants? Make sure you date men who are going to elevate you to where you want to be in life. Not men who are going to have you stuck in a life you don’t want or desire.

9. Learn the art of charm, flirting, and feminine energy. Watch films, read books, study women like Marilyn Monroe, and Cleopatra. These women had men hooked, learn from the master seductresses. 

10. Spend time with women who exude the confidence you dream off, women who attract men, women who are confident, women who are where you aspire to be. We unconsciously mirror the behaviour of those around, so ensure you have the right women to learn from in your level up journey. 

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Manifesting...

2021 will be the best year of my life 🧿

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Stop sitting on the sidelines watching other people get the things you want. You can have them too.