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Starting to think there's no cure for the emptiness

#cluster b #actually cluster b

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Reddit makes dumb decision -> I finally decide to check out Tumblr -> meet cool people on the 196 tag and become mutuals -> I discover one of them lives in Aus too -> I fly like 1000km and we fuck and cuddle

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neurodivergent people are not immune to being ableist

you as a neurodivergent person are not immune to being ableist

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When they do it, it's "grey-rocking". When we do it, it's the "silent treatment".

"I need time alone" persotypicals when people with Cluster B disorders ALSO need time alone and can't talk to them.

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Looking back on people who've been in your life and thinking "good fucking riddance"

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peopl on here are like don't call someone a piece of shit, it's ableist towards everyone with piece of shit personality disorder, a diagnosis that seems completely reasonable and definitely not designed to stigmatize the patient

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At the end of the day, the only person truly suffering from NPD, surviving NPD, and feeling hurt by NPD is the narcissist who has this condition.

With that being said, #surviving narcissism, #surviving npd, #narc survivor are our tags now.

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When people see deviant behavior and comment that that person needs therapy, they’re not actually wishing that person well. They’re hoping to eliminate the deviant behavior, and failing that, to incarcerate them.

It’s also a gross misunderstanding of how therapy works. If you don’t want to be there, you won’t get anything out of it. I think people who say “they need therapy” do know it works that way, but they’re taking a mental shortcut. They’re imagining a deviant person who wants to change already, whom they can put in the Therapy Vortex and get a normal person out of it. If you’re intellectually rigorous about prison abolition, you have to grapple with the fact that you can’t incarcerate or therapize people into changing.

You also have to grapple with the difference between deviant behavior and harmful behavior! Someone who self-harms displays deviant behavior, which is harmful to them but not anyone else, and it’s your goddamn right to be mentally ill in a way that disgusts other people. If you want to stop, then therapy might be helpful, but it’s offensive to say that someone should get therapy just because you want them to stop.

Compare this to scamming people with fake blood testing machines. I saw people talking about how Elizabeth Holmes was a narcissist, a sociopath, whatever stigmatized cluster-B diagnosis they could throw at the wall. Maybe she is a narcissist. She doesn’t necessarily need therapy about it. She certainly doesn’t need therapy inflicted on her. It wouldn’t stop her from doing a scam again. She needs to be banned from the medical industry. Her actions were harmful, and we should address the actions, rather than trying to solve whatever the psychological cause was.

Much of this has been said before, but I’ve been seeing a lot commentary recently that criminals and deviants should go to therapy. IMO it’s a sanitized way to say “lock them up.”

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but like genuinely some people do actually get fucking weird about it and genuinely do seem mad about it. sucks to be you asshole but actually I've had enough people trying to control my hair in wy life so I'm going to grow it as long as i want AND talk about the annoying bits about it.

it's like a trans girl was saying a while ago like "if you even joke about cutting my hair off I'm going to kill you". i stopped going to the hairdresser because i was scared it was going to get cut because I'd grown up with school and family trying to control my hair so fuck off actually.

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If it gives access to needed resources, a diagnosis can be helpful. If not, it invites unneeded discrimination. At least it's been the case for me, NPD appearing in my medical files has led to my medical concerns being downplayed as me being dramatic/hysteric

i don't think i'll ever seek out an official npd diagnosis because there wouldn't really be a point in doing so. there are barely any resources out there, so what would a diagnosis change?

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Sometimes anti-NPD ableists say hilarious things like this gem I just found on reddit:

"being n@rciss1stic is a character trait not a disorder but if it's bad enough it can be tied to levianthan/pride. [...] Like my family has the spirit of generational leviathan"

I'm cured, I don't have NPD, I have the spirit of generational leviathan.

#npd #cluster b #actually cluster b #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #npd stigma

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When ppl know of personality disorders outside of bpd:

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every day I think about the fact that three of the most fundamentally important and powerful good aligned deities in golarion are canonically in a polyamorous lesbian triad together. there's even mechanical support for worshipping them as a group rather than as individuals

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Funny seeing anti-NPD ableists saying they can't be bothered showing empathy to people that give no empathy back as if that isn't the justification I myself have used for my lack of empathy (No one ever showed me empathy, why should I give any back?)

#npd #cluster b #actually cluster b #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #low empathy #npd stigma

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the thing that gets me about 5e is how fucking stifling character creation is. no wonder people have a million homebrew classes, you make like three whole choices in the course of an entire character! when i first played it it felt like playing PF1 with one hand tied behind my back, and i have never been convinced it's anything else.

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the worst npd experience is thinking everyone is in love with me. suicide attempts during narc crashes have nothing on that level of cringe