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[kitsunabi]

The entire Pikmin Floral set, for now! I def want to go back and add Oatchi, Moss, etc, but gonna take a break working on this for now. So glad I got all the Pikmin done!

#art #flower #pikmin

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we should be eating jellyfish regularly I'm not even joking

#jellyfish are delicious and if you haven't tried them you are missing out #my favorite is chicken & jellyfish tossed salad... err I don't remember what the dish name is called rn but its a favorite #jellyfish #food

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it is 11:27pm and I have The Strongest Desire to crack open some kind of sim game (valheim is calling to me right now for some weird reason) and spend hours on it but I need to be ON THE JOB BY 8 tomorrow OTL

#living la vida valerie #sometimes the inexplicable desire to play a game that involves Very Long Sessions just grips me during the most inopportune moments #i don't even like valheim that much I got it to play with the clan a few years back #in any sim game I just devolve into building tunnel systems or tunnel-vision (ha) towards creating pathing of some kind #you shoulda seen my subnautica game file; I was convinced I could build a base with a tunnel system that had access to every part of themap #you could essentially walk to endgame and never leave the base or touch water LOL

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tumblr is literally about talking to yourself through text posts or tags and once in a while people get nosy

#when I have nothing on hand this becomes a notebook for later #some of you have experienced this from me lol #tumblr

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djshswkshsaj it was such a jumpscare seeing you like my aventurine fic 😭😭😭 WHY ARE YOU PERCEIVING ME......... -@yinyuedijun

I got my 👀 on you!!! Nah I’m playin’

It was a neat fic thoughhhh!!! (And honestly tamer than your more recent fics that I’ve read, haha)

You always make the nicest ties to culture and identity and, in this case, language, in your fics. I really liked reading it

<333

@yinyuedijun

#kittybee replies

[kitsunabi]

idk who needs to hear this but when your english teacher asks you to explain why an author chose to use a specific metaphor or literary device, it’s not because you won’t be able to function in real-world society without the essential knowledge of gatsby’s green light or whatever, it’s because that process develops your abilities to parse a text for meaning and fill in gaps in information by yourself, and if you’re wondering what happens when you DON’T develop an adult level of reading comprehension, look no further than the dizzying array of examples right here on tumblr dot com

#writing #important

[kitsunabi]

something you said has been on my mind for a while - "kink is not inherently sexual". good faith! I don't understand that at all, could you explain it a bit?

This post is educational, hooray! Extensive discussion of kink under the cut. Nothing explicitly sexual is described in detail.

Please note that in this post, I use the terms top and Dom/me interchangeably. This is because I personally identify as a "top" and not a Dom. Some communities draw sharp lines between these two terms, and it's useful to make sure that you're using the same definition as other people when you're talking. Some people use "top" solely to refer to the giving or penetrative partner, which is not synonymous with the dominant partner. Topping subs, power bottoms, and all other permutations exist. I just use that term for myself because I don't like being called a Dom. It sounds like a guy's name to me, I don't like it.

When I text my wife in every morning, "Please bring me my coffee," and she answers, "Yes, Sir!" is that sexual? I'm surely not feeling sexual when I'm barely awake. When I hold my other wife's hand when she's having a depressive fit and tell her, "Daddy's got you, it's okay," that's kink, but it's not sexual. In that moment, neither of us feel particularly sexy, and we're surely not engaging in sex, but it's kink that - forgive the pun - binds us more strongly together.

One of my girls wears a 24/7 collar that I locked in place. (She can ask me at any point to take it off, or she can take it off herself if she wants to, but she chooses this.) That's kink. It's also... a necklace. That's not any more inherently sexual than her wedding ring, though it - for us - certainly symbolizes part of our relationship that happens to sometimes include sex, exactly the same as a wedding ring.

There are a lot of types of kink that don't include sexual contact in any way or which might include sexual contact but don't need to. One of my friends is a sex-repulsed ace bootblack. They literally take care of the boots of tops, usually at play parties. For them, this act of service and submission allows them to go into a particular headspace that's very fulfilling for them. They are explicitly serving the people whose boots they clean and polish. The Dom/mes receive that service and not only get really great-looking boots out of the deal but also get the feeling of power from having someone eager to take care of them and serve them. For some of us, that kind of service allows us access to a feeling of power that can be hard to access in our daily life, and that feels really good.

Sometimes, it can feel good in a sexy way, and sometimes it feels good in a "makes lizard brain feel powerful but not sexy" way. Neither one is inherently better or worse or more or less kinky than the other.

Sometimes, people who like being whipped like it because the line between pain and pleasure is like a wave on the ocean, and they want to surf it. Sometimes, that involves mashing squishy bits together, and sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes, it's just about riding that endorphin wave and then having someone take care of you afterwards.

Sometimes, people want to be tied up in elaborate shibari knots and fucked. Sometimes, people want to be tied up in elaborate shibari knots because that process requires a lot of trust and is an intimate ritual that takes a lot of time. Sometimes, it's both. Sometimes, people want to tie up others because it's a beautiful work of art, because that ritual of binding is a ritual and accesses something sacred for them. Sometimes, they want to be tied up because it's playtime, and that's fun for them! Sometimes, they want to be tied up because when they're tied up, they are 0% in control, and they want to just surrender control to someone whom they can trust.

Some people want to go into sub space - that headspace I talked about earlier - because in their everyday life, they have a lot of responsibilities and stress, and going into that space where nobody can ask anything from them, where they have no responsibility to make any decisions at all, is a relief to them. That might involve squishy bits, or it might not. Some people like going into that sub space because being someone's Good Boy, Sweet Girl, or Good Pup is gender-affirming for them. A friend of mine only feels really safe when he's got his pup hood on, because that means he's With Master, who will protect him.

Some people get gender affirmation out of being in control, being someone's Daddy or Mistress, Sir or Boss. It allows them to access a power that helps them to square their shoulders and take on the world.

All of this entirely skips over the fact that a person's primary sexual organ is between their ears, and some people do get sexual fulfillment out of kink even when no genitalia are involved at all, but I cannot stress enough that the reasons that people enter into the multitude of kink situations in the world are as varied as the people involved. People gain access to comfort, to feelings of stability and order and control over their lives, to gender affirmation, to endorphins that are or aren't sexual in nature, to release from responsibility, to ritual and intimacy, to the ability to provide for others and take care of others in a way that their outside lives may or may not permit. For that matter, they may simply gain access to a paycheck, and that's fine, too. That's no more or less "selling your body" than when I used to run my ass off for 13+ hours a day at my retail job, and I guarantee they're making way, way better money.

The fact that so many people see kink as only and purely sexual means they're missing out on so much of what kink can offer, and narrowing down the experiences of others to this tiny little sliver of what actually exists. Yes, it can be sexual, but it doesn't have to be. The reasons that people engage in kink are as varied as the reasons that people engage in any other kind of interaction, and the fulfillment they get from it is as varied, too.

#important

[kitsunabi]

How do I explain the concept “if you get hit by a 50+ mph car you don’t get a 2nd try” clearer like man I get you don’t want to admit you did a poor street crossing but “It’s fine I get another try” is not how we rationalize this

#living la vida valerie #my job is chipping at my sanity today

[kitsunabi]

never ask a woman her age a man his salary your mutual how late it is in her timezone when she starts posting about that bisexual man

#LOL #tumblr

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Man won’t step off the express for when disaster strikes but will for a group photo, honestly mood

#kittybee games #I could’ve picked stranger characters but I really wanted an express group but ah well lol #I thought I was gonna get rejected but nah maybe I shouldve invited QQ instead of bailu

[kitsunabi]

in my head, they are twins. you cant tell me otherwise

#honkai star rail #give me any game that has some kind of canon pair of characters you choose from and I will twinify them #idc it’s now canon to me

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all my damage dealing characters died in the second phase so i ended up fighting him with my sole survivor fu xuan and they had a preservation-off

sorry.. sorry.... i am the reason they nerfed aventurine boss fight

#honkai star rail #you could say that it was all….. Chip Damage #*leaves the room* #tw flashing #just in case

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#(​一問三不知)-ass post lol #lol

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If you look at my account and get upset that’s on you I’m just chillin

#tumblr #lol

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♥ Under the wisterias ♥

#art #cute!!! #rain

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im noticing that for a lot of americans “free palestine” has been an ideological motto and symbol rather than them actually believing in their heart that freedom is attainable and necessary

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#genshin impact #whisper in awe: wow