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a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints

#“nobody liked you in high school” #why would you say that??? thats so mean???? #and then years later #you realize that your fear that no one liked you in high school? #true actually #but not even for the reasons you think #looking back like “thanks guys” real smooth bullying the fucking autistic kid good job

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Hi yes sorry

THIS ^^^

Is incredibly fucking valid.

BUT

(And I'm very autistic and often get things wrong, so please forgive me if I'm misunderstanding this) I don't think the poster is trying to be exclusive of women and people of color.

This is long, but it's also Tumblr, and doing this helps me understand social dynamics better.

They did NOT say "no cis woman (period) has ever been turned away from healthcare."

They said no one has been turned away from healthcare due specifically to group-oriented language differentiating women vs people. Which seems fair, considering that individuals are turned away for a lot of reasons that don't have to do with being called people.

Am I wrong?

The point of using "people" is for exactly the purpose of inclusion that the original poster is trying to say. So let's please not shame the original poster, even though this is a very valid thing to bring up.

We absolutely need to include each other, but let's remember that language is a very silly thing, and sometimes people don't phrase things perfectly, all the time.

Because yes,, we need "women's healthcare" to get addressed. And queer healthcare. And BIPOC healthcare. And autistic healthcare, etc, etc.

If that was confusing I read, then understand that I wasn't diagnosed with any of my health shit for a very long time. I AM white. I recognize that And often, I come off as a cis woman, even though that's not entirely accurate. I'm also very autistic. I have ADHD. I also have major physical disabilities that weren't addressed until it was nearly too late. It's complicated. I have bucket loads of medical trauma. And many other kinds.

I have also lost friends who were so overwhelmed by me having medical issues, that it was "triggering for them." And to be told that my being disabled is fundamentally harmful to other people whose situations are different than mine hurt like fucking hell.

A person of color in my situation would have had an even tougher time. A person with different disabilities would have had a different, traumatic, experience. A transitioning trans person would have had yet again a different, and still traumatic, experience.

But my point is that my personal situation doesn't mean I'm gonna call out allistic people and say "well this vague post about inclusive language smacks of neurotypical because poor, neurodivergent, queer, physically disabled, chronically ill AFAB people have been turned away from healthcare. Like. That would be a ridiculous thing to say. It doesn't even make sense.

So when we are upset, let's reflect on those feelings, and remember who we really are frustrated with in the grand scheme of things. Because as complex members of marginalized groups, it should not be each other.

0 cis women have been harmed by gender neutral language around pregnancy

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I just discovered that I can add more stupid little badges to my blog. I'm thrilled.

#tumblr milestone #tumblr #tumblr badge #lol

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"it diminishes the role that women play in reproduction" man all the ladies and people who fought to have women not be exclusively thought of as baby makers would be appalled

0 cis women have been harmed by gender neutral language around pregnancy

#rosie the riveter would be livid #feminists went in a circle and the circle brought them back to anti-feminism

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i think "it takes a village" shouldn't be just "to raise a child". we should understand it takes a village to do literally everything we do. all day every day. without our communities we would not have drinking water or electricity or clean streets or food or shelter or anything. we cannot do any thing alone. we just can't. and with that comes the fact that you are not alone. you already have a community, seek to be an active part of it, you will feel better. reach out and thank them, they're happy to have you too. i promise. it takes a village to live.

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make a girl smile today.

give her a sword.

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I feel like a good shorthand for a lot of economics arguments is "if you want people to work minimum wage jobs in your city, you need to allow minimum wage apartments for them to live in."

"These jobs are just for teenagers on the weekends." Okay, so you'll use minimum wage services only on the weekends and after school. No McDonald's or Starbucks on your lunch break.

"They can get a roommate." For a one bedroom? A roommate for a one bedroom? Or a studio? Do you have a roommate to get a middle-wage apartment for your middle-wage job? No? Why should they?

"They can live farther from city center and just commute." Are there ways for them to commute that don't equate to that rent? Living in an outer borough might work in NYC, where public transport is a flat rate, but a city in Texas requires a car. Does the money saved in rent equal the money spent on the car loan, the insurance, the gas? Remember, if you want people to take the bus or a bike, the bus needs to be reliable and the bike lanes survivable.

If you want minimum wage workers to be around for you to rely on, then those minimum wage workers need a place to stay.

You either raise the minimum wage, or you drop the rent. There's only so long you can keep rents high and wages low before your workforce leaves for cheaper pastures.

"Nobody wants to work anymore" doesn't hold water if the reason nobody applies is because the commute is impossible at the wage you provide.

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one of the most infuriating things about becoming an adult is when you realize that it actually is 10x easier to solve problems by making a phone call vs literally any other communication method

#i die a little every single time i have to dial a phone #why cant i just text them #kids these days my ass #i do not want to be judged by a human person when i cant answer immediately on the spot

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i get so freaked out by like. pictures of really big rope

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#men baffle me

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Why is my autistic ass just Death from Terry Pratchett's Discworld novels

#disc world #grim reaper #terry pratchett #good omens #audhd #autism #lol #txt post #txt #books #novels #literature #quotes #terry prachett #terry pratchett day #disabled

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Terry Pratchett understood time blindness

#terry pratchett #discworld #audhd #adhd things #neurodivergent memes #neil gaiman #grim reaper #mort #adult adhd #shitpost #books #literature #time blindness

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While cleaning out my room I found a paper that my therapist gave me some time ago to deal with obsessive and intrusive thoughts. Sorry the paper is a little crinkled and stained, but I figured I’d post it in hopes that it will help someone like it helped me.

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If the right way is too hard, fuck it. Do it the wrong way.

Folding clothes keeps you from getting the laundry done? Stop folding clothes. Put a basket in your room and throw your unfolded clean stuff into it right out of the dryer, it's fine.

Rinsing dishes off keeps you from loading the dishwasher? Load them dirty and run it twice.

Chopping onions keeps you from making yourself dinner? Buy the freezer bags of chopped onions.

You forget to take your meds and don't want to get out of bed to get them? Start putting them next to the bed.

Can't keep up with the dishes? Get paper plates. Worried about environment impact? Order biodegradable ones online if your local store doesn't have one.

Make the task easier. Put things where you use them instead of where they "go." Eliminate the steps that keep you from finishing the task. Eliminate the task that is stressing you out.

Do it the "wrong" way. It's literally fine.

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When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

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