dreambaited

[dreambaited]

these past few days i've been seeing really weird rethorics that i think should be cleared up (note: this does not reflect my feelings towards the reality of caiti and george's situation, i'm strictly speaking about the debates that have arisen as a consequence of it)

- "the friends are responsible for it" wrong. in this case, the friends are shitty. they're neglective and they worked a girl into a panic over their preconceived mistrust towards the dteam. caiti is not "the baby of the group". she does not share a considerable age difference with the rest of her group. this was a group of equals partying together, where no one was expected to hold more responsability than the rest. thinking something is "weird" doesn't necessarily equal something feels "off". just because my friends think it's weird that i was hooking up with people significantly older than me doesn't mean the situation felt "off".

it's unfair to expect someone to esentially play babysitter - if it hasn't been previously discussed, and especially when all of you are drunk, and roughly the same age. take care of your friends, always, and keep general tabs on what they're doing, who they're with, and most importantly, where they're going. but to expect to keep such an scrutizing and detailed eye on an equal that has the right to have fun as much as you is unfair and unrealistic. when someone's reaction to something unpleasant is having "no reaction", it's not out of the world to miss it. if you find yourself in a situation where you're the friend, don't berate yourself for missing it. sometimes there's no way of catching it until something has happened, and it doesn't mean you have to live the rest of your days keeping your friend in a tight leash.

sometimes these things happen - every day we stay alive, we take risks. humanity struggles with understanding why some things happen "just because", and we are always ready to conjure a "cause" that will ease our fear of uncertainity. there's ways to minimalize those risks, yes, but life like that would esentially look like living in a bubble - and even then, there's just some things you will never be able to avoid.

- "it's not victim blaming, it's victim accountability" that's not a thing in this context. straight up. victim accountability definitely exists, just not in this case. using the term "victim accountability" in the context of avoiding one-off tragedies that have one active perpetrator (ex. a robbery, sexual assault) as opposed to a tragedy that is considered an accident (ex. a fire, a car crash; in both cases we can all agree there is no actual intent behind the situation) is tracherous and a veil term to soften the blow of calling it victim blaming.

we have to draw a bold line between "should not have left the stove on" to prevent a fire <- fire is not a sentient beinig that has the conscience of wanting to start a fire. fire is not at blame because it doesn't feel blame // "should not have drunk before driving" <- the road you drive on isn't sentient. it can't push you off the road intentionally. if you crash into another car, the person behind the wheel is definitely sentient, but definitely not at blame, since they did not want to crash into someone (in the situation where you did not crash into someone with the intent of crashing into someone else) and "should have known wearing a skirt that short would increase the chances of someone else doing something bad to you" <- your behavior should not be linked to someone else's misbehavior.

it is not your responsability to measure your behavior to appease to someone's misbehavior. whilst they're still steps you can take to minimize the risk of something happening, someone else's actions will never be your responsability, not even partly. you are not responsible for someon'e elses misconduct. those who have the capacity to misconduct (the intent, the lack of social conscience, etc.), will do it -if not to you, to someone else.

someone else's behavior will never be anyone else's responsability but their own. you may play a part in it, as everyone acts as a reaction to their context (in which everyone is included) but it will never be your responsability. and i need everyone, especially young kids, to understand that.

#so well said ro!! #you put words to something i didn’t know how to say

[dreambaited]

can i be real if i had just heard about georges comment about andi like on its own without all of this Context then i would have been just as disgusted and probably icked out enough to reach the same conclusion that i was done here

[dreambaited]

i’m glad that if nothing else we all agree that dnf are involved in some way whether sexual or romantic… oh what could’ve been if they over came their demons

#and in conclusion

[dreambaited]

dtblr, my best friend, my lover, my enemy, what a ride these last two and a half years have been. i think my time here is running out and has been for awhile. since i’ve been here for so long and i’m one of the few people remaining from 2021 dtblr, i feel the need to give a proper goodbye of sorts.

this community has given me such comfort and joy throughout the years. i loved all the of florida truthing and the stupid tinfoil hats i gave you guys. making gifs has genuinely helped me improve as a photographer with editing and my photoshop knowledge. all of the fanfiction and fanart in this community is unmatched and genuinely rewired my brain forever. i hope all of the writers and artists continue to create in whatever form that takes. i’m so thankful for all of the people i’ve met and friends i’ve made here thank you for showing me kindness. i’ve gone through some of the hardest times in my life while existing here and dtblr has helped me through that so much. i’ll never regret the time i spent here and hope none of you grow to either. i met my roommate and best friend bc i was a dream smp stan so i could never regret it. this community became so much more than the content we were given or the people we loved.

at the end of day i need to move on for myself and my mental health because i don’t think it’s healthy for me to continue being so invested in all of this. as for my opinion on the situation, i think george majorly fucked up. we can debate all this forever but ultimately he hurt caiti and proceeded to deflect without acknowledging the pain he caused. he is going have to come to terms with that fact and learn from his mistake. i think he as well as dream both have some misogynistic tendencies based on their statements that they need to realize and work on. do i think george is a monster who doesn’t deserve to live? no absolutely not. i just don’t think i can stick around to wait and see if/when that happens. i don’t blame anyone who chooses to stay either. i hope that he does take this as a wake up call and changes for the better.

as for this blog, it will remain intact and unchanged. i’m not gonna delete any of my gifs or posts they’ll remain as they are. i won’t entirely abandon this blog i’ll stop by and check in every once in a while but for the most part i will be existing on @masterbaited posting about satosugu jjk and normal blogging for the first time in a while loll. anyways sorry for rambling thank you guys for everything. aj dreambaited out :’)

#sorry if this is cringe i just felt like i needed to do it for me #a nice book end to everything #i’ve never really been an essay andy on here so this is my one pass okay #i’ll be around for a bit if you guys wanna chat though ! #aj rambles

[dreambaited]

mcyt version of this meeting could've been an email really is this public callout could've been a dm

[dreambaited]

the issue of semantics is possibly the most frustrating element of callout culture, especially when in a discussion about a genuinely serious topic where real people were actually traumatized. like you saw caiti say she was 18 and wasted when a 26 year old touched her in a way which made her feel violated and dirty, and decided to frame it as "a man pushing 30 sexually assaulted a teenage girl"? you have to be doing this on purpose right? like, you know you're making people imagine a 29 year old man molesting a 16 year old girl right? you have to know that's what you're doing. people who are disgusted by the way george made caiti feel are not in the wrong, i mean, i'm in that same group! but misrepresenting this situation as so much more shocking and upsetting than it already is, is just so beyond harmful i don't even know how to verbalize it. because you're exaggerating the circumstances, you're making people feel like they need to emphasize how the situation was "not that bad" in comparison to what you said! you're putting people in a place where they feel like they either need to justify your embellished headline framing, or just say everyone is being dramatic and nothing bad even happened at all! please be normal! please just talk about things, don't try to think of how to make them into attention-grabbing titles! this isn't clickbait! this is real life!!! words mean things!!! you are actively harming the people you claim to care about by misrepresenting their stories using such strong and incongruous language!!! please use your head!!!

[dreambaited]

hi aj! ik you're probably abandoning this blog and I would've asked on ur personal blog but uh you don't have anons on so I couldn't. I just wanted to pop in and say I'm a long time follower from early 2021 and I kinda left the Fandom in 2022 after all the Amanda allegations came out. I didn't really know what to think at the time and was just overall deeply upset to think that ccs I admired so much could abuse their power like that. so I just got off Tumblr and tried to go back to other things that brought me joy instead (phan). I kinda tentatively stepped back into the Fandom after dreams last video vindicated him. now after all this shit going down I am just sitting here thinking my God why did I think I could just casually care about these minecraft dudes when every fuckin week there's some new earth shattering drama (not to call caiti's feelings drama bc they're valid n all) but this shit w punz is so unserious lmao. anyways idk why I wrote this but uhh yeah! I hope ur doing well, I've always thought that you were amongst the rational peeps of dtblr and I wish you the best even if youre leaving the fandom cus uh i think i am too, this shit aint worth the mental distress lmao. 💚

oh nonnie you’re the sweetest yeah i’m gonna post something soon that’s longer and more thorough about my thoughts and feelings just because i feel like it’s warranted in this situation. thank you for following me for so long i definitely recognize you in my notifs i’m sure. this fandom has formed such a huge part of my identity and i’m really grateful for everyone i’ve shared this community with whether you were just a lurker or an active community member. i’m glad i could some ounce of rationality in the madness that has been this community. i wish you all the best and hope you find a new community to pour your heart into 💚💚💚

#also thanks for letting me know anons aren’t on for masterbaited ! #i will turn them on after this lol #asks #anon

[dreambaited]

I NEED TO KILL MY SELFFFFF i’m fine im fine it is a beautiful day to be alive on this beautiful earth it’s fine I NEED TO KILL MY SELF I NEED TO KILL MY SELF I i’m so fine being alive is so lovely AAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[dreambaited]

godspeed everyone i will not be watching love you guys

[dreambaited]

I'm just gonna say it because anyone still active is already in my dms. I hope George learns from his mistakes and takes accountability. I hope he finds a way to apologize directly to Caiti that she can accept and heal from. I hope that he stops drinking. I hope that he doesn't get completely cut off from every friendship he's made over the last decade because nowhere is good without anyone. I hope he works his ass off to regain the trust of the people who were once close to him. I hope everybody, including the fandom, heals and learns to trust people again, because the world is not inherently evil. I hope we all continue to create, and love, and be infinitely passionate about the things that mean the most to us. I hope that if you decide, whenever his public apology or explanation stream happens, that your time in the fandom is done, you all find something that fills you with just as much joy and inspiration as your time here did.

#love you guys <333

[dreambaited]

return of the king @masterbaited 🥳

#new home reminder :( #i’ll still check in on here occasionally though #also follow my priv twt freakazoidf4g

[dreambaited]

return of the king @masterbaited 🥳

#:) #idk what i’m doing with this blog yet but

[dreambaited]

We’d be mutuals in every lifetime

[dreambaited]

and at least on 9/11 karl jacobs got hit by a car

[dreambaited]

return of the king @masterbaited 🥳

#btw if you missed it #i’ll post about jjk and my life and whatever else i get into #i wanna keep in touch with as many of you as i can :(

[dreambaited]

I’ve not really been part of the fandom in a while but kept following you because I always enjoyed seeing you on my dash but I just wanted to say goodbye. this whole situation is a lot and I don’t really plan on keeping my tumblr active but I hope you’ll do great things in life and will find lots of happiness and joy in the years to come <3

oh nonnie :((((((( ty so much i’m glad my blog was able to bring you some joy . this community has gotten me through some really rough times in my life and i don’t regret a second of it. i hope i was able to bring you the same comfort as you all brought me. i wish you all the best <33

#i’m tipsy and sad :( #love you guys thanks for everything #asks #fav

[dreambaited]

for everyone who wants to know what’s going on here’s a laying out of all we know under the cut. tw for sexual assault. support victims.

TLDR: george allegedly sexually assaulted caitibugzz at a convention.

caiti went live today and detailed her experience with being sexually assaulted by a big creator at a convention. here is a transcript of some of the most important details, though i urge you to go watch the entire vod if you’re able:

there are image descriptions in the alt text of these images with full transcripts because it was too long to copy and paste all of it into a post. a lot of these details line up with what we know about dream at vidcon having other creators in his hotel room. additionally, a few weeks back, caiti’s friend rue made tweets about how dream enables bad people behind the scenes. all of this corroborates to point to george as the person who assaulted her. additionally, rue and another one of caiti’s close friends liked these tweets that seem to further confirm it’s george:

essentially, this implies that george sexually assaulted an 18 year old who was drunk with dream there as a witness. as of right now, he has not publicly addressed the situation. this information is obviously yours to do with what you will, but i figured i would share it so that people were not left in the dark. much love to all of you.

#tw sa