butchingdyke

[butchingdyke]

⚡⚡Death of the party⚡⚡

#sth #sth fanart #surge the tenrec

[butchingdyke]

driving lessons (just theorical) are already so scary how do you do it

#noah rambles

[butchingdyke]

for my fellow psychotics who struggle with thinking someone is in their house, a method I’ve found that really works are these guys:

i put them on my front door and anytime it opens they ring. that way if i think someone has broken in or i see someone who isn’t there i can think back to if the bells have rung, and if they haven’t i can assure myself it’s not real. obviously it’s not fool proof, like if you are prone to auditory hallucinations, but it has really helped me calm down in time to avoid major psychotic breaks. it’s a real lifesaver

nonpsychotics encouraged to rb

#important #mental health

[butchingdyke]

ah yes they call me “No Queue” Jones because I post everything I reblog at once with no breaks in between and then vanish into the night for extended periods of inactivity

#reblogs

[butchingdyke]

need to see. More studs, more brown butches, more asian butches- just more butches of colour. black and brown dykes built this community so why am i constantly seeing white?

#butch #stud #stud positivity #stud appreciation #butch positivity #butch appreciation

[butchingdyke]

i really need to sleep i dont know wtf im doing still awake

#noah rambles

[butchingdyke]

currently missing my ex-best friend (i dont know whats happening to me)

#life does hurt when youre in bed #at one in the morning #hugging your favorite plushie #and re-living memories #noah rambles

[butchingdyke]

Out of curiosity and also guilt over my own coffee intake. I wanna ask:

Now I'm not talking about when you're studying and so you drink 3x the usual amount or something like that. This isn't me asking what your record is. I'm talking about the most basic, average day, how many coffees you drink?

#zero #i drink coffee SO rarely

[butchingdyke]

okay theres too much noise here, i just wanted to read my little book about lesbian necromancers

#noah rambles #the locked tomb #reading #gideon nav #harrowhark nonagesimus #gideon the ninth #harrow the ninth

[butchingdyke]

Don’t mind me, just reading Sappho on my DSi

#this is my dream #lesbian #sappho

[butchingdyke]

there has come a time when i need to charge my e-reader. truly difficult times in this life.

#noah rambles #books #reading #ereader

[butchingdyke]

Forgive me Father, for I have sinned. (I accidentally clicked the wrong button on a Tumblr poll and incorrectly skewed the results.)

#tumblr polls

[butchingdyke]

a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore 

never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.

find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.

talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore

picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else

if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.

#important #mental health

[butchingdyke]

#this is actually hard to vote #because im learning about it #so i dont believe 100% #but i also dont despise it obviously #maybe i should just say i find it fun

[butchingdyke]

I think it’s really super important that we address the difference between treating someone “like a man” and supporting someone’s gender expression.

Femmes for a very very long have time have always supported butches, through gender expression and exploration.

And I might get shit for this, but quite honestly I’m really sick of seeing this hatred towards femmes for not treating mascs and butches like “women.” Gender expression has never been and will never be one size fits all.

Some mascs and butches will like being called handsome.

Some will prefer beautiful or gorgeous.

Some will prefer to be treated like they are physically strong, while others will not.

Some butches love flowers (my butch does, I love making bouquets for him!) some will prefer potted plants or handmade notes.

some butches are stone tops, and some are stone bottoms - some are neither.

Some butches prefer he, some prefer they, some are indifferent, some don’t resonate with any pronouns at all. Some prefer she.

There is no one correct way to support your partner’s gender expression and exploration - the only CORRECT thing you can do is to love, accept and support them in whatever way this is most comfortable. This is sometimes as easy as a conversation. Some starters for this conversation could be:

- I just want to check in, are these compliments ok?

- I want to support you in the best way for you! are there any particular names/compliments to stay away from?

- I love seeing you express yourself! You look so handsome/sexy/beautiful

- Is there anything that I can do that is really affirming for you? If they are unsure this is a great opportunity for exploring together!

- especially if you can be apart of gender affirming processes, for example: my butch and I shop for packers together, I refer to his strap as their cock, I buy them funky boxers and keep an eye out for boxer straps in different styles (we’re still exploring this area).

What is not okay is specifically going after femmes for enjoying chivalry and the dynamic that has been taught and passed down for generations. As a femme the only time we can truly express our feminine and softness is when we are with butches, when it is finally safe for us to do so. I understand that the lesbian identity changes and grows with time and media and different generations, however I think the erasure, disregard and hate for ways that femmes have always tried to support gender expression is something that needs to be fought back on.

I hate seeing people on TikTok and tumblr (of course everyone is entitled to their own opinions) making videos about femmes and their icks with femmes.

“I got the ick when she called me handsome.”

“I got the ick when she didn’t think I’d like flowers.”

A lot of this is a lack of communication - just tell your femme partner, or your partner of any sort what you like. If you are unsure and you need to explore. THIS NEEDS TO BE COMMUNICATED.

I often still cry to my butch about this, I anxiously ask if they feel like I’m treating them like a man. They always comfort me and remind me that I am a femme, I am their counterpart and I am not treating them like a man - I am treating them like a butch, they way they want to be treated in their masculinity.

In saying this, it needs to be addressed that masculine people, butches etc. have been expected to be strong, cold, predatory. I’m not at all trying to erase this - this is still very real and MUST be addressed as so many butches and masculine people suffer this.

As femmes, and butches I think it’s really important that we guide the younger people in the community to look up to others in the community when looking for images of masculinity and femininity, to see the ways we have always loved and supported each other in both romantic and platonic ways. Femme/butch relationships have always been symbiotic, we have always helped each other move through a world that too often disregards us. Please - defend femmes, defend butches. We have to strengthen our community and preserve what is left.

#lesbian #butch #femme #butchfemme #butch/femme #butch4femme #femme4butch

[butchingdyke]

I think all computers should have cd slots and all phones should have headphone ports send tumble

#reblogs

[butchingdyke]

You guys really liked my last poll so

#studio ghibli movie #bc ghibli movies r very cool