blue-autistic

[blue-autistic]

Quick rule of thumb: You cannot separate the "good disabled" people who are disabled in ways or for reasons that are outside their control and the "bad disabled" people who are disabled because of their actions. If your shallow sympathy requires disabled people to delve into their personal lives surrounding disability, you aren't accepting to disabilities, nor would you be particularly accommodating.

#disability #disability advocacy #ableism #ableism tw #'im an ally to disabled people (so long as i can be the Supreme Overseer of Who Is Disabled In Good Ways)'

[blue-autistic]

I'm autistic in a way that affects peoples' first impressions of me, but something I've learned is that often, first impressions aren't the most important thing ever.

So often, I felt really pressured to maintain a certain affect because "first impressions matter the most in interaction," and while first impressions can be meaningful, they aren't indicative of the entirety of a person, therefore, it isn't nearly as all-important as some make it out to be.

This doesn't mean that you can't try to be the best version of yourself. This means that even if you flub up a first impression, you can still be a respectable, kind person, regardless of how you came across. It's a dumb social thing that people cling to first impressions, I suppose, but it doesn't have to be so daunting, because I think that can make the anxiety of meeting new people worse.

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #honestly there are places where first impressions matter (e.g. job interviews) but still #like it shouldn't work that way i think but it does and we fuckin ball anyway

[blue-autistic]

To all the autistics who hate april fools, have a sea bunny!

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #no fools no tricks just a sea bunny :3

[blue-autistic]

There are many aspects of autism that are a positive for me, but if I could get rid of one of my symptoms, it would be the sense of doom and anxiety I feel when Too Many Things are happening outside of my routine/control/knowledge. It is genuinely so distressing and miserable 😭

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #i had something very nice happen to me and yet i am sat here buzzing with anxiety because it is Too Much #too many things happened that were unpredictable and i feel so bad for feeling anxious #like it was a nice thing!!! so i feel like a dick for feeling so anxious and upset #i definitely don't think it's a meltdown but it does Feel like it. to me

[blue-autistic]

If you're worried that the accommodations you ask for are "too much": they aren't, I promise.

#disability #disability advocacy #disability affirmations

[blue-autistic]

Going to remind people that mental disorders and illnesses are very frequently life-long. Most of us will not be cured, and it's not for lack of trying. These conditions are serious and affect so much more than our emotions - the least people who don't have these experiences can do is support us. We can learn how to cope, but for many, many conditions there isn't a cure.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #i'm tired of people being like 'why are you enabling yourself when you can find a cure' #like i will never find a cure for my conditions because they are life-long and persistent #and me recognizing my own reality is not being 'stubborn' or 'lazy' #like... i think us disordered people know more about our realoties than anybody else in the world

[blue-autistic]

My dad's been telling me about my autistic sibling and I'm really hopeful for their future 😭

Because when I was their age, I was the kid who had no friends, who literally only got yellow carded (or red carded) in class, who didn't really "get" anything beyond reading and english lessons or music, and I was held back specifically for social developmental delays and nobody thought to test me for anything. I felt like I was swimming against the current

But my sibling? They're stimming openly, they're getting help for meltdowns and overloads, they've got help, and I really am hopeful. I hope they're nothing but happy.

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #am i sad that i never got that help? maybe. but that's just part of my history now #i'm still trying to get past it but. at least my sibling is not in that boat #also the green/yellow/red card system for classes is the DEVIL

[blue-autistic]

Love to people who are "unhygienic" because of disability.

Love to people who cannot brush their teeth regularly, at all, or without help.

Love to people who cannot eat "healthy".

Love to people who cannot wash or brush or maintain their hair.

Love to people who cannot wash their bodies or clothes.

I know it can feel shameful to be unable to do these things, but please know you are not bad at all for being unable to do these things. You are so worthy no matter if you can or cannot do these things. You are loved

#disability #disability advocacy #i've probably made this before but it still needs to be said<3 #i was so incensed by this truly rancid post i saw shaming somebody for being 'unhygienic' #y'all know what disability *does* right? it's DISABLING. including in ways you might think are 'gross' #and we KNOW what people think of us when we are unable to take 'proper care' of ourselves. no need to rub it in further. #impersonal you used

[blue-autistic]

I think the thing we need to remember is that both physical disabilities and mental disabilities aren't taken seriously, nor are they generally respected.

"Physically disabled people are taken more seriously!" and, "mental disabilities are taken more seriously!" are both incorrect assumptions. Both groups are disabled, have different needs, and are treated differently. But both groups are not respected for their disabilities.

We can criticize ableism against physical and mental disabilities without becoming ableist and saying one group magically "has it better". We have it different, but it is in the way a person drowning in a seven-foot pool and a person drowning in a twenty-foot pool will both be dead.

#disability #disability advocacy #ableism #ableism tw

[blue-autistic]

I wish my autistic memory served me in ways that was more conducive. Instead of remembering where I put my keys five minutes after I put them down, I still know the lyrics near-perfectly in a song of a language I don't speak after three months straight of never listening to it

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #LA CIUDAD SE LLAMA DUKE #okay tbf that style of music is my FAVOURITE

[blue-autistic]

sometimes i think im not really autistic and then i remember that time in elementary school when my teacher told us something like Dont Have Too Much Fun :) before sending us out 4 recess and i spent the entire recess sitting somewhere and moping because i thought i genuinely was not allowed 2 have fun

#autism #this is the funniest and saddest and cutest thing i have read #😭😭😭😭

[blue-autistic]

Acquiring a noisy stim is all fun in games until you really really want to do it in public and you can't because it's NOISY

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #it's snapping btw #i am a literal adult who just last night looked up a YOUTUBE TUTORIAL about how to snap

[blue-autistic]

Autism compensation is when I apologize profusely for accidentally infodumping for an hour and a half

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #ableism #ableism tw #i've tried looking into this before but??? there's been NO reliable evidence that i have found on this LMAO #how would you even prove that you're entitled to this compensation #what would that look like? #this is just a scam methinks lmaoo #instagram has been giving me these ads for months now. which is why i don't use instagram much at all anymore

[blue-autistic]

GIVE IT UP FOR YEAR TWO

Yes, In a Week was the top song again

Shout-out to my autism for fucking with my 2021 Spotify Wrap 😼

I listened to this song for thirty-one hours in the span of about six or eight days of my own volition.

#self reblog #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #second year of being top 0.1% of hozier listeners 💀

[blue-autistic]

People with limb, facial, and other physical differences are not "body horror", they have bodies that the live in. There is nothing "horrifying" about these bodily differences. They are, at the end if the day, simply differences, and that's a great thing

#disability #disability advocacy #ableism #ableism tw #bodily differences #i love you people with facial or limb or any other bodily difference #i think the world of y'all and i hope all your dreams come true

[blue-autistic]

You ever start developing a hyperfixation or new special interest and it's like "gd DAMN it I guess this is what my brain is defaulting to (derogatory)"

#neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #actually autistic #my with skyrim rn #HATRED AND SCORN AND MALICE

[blue-autistic]

Shoutout to people whose english isn't "proper" due to disability. Your use of language is perfectly fine and valid, and you deserve to use the language no matter how you use it🖤🖤🖤

#disability #disability advocacy #i love you people who don't use 'proper' english