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2023 TOP NINE (IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER)

Fave - Best - Grower

Something to Give Each Other - Troye Sivan

Can't Go Back, Baby - One of Your Girls - In My Room

The Land is Inhospitable and So Are We - Mitski

I Don't Like My Mind - My Love All Mine - Star

I’m Green - Mali Velasquez

Medicine - Bobby - Decider

The Record - Boygenius

Not Strong Enough - Letter to An Old Poet - Satanist

Black Rainbows - Corrine Bailey Rae

Put It Down - A Spell, A Prayer - Red Horse

My 21st Century Blues - Raye

Environmental Anxiety - Ice Cream Man - Hard Out Here

The Rise and Fall of a Midwestern Princess - Chappell Roan

Hot To Go - Red Wine Supernova - My Kink is Karma

All Who Can’t Hear Must Feel - Jaboukie

cranberry sauce - BBC - feel the same

Crazymad, For Me - CMAT

Can't Make Up My Mind - Stay For Something - Where Are Your Kids Tonight?

#music #op

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“The “generation gap” is an important social tool for any repressive society. If the younger members of a community view the older members as contemptible or suspect or excess, they will never be able to join hands and examine the living memories of the community, nor ask the all important question, “Why?” This gives rise to a historical amnesia that keeps us working to invent the wheel every time we have to go to the store for bread.

We find ourselves having to repeat and relearn the same old lessons over and over that our mothers did because we do not pass on what we have learned, or because we are unable to listen. For instance, how many times has this all been said before? For another, who would have believed that once again our daughters are allowing their bodies to be hampered and purgatorial by girdles and high heels and hobble skirts?”

— Audre Lorde, “Age, Race, Class, and Sex,” in Sister Outsider (bolding mine)

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To illustrate The Couple, for Uniqlo, I created this loop where they both seem happy, actually interact in a playful way, but never look at each other, to stress our culture where we look at our screens more than at each others.

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[shaking myself by the shoulders] i will get better. i will continue. i have no goddamn choice

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- What about your fans? Aren’t they likely to get the wrong impression? - And which wrong impression is that? - Well, that you’re a blinking fruit!

#velvet goldmine #Todd Haynes #film #queer #this scene omfg

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festen (1998) // succession, “the summer palace”

#finally watched fasten last night and omfg.... #the blueprint #now onto my next dogme 95 Italian for beginners #film #festen #succ

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It matters because I gave it meaning bitch

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hi all. going to make a more coherent post. so my fiancé got fired last week at our job and it’s really thrown us a curve ball and fucked up our plans for moving rn. but next month alll my bills hit in the middle of the month and i can barely afford that, let alone my fiancés half. if i could get 152.50 for his half of the bills (electric billl, water bill, & internet) that would be amazing and a huge help and relief for both of us. it says to help who you’re visualizing and this is us. any and all help is greatly appreciated and welcomed. rb’s help a ton ! thank you all so much for your support at this difficult time.

P: paypal.me/valerielay

V: @Valerie-Lay

C: $geminimoonz

0/152.50

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The Renaissance World Tour: Show 33 - Gillette Stadium - Foxborough, Massachusetts (8/1/23).

#beyonce #33 is nice

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Margit Carstensen

The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant | Rainer Werner Fassbinder | 1972

#no wonder miuccia was inspired by these colors #rainer werner fassbinder #the bitter tears of petra von kant #film #favorites

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I'm on some kind of gayass journey

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uh so i never do this but maui is quite literally on fire and there isn't nearly enough care or consideration for. you know. Native Hawaiians who live here being displaced and the land (and cultural relevance) that's being eaten up by the fire. so if ya'll wanna help, here's some links:

maui food bank: https://mauifoodbank.org/

maui humane society: https://www.mauihumanesociety.org/

center for native hawaiian advancement: https://www.memberplanet.com/campaign/cnhamembers/kakoomaui

hawai'i red cross: https://www.redcross.org/local/hawaii/ways-to-donate.html

please reblog and spread the word if you can't donate.

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#GFSTAN #HAYLOR2.0 #TAYRRY #TRUELOVE

#reclaiming the narrative #there's only one haylor #hs #taylor

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Peter L. Thorslev, “Incest as Romantic Symbol”

#succ #prev #incest tw

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Eric LaRocca, Things Have Gotten Worse Since We Last Spoke

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hm i really hope that someone has said this better than me but the betterhelp ads (specifically the video ones, as the podcast ones tend to be less scripted) are such poignant examples of alienation + the role of 'go to therapy' in perpetuating that alienation. keep in mind that, if you personally found a therapist who is genuinely healing for you + that therapist happens to be through betterhelp- i'm genuinely happy for you + that experience does not invalidate anything i have to say below! (but jsyk they're trying to sell your shit to facebook lol)

starting strong w/ the fact that betterhelp is essentially the uber of therapy (aka using an independent contractor model which is harmful + predatory towards its providers), rushing in to fill the market on largely uninsured and/or uninformed ppl who want the ease of a concierge system without the cost + lacks a meaningful supervision system (which led to one gay man being recommended a conversion therapist when he asked for someone to help with his identity struggles, btw!). smarter people than me have written about the ways in which these trendy independent contractor apps strip people of labor rights, fail to provide adequate wages, + in the case of healthcare apps, increase digital surveillance + decrease accountability demanded from providers while exploiting the failure of the US healthcare system in order to churn a profit w/o actually creating sustainable, equitable change.

the betterhelp video ads all circle around a theme- a millennial starts talking about some form of emotional pain or worry, usually relatively standard existential worries ("do you ever think nothing has meaning?") or life worries ("i hate my job" "i think i'm gay"). their friends or the ppl around them respond blankly + coldly, looking at them like they're crazy. while i understand these ads are supposed to be tongue in cheek, they demonstrate the crushing reality of our alienation from one another- the solution to your friends responding to your evident pain with confusion + apathy is to confine that pain to a therapy session! nobody wants to hear your struggles or understands them- come generate profits for us by facetiming a newly graduated 24 year old who can barely make rent!

this theme fits well with what already put me off about betterhelp's marketing- their goal has never been to provide access to therapy for those who want it or to altruistically fill in some healthcare gap. their goal, bolstered by the rise in emotional suffering following, you know, the worldwide pandemic, is to generate + increase demand for therapy as a commodity. their earlier podcast ads focused on convincing others that therapy "isn't just for crazy ppl" + "everyone should be in therapy". regardless of if you personally agree with that statement, it should be evident that this is a blatant marketing tactic in which therapy is a commodity to be peddled, not an offer of support or healing. in fact, they're probably actively shying away from treating "crazy people", bcuz their flimsy support systems could not possibly handle an influx of ppl regularly in crisis or experiencing breaks with a common reality. their target audience is your average millennial under late capitalism + post COVID - anxious, lonely, vaguely depressed, unhappy with their jobs, worried + hopeless about their futures.

i'm not here to tell anyone not to get therapy. that's a personal decision + is none of my fucking business. it's about questioning the total alienation we feel from one another, such that pouring our heart our unexpectedly to a friend + being met with a blank stare is framed as "haha you need therapy" + not "it's crushing that this is how distant we are from one another". it's about a company noticing that (unfortunately very real) distance + fear of vulnerability + using that to direct our emotions into the confines of a business transaction under abusive labor conditions. it's about a world in which we are not engaging with one another emotionally (despite, or i guess bcuz of: widespread suffering, recent mass death, class warfare/untenable working conditions, increased pressure of fascist politics, generational trauma + abuse, etc etc). commodifying therapy isn't going to make that loneliness go away- it's going to normalize it.

#therapy