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This ASAW, I'd like to make a quick post talking about queerplatonic relationships and why the term is used, as many people mistakenly believe it's a useless synonym for friends.

To start, the "queer" in "queerplatonic" is not the same as queer as in LGBT+. Queer here is referring to strangeness; to how these kinds of relationships are outside the norm. And that's the point, really – queerplatonic relationships are relationships that do not fit into the expectations for platonic and romantic relationships, thus "queering the platonic." You don't have to be queer as in LGBT+ to use the term "queerplatonic," because the term does not inherently have anything to do with whether a person using it is LGBT+.

The term is, however, inherently connected to the aro community, because it originated from there. Those who do not experience romantic attraction and thus are less likely to enter romantic relationships decided they needed a term to describe their relationships that are different from typical romantic ones but are also different from typical friendships. Over time, it also spread to ace spaces, and today is used regardless of sexual or romantic orientation.

Going back for a minute to explain this concept better – what do I mean when I say "queering the platonic" or "not fitting into the expectations for platonic and romantic relationships?" Well...

Doing traditionally romantic things (such as cuddling, kissing, or going on dates) with someone you have a platonic bond with.

Living together/sharing taxes, getting married/raising children/etc with other typical adult things with someone you have a platonic bond with.

Having multiple consensual relationships.

And more examples that I can't think of as of right now.

Oftentimes, mentions of these sorts of things in queerplatonic relationships is met with "But friends can do all those things!" and, sure, but the question is not ability. It's normality.

Is it normal to see two friends getting married platonically? If I went to a school and took a survey, could I expect at least a few students to say their parents are not and have never been romantically involved? Can I walk over to the romance section of my local bookstore and see a good selection of polyamorous representation and have that be the usual sight on a trip to that store?

No, no, and no.

These things are not normalized. That is why we have queerplatonic, because to have strong bonds that are not strictly romantic and monogamous yet involve activities that are commonly considered to occur in romantic relationships are not normalized, or even considered acceptable by some people.

Yeah, sure, queerplatonic partners can be friends. They can have a strictly platonic bond. They don't have to use this term to describe their relationship.

But I'm not seeing any stories at my local bookstore about someone deciding to move across the ocean and live with someone they do not want to be romantically involved with while also being in a romantic polyamorous relationship with several other people, now am I?

That's why we use queerplatonic.

Tl;dr: Queerplatonic relationships are not about whether the people in them are LGBT+ or if the relationship is both non-romantic and non-platonic; they're about if a relationship goes against amatonormativity and relationship norms.

This has been a PSA. Go support queerplatonic relationships.

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this is the energy i want in 2023

"oh sorry, i guess i was infodumping again" - sad, shy, apologetic

"you sly dog, you got me monologuing" - cool, strong, confident

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I love this trope so fucking much never gets old

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Communication is the most powerful tool on the planet.

“Distance doesn’t separate people. Silence does.”

— Jeff Hood

#fight me

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oh my

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by stefano.pezzetta

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it's so beautiful

Reposting this bc I decided I don’t hate it anymore 🫠

#aftg

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love the intensity of this

The Shower Scene™️ 🥰

#aftg

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scarily my life at times.....like i'll talk about my mum dying & mention something....and people will be like oh that's awful....I'm like is it?

Neil: Sometimes, I don’t realize an event was traumatic until I tell it as a funny story and notice everyone is staring at me weird.

#childhood trauma #tw death

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E&D: Season 2 Episode 3 - Verivery, Yena, Nu'Est W, and B.A.P

Join us for another dive into the world of kpop. It's episode 3 time already!! I cannie believe it....this episode was a fun one, and full of fangirling, so we hope you enjoy it. We introduce a new fave bg of ours, Verivery - whose reactions always makes stuff enjoyable to watch. There's a solo comeback from Yena to dive into, which is a light break from some of the more angsty stuff we tend to listen to.

In the break, we recount the story of when D took E to the wrong temple, and only told her once they'd arrived.....dang it D!!!

From the archives, we explore a bit of the unique history of the group Nu'est and its popular sub-group Nu'est W. Then finishing out the episode is the dramatic and fantastical B.A.P, a group that shouldn't be missed due its epic and outstanding music videos, but we won't give any more spoilers than that.

00:48 - Introductions 05:11 - Verivery Series ‘O’ [Round O: WHO] 08:30 - VERIVERY - 'O' Official M/V 16:45 - Our Spring (잠깐, 봄 (Our Spring)) 20:31 - Yena 'Smiley' Album 23:19 - Yena - 'Before Anyone Else' Audio Track 23:12 - YENA (최예나) - SMILEY (Feat. BIBI) MV 31:24 - Topical Themed Discussion: Our Trip to Busan 23:30 - Gamcheon Culture Village 24:08 - Bungeoppang 34:29 - Haedong Yonggungsa Temple 35:30 - Beomeosa 38:42 - Nu'est W 'Who, You' Album 43:53 - NU'EST W(뉴이스트 W) - Dejavu M/V 49:50 - NU'EST W(뉴이스트 W) - ylenoL MV 54:34 - B.A.P 'Rose' Album 59:59 - B.A.P - 'DYSTOPIA' Audio Track 1:04:24 - B.A.P - 'WAKE ME UP' MV N.B: Please note all views are expressly our own. All music is sourced from Epidemic Sound.

Thank you for checking out the Eonni & Dongsaeng Podcast. If you have any thoughts about season one of E&D, please drop an ask into our inbox.

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my favourite part of existing...is not existing at all....figures huh

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🙂🙃

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by Ana Victoria

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new ep of my podcast is live!

E&D: Season 2 Episode 2 - Pentagon, IVE, Super Junior, and EXO

Episode two is here and we're excited to share some really good music with you all. A few joint favourites to share, as well as some more individual tastes.

In the news music section, D brings Pentagon to the podcast. A group we've both followed and admired, and happy to finally be able to discuss properly. A really new addition follows, with new rookie girl group IVE, who may have some familiar faces for k-pop fans to see.

In the mid-section, we talk about Chuseok, more fondly known as Korean Thanksigving.

Finally, a super senio group comes to place! We introduce long-standing k-pops veterans Super Junior, and discuss their fun style of music. To finish, we have another k-pop group of royalty, EXO. We hope you enjoy them as much as we do!

Thank you for being with us on this journey, below are the timings for the episode, plus all those extra links we’re always mentioning. We’d love to hear your thoughts - our ask box is always open!

00:48 - Hello's! 03:13 - Pentagon 'IN:VITE U' Album 03:31 - Eonni & Donsaeng Podcast S1 Ep 10 - The Singles Episode 04:44 - Eonni & Donsaeng Podcast S1 Ep 9 - Dawn Discussed 08:33 - Pentagon 'Shine' MV 11:25 - 펜타곤(PENTAGON) - '한탕 (One Shot)' (Official Audio) 19:11 - 펜타곤(PENTAGON) - 'The Game' (Official Audio) 24:30 - IVE ' 1st single' Album 27:30 - IVE(아이브) - ELEVEN MV 35:18 - Antoni Gaudí Architect 37:26 - IVE 'Take It' Audio 38:02 - IVE-😺Take It 😺] 2021 12 01 IVE DEBUT SHOWCASE 42:30 - Topical Themed Discussion: Chuseok 45:33 - Stray Kids Chuseok Skit 46:03 - Ateez Chuseok Singing 46:19 - [T:TIME] TXT Making Songpyeon - TXT (투모로우바이투게더) 46:36 - NCT JAEMIN - '분홍 토끼의 추석' (Korean Fairy Tale) 47:00 - Super Junior 'Mamacita' Album 53:20 - SUPER JUNIOR 슈퍼주니어 'MAMACITA (아야야)' MV 01:02:10 - Super Junior islands Performance Video 01:05:10 - EXO Exodus the 2nd album 01:10:33 - EXO 엑소 'CALL ME BABY' MV 01:19:08 - EXO El Dorado Audio (Eonni's Fave Song) 01:25:31 - EXO - "El Dorado" In Japan

N.B: Please note all views are expressly our own. All music is sourced from Epidemic Sound.

Thank you for checking out the Eonni & Dongsaeng Podcast. If you have any thoughts about season one of E&D, please drop an ask into our inbox.

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doES ANYONE ELSE REALIZE THAT WE’RE LIKE, THE FIRST GENERATION ON TUMBLR

GIVE IT 10-15 YEARS AND WE’LL ALL BE GROWN UP AND AN ENTIRE NEW SET OF KIDS WILL BE ON HERE BLOGGING ABOUT COMPLETELY DIFFERENT SHOWS AND BANDS AND MOVIES AND BOOKS

THE ONLY THING THEY’LL STILL BE BLOGGING ABOUT THE SAME AS WE WERE IS DOCTOR WHO

HOPEFULLY