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Education is a big thing that affects millions of families-Woodmam

　　Every family wants their children to be successful. Being successful in school today and being able to succeed tomorrow when they go out into the community is a big deal in a family. 　　Thousands of parents, or intergenerational elders, grandparents, grandma and grandpa, several generations of parents should be healthier, happier, more successful in life, and better adapted to this society. This is also a big thing for thousands of families. 　　The third big thing is that we, more than one billion people in China, are still a developing country. Our country should also be more developed, healthier, and more successful in the forest of the world's nations. This is also a big thing for us. 　　These three things are interrelated. Please think about this: if a child in a family is in a bad state, the parents worry about the child and his future, and the family is in a bad state. If millions of families are in this state, our whole nation will be affected. If the children learn better and have better psychological quality; if the parents are happier and healthier; then it will have a good impact on the nation. So, these three things are in a sense one thing. 　　Many parents have brought their children today, and I hope that parents will be able to make a relatively big leap in homeschooling today, and that you will be able to solve many of the problems that you have in homeschooling today. All I ask is that parents get into a state of confidence and determination. You have the determination and confidence, or you may suddenly find a new feeling one day. There is an old saying that, if understood correctly, can find a new interpretation in all walks of life: "Become a Buddha on the ground" - become wise all of a sudden. 　　The little girl who cries 　　A week ago, during a tutoring session, a parent said, "My child is in kindergarten and cries a lot, making it impossible for the kindergarten class to proceed. She asked me how to solve this problem. I let my child come to the front, a little girl. 　　I asked her: Why are you crying? 　　The little girl, though very small, knew how to be embarrassed and stood with her head cocked at the time and said, "Auntie said me." 　　I asked: why did the aunt say you? 　　The child did not answer directly, and the parents answered for her from the sidelines, saying that she was particularly naughty and could make the whole kindergarten activity so naughty that it could not be carried out. 　　I then asked her again: Why are you naughty? 　　The parent said something else: My child doesn't cry when she falls, doesn't cry when her feet are broken, but when she writes or draws on her own, she tears up the paper and cries when she thinks she's not writing or drawing well. 　　I said: What a good child! You child actually has a very good quality, she is not a weak child. The average child will cry when she falls, but not when she writes badly. But your child is a bad writer to cry, fell but not cry. This means that this child is very strong. 　　So I asked this little girl: You are very strong and would like your aunt to praise you, so when your aunt once criticized you instead of praising you, you were very sad and you cried very much, isn't that so? 　　She said: That's right. 　　I said to the girl: Let's discuss, how about this: from today onwards, you are lively and smart in the class, you do not lead the naughty, take the lead to do something good, okay? Help Auntie teacher clean up a little hygiene, decorate the classroom, help other children to solve a problem, Auntie will not praise you? Wouldn't you be happy? Do you agree with this practice? 　　She said: Yes. 　　Then I said to that parent: Your child has every possibility to become a very remarkable child, but you have to be good at guiding her. 　　With such a child, be good at understanding her personality, she is very self-respecting and very aggressive, and never simply reprimand her, "Why are you being naughty?" You have to discuss it with her.

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Are children really indifferent to exams?-Woodmam

　　Parents look at the problem, probably not wrong. On the surface, this child does not look like he is studying too hard, and when he is about to take an exam, he is urged to study for it. But he can't find a way, and he has self-esteem, so when parents scold him, he may break down - I don't care if the test is good or bad! In fact, the child may care a lot and want to change his study situation, but he can't find a good way, and is faced with parents' constant urging, complaining, nagging and scolding, the child's self-esteem will develop in another direction: I don't care, I don't care. 　　Please think about it, parents, adults sometimes have this mentality too! You do something and if someone accuses you of going too far, too much, you may rebel in your mind: I don't want to listen to you, I'm like that. 　　So I said to this parent, "Actually, your child expressed that he or she cares a lot about his or her academic performance and exams, which means that the child is motivated to move up." 　　This is the same child that also said, "Adults should be more optimistic." That's a great quote wow! A parent is always frowning and scolding the child, counting the child, is the child still motivated to learn? 　　This child also said something like, "Your child has your child's strengths, you can't keep comparing your child to other children." 　　Again, this is a profound statement. In a world where it's important to move someone forward by both admiring them and complimenting them, and at the same time providing some people who are better than them as role models, there are some laws to follow here. If your child is good at sports, but you scold him: Why are you running so slow, not as fast as Louis! Do you think the child will be convinced when he hears that? He will not be convinced! Your rebuke is inappropriate. It is entirely possible that your statement will produce negative elements in the child's mind instead. 　　If a parent treats a child inappropriately, for example, by saying, "How come you are not as good at foreign language as the child who is number one in your class in foreign language? How come you are not as good at math as the top math student in your school? How come you're not as good at physical education as the top gymnast in your school?" This comparison of "you can't even compare to the first one" is not desirable, it is impossible that your child is useless. 　　It is necessary to study the parents' own psychology and the child's current foundation. Always know that your child has made an effort today, and recognize that effort today. Even if this effort does not produce results, the practice of this effort should be affirmed first. If today's effort has produced progress, this progress should be recognized. Our parents sometimes don't understand that they only want their children to produce top-notch grades, but when they use this goal to ask their children, they don't provide them with the psychological support to achieve top-notch grades or give them the proper guidance in their study methods. 　　Parents, you all have your own jobs now, and if you are surrounded by people who unfairly and inappropriately count and complain about your work, as if they want you to do better, you may not have the motivation or desire to do it at all. Be sure to find the right way to treat your children. I have spoken more than once about the need for parents to be able to truly understand their children, to be able to treat them appropriately, to understand a young being, his mental and physical state, and to have a positive impact on them with all that you say and do in your treatment of them. 　　There are many successful people in this world whose parents are not necessarily great educators, not necessarily great scientists, not necessarily highly and highly educated, but their children succeeded. Many of the world's successful and historically called great people, when they write about their upbringing, often write specifically about the influence of their mothers or fathers on them. We find that those mothers and fathers didn't actually teach him how to learn math, how to learn languages, how to learn foreign languages from an early age. What did he give the child, that's what we're looking at. 　　What we want is to really make the child smart and healthy, and well-rounded, while understanding the parents and understanding the society. Finding the right laws does not require parents to take on the task of homeschooling more tediously from now on, to work harder, to worry more, to adopt an underwriting approach and to rush and count. Not! It just makes it easier and more enjoyable for parents, and at the same time, your homeschooling truly puts your child on the path to success. 　　If this approach allows you to enjoy the fruits of this education for life, and your child is henceforth free from your worries, able to improve in learning and daring to cope with all kinds of challenges, what a good thing it is! The starting point of this good thing is just to ask parents to have a sincere heart and confidence. I believe that all the parents who come here to communicate can achieve this result.

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Hope the child is more lively-Woodmam

　　Author: I hope all parents and children will show encouragement and support to him, okay? (Everyone applaud hard.) This is how this problem should be solved. Because of the lack of concentration in class and thinking about soccer, it will be difficult to do homework. 　　Parent: The ones he can do, he also plays while doing them. 　　Author: Do I think this problem can be solved? 　　Parent: Yes. 　　Author: Okay, I want the parents to check their understanding and knowledge of their child. Also I would like to get this child's acknowledgement of the parent's efforts. Okay, that's it. (After a round of applause) Good! Your child is pretty good! Appreciate this hobby of his, it's a particularly cute hobby for a boy. 　　Parent: He's timid. 　　Writer: He's not timid at all. (Everyone laughs) That's good, and the speech is very clear. 　　Parent: Thank you! 　　Author: He really has the quality of a soccer player. Look at the eyes, (laughter) like an athlete. I hope that we can all find the basic ideas to implement the right education for our children from one case to another, to be able to enter the child's mind. 　　Only by studying the child can you be a good parent. Be sure to understand your child. If your child is in the sixth grade and you don't know what your child's inattention is in class, it is a parental failure. Is that right? Well, today you understand your child at once because he likes soccer and is thinking about soccer, which is a very cute idea. However, this cute idea had a strong backlash in the past because he didn't appreciate it too much and suppressed it. You know what I mean? So parents need to understand. 　　I saw a parent today whose child is a middle school student and used to go to class early and come home late, but his academic performance was not good. After participating in our counseling activities, the parents communicated with the child, and the child told the parents that every morning after he went to class, he talked to a girl and had a tendency to fall in love early! And he told his mother very frankly, "Don't oppose me talking, she may be your daughter-in-law in the future! (Laughter) Very good boy! A very frank child! 　　Nowadays, if parents are a little bit smart, their children can move forward. I think there is no such thing as a bad parent. 　　I just said that the kid talked to the girl, and they didn't talk badly, it was good, right? The main thing is that the timing is not good. I know that you have made progress in your studies and I am especially happy! When your mother came for the second time, she said she was on a business trip after listening to the first lecture, and came home a week later to see that her child's study and homework had improved compared to the past. Why did she improve without the parents? The child's own determination.

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How to bridge the generation gap with children-Woodmam

　　Author: Both sides have such a desire, so why can't we bridge the generation gap? The main reason is that both sides have their own perspective on things, right? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: Both have their own perspective, and both may not understand the perspective of others. I am of the same generation as your parents, and I do the work of parents first. I think the main problem should come from our parents. There is an old Chinese saying, "What you don't want, don't do to others. That is, you do not want to do things yourself, unhappy things, do not impose on others. For example, if you don't want others to restrict you, don't restrict them too much; if you don't want others to not understand you, don't not understand them; if you don't want to listen to others' nagging, don't nag them either. The same goes for your children. If you don't want to do something yourself, don't force it on them in the first place. If you don't like to listen to nagging, don't nag your child; if you don't like to listen to counting, don't count your child; if you don't like to listen to reprimand, don't reprimand your child; if you would like to see a smiling face, then you should treat your child with a smiling face. 　　Specifically to your skit, the difference in opinion, in fact, the problems between your parents and you, involving differences in all aspects of life, learning, life, and society, is this right? It is entirely possible to have a difference in opinion about a work of literature, a television, a life phenomenon, a costume, a music, is that right? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: My opinion is that parents should not ask their children to think the same way as they do, and children do not necessarily ask their parents to think the same way as they do. For example, what clothes you want to wear and what he wants to wear, what music you want to listen to and what music he wants to listen to, do not force each other, but each other to understand the reasonableness of each other's thinking, you say? 　　Child: Right. 　　Author: I have a little hope for parents, sometimes you put your original thinking down a little and look at the problem from a different perspective. Why? The child has a child's perspective, right? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: So, I'm particularly interested in what you think about your life now. 　　Child: What do you think about the future? 　　Author: Right. 　　Children: I just ...... single-mindedly ...... want to get into the film business in the future. 　　Author: Any other hopes for your parents? 　　Children: The hope for my parents is that they live a better and healthier life in the future, but too much worry and too many demands on me are unnecessary. 　　Author: I agree with you. What else? 　　Child: There is more, there is more, I think ...... is gone. 　　Author: I think Ma Yuan is very frank and very accurate description of the problem. Today I hope that on this occasion, Ma Yuan's mother will undergo a more radical change in her thinking. You may be very worried about your child, very hung up on him, but your worrying may instead make him feel uncomfortable, not understood, and find it difficult to have a dialogue. 　　I hope that from today onwards, you will mainly find ways to enter your child's mind, understand your child's thoughts, understand your child's mental state, and can increase the dialogue with your child as an equal. Don't be too trivial with your child. If you can find a good way to inspire your child to improve himself, then you use the inspired method. Until you find a way, this is a simple question, and I hope you will listen to what your child has to say. 　　For a sophomore boy to think this way, it's long past time for a mother to have understanding and appreciation. Understand the child's whole set of views on life, including his own efforts for the future and the pursuit of hobbies. There should be enough support in this regard. For now, Ma Yuan's parents should have a better understanding of their children later on, especially if they understand what there is in their children that you should appreciate him and appreciate him. What ideas your child has that are different, that are cute, that are to be supported.

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Don't just think about your child's academic performance-Woodmam

　　When this parent asks, what happens when he has no patience? At this point, the conversation we just had went beyond the specific question he asked. I didn't ask him about things within the specific question of patience or lack of patience. I asked him about his child's learning, whether there was any change in his child's learning, and what was the reason for the change in his child's learning. The result? We then discovered a fact beyond the question he asked. 　　What was it? It was because he had participated in a tutoring activity held by us in the previous period, and his attitude as a parent had changed a little. This change led to a little change in the child's learning, from below average to above average. 　　First of all, let's make the first conclusion: we have to recognize, appreciate and encourage this parent's efforts; and we have to be sure that if we change our attitude, our child will change, right? It's so simple! If your attitude changes, she will learn better! So now first of all, you have to study how to treat your child better, so that your child can learn more. 　　The second thing is, I don't know if you, as a parent, have ever given any special praise to your child for this change in learning? If you haven't, I want you to do this today, you have to tell her what your academic performance and learning level was like a month or two ago, and what her level is now, she has changed a lot. This change you have to describe especially clearly and tell your child, okay? You have to know that not to say that there has been such a significant change, such a significant change from below average to an above average, even a little change from yesterday to today, should be appreciated and affirmed. This work is more important than the lessons you give to your child. 　　Think about it, a girl, if her father has an appreciation for her, has an encouragement, how much support for her, it is unimaginable to you. So I want you to go back and do this job brilliantly and beautifully. And not just praise once, but say it again and again: Look how this achievement, that achievement, this month or so, now how the achievement, what a great! What a great progress! And not only to the child, but also to the child's mother, home guests, but also to guests, so that she formed a sense of pride, pride, excitement. Is that okay? 　　This way, the child will also be more energetic, will learn better, and will make more progress. Won't you be more patient?

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How to develop the attention of a three-year-old toddler-Woodmam

　　Author: This parent just asked a question about how to develop attention span in a three-year-old toddler. I think this problem exists in children of how old they are, right? As we have said before, there are five main types of motivation in learning ability. The first type of motivation is upward motivation, the second type of motivation is interest motivation, the third type of motivation is self-confidence motivation, the fourth type is attention, and the fifth type is will quality. These five types of motivation are the life of the learning ability, and the others, memory, thinking, judgment, logic, reading, and expression, are developed under the pull of these five types of motivation. 　　Attention, which you mentioned earlier, is one of these five positive qualities and is very important. When it comes to developing attention, there are definitely basic rules, and there is also the issue of adapting to local conditions. Let's start with the general principles. 　　First of all, you have to believe in the fact that any child who has a time of inattention will always have a time of concentration. He will always concentrate at certain times, on certain hobbies. 　　Parent: He's more focused on learning a foreign language. 　　Author: Yes, he is very focused when he is learning a foreign language, how can you make his focus expand from foreign language focus? You should repeatedly appreciate and praise his concentration in learning a foreign language, and you should talk about it with the people around you, so that the adults around you will have the impression that your child has a special concentration in learning a foreign language, so that he will think that this quality of concentration is a good quality that will be praised and affirmed throughout his life, and then gradually expand it to other areas. The analysis we have just done tells you that a child will not be inattentive to everything, you will praise him and expand him in one area of concentration, that's all. Understand? 　　What is the second method? When he's not paying attention elsewhere, you interrupt his unfocused habits a little bit, sometimes one sentence is enough. When he's doing something else now and he's not paying attention, you say ...... Hey, what's his name? 　　Parent: Qi Po Lin. 　　Author: You just say, "Qi Po Lin, you need to focus like you're learning a foreign language and you'll be great!" That one has an effect on him and interrupts his lack of concentration. To expand on his tendency to concentrate, to interrupt his logic a little bit for the inattentiveness, to change his thinking habits. Okay?

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Making children articulate-Woodmam

　　We talked about the fact that the human ability to learn is a combination of abilities, and one of them is called the ability to express. You're talking about the child's ability to express. Right? What is the ability to express? 　　A child, how well he learns, observes, remembers, and thinks, is expressed through his expression. Expression is one of the most sensitive abilities. For example, if the teacher asks a question today and the student stands up and does not express himself well, he immediately feels frustrated, squirms when he sits down, blushes, is ashamed, and feels that his classmates and teachers look down on him. 　　But now he speaks very well, the teacher immediately praised him, and his ability to express himself was immediately affirmed. Therefore, the ability to express oneself is an ability that can be easily denied and affirmed immediately, and it is an ability that can be easily pulled. Capturing expressive skills can sometimes change every aspect of a child's life. 　　For example, your child goes out and calls out to his aunt and uncle. Because he is polite, people like him, and his ability to express himself makes him feel good all of a sudden. If he has an opinion, everyone says, "This child is so smart! His interest in learning increases immediately. Is that right? 　　Expression is especially important, and I hope you will go back and solve this problem, which is very, very good to solve. 　　Let me tell you an example, someone brought in a child who is younger than yours! Two or three years old little girl, afraid to call out to people. It's very simple: there were many red begonias hanging from the tree, I jumped up and reached one. I said, "Call Uncle. Is not that a child? The game of children, call out you give her ah! Call out, the sound is not big not to give. A little louder to call out to give a, and then a little louder to give a, and finally on the loud shout. 　　For a particularly small child, you have to praise him in a way, content, object, praise, and promise that he particularly likes to motivate him to speak up, even if it is only once. And never say that my child is afraid to speak up. Are you talking everywhere? Not everywhere, that's good! Don't talk everywhere. 　　Another thing is that the expression of the child should be easy and difficult. You can't say that when you see a stranger, grimacing, you ask him to call out to someone, you find a less strange, more amiable, let him call out, after he called out, you praise: hey, you are quite generous! Isn't that right? And let the other party, your guests, your friends are with you to praise the child. This is a good problem to solve. You are now aware of this problem should be solved, or will not affect the child's life.

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How to develop the attention of a three-year-old toddler-Woodmam

　　Author: This parent just asked a question about how to develop attention span in a three-year-old toddler. I think this problem exists in children of how old they are, right? As we have said before, there are five main types of motivation in learning ability. The first type of motivation is upward motivation, the second type of motivation is interest motivation, the third type of motivation is self-confidence motivation, the fourth type is attention, and the fifth type is will quality. These five types of motivation are the life of the learning ability, and the others, memory, thinking, judgment, logic, reading, and expression, are developed under the pull of these five types of motivation. 　　Attention, which you mentioned earlier, is one of these five positive qualities and is very important. When it comes to developing attention, there are definitely basic rules, and there is also the issue of adapting to local conditions. Let's start with the general principles. 　　First of all, you have to believe in the fact that any child who has a time of inattention will always have a time of concentration. He will always concentrate at certain times, on certain hobbies. 　　Parent: He's more focused on learning a foreign language. 　　Author: Yes, he is very focused when he is learning a foreign language, how can you make his focus expand from foreign language focus? You should repeatedly appreciate and praise his concentration in learning a foreign language, and you should talk about it with the people around you, so that the adults around you will have the impression that your child has a special concentration in learning a foreign language, so that he will think that this quality of concentration is a good quality that will be praised and affirmed throughout his life, and then gradually expand it to other areas. The analysis we have just done tells you that a child will not be inattentive to everything, you will praise him and expand him in one area of concentration, that's all. Understand? 　　What is the second method? When he's not paying attention elsewhere, you interrupt his unfocused habits a little bit, sometimes one sentence is enough. When he's doing something else now and he's not paying attention, you say ...... Hey, what's his name? 　　Parent: Qi Po Lin. 　　Author: You just say, "Qi Po Lin, you need to focus like you're learning a foreign language and you'll be great!" That one has an effect on him and interrupts his lack of concentration. To expand on his tendency to concentrate, to interrupt his logic a little bit for the inattentiveness, to change his thinking habits. Okay?

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Don't compare your child's weaknesses with others' strengths-Woodmam

　　Child: I think parents should be more optimistic. (Laughter and applause.) Parents should not always compare with other children, their own children's strengths are limited, (everyone laughs) other children are other children, your own child has entered this state, he has to work hard, a little progress should be praised, should not always criticize. 　　Author: Right! (Everyone applauds) I think this child is very right. Let me give you an example, I know a person in the past, also quite hobby literature writing. His lover always said to him: "Look how many writers have written? You haven't written a single one!" I said that this lover's words are detrimental to the husband's motivation, you know what I mean? Just now the child said very clearly, you always have to know what kind of foundation your child was, what kind of foundation is now, what kind of starting point, and never say I this child this point is not as good as him, that point is not as good as him; you have to find out what the child deserves your encouragement and praise, you have to love his motivation, is that right? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: I think it's rare for your child to be able to make such an analysis and judgment of things today, which is rare for children of this age. Don't you think this is one of his strengths? Isn't it a bit of a dereliction of duty on the part of the parents? Look at your child, today he analyzed your note in two ways, what is right and what is not right. When he talked about what was wrong, he explained the requirements for his own study; when he talked about his mental state, he explained what kind of attitude parents should take. In this respect, I think this child is very promising in the future! Is that right? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: Let's set up a plan according to our current level, this foundation, and make progress than we did yesterday, so we can do it, right? 　　Child: Yes, it can be done. 　　Author: Is this a good idea? 　　Child: Yes. 　　Author: Let's give him a round of applause, shall we? (Applause) I say this kid is pretty good. A good child, if you take his music and the best music students in school to compare, take his sports and the best sports students in school to compare, take his language and the best language in school to compare, the result is that he is not as good as others in everything. How can this be? Think about it, your child is your child, if he does not reach a particularly high standard to your satisfaction today, it is because of your past education. So parents can only criticize themselves, not their children. Understand? 　　Are children born knowing mathematics, science and chemistry? No! Then I'll tell you, you're a great parent today, and all the good things about this child just now are related to you as a parent! Being able to analyze problems on his own, being able to make a realistic analysis of adult judgments, and loving to learn on his own, and being able to say to his parents that you should be optimistic. Your child is amazing! These remarkable things have a lot to do with you as a parent. Do you know what I mean? You should increase your confidence! Let's give this parent a round of applause, shall we?

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Ten principles of home education-Woodmam

　　Proper family education is based on ten principles. 　　First, we are required to be thorough in theory and direct to the heart. It should directly reveal the laws of educating children, and point out the various misunderstandings of family education and enter the right idea. 　　Secondly, it is specific and feasible in terms of method. Including how to deal with children's conflicts, conflicts, what method should be used to solve all have specific methods, including how to deal with children who can not accept criticism, there are specific ways to deal with. The method is simple, clear and feasible, you only need to learn to do, as long as do can be used, it is effective. 　　Third, in the implementation, first of all, parents adjust their own mentality, design a good image for themselves as parents, and then design an image for their children, and use certain procedures to stabilize this image. 　　Fourth, the principle of interaction. What do you mean by the principle of interaction, that is, parents and children interact with each other, together with the changes that occur. Not a method, a throw to the child, the parents are fine; or parents take it to look twice, the child is fine. It's not. It's like I just had an exchange with my child. A kind of interaction. Interaction is that you use this method to treat the child, the child in turn will immediately feedback information to you, so that the interaction, the child will happen obvious progress, and the parent state will be better and better. 　　Fifth, taking into full consideration the work environment and living environment of contemporary parents, it does not require parents to spend long hours with their children to replace teachers tutoring various subjects. Any kind of tutoring advocated in this way, I think, is a misconception. The child has a teacher at school and a lot of homework, and then he or she comes home and takes a lot of classes, tying all the parents to the child, who has not grown up. This is not the case. 　　Sixth, it can be implemented from the age of zero to sixteen. It can also be implemented when the child is older than sixteen, and even he himself can implement it on himself. Really inspire a life, no matter what age you are, to be able to really have an inner motivation to develop holistically. To really build the five motivations, to develop all-round qualities and to grow into a complete and successful life. 　　Seventh, our education for children now must be a comprehensive education, not just a general concept of talent yet, but a broad concept of talent. Whether it is the ability to learn, the ability to adapt to society, the ability to survive in the world around him, including his physical and mental health, all aspects, there should be a comprehensive development. 　　Eighth, there is a set of efficient learning guidance methods. We believe that as long as you are a healthy child, you have the potential to become a learning genius if you have the right approach. If you are not guided by the right methods from a young age, then this opportunity may be lost. We hope that parents will master these methods as they learn. 　　Ninth, proper home education should ultimately result in success in the lives of both parents and children. For example, the child progresses and the parents are happy. That child just said very well, "Mom should be more optimistic, right? Remember, if you are more optimistic and have the right approach, not only will your child develop better, but your life will be better too. 　　Tenth, the right approach to homeschooling will give you and your children more opportunities in life. When you are in a good frame of mind and you face the world around you with a smile, there is no doubt that you can also increase many people and opportunities in your life. I think anyone who walks down the road with a cross-eyed smile will have so many fewer opportunities, right? Asking for directions may not even be a good idea. 　　So, think about it, you yourselves at home, whether you are a husband or a wife, what face do you get from the other side, does it matter? Is it comfortable for you to have a nagging face? Are you comfortable with a grumbling face or a counted face? Whether it's in the home or in other areas, the face you get from the other person sometimes has a big impact on your mood! 　　Remember, when we treat our children, we must always have a smile on our face. So, successful, healthy parents and successful, healthy children are one and the same thing. Then, real homeschooling is something that parents themselves have to learn gradually later.

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Be successful, happy, happy parents-Woodmam

　　As a result of this exchange today, I hope we can reach a common conclusion. 　　First conclusion, from today onwards, all parents, put down that nagging face, complaining face, counting face, reprimanding face, hard face, worrying face, organizing face, urging face, all these faces, can you? We need to have a determination, once you have determination, you may put it down. 　　(Yes!) 　　Yes! Go home with a smile on your face, treat your children and treat your life. Can you do that? 　　(Yes!) 　　Yes! That's the first conclusion. The second conclusion, I hope to really be a loving parent, a loving parent is a parent who must know that state of mind of the child! What is the state of his confidence, interest, motivation, attention, quality of will and motivation in life? Every parent must know their child from today on. Can you do this? 　　(Yes!) 　　I have just given you an example of a child who is in the third grade, but his parents do not know that he is not concentrating because he is playing with paper airplanes in class. In the future, we need to know why the child has problems. This is the second common point. 　　The third conclusion, I hope that starting today, parents have one job that they can't afford not to do every day, to find one, or two, or three aspects of your child that deserve your appreciation and praise, and implement your appreciation and praise every day. Can this be done? 　　(Yes!) 　　Further down the line, I think more complex and rich homeschooling methods will be learned slowly by all of you. 　　I wish you all happy, successful and joyful parents! 　　Thank you all!

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Learning from Edison's mother-Woodmam

　　The reason why many families benefit from the right approach to education is its thoroughness. As the ancients say, "Directly to the heart", the issue of parenting must also be directed to the heart - directly to the fundamental relationship between us and our children, to a fundamental way of thinking about the education of our children as parents. 　　I hope that every parent can become a wise parent. What does a wise parent look like? Everyone should experience it. The world famous inventor Thomas Edison, as we all know, invented many things. When he was in the first grade, he was at the bottom of his class, and he was scribbling all day long. I just told the child is folded paper, Edison is everywhere scribble. The principal and teachers said he was mentally retarded, let parents take him back. Edison's mother led her child to school and angrily found the principal and teachers and said, "My child is a genius, and you don't understand him!" This bit of understanding on the part of the mother made Edison the greatest inventor in the world. 　　This mother is not a chaperone type, according to my understanding, Edison's mother is not highly educated, and will not be as worried as we now manage only child. Why did her child later become a great inventor? It is her real understanding and appreciation of her child as a parent that gave the child upward motivation and interest in learning. 　　If his mother had done this (and most likely you did): "Son, why don't you study hard? Why do you scribble every day? The principal says you're retarded, the teacher says you're retarded, you're pissing me off!" Think about it, will there be a future for this child? No, not at all! 　　It is very important for parents to communicate with their children. Many of us parents nowadays, live a very hard life! Many parents have a sad face when it comes to their children's problems, what are they worried about? The parents of children who are poor learners are definitely worried; the children who are better learners are also worried: can they get into key schools? Parents of children studying in key schools are also worried: the Chinese exams and entrance exams in front of ...... have a variety of worries every day. As a result, not only can not make the child learning problems and various aspects of the problem to get a good solution, but also make parents premature aging, right? A young face can be worried into a not so young face, a middle-aged face can be worried into an old face, an old face can be worried into a sickly face ...... right? 　　The misconceptions of homeschooling are also misconceptions for parents in their own lives. 　　Some of the problems that parents communicate with me are very specific. When I said that complaining, nagging, urging, scolding, reprimanding, chaperoning, arranging, worrying, which of these "styles" are you using to educate your children, one parent told me that this is the situation in her family: the husband and One parent told me that her family was like this: the husband's and the wife's ways combined to fill all of the "styles" I just mentioned. 　　Since there are a little more women than men who teach, I like to make a particularly simple analogy: How motivated are you to cook when people don't praise or even express dissatisfaction with your meal after you have cooked it at home? (Laughter) The lesbians are laughing! You are so sensitive to these little things! Everyone has a family, we all know that, don't we? You cook for half a day, but the other party does not appreciate, does not praise, but also picky, then count, then complain, then nag, or cooking and then give you a rush type, what do you feel good ah? 　　I have seen more than once that some families are like this, the parents say: "You still do not study to go!" The child gets anxious and says, "I wanted to go, but I don't want to study when you say that." (Laughter) Aren't adults like that too? But why can't our parents put their hearts in the right place when it comes to teaching their children? 　　You think you love your children, but do you understand their state of mind? When your child comes back from a test today, you ask, "How many points did you get on the test?" Is that right? "Where did you finish in the class?" That's definitely the case. Have you ever thought about what kind of psychology your child has when he walks home to his parents with a result that has already been announced? His psychology is definitely much more subtle than you, a wife, trying to wait for your husband's praise after cooking. 　　In this world, everyone is doing things for themselves as well as for others. Children are learning for themselves, but in a sense they are also learning for the world around them. Do you understand what that means? He is still learning for his parents in a certain sense, in a psychological sense! Think about it, if your child's test score is a little better than the last time, even a little better, when he walks home, you don't know how much he wants his mom and dad to praise him. He did a little better this time than last time, improved a little, this improvement is not very big, you the parent and very careless, look at it, think it is not very wonderful, casually said: "That's it, it's okay!" You think you are very forgiving, and the child's heart is the same as splashing cold water. If the child did a little worse in the test, there was already a lot of psychological burden, at this time a parent's criticism, a reproach, it is entirely possible that the child's motivation is greatly frustrated.

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Why do daughters like to wear black and white checkered clothing-Woodmam

　　The other day, a parent said, "My children don't communicate with us, are rebellious to their parents, and don't know how much we parents worry about their future. They also don't pay attention in class." 　　I called her child forward and asked, "Your mother says you don't understand parents and are rebellious toward them, is that correct?" 　　She said, "That's not true." 　　I said, "Why isn't that right?" 　　She said, "Parents sometimes don't understand our children." 　　I said, "Give me an example." 　　My daughter said, "I like to wear black and white as my base color, but whenever I choose that color, my mom says I have no eyesight." 　　So I spoke to the parent: "A girl in junior high school should have the right to choose her own style and color of dress. You say she has no eyesight, and in turn, let the parents wear a child's favorite clothes, do you feel good to go to work? Not good, right? But she wore the clothes she chose, her classmates said it was good, and she felt good about herself. This is the confidence of a girl!" 　　I said to my child, "Is your mother right when she says you don't pay much attention in class?" 　　She said, "That's kind of true." 　　I said, "That's good." Then I said to the group, "This child is being truthful with her parents. What the parent says makes sense is acknowledged and understood." 　　I asked, "And do you understand being a parent and worrying about your future?" 　　She said, "Yes, I do." 　　There was an exchange between the mother and the daughter on the spot, and the mother didn't know that the child had these opinions about the parents in the past, so after the event that day, the girl and her mother stood together and cried with emotion when they spoke in front of me. She said, "Teacher, you still understand us." 　　Her mother became embarrassed and said, "Don't cry. I'll be more embarrassed if you cry again." 　　Parents, make sure that your children say to you, "Mom and Dad understand me!" If this is not said to mom and dad, but to others, parents should be ashamed. 　　A child who has a bit of a problem with his parents over dressing seems to have nothing to do with learning, but once he overcomes his inferiority complex and has a feeling of confidence, he may turn that state to learning and show unrelenting progress in his studies. 　　It's the same with adults! Today, because of your work, because of your cooking, because of your socializing, because of your playing, because of your singing, because of your dancing, you are praised, envied, and complimented by others, and today you are in a good state all day, so you do everything quite well.

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The beginning of a great symphony-Woodmam

　　My parents gave me three things from a young age: an interest in learning, an upwardly mobile motivation, and a third confidence as a boy. This is what my parents gave me from a young age, before I was of school age. 　　So, I have to ask: Parents, have you ever paid attention to the development of motivation, interest in learning, and self-confidence in your children's homeschooling? This is precisely the most important issue. 　　Before the publication of "Emotional Intelligence", the editor had to read the manuscript, and when he read the manuscript, the concept changed, such as "confidence, positivity, smile, optimism", such as redesigning their own expressions, redesigning their own clothing, and so on. 　　Another example is that before the publication of "Chinese Children's Success Method", an artist was hired to paint the book. This painter learned something while painting. 　　This painter loved his daughter very much, but when he did not find the right way to teach her at home, his whole love for her was reflected in nagging and counting. He wanted his daughter to study well, to work hard, to move up, the love of parents. The effect is not good. However, this painter suddenly learned a little something when he was painting for this book, and he immediately began to apply it. 　　He said, "I think it is very important to be a parent, must be good at finding that little hint of appreciation for the child." He said, "I go to bed late and get up late, my child is early to bed and get up early, we two often can not communicate, so often at night when I go to bed, leave a note on the table to my daughter. The next day my daughter left early for school. She might leave a message for me on the note. That day, I saw my daughter write a sentence on a piece of paper saying she had written a piece of music for me to read." 　　His daughter, who loved music and had learned to compose in her spare time, made a beginning. To say that that beginning was rather childish, but after this painter had learned the right way to teach his family, he wrote on the piece his daughter had composed that day, "Daddy was very happy when he read the piece you wrote; it was the beginning of a great symphony." He told me, "In the past, I would have said, "Look what you've written, it's awful! It's so immature! But that's what I wrote today." His daughter fell asleep early, and he left these words behind and went to sleep. When he got up late the next morning, his daughter had already left for school. Under the words he left, he wrote many, many words, saying, "Daddy, did you really like the tune I wrote? You're such a good dad." 　　Just because this child wrote a piece of music and her dad appreciated her and supported her, she was so moved that she left a big message to show her appreciation to her father. When a child walks into school with that kind of feeling, it goes without saying that she will be in great shape too. Feeling smart, feeling like she can do well in her classroom work and still get good at music. That must be it! What if Dad had written another sentence saying, "What do you call that thing you wrote? Not doing your job! You study hard!" What state would you say the child is in? ──To be a smart parent. 　　Therefore, parents need to get out of the current misunderstanding of homeschooling and establish new ideas; the 20 rules of homeschooling (see the next part of this book) are something that any parent will use once they learn them; they will feel good once they do them. 　　It is not difficult to be a good parent when you have the right approach. 　　A smart parent, a successful parent, a happy parent, a parent who connects with their child, shows up in two ways: their child is successful and they are more successful than they used to be. 　　We all know that parents are in a better state when their children are successful, happy and understanding of their parents. The parents of the last girl to speak at the Future Strong camp said that their whole family had come out of the darkness because their child had gotten better! No longer have low self-esteem, their academic performance has improved, and they are happy as parents.

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Appreciation and praise should always be combined with frustration education-Woodmam

　　Parent: He attaches special importance to marks, is relatively strong in self-care on weekdays, and has a wide range of interests. Learning is too much about results and not too much about the process. It is especially hard to get a bad grade, always saying how many points how many points, when he gives himself a score, he does not change the wrong words, just put the score there, not to correct mistakes. I know it's wrong, but I don't change it. 　　Author: How old are you? 　　Parent: Third grade. 　　Author: Is it a boy? Girl. So you're a parent with the right idea, aren't you? 　　Parent: Right thinking, but I don't know how to change it! 　　Author: I think that the child values the score and is good and strong, especially good and strong, is that right? What do you want to achieve? 　　Parent: Is she too much in charge? When I was in preschool, sometimes I would come home and cry, saying that the teacher didn't like her today, why? The teacher didn't praise her today. She couldn't stand it without praise for one day. Until now in the third grade, there is still this situation. Two days ago, instead of saying that the teacher doesn't like her, she said that the teacher hasn't seen her lately. (The author laughs.) She said that the teacher didn't look at me and looked at someone else and didn't pay attention to her, and the next day she was praised by the teacher again. She probably grew up with a little too much praise! 　　Author: The first problem you mentioned is what you showed on the paper, that is, the child is more focused on the score, but from our conversation, only focusing on the score is a symbol, what she values is the evaluation of others in her environment, especially if she is praised by others, she values her grades very much, is that right? In this way, parents encounter two problems: one, that she only values the superficial phenomenon of grades at the expense of the actual improvement of her abilities, which is the first problem you are worried about; the second problem is that you are now worried that your child only stands up to praise, but not to judgments other than praise. 　　We should understand the problem in this way. When we talk about appreciation, praise, encouragement, and example for children, we are praising children for things worthy of appreciation and praise, not including praise for shortcomings, which is the first; second, when you appreciate and praise, since shortcomings are not appreciated and praised, advantages are appreciated and praised, this boundary itself makes a trade-off for children in your praise and praise. Then, in this trade-off we have to say that appreciation, praise method always have to be combined with frustration education. 　　What do you mean by frustration education? It is the child can withstand criticism as opposed to praise. But criticism and praise, like, have to exercise its principles. What is the principle of praise, that is, the praise is praised, should not praise can not praise; criticism is the same, the criticism to criticize, should not criticize can not criticize. Parents must be right to criticize and right to praise. 　　So what is the point of combining praise, appreciation and criticism? That's what I'm going to tell you. Because your child has not received criticism in the past, now he or she has to receive criticism with praise. What does that mean? To praise her for withstanding criticism as an improvement, that's a technique. To praise her for withstanding criticism as progress. But how does this progress come about? In the past, you can not withstand criticism, you have to create a relatively mild, she can withstand, very reasonable criticism. For example, if you criticize her, she will be convinced that she can accept it, and then praise her for accepting the criticism as a merit. 　　Parent: You repeat it again, a little faster. (Everyone laughs) 　　Author: For example, if your child has one thing today, such as this word is written wrong, this thing is done wrong, don't you have criticism for her? This criticism is very reasonable, the attitude is very friendly, she accepted it. Then you praise her for this attitude of accepting criticism, understand? Let her constantly develop the concept that I am a child who can not only stand praise, but also stand criticism. With that, my mother especially appreciated me, my surrounding world especially appreciated me as a well-rounded and good child. That's the technique, that's the right way to homeschool. 　　To grow your child to be able to move forward in the face of criticism, in the face of failure, in the face of opposition from others. Okay?

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I helped you discover the 4 strengths of your child-Woodmam

　　Author: Do you think mommy and daddy are good? 　　Child: Mom and Dad are good. I also know they worry about me. My grades are not good because I didn't put in the effort to review. 　　Author (to parents): Let me tell you, your child is a child who studies and listens with understanding, right? He's a good kid. He is able to communicate with and care about his parents, which many kids today can't do! Is that right? 　　Parent: That's true. Many of our neighbors often praise him and say he understands. But I still worry about his studies. 　　Writer: Look what a good child you have! I don't think it is right for you to talk like that anymore. Do you know what I mean? Let me repeat: This child of yours will definitely be a promising child in the future. First, he shows a relatively high understanding in his studies, and he understands everything the teacher says in class; second, he is a child of very good character, a child who is praised by everyone for the world around him, for his parents, and for his family, which is very rare nowadays; third, he has hobbies, and he is still learning the piano, isn't that so? Fourth, I think his analysis of his own summary is very factual. For example, why sometimes the test results are not very good, he said that sometimes he can't remember some things because he watches TV and doesn't review enough, is that right? Let's talk about it. How do you think we can solve this problem? Do you have a solution? 　　Child: You do, but I don't. 　　Author: You think about it again, is there a way? 　　The child: I go home quickly do more review, do not watch TV. 　　Author: He said, go home, more review not to watch TV is a way. 　　(Laughter, applause.) 　　Then I hope this (to the parents), you first of all to this child attitude is not to support ah? You should be supportive, right? Another thing, I think you have to really understand the child's strengths. Can you learn from Edison's mother? 　　Parent: Yes! 　　Author: Yes, right? Let's form a common concept today: your child is an amazing child. He has an understanding of learning, he has hobbies, and he is a moral, caring child to his parents and to the world around him. Is that right? 　　Parent: Yes. 　　Author: Now you are determined to catch up with your studies by watching less TV and reviewing more, isn't that so? So what are you worried about? 　　(Laughter.) 　　Parent (still frowning): ...... I still can't do anything about my child's study problem. 　　Author: What else are you worried about? Can you not worry about it? 　　Parent: ...... teachers keep looking for me. 　　Author: This involves an attitude problem for us as parents. Let me tell you an example. A parent brought in a child and said to me: my child is particularly timid and afraid to speak. I said, when you keep repeating this characteristic of the child in this voice, is that you are giving the child a bad hint, you know? Originally the child is not necessarily very timid, or originally a little timid, you keep repeating me this child timid, timid, timid ...... he never dare to be bold. Do you understand what I mean? It is very simple, call this child over, give me any timid child, not two hours to solve the problem. You let him say a word more loudly, finished will not encourage? Will not appreciate? Will not praise? Slowly become bold. Why don't you know how to treat a child like this! He has made such a determination today, isn't that the beginning? Never describe your child this way to anyone else: say my child is bad at this, bad at that, not like this! Let me tell you, this child already has 4 good points, and today he has made such a great determination. Let's give him a round of applause, shall we?

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Three year olds can't count-Woodmam

　　Parent: A relative's girl is in her second year of junior high school and usually does well in school and her teacher says she is fine. But since the first grade, she has been getting a fever whenever she takes a test. Recently, her academic performance has dropped to the bottom fourteen in her class, and her parents are very anxious and ask what to do. 　　Author: Let me ask first, when did the learning start to decline? 　　Parent: The last few times. The last few exams have dropped significantly. 　　Author: What about the original? Did you study hard in the past? 　　Parent: He used to study very well, and he worked very hard. 　　Author: I can tell you that this child is one of those who are afraid of studying since childhood and have pressure. This is a psychological reaction, nervousness, and a sense of burden to study. 　　Parent: Once I was at her house and heard her ask, "Mom, can I make a phone call? I don't understand why a second year child needs her mother's permission to make a phone call. 　　Author: A second-year child needs her mother's permission to make a phone call, which can be felt that the child belongs to the type of parents who rush, manage and take care of the child from a young age, and are more attentive to the child's control, more strict, and definitely supervise the child's study more. 　　The child is under pressure to learn. Anyone who has a fever or a cough when they take an exam is called exam syndrome. It is because of the usual study tension, a test psychological especially nervous, just like athletes once the competition will be nervous. 　　Why nervous? It is a high target pressure on her. Where does that pressure come from? It may be pressured by yourself, or by your parents, or by the environment. 　　In the case of pressure, the child may be able to persevere in her studies for a period of time, but after a long time, she can not bear it psychologically and suddenly appears to slip, or may even appear to have a long-term slide, and will continue to slip, which is also possible. 　　In this case, parents should communicate with their children and make sure to free them from the pressure. It's hard for anyone to perform well under pressure and it's easy to get fatigued. A fever at the first exam will definitely affect the academic performance. So parents should not be anxious, you anxious is not more pressure on the child? 　　Parent: I asked her mother to come to this lecture, and she said: I can't leave, I'm not home without someone to watch her, she should watch TV. 　　Author: So the priority now is for parents to talk to their children so that they can relax and not study under pressure. Translated with www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)

Educational toys can be used to prompt children's learning abilities