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#I've had it for less than a year but it's a refurbished phone manufactured and sold in 2021 #i will try to keep it alive until at least 2027? around that age I usually have to upgrade due to software issues #but the new right to repair law in the eu gives me hope that I'll then be able to get a phone that does more than 4-5 years

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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just because someone can articulate their point better doesn’t make them right, it makes them articulated. 

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I think we need to get more comfortable with the idea that sometimes shitty, racist, homophobic, bigoted people are still incredibly talented.

I feel like every time I see a post addressing someone’s shitty behavior the post also takes the time to mention that they’re not even good at [x] anyway. And that’s just not always true? Equating being good at a skill as being morally good is just not necessary. Someone can be a fantastic writer, can have a beautiful singing voice, can create breathtaking artwork, and still be a horrible person.

I know part of this is probably just the instinct to dislike everything about a person when you dislike them, but I also think this mindset leads to people defending creatives way past where they should, because if bad people create bad art, then if this person creates art that I like and resonates with me, then they can’t be a bad person!

And you know. That’s just not true. Those two things are simply completely unconnected and I think it’d be healthier if we all started disconnecting them in our heads.

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Just checking.... We all pronounce Miette like My-TAY in our heads, right?

#lol

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Your parents are not "narcissists". They're typical authoritarian assholes who treat you like their property because society allows them to.

Your ex boyfriend is not a "narcissist". He's a typical misogynistic douchebag who treats women like shit because society allows him to.

Your boss is not a "narcissist". They're a typical classist dipshit who thinks workers' entire purpose in life is to generate profit because society allows them to.

And even if they happen to be a "narcissist", that's not what gave them the power to get away with abuse.

So stop blaming mental illness and start blaming society's normalization of abuse. Stop acting like someone has to have a mental illness in order to do something cruel when ordinary people have been doing atrocious things since forever.

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fewer posts about “why do straight women date men who hate them” and more posts about “why do so many men hate women that it’s genuinely difficult for straight women to find romantic & sexual intimacy with a man who doesn’t hate them”

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I am extremely online but in like the Loser Way. if you try to make me use instagram or tiktok I fumble around with it like a grandma who has never seen a phone before. if you send me a tumblr screenshot however, I will tell you that not only have I already seen the original post but that I'm mutuals with OP

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Stichwort aging tumblr demographic:

Wusstet ihr, dass Schul- und Studienzeiten ab dem 17. Geburtstag zeitlich auf die Rente angerechnet werden, auch wenn man in dieser Zeit (noch) nicht eingezahlt hat?

Wusstet ihr außerdem, dass man diese Zeiten selber bei der Rentenversicherung angeben muss, weil die sonst außer Acht gelassen werden?

Und wusstet ihr, was für ein absolut verfickt beschissener Aufwand es ist, diese Zeiten Jahrzehnte später nachzuweisen, wenn man in Rente gehen will, und die Deutsche Rentenversicherung halt sagt "Ja gut, wir haben hier Ihre Abschlusszeugnisse, aber können Sie denn beweisen, dass Sie auch auf der Schule waren, an der Sie Ihren Abschluss gemacht haben? Hmmmmm? Nee, nee, da könnt ja jeder kommen!"

Wenn dann nicht gerade eine Schulsekretärin noch vage im Kopf hat, dass ihre Kollegin, die selber schon in Rente ist, mal erwähnt hat, dass sie weiß, wo der Bezirk die ganzen alten Nachweise damals beim Großreinemachen hingepackt hat, UND diese dann netterweise anruft und mal schnell Unterlagen von Anno dazumal hervorzaubert, biste halt am Arsch.

Also macht das am besten jetzt und bewahrt den ganzen Kram noch in Kopie auf. Zur Sicherheit.

Und weil's so schön ist, das Ganze nochmal als Video:

#omg danke op #das hatte ich noch nie gehört wtf #warum wird uns das nicht in der Schule gesagt? #oder an der Uni??? #for future reference

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just learnt the word meteorosensitive to scream into the void that it fucking sucks that my scars are sensitive to weather changes and a not insignificant amount of my lower abdomen is scar tissue because of surgeries

#ignore me #just rambling because i can't sleep and I'm so tired #I'm waiting for my Ibuprofen to kick in and am gonna listen to my 'go to sleep' podcast #fingers crossed there's uninterrupted sleep in my immediate future #🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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re-reading my own fic because the author has exactly my taste in tropes, ships the same ships in the right way, and also shares my sense of humour. what a find, what a revelation. i hope they write more of this sort of thing.

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also ESL people like me watch shows in English with subtitles to learn the language

Why do people need subtitles to watch a show in English? I don't get it. What is wrong with the ears of young people?

#also sometimes my tinnitus will be kicking hard and then i can't really process sound in one of my ears #but previous rebloggers already made the point for accessibility so that's just an extra sth from me

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I’m bored and nosy. Please reblog this with the book you’re currently reading.

#tentacle by rita indiana #magnificent rebels by andrea wulff

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one might imagine sisyphus learning by playing, winning by learning, and begin by beginning