#zrayak

[bemusedlybespectacled]

okay, yes, it is definitely good and healthy to have different interests than your romantic partner and pursue them independently or with friends other than your partner

that being said

having a relationship where I can be like like “what the FUCK was that writing choice??” and get “right?? AND ANOTHER THING” is like fucking crack. just unfiltered validation directly through the mind link. extremely sexy media analysis ping pong.

#personal #relationships #zrayak

[jethroq]

@bemissguided-blog @zrayak I find myself in fine company, and I do not mind

[kyrianne]

bemusedlybespectacled replied to your post: cw for talk of eating/potentially disordered...

zrayak had the exact same thing happen to him on wellbutrin. At one point he figured out that he *did* feel hunger, it was just this weird alien feeling that didn’t register as “hunger” right away. You could try scheduling food at certain times instead of just eating when you feel hungry?

Yeah, I’m probably going to do that. It’ll be easier on work days, but weekends will be weird.

#bemusedlybespectacled

[orevet]

A post recently reblogged from you was made by a terf and was also reblogged by terfs, jsyk. The one with sweetpotatodotcom and witwitch, about medical misogyny.

Oh goddammit. I need to trust my gut more, something about that post seemed cissexist to me...

Whenever I hear about some medical thing that affects men and women differently, like heart attack symptoms, I always wonder how trans people on HRT are affected. Intersex people too, now that I think about it.

#I fucked up #zrayak #ask me a thing

[aquietrevolutionary]

zrayak replied to your post: zrayak replied to your post: zrayak I love these...

And you seem to have misspelled adorable two different ways in a row :P

WERE WE ACTUALLY LOOKING AT THE SAME PICTURES?

#zrayak #reply #BB #UR BOYFRIEND IS WEIIIIIIIRD

[bemusedlybespectacled]

@zrayak is visiting his QPP for a week and my immediate response has been to 1) do three loads of laundry and 2) buy and immediately put up a bunch of unnecessary fun decor

i am a husky with separation anxiety but instead of tearing the house apart and destroying the knickknacks and furniture i just clean it up and buy more

#personal #relationships #zrayak

[bemusedlybespectacled]

last minute photoset because it's my one year wedding anniversary and I need to show off how cute my husband is

#personal #photo of me #zrayak

[bemusedlybespectacled]

it occurs to me that it's been a while since I posted selfies so here's a couple from over the summer

#personal #photo of me #zrayak

[bemusedlybespectacled]

the town just sent its annual census letter to "the [bespectacled] household" and I know it's almost certainly because I put in my information/signed the form first last year, but I still got a kick out of it

(for context, I married @zrayak last year but didn't take his name and, if not for my family's strong opinions about it, he'd take mine, because it's cooler)

#personal #zrayak

[bemusedlybespectacled]

now, you might be asking, “bb, did you pick that cake topper solely so you could put it in The Tag?” and of course not. that’s ridiculous. it was also on sale.

#photo of me #personal #zrayak #someone get that man a dom

[bemusedlybespectacled]

no one asked but getting married has absolutely not stopped @zrayak and me from being as disgustingly cute as possible. it just means we now have access to new, heretofore-unplumbed depths of obscene levels of sap in that we can now incorporate the words “husband” and “wife” into our romantic gibberish.

#personal #zrayak #relationships

[bemusedlybespectacled]

I haven't gotten the professional photos yet but this pic of my wedding from the very end of the night is just perfect. like, thematically.

#personal #photo of me #zrayak #kyrianne

[bemusedlybespectacled]

what do you mean not everyone watched con o'neill's entire filmography over the course of months

(also this is because I referred to Val from Uncle as "a famous role of his" in a conversation and @zrayak's response was "big feldspar moment, honey")

#con o'neill #personal

[bemusedlybespectacled]

I am very, VERY tired but I spent the weekend getting those sweet, sweet legal benefits I harp on all the time with @zrayak (@hurrock was his best man), with @sicktodeathoflogic as my maid of honor and @kyrianne and @thegeekgene as two of my four bridespeople (ETA: didn't know @thebeetlequeen had a Tumblr again, but she was also a bridesperson!), AND I got to meet @takiki16 and @florentinequill in person for the first time in the 7/8ish years I’ve known them!

so now all of my friends have met each other and apparently like each other and also I’m a wife holy shit

#personal

[bemusedlybespectacled]

For the unusual ask game: sage, aloe vera, and nutmeg! 💝

sage ⇢ what ‘medium’ of art (poetry, music, fiction, paintings, statues etc.) is the most touching to you? why do you think that is?

Depends on the emotions I'm going for. Fiction is the most capable of making me cry, but really good architecture provokes a sense of awe. I think it's a difference in scale. Fiction is personal; architecture is public.

aloe vera ⇢ what’s something (mundane) you really want to experience in life?

I really wish I could swim. I feel like going to the beach (or the pool, or a water park) would be way more fun if I could swim.

nutmeg ⇢ how’s your room/home decorated? do you have a specific theme or style going on?

Oh lord, this is actually kind of funny.

So I do have an Aesthetic™ for home decorating, which is mostly very plain neutrals (white, beige, grey, gold). And florals (and sometimes owls). Like, the other day my parents gave us an old mattress they were going to toss to use as a guest bed/day bed, so we wandered around the Macy's clearance section to get twin-sized bedding, and the ultimate winner was this:

My philosophy is that neutral-colored stuff pairs with other, later-bought stuff easier and makes the actual colors pop more (in my workroom, that's one of my pillows, two of the posters on my walls, and a big cashmere wrap I got for my wedding). It's way easier to match white with white than it is to match, say, red with a different red.

I also tend towards shit that is honestly kind of pretentious. Like, the posters on the walls of my workroom? A Mary Cassatt painting of a girl sewing and a French realist painting of a girl knitting. Because my workroom is for knitting and sewing. I also have two Waterhouse paintings in my living room and a different pre-Raphaelite painting of a girl with an owl.

On the flip side, I also really like cheap kitschy shit. I'm not quite Rae Dunn levels of kitschy, but I unironically have Pioneer Woman curtains in the kitchen that I got from Walmart. They look like this:

Like, the only thing that is stopping me from buying a bunch of grandma decor with big flowers or butterflies or whatever is that a lot of it is Christian kitsch and that is an immediate turnoff for me.

@zrayak, on the other hand, does not like this at all. He thinks neutrals look boring and wants a lot more color than me, he likes more contrasting color than me (he wanted our wedding colors to be teal and red), and his decorations of choice include taxidermied frogs. They look like this:

tl;dr: Neutrals, florals, and owls, which is an ongoing debate between me and my husband.

#personal #askbox #hailinator

[bemusedlybespectacled]

Old English and Caramel Frappe for the asks 😊

Old English : You’re stranded on an island, who do you bring with you?

@zrayak. Partly because I am marrying him but also because he would actually have fun doing all the survival stuff. He likes camping and hiking and swimming and all of those outdoorsy things. Basically I'd be sitting on the beach complaining about the sun being too hot and freaking out about mosquitoes and he'd be like, "I made a shelter :) and started a fire :) and found a cute bug that I'm going to keep as a pet :) :) :)"

Caramel Frappe : Favorite video game?

Answered this question already but I am basically video game illiterate. XD

#personal #askbox