#support poly persons

[daydreamsandcrashingwaves]

“To be visibly Queer is to choose your happiness over your safety” 

It’s pride month and this is the only space I feel save being honest about MY experience. I knew in middle school I liked girls, this was before I determined I was NB. I was scared, a bully in my gym class often put me down by calling me a lesbian, I did not know what it was really, fragments maybe. I knew my Uncle was gay, I knew that was something my family accepted and I never knew anything different, but no one explained what it meant to be a lesbian. Growing up lesbian and gay were the popular slurs. In middle school I played traveling volleyball, it was what I considered my main sport, I was always on the outside socially because I tried very hard at practice and the rest of my team wouldn’t meet my energy as they considered it a leisure sport to engage in during their off season. There was always this one girl who was nice to me when we’d talk, I had a crush on a girl in my friend group from school (Not volleyball), and I wasn’t sure what to do. I talked with girl and she actually gave me great advice and I followed it the next day at school, didn’t work out but thats okay. So I come home from school that next day feelin good and I walk into my mother screaming into the phone, I don’t remember that part but I know when she saw me she dismissed the person on the phone, came marching up to me (which with her I’m so mad face that wasn’t great) and asked if I’m a lesbian. Being young and afraid of this big bad word that was an insult I said no! I just liked this One Girl, I still liked boys. Turns out the girl not only told the whole team and all their parents had been harassing my mom all day. She looked at me, asked if I loved volleyball, I said of course I do! She then looked at me and said “Then you’re going to practice tomorrow, fuck ‘em”. That was my last (? or second to last) season on the court. I regret not looking for another team to this day. I can’t tell you how many couples want to bring me in their bed for their pleasure, Or you turn down some guy at the bar and they take it as a challenge and maybe they can now have two girls instead of one. It’s dehumanizing and gross. Being queer has always held me apart from most. Being known is truly difficult.

One of my mutuals on another platform posted the quote at the top this week, and I have some mixed feelings about it. To Clarify the feelings are not about my mutual but the quote itself that was posted on twitter. (I found it on their page and quoted it word for word but I’m horrible with links so if you want to see it I’ll do my best or just search it I guess lol.) This person is someone I hold a lot of respect for in my community. They are a transperson, are very visible as a transperson with their partners. With the dangerous conditions in America right now for our community, transpeople especially, trans poly people even more so. The strength to follow the heart when things are tough, persevering, it is irreplaceable. It did get me thinking though, and I have a lot of questions. What does it even mean to be visibly queer? Is there a definition? Is it a box to check off to feel “included”? 

To Me: For pride month it’s important to support the things you believe in, for yourself and others. Sharing individual and personal struggles to bring awareness and education during this month is great! I always learn so much this time of year. I will say this though, I don’t like such generalized statements. This quote is fine for specific groups, but doesn’t always apply to the community as a whole and I hope I can properly articulate why I think this. First queer people are diverse! A lot of people in the community ‘pass’ as cisgendered heterosexual couples but could be bi or pan or ace (or closeted). The other thing that comes to mind is you could be single! I am! and maybe that is why this bothered me so much, both of these apply to me. I am nonbinary and have been told and done my own research to tentatively know I am technically part of the transcommunity although I never felt I truly “count” whatever that means, and would not label myself that way, the statement felt almost criticizing??... I’m not sure. I’m as plain jane as they come. Dark long hair, nail appointments and feminine clothes are being reincorporated into my space from what I couldn’t explore in childhood. I do pass as cis. and I know how important those kinda statements are so I’m not saying it’s inherently wrong.... I guess what I’m trying to say to you and myself is you don’t have to be visible to count. We all have different challenges and what I experience will be different from you. I want to use this post to personally recognize the groups that may get overlooked or receive a not so warm welcome because we all know our own commuity can be very exclusive. Bi, poly, ace and pan people get flack from both sides, straight and queer a like. Maybe that’s why it’s taken me two days to get this out on a page. During these trying times I believe we must speak out for others, not just ourselves. We are here, We are Queer, We are united. No one gets left behind. We must strive to be open-minded and curious to our differences. If you got this far thank you for taking the time to read this. Happy Pride Month my friends!

#Pride month #happy pride 🌈 #happy pride #personal thoughts #Personal processing #love being feminine #Pleasing my innerchild #intersectionality #intersectional pride #queer pride #queer #support transgender #support bisexuality #support asexuals #support poly persons #support NB people #support pansexuals #Support those closeted #I see you even if you aren't visible #Why is straight the default

[misterradio]

#original nonsense #image described #youtube #roly polys #made me smile. didnt even watch it i just love this thumbnail image and title combo #iwas trying to find this persons playthrough of the old chuteng translation but didnt find it. wait nvm i just did yay #edit: oh i did not realize this would blow up. well now i have to watch this video hehe. please also watch it so support him ::-) #i watched it and it was very funny ::-) made me smile. its very silly so dont expect too serious of a review. #i better see that view count go up okay.

[datamodel-of-disaster]

Why why why do I keep getting recommended TERF blogs and posts. Go away I don’t want you on my For You page.

#i do not check bios and I’m not about to start #but fuck TERFs #fuck them and fuck their shitty ideas #this blog is run by a queer kinky poly nonbinary person #and I do not support any of that radfem bullshit

[homosociallyyours]

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#idk how to explain it but like. #was talking to my ex earlier and he is falling in love again #and there's a part of me that's sad about it bc it's been so long and i am way too messed up to fall in love again #but the biggest part of me was just immediately filled with genuine joy #i want for him something as good as what we had or better #which is a tall order tbh bc we did have something very good #but i think there's real possibility this time and that makes the little bit of ache ok #I'll be honest-- i have never been able to figure out where i fall in the poly/mono spectrum #but times like these push me toward poly? #bc when i love someone their joy brings me joy even if I'm not the source of it #and i know i might have to push to keep in touch more (hard) but mostly i just want this person i care about #to have the love and support they deserve #ignore that I'm crying rn though im not sad just nostalgic and touch starved and lonely and drowning

[betweenblackberrybranches]

Berry I'm begging you on my knees, next time you make an au PLEASE mention their relationship! I love your art, I love your art style so much im ready to print it on a cake and eat it, I love your storytelling about your aus, but I would rather eat glass than ship them so i tend to be cautious about aus, and I have been here since when you first posted about rlgl and them called celestial twins gave me a green light on them being brothers. It's OKAY!! Mistakes happen and it's okay! Just for the next time, Please mention their relationship beforehand.(or at least if they're a couple or not) (And, maybe you should change celestial twins? Maybe celestial duo or something, so people won't get confused/misunderstand)

I'm so sorry I'm making this a big deal I'm not sure myself why I'm upset about something silly like this

Ah no its fine, if this is something that is important to you its understandable that you get upset! I am really sorry that this oversight of mine upset you like that. I hope though that you can still enjoy the other aus but if this made you uncomfortable with my blog or something that is understandable too.

I will try to mention the kind of their relationships early on if i make any new aus.

Though i am not sure if i wanna change them being called celestial twins at work? Because it just kinda feels like thats something faz. co would do. Though maybe i could make it a poll asking if you guys are uncomfortable with it and if enough people are uncomfortable i would change it.

#i ramble #yea okay ill fire up that poll now i just gotta think about if i make it a day or week long one #as a poly person myself i just tend to make the y/n and dca relationships poly too with everyone loving and supporting everyone #to be fair its also often open for interpretation #anyways sorry again

[naminethewitch]

I've been thinking about the whole 'Who is Tech Support John texting?' thing and how Lily said she thinks it's between the author who gave him his second duck or the rainbow bridge lady and there have been hints to either with John testing a scenario and visiting the bridge a few times and honestly? I would love it if the answer was that it's both of them. Hell's Belles hasn't had much poly rep and while I think John might not be the best fit since he seems to still get used to being close to people in general, I think he would be able to navigate that since he's very direct. We'll see of course but I think he deserves two nice ladies as his partners 😉

#hell's belles #sea.ya.later #hells belles #hellsbelles #tik tok series #speculation #tech support john #I just think it would be neat #but even if it turns out it's just one of them or neither and he's just good friends with them doesn't matter to me #but I would love some poly rep behind the desk #love how committed lily & bel and penny & greg and ruggy & angel and judy & james are #but it's possible to be committed to more than one person #and it's one of the few queer identities we haven't explored at all #along with aro I think #because as far as I know sharky is ace but not aro #or at least it hasn't been stated what their romantic attraction is

[altar-ov-plagues]

Bro is now mentioning on his tinder bio that he is looking for a monogamic relationship and now no matches are flowing 😌

#untrusty hoes everygodamnwhere #but seriously stop supporting this poly trend #nobody knew this shit existed now someone mentioned and all hollow minds with no personality and self discipline had to copy paste #leave it be don't hate them at least we can tell who they are and avoid or block them like i do 👌🏻✨ #people want to be a second option and hurt so bad lol it's crazy

[wonderbolts-stan]

My polyam ships!!!

#ummmm lots of unicorns are poly #hehehe i didnt notice until i was doing the gen 5 lot #mmmm #idw Tempest was only happy tempest out there #very sad in the movie T-T #my agenda is what if Misty had TWO supportive gfs #startrixburst #will i tag them all #um #naw #mlp #mlp gen 5 #misty brightdawn #also if you dont recognise the flag its the new poly flag!!!! #i love it much better than the pi one #personally #really i could Sunset to the top 3 but like then it would be uneven and id cry #so #caspar rambles #my edits #mlp icons #sunny starscout #izzy moonbow

[cthoniccompanion]

it's been like two years but I'm still thinking about how good the romance is in hades game

#the relearning and recontextualizing of meg and zag killing each other repeatedly #the concept of death and life incarnate being inexorably drawn #the supportive romantic poly relationships with them both #even the rejections from achilles and dusa!!! #no one else is doing it like sgg #hades game #personal

[raininyourblackeyes]

I just found out that my best friend doesn't think trans people should be allowed to compete in sports in their respective disciplinnes with cis people and I-

I've been on case of changing her mind for past half an hour it's not going well omg I hate this

#she just keeps bringing how it's disadvantageous to cis women and i'm here losing my mind #because nothing i say seems to be convincing her wtf she is the last person i expected to be like this #it feels surreal #tbh not the first time one of my friends who are fierce allies of queer community randomly says some bullshit and can't change their mind #you just have to shake your head and say some of 'balkanski seljo' mentality still remains #but i didn't expect it from her of all people #anyways i need to move the fuck away #because all my friends think i'm too radical in supporting sfuff like poly relationships/ same sex couples having kids/ and this apparently #and i make a point of not being friends with obviously queerphobic assholes that's why i do have so little friends #and even they have these shitty attitudes sometimes

[artemisaed]

#from kile #vi feel like vi shouldn't call vyself gray-aroace anymore #not because vi don't connect with the term. vi absolutely do connect with the term and it just Clicks in a way that other terms dont #but every post vi see says ''aroaces dont feel love'' ''aroaces dont ever want relationships'' ''all aroaces have 38034083480 qpps and HATE #and DESPISE all allos and any normal relationships'' and similar stuff #and like vi absolutely support people who dont want romantic/sexual/normative relationships! if you dont feel love then thats awesome! #one of vy best friends is a loveless aro who doesnt want any romantic relationships and vi think ze's amazing for that #vi think amatonormativity is stupid and dumb and nobody should be forced to conform to any standards of ''your relationship has to be like #this!'' #but vi just. dont feel like vi should be in the community. vi feel romantic love and vi am in an at least semi-normative mono relationship #vi dont hate allos or relate to even most of the ''all aspecs relate to this'' posts or want to be poly or hate all romance or any of the #other things that are defining features of the aspec community. vi feel stupid and privileged and like vi dont belong here and vi feel like #vi'm taking away their safe spaces by being here because vi'm not aspec enough and vi don't share their hatred for romance/love and vi'm #basically the amatonormative person that theyre all supposed to be fighting against because vi'm just so extremely not aspec. if you ignore #the fact that vi dont feel attraction very often then vi'm literally just another 100% allo person. vi dont belong in aspec communities and #vi'm afraid that vi'm hurting people by being here because vi'm not really aspec enough. vi cant really put into words exactly why vi have #this uncomfortable lonely hated feeling?? vi cant even describe the feeling well its just. every time people talk about ''omggggg allos do #this and aspecs do that'' vi relate to both of them but usually vi relate to allos more because its always like. ''allos need relationships #and aspecs dont lol we're so much better and cooler aren't they sick freaks for wanting love and romance wow how childish and gross'' #and vi just feel. so alone

[languri]

I wish people understand how fucking awful polygamy is in a religious context because I have seen so so many woman being fucked over due to religion loopholes and god fuck I hate being a woman in this country for this reason 🙃🙃🙃

#isl*mic marriage is the worst fucking thing ever happen to woman because we cant fucking fight for divorce #cuz its up to the husband if they want a divorce or not and if youre a woman and you are very persistent and insistent and desperate for- #a divorce you have to go through a very lenghty and messy fight in sy*riah court #and even then you are not divorce unless the husband says they divorce you #you guys dont understand that because of this reason some shitty men really used these power just to keep their spouse around their clutch #let me reiterate: im saying poly relationship fucking sucks in an isl*mic context due to how unfair and prejudice it is towards woman #i dont mind and really really support poly in a healthy consenting adults context #if anyone wants me to talk further about this i am very glad to talk about this and also vent #because this topic is very personal to me and i can really talk about this if anyone wants me to talk about it personally #asukablyat

[moricodex]

Sobs in bipolar Is fine, I'm gonna work on fanfic so I can let the angst out.

#When silence is a trigger #ahhhh #when your poly fam/loves all are on the asp spectrum including yourself #*flop* #Overwhelmed by others online that need support & people in person you see who need support #I need battery recharge or ima be a hot mess #Iamalreadyalowkeymess #normalize social breaks for people with aspd & in general

[homoeroticvillain]

i should post about selfship stuff of here more again

#maybe ill like reformat my carrd again and rb an ask meme tmrrw #anyways i was looking through my asks tag on here cause i was trying to remember my own oc info #and remembered that i really do like talking about selfship stuff #or really sharing any of my daydream stuff #also noticed how much my ideal is always like living with both my partner and my like silly little rabbit #just for a lot of them we have an extra roommate that my/our relationship with changes #like me and midori have shin obvs #me and aradia have sollux #i dont live with akira but we both still have akechi #although id argue its more the other way around #and even the [not selfship] 707/mc au thing has saeren living with them #you need an extra person there for emotional support <3 #local man hardcodes third wheels into his selfships #obvs they arent always 3rd wheels you know a love a poly thing too but still #anyways yeahh expect some selfships stuff tmrrw #klepto talks to himself

[royalreef]

#Most secret royal advisor || OOC #(( tbf tho in ravi's case #(( she would kiiiiinda have weird feelings about forming a poly relationship #(( just from where she is Right Now #(( like miranda is still poly ofc #(( and it would likely still be on the table in the future #(( (when shit is more settled and they can start on all the domestic stuff that they want to) #(( just because...... well shes kinda having everything about her life ripped up at the moment! #(( she's finally admitting she doesnt want to rule! that daddy hurts her a lot and she maybe does want him to die! #(( that the merkingdom ISNT perfect and actually she WOULD like to maybe fuck it up!!!! #(( hell she's finally even just. SAID some of the really deep problems that she's constantly dealing with #(( and just wont admit to herself #(( hell right now she is STILL mid-HUGE FUCKING FIGHT with bellanda #(( and dealing with the single person who shes wholeheartedly trusted all her life holding SERIOUS secrets from her #(( and just. her own past starting to come to light and be revealed to her. #(( and i think where she is with aaravi At The Moment. #(( it would just be too much yaknow? #(( its not that she doesnt want to or isnt okay with it its just then is a REALLY bad time #(( like ive said before she needs a LOT of emotional support and people to look out for her #(( for when the floor starts falling apart underneath her and her denial stops protecting her #(( and adding navigating a new person in that relationship wouldnt help #(( see also: miranda is REALLY used to other royals trying to downplay her and ravi's relationship #(( because they view her as an Outsider and basically just a weird pet they REALLY want out of the way but cant get out of the way #(( so she is. a little touchy on that front right now just because she's dealing with Bullshit. #(( she kinda just wants to have Wife Time for a while before thinking about someone else adding to that

[thatonegreenleaf]

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