#orangescented-gyummi

[ftmtftm]

Transmeds think everyone is romanticizing the trauma of being trans or something, but in reality- it’s not all about them.

Someone getting funky with gender while I suffer from mine, is not about me. I probably won’t ever understand xenogenders, neopronouns, etc. and like?? That’s okay, because I still respect them. Not understanding something doesn’t mean you gotta ignore or dismiss it.

It’s not like I can’t relate to anon in someways- I’ve once described my transness as a disease, an illness I was cursed with, that I have to hide…

My therapist said we should probably work on at least accepting it and my overall self love..so yeah, anon, please please consider doing something more healthy with your feelings & thoughts. Instead of yelling at random folks on the internet.

It truly is a projection of pain, which is something really sad.

This is marginally tangential but it's also why I think transmeds make easy targets for radfems and TERFs. Radical feminism operates on a similar level: You are angry about the system you are forced into so you lash out and project and expect everyone to have the same experiences, thoughts, and feelings as you. When they don't? They hate you. They are attacking you and your experiences personally.

It's flawed and very often stems from a place of self loathing and/or unaddressed trauma. (Which is why I love the way bell hooks writes and talks - I've said it before and I'll say it again but when my ex-gf said bell hooks' words sound therapeutic she was right - but I digress).

I'm glad you had your therapist there to help you and were able to find more acceptance for yourself! That's hard work and it's something to be proud of.

#asks #orangescented-gyummi

[feluka]

https://www.tumblr.com/orangescented-gyummi/738915026246746112/whats-your-opinion-on-the-ao4otw-lead-group

Oh my god the fandom brainrot it's actually real, imagine caring more about a fanfic site still giving you your child assault porn than a literal genocide going own. Spineless doesn't describe these scums anymore

OP from the link has me blocked but i can predict what's going on there. i've seen so much of that that i don't bother anymore to respond to them because it's clear we're just fundamentally incompatible people and i can't get to them and they can't get to me so i just move on tbh.

#asks #csa tw #child abuse tw