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[think-queer]

Why is this weird anime Dobby the icon Tumblr chose for this text post? Why must I see creepy anime Dobby whenever I open my own blog? Why does Tumblr torture me like this?

#untqgged #undescribed #off tqpic

[think-queer]

I keep saving posts as drafts either because it's a reblog I want to read/watch when I have more spoons or an original post I want to make sure I'm wording right. But my health has been so bad for so long now that I have over 150 saved drafts and I'm not sure if I'll ever get to all of them...

#tqlk #off tqpic #tq personal #so tired

[think-queer]

Please remember that there are people who genuinely cannot get vaccinated because of real health issues. They are not the same as anti-vaxxers and should not be treated like them.

The people who aren't able to be vaccinated are one of the reasons it's so important that everyone who can be vaccinated is vaccinated. Herd immunity helps protect the people most vulnerable.

I understand the feelings behind people saying that anyone who doesn't immediately disclose that they're vaccinated must be anti-vaxxers, but please remember that some people really can't be vaccinated and shouldn't have to give a detailed explanation of what health issues are preventing them.

#to be clear i really hate anti-vaxxers with a burning passion #specifically because i know people who would get vaccinated if they could but can't #and they're put in danger by anti-vaxxers #tqlk #off tqpic

[think-queer]

I just have to say, I am so sick of the way abled people portray disability in media.

I am especially sick of the way that our bodies and aids are portrayed as horrifying.

The tap of a cane is not menacing, the squeak of a wheelchair is not ominous, a blind person's eyes are not creepy.

Stop treating us like monsters, and stop ignoring when your favorite media treats us like monsters.

#tqlk #ableism mention #off tqpic #tq tired

[think-queer]

I've been seeing an increase of memes praising people who have never gotten covid, and there's a lot of focus on how people who haven't caught covid must have taken a huge amount of precautions (which is true on some level) but I would also like to ask that we also acknowledge the amount of privilege that allows people to avoid covid.

I haven't caught covid. That is in part because I haven't been going to social events or anything "fun" that might put me at risk, but it's also because I'm privileged enough that I don't have to work at a place that puts me at risk. I have taken as many precautions to protect myself and those around me, but that's only because I'm privileged enough to have that option.

Please keep in mind that many people have no choice but to expose themselves to covid, many people have to work at jobs that put them at risk. There are certainly people who catch covid because they made irresponsible or risky decisions, but covid should not be treated as something that people only catch if they weren't careful enough.

#off tqpic #idk if this makes any sense #untqgged

[think-queer]

Not to get overly personal, but I had a very unhappy childhood. I didn't have any adults in my life that I even felt safe around other than a couple of teachers that were only in my life for a year or two. I experienced a lot of abuse and I still live with a lot of trauma and anger...

And I am absolutely sick of "think of the children" type arguments. I'm sick of people using my trauma as a weapon for their morality crusade, or their fandom drama, or to justify their own personal discomfort about a topic. It's honestly insulting and it just ends up feeling like an extension of my abuse. My abusers used me for whatever they wanted and now I continue to get used by people who claim they want to help me or prevent other kids from experiencing what I did. It makes me absolutely sick.

My trauma is something that affects every aspect of my life and it's still a struggle to get through many days. Abuse and trauma isn't just some hypothetical or tool for you use to win arguments. It's a real thing that I have to live with every day for the rest of my life.

#off tqpic #untqgged #untqgged pt #I'm going through a really rough time recently and i keep thinking about this #it's not even really motivated by anything in specific happening #im just tired of feeling used #like I'm not seen as a person #its even worse when i see someone weaponizing trauma when they're also a survivor #youd think they would be more considerate and not act like everyone's experience with trauma is the same #but sometimes other survivors still talk like we're just tools

[think-queer]

If someone has a history with restricting their eating then it can result in them no longer experiences hunger and their stomach shrinking so it becomes physically painful to eat a healthy amount of food. Of course at that point the person would have been struggling with an eating disorder for a long time, and would most likely be having a significant amount of other health issues caused by malnutrition.

If you know anyone who is recovering from an eating disorder and they mention that they are reaching a point where they feel hunger again or that it's possible for them to eat a full meal again it is incredibly inappropriate to make any kind of comment about how you've been trying to eat less for your diet or you wish you didn't feel hungry so often. Having an eating disorder is not fun or healthy, it's awful and treating it like it's a convenient way to lose weight just makes things worse.

#this post inspired by my mom who keeps saying things like this #i thought this kind of thing would be obvious but apparently not #disordered eating mention #eating disorder mention #restricting mention #ask to tqg #off tqpic

[think-queer]

Even if you don't think that people need to stop using words like "idiot" and "dumb" there should be no reason to be against simply educating people about the root of these words.

I personally don't assume people are ableist if they use this kind of language, I'm absolutely guilty of using that language at times too.

But knowing the history of these words makes me think more about whether or not I want to use them, whether using these words alligns with my morals. If I want to say someone made a bad decision, do I really want to use a word that was diagnosis which excused forced sterilization and imprisonment? Is there another word I can use?

At the very least it's important to understand what message you might be sending. If you regularly call people "stupid" or tell them to "touch grass" then think about what implications you're making, what values you're communicating. Do you want to imply that you believe everyone has easy access to nature? Do you want to say that you believe "intelligence" is a measure of human worth?

When you see these posts listing ableist terms that are deeply ingrained into our language, please take some time to think about it. It is a good thing for people to be aware of the origins and implications of this kind of language. It even shows just how little people consider casual ableism, which can tie into discussions of other forms of casual ableism.

I do not think that words like "dumb" or "idiot" are slurs. However they are harmful and I encourage people to make some effort to think about the way they use these words and consider alternatives.

#tqlk #off tqpic #long post #tq orig #ableism mention #ableist language cw

[think-queer]

I think people need to understand that sometimes PTSD can come with a lot of anger, and that anger isn't always directed at the people who might deserve it. Sometimes trauma can result in a huge amount of rage just at the world in general, and sometimes people do in fact take that out on the people around them.

That doesn't mean that everyone with PTSD is an abuser, or even that PTSD makes people abusive, and it doesn't excuse anyone for being abusive.

I just find it extremely exhausting when people talk about mental illness as if the only people who deserve help are the people who are pure innocents who have never hurt anyone. Everyone deserves mental health support, even terrible people. Mental healthcare should not be a privilege for people to earn.

#i have a lot of thoughts on this #but a lot of them are hard to phrase in a way that makes sense #i know some people are going to misinterpret this #my head hurts... #i wish it was possible to talk about the ugly parts of mental illness without it coming across as demonization #abuse mention #ask to tqg #off tqpic

[think-queer]

Is it your goal to make a social group of individuals who are morally pure, or is it your goal to work towards making a difference in the world? Because it can't be both.

If you want to make a difference then you need to learn how to talk to people and convince them of your ideas. And sometimes that is a slow process that can't be done at once. If you want to make a difference then you have to accept that sometimes you will have to get along with people that you disagree with on some small matters but agree on your goal. If you want to make a difference then you need to accept that people who are good now may have done bad things in the past.

If you want to make a difference you cannot focus on 100% moral purity.

#untqgged #tqlk #off tqpic #tq tired

[think-queer]

I wish people on here were more open to discussions of casual ableism. Whenever I someone even attempt to point out casual ableism, especially in insults, they get called over sensitive even and mocked.

When you use casually ableist insults it can make it seem like you view disabled people as lesser. Putting in a small effort to find alternatives to certain phrases and words can make a difference. Even just acknowledging that those words and phrases can be hurtful to some people is honestly a great help, too many people are comfortable dismissing the feelings of disabled people instead of listening to us.

#tqlk #off tqpic #ableism mention #might elaborate later but i don't know

[think-queer]

I always say "good morning" to my cat when she wakes up. It doesn't matter what time it is, I always say 'good morning.' Even if it's 10pm. She usually meows when she wakes up and I would just feel rude ignoring her.

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[think-queer]

I just noticed that I've lost about 30 followers in the past day. The thing is that Tumblr is such a broken website that I genuinely have no idea if all those people unfollowed me because they disagreed with me about something, or if Tumblr broke and they don't even know they unfollowed me, or maybe those were all bots that finally got banned.

I just find it funny that I'm so used to Tumblr being non-functional that my follower number is almost completely meaningless to me.

#i only noticed it changed because it didn't change for about a week qnd i just got used to it being at the same number #then it dropped and I can't think of anything i did recently that might have made people unfollow #it's fine if people do unfollow #im not bothered by it #i just find it interesting #tqlk #off tqpic

[think-queer]

Tumblr keeps telling me I have a message in my askbox, but it won't show me the message because I reported it for spam (it was a bot)

This may sound like a joke, but as someone with OCD this has been very upsetting.

I hate this website sometimes.

#off tqpic #if it was at least a multiple of 25 it wouldn't be so bad #but its just 1

[think-queer]

Happy gregorian new year to those who celebrate

#off tqpic #i feel like this reads like a shitpost #tqlk

[think-queer]

I just made a new account @thinkqueer to use for replies and possibly asks. I won’t actually be posting anything there so there’s really no reason to follow that account, I just wanted to mention it so people know it’s actually me.

#not that I'm popular enough for people to impersonate #just thought I'd mention it #tq update #off tqpic