#just felt like rambking about that. arospecs u are soooo valid

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#rambling in the tags about smthn i dont want ppl to misinterpret #but as much as aromanticism is valid and everything #i think we should start talking about the fine line and overlays of aro specs and ppl who have avoidant/disorganized attachment styles #for 10 years i thought i was aro #or demiromantic or something bc i didnt think i had much capability of loving nor was i interested in it #but no now im realizing no i want to be romantic i want it so bad i want affection i want all of that #i just have a fearful avoidant attachment style so its difficult for me to really REALIZE and accept my feelings #all the while being terrified of being abandoned and forgotten about and unloved #had no clue what attacment styles were until a few months ago and im like oh thats why i feel that way. it makes more sense #than saying im aro #not saying its impossible to have a dismissive or fearful avoidant attachment AND be aro. #i 100% believe my mom is aro but she is also dismissive avoidant. shess okay without love and affection in her life #she feels too suffocated when love is too much #bht no sir not i not my fearful avoidant ass. #and i think its important to educate people on that esp if they feel like arospec isnt an identity they feel comfy with #bc its like? but AM i really that?? #i could explain this better but not quite sure how to LMAO jts still early #just felt like rambking about that. arospecs u are soooo valid #anyone questioning if theyre arospec look up attachment styles. its rreally helped me out #text