#it works for either date or jenate bc you just know he'd drop that name mmmkay

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re: last name marriage discourse, personally i’m fond of the headcanon that both blair and dan adopt waldorf-humphrey as a double-barreled last name, so that way they both have to change it. i think it fits the whole “we’re a team” vibe <3

awwww yeah I do love the "we're a team" vibe. but, and this is just my personal preference, hyphenated last names are sooooo clunky, and not really my thing. and in writing fic there's just....something really delicious about one character taking the name of their partner. like, the intimacy and the tie and the..."we are a family and so we have the same name" I mean, the latest song lyric title of mine in my latest fic (wow that was so timely of me well done liz) is one of my favortie lyrics ever:

Always remember there's nothing worth sharing Like the love that let's us share our name

that's what it's all about for me babey! though I will admit, in the case of Dair, I like them just holding on to their own names, maybe it's a bit of that fictional character thing that their names are so perfect as is, but it's also about Blair being and staying Blair Waldorf. and maybe it's bc this show is so old but when she gets married her changing her name ain't even a question. It's Blair Grimaldi. It's Blair Bass (ick.) and if her arc is about her learning to become her own self in all her dualities and contradictions (which is how *I* choose to see it), then her keeping her maiden name in her marriage to Dan is just *chef's kiss* for me.

there are specific qualifications where I do love Blair Humphrey more because I am a soft romantic sap and I can direct you to those offerings on my ao3 ;)

#waldorf-humphrey is just such mouthful too damn #dan would offer to change his name to dan waldorf and mean it with his whole chest #I actually know a friend of a friend (lol ik) whose husband took her last name when they married #because he felt more a part of her family than the family he had from his father. #related: my most beloved agenda is nate humphrey actually #it works for either date or jenate bc you just know he'd drop that name mmmkay #(i have a friend getting married next year. and while it is totally up to them and their decision and I shan't make it for them....) #(I kinda hope he ends up taking her name. I already call them the Smiths* in my head anyway. and his parents are real Stinkers...anyways... #as for me. I frickin love my whole name. and I think I'm just gonna keep on keeping it #asks #anon #gg meta #dair #it has been. forever since I got this ask (sorry) so I don't even remember what discourse/posts anon is referring to #but that's okay #i do have this tag: #wifeguy dan waldorf