#imagine if in school the syllabus said 'basic classroom rules etc' instead of like. actually saying what was/wasn't allowed.

[hua-fei-hua]

actually my ideal role in a fan community would be that of philosopher, where i start asking mods/admins questions about the rules and what they Mean in order to obtain Maximum Clarity (for Neurodivergent Reasons(tm) ofc) and probably also promote greater understanding btwn community members and casuals looking in

#like. i think the greeks were onto something when plato(?) said that a government should have an official philosopher in it #it's that or it's just the 'child of church leaders' thing that led me to ask my parents abt community building n management at dinner today #bc i was curious as to whether any of what they'd learned in seminary school could apply to fandom or w/e #like. christianity kind of is just a fandom. a really massive fandom that has its creepy parts its unsavory parts it culty parts #its liberal sides/interpretations and its conservative sides/interpretations etc etc all bc of the existence of one source material #like scaling is ofc the major difference btwn christianity (a religion) and fandom (a hobby (i hope)) which results in very real power #but anyway they're both fragmented into littler denominations that have their spats as *communities* see that's the key here /community/ #anyway justification for using religious source/insp/whatever done what was i trying to get at here. #ah. well i guess an important role a philosopher would have in a community would be to prevent the formation of dogma #like. i hate it when people say things and expect common sense (or assumptions based on their personal worldview) to fill in the gaps #it's like my complaint abt how places have rules that literally JUST SAY 'don't be weird' #i've been in fandom long enough to know what you mean by 'weird'. BUT I'VE READ TOO MUCH ABT HISTORIANS GOING MAD BC NO ONE WRITES DOWN WHAT #THEIR BASIC ASSUMPTIONS ARE BC NO ONE THINKS TO THINK OF THEM LET ALONE QUESTION OR DEFINE THEM CLEARLY #RULES should be made clear such that people NOT ALREADY INTIMATELY FAMILIAR WITH THE COMMUNITY can understand them too!!!!! #imagine if in school the syllabus said 'basic classroom rules etc' instead of like. actually saying what was/wasn't allowed. #you probably could get away with that in middle/high school but they've been socialized to that sort of thing by then #idk vague rules n statements infuriate me to some degree and make me want to toe the line So Badly bc i was a horrible child lol #clarity of instruction and strict (but not cruel) enforcement that is based on understanding the rule's spirit and intent #are imperative to community maintenance and health imo #花話

[pamsfriedman]

Schools must change

So.... I'm a mom of 4. 4 beautiful, special amazing children, no better or worse than any other children, and just as precious! My eldest is 11 and is special needs and has gone through such turmoil over schools and fitting in, learning, etc. My second is 8 and in grade 2 , at a regular mainstream school, in a small class. You Both these amazing kids are thriving thank G a million times, but in this quest and finally opening up my eyes to what is actually happening in schools, I have some pretty serious concerns that as a parent I really think we should all be aware of! So this is my question..... The world has evolved in the last 100 years! So much change in every way! The pace of life, tools with which we work, instant everything! But the only thing that hasn't changed is school!!!!!!!!!! Except, the pressures are more, the days are longer, the homework has increased unmanageably! Kids can't be kids! There's no time to play or be creative or daydream or just chat! Instead of allowing our kids some 'boredom', we fill their free time with iPads and video games and hours of television! No exercise for their bodies or their brains! But as long as they not in 'your space' then they'll be fine! They are at school till forever each day and then there are all those therapies that we pay thousands annually for, because of all the above mixed together! Sure there are definite needs for therapies and I for one, am absolutely grateful to my most unbelievable team of therapists, without which I would be so lost, and so would my boys! But I just think....... if school was different and evolved?! Classrooms are too full for teachers to genuinely teach and be effectively interactive with each child. So there's no time for consolidation in class because there is basically 'crowd control'! Therefore consolidation happens at home with homework for each subject and this leaves our kids frustrated, and us as parents even more so! I for one don't do homework with my kids! I definitely suffer from an A type personality and don't have the patience, so I'm lucky enough to have an Aupair to help in the afternoons. This has spared my relationships with my kids, but Not every parent has the resources for this alternative! Being in the school system for the last 9 years I've realized that teachers are underpaid and disrespected! By both parents and students! Leaving them frustrated, unproductive and not really wanting to make lessons fun and exciting, but just trying to get through the day class by class! Ever imagined if you were totally unappreciated at work? Would you give more? I certainly wouldn't!! On the flip side..... I have come across some real beauts!! Those teachers that are mean and stuck in a power status where they think punitive measures will actually breed good results!! Those archaic, revolting things we pay to educate our precious children! Shame on you!!!!!!!! And then there are the principles, who hide behind their teachers and are too pathetic to be there for the children! That's your job!! To protect the system and that system should only work for the students in the system!! What about competition!!!! Most parents suffer from this atrocious condition...... that our kids need to be the BEST, the SMARTEST, the FASTEST, the most BRILLIANT at EVERYTHING, which makes our kids even more self conscious and more aware of their difficulties! This pressure to 'make their parents proud' is so uncondusive to what their true potential is! Why put any pressure at all? Just celebrate the effort, not the result!! The depression our kids are suffering, and the suicide rates getting profoundly higher and younger is such cause for alarm, yet we as parents look at each other and say..... shame, those poor parents, loosing a child so young! Or Shame those parents just didn't have a clue what was going on, but of course I do!! Really??????? What??????? Shame?????? Shame on us all that apply these ridulous pressures!! Instead of us and the school systems focusing on what our kids are good at and creating a healthy outlet for them to explore those interests more, we break them into fitting into these boxes that make them work harder on the things they naturally don't gravitate to. And they probably never will, and as a result, even if they could be amazing at that one thing that they are not good at, the pressure to be good at it or the best makes them hate it!! At that point the potential has long failed! Then add the fact that these ADHD meds need to be coupled with anti anxiety or antidepressant medication and then ask yourself.... what the hell am I doing?? This is a real cocktail I'm giving to my child of what 6? These are some serious drugs that you're giving these children!! What about the hugest elephant sitting in almost all our homes?? ADHD...... Ha!! I've done soooooooo much research and sooooooo much reading on this EPIDEMIC!! Everyone has their own insights and rules and information to give. There are so many opinions. But have you just looked at the actual facts and the 'feelings' these 'experts' have on the matter! I've realized, me, the A type personality that did relatively well without much effort at school is 100% ADD! I tick almost all the boxes! Quite a realization, since all my research has been done for my 8 year old that also ticks almost all the boxes! So this is my proposal or thoughts..... Before drugging our kids let's make a checklist! Let's really see if meds that are messing with the balances of our children's brains are actually necessary! What can we change so that the natural dopamine kicks in correctly and 'kids tune in' so to speak....... 1. Do we feed our children healthy food?What is healthy food? Is it chicken and rice with vegetables? Maybe.... Is it oats for breakfast? Maybe... Perhaps it's a peanut butter sandwich? Maybe.... Now all of that is much better than the other alternatives we generally shovel down our kids throats, cause we just don't have time!? But with all the hormones in our meats and mercury in our water for fish, and chemicals all over our crops, not much has real nutrients or value! There is the option of organic, but our water and soil are so depleted by the other elements I don't really think there is much we can do on a healthy food basis! Except try for the prior alternatives and not the latter! 2. School lunches.... What kind mommies you are! Sending your kids to school with awesome lunches, filled with cucumbers and carrots and a sandwich, topped off with those special I love you treats, called sugar!! Chocolates and biscuits and juice instead of water, causing sugar highs for children at school. Wow!! Well done moms, just give them a longer lasting pill to overcome the obvious distraction! 3. Oxygen! Not only do we get oxygen from water, but also a little physical work, can change the dynamic for our kids! Not at break time only, or once a week at Physical education. Or after school, at school to make the team! But actually during class, a few jumping jacks or a joke where everyone has a good laugh. 4. Smaller classes as I've said before, means each child feels important, each student is listened to and appreciated, and work is properly consolidated in class! 5. If teachers are passionate to teach, then students will be passionate about learning! How about some fun in the classroom? Some real interaction? Ever thought that maybe these kids are bored in your lesson and their minds are somewhere else because you just don't measure up? So then measure up and create amazing lessons, even if it might be easier to teach zombies! That probably hate your subject because it's still lacking interest! You are starving my child and every child and every child of EVER loving what you used to be passionate about! 6. Why on earth are our children learning long division?? When exactly are they ever as a professional, going to calculate anything in their heads PRECISELY? Or do any form of maths without a calculator of some sort?? Come on!!!!!!!!!! Maths is so important for many skills. So take out the the stuff that really doesn't make a difference long term, and make it alive! Let them enjoy the possibilities it can provide and the real skills they can use! 7. Here's the best one.... cursive writing!!! Ha ha ha!! Our poor children have to learn this for what?? 3 years of teaching them to write cursive, only to go to grade 8 and carry on in print and better yet, possibly only on an iPad?? 8. A longer school day for them, wow!! This one is beyond me!! What for?????? Is it because now on top of all the ridiculous work they are still teaching, that should have been cut 50 years ago from the syllabus, now there is also technology based subjects? Just think about it!! I would like to add a conversation I had with a fellow mom who has a 4 year old and a 3 month old! She just can't wrap her mind around the fact that her 4 year old finnishes school at 12:30! Why in earth do schools finish at such an early time? She said! I was completely gobbsmacked as I just thought, wow lady you are still procreating and can't handle having your child at home? That little person should be at school all day?? For what exactly?? If you can't manage having children as children and raising them yourself, then why have children?? Why should these little people be at school for longer? 9. Maybe the lessons that we should look at in this evolved world would change the dynamic of learning and the focus of our subjects should take a real shift! Perhaps we should see the strengths our students and young people of this world, and work on those! There will be more innovation and creative solutions to all the problems in the world! And probably no need for medication, because if you have the attention of these children then they can learn better! 10. The archaic school methods need to change, kids need to be kids and adults need to be adults. I say this because our kids are expected to be RESPONSIBLE, and LOGICAL, and basicallly ADULTS. And as an adult I would rather teach them skills and continue to teach them skills so that when they ARE adults they will be responsible and logical and productive members of society 11. Instant gratification!!!! In this instant world, where our kids get everything RIGHT NOW, is insane! It's contrary to raising well adapted and contributing members of society. It breeds nothing but dissatisfaction with everything! There's no more hard work at professions or marriage. The rates of unemployment and divorces are a clear indication of how my generation is suffering from this terrible condition!! Let's not do that to the next generation. Bake a cake from scratch with your kids every now and then and show them that everything has a process and patience and time! That everything requires this and that anything can be done! 12. Celebrate the differences of our children! Stop comparing them to their siblings or friends! That which makes them different will eventually make THE difference in this crazy world! In conclusion to my rant, I do believe that if everything on the checklist has been seen to and there is still a need for medication, then by all means, medicate! I am on a mission to get the systems changed for our perfect children so that maybe they will be valued for who they really are and what their potential really is! Make a world a better place for them and school a part of their incredible and enjoyable journey into adulthood, where they can be the best they can be! Please be loyal to your children! They are on loan! They are not your possessions, they deserve more thought and care! Be loyal to their amazing essence and joyful sense of life! Don't give in to these teachers that have boring lessons and make you feel the need to medicate your perfect child! Let's make a difference for them and change the school system! As parents united we are capable of doing anything!! No matter our differences, we are still raising the next generation together and they will go on to raise the next generation! #Schoolsmustchange!! Till next time.............

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