#i want to actually make a proper post or maybe eveb video essay abt all this one day but im on mobile waiting at a bus stop rn lol

[special-grade-fujioshi]

could u expand on what u mean about the rsd thing? bc i think i kinda know what ur getting at but yeah idk

Firstly please Do not reblog this, I don't have sources on hand immediately and for the sake of accountability online take what I say here w a grain of salt

But that said, like RSD isn't like a universally recognized concept, I have yet to find any articles on it that don't come from ADHDmag and the specific singular doctor who does all their research. I also have yet to really figure out what research he actually did to come up with the concept beyond like, an analysis of anecdotal reports of social difficulties experienced by ppl w ADHD.

Putting aside the limited research (because honestly I don't have sources on hand to back up that) I consider RSD to be part of just a major issue with the biomedical model of psychology in general in that it is the pathologizing of a societal issue. Not every ADHD person has RSD, I personally don't feel I have it, however many of us have experienced a great deal of social exclusion growing up on the basis of our disability that could reasonably have negative effects on our relationships with others in a variety of ways.

In my opinion even if RSD had a lot of research behind it and even if the guy who was writing it wasn't like being massively paid by the pharmaceutical industry (whole other can of worms but I found his finances last fall and among the many companies paying him to promote their products one of em is an amphetamines manufacturer), the whole concept of it is still saying "if you struggle with relationships, that's just part of your disability"

That is not affirming, that is not helpful. ADHD is something you have for life but it's comorbid mental health problems, depression, anxiety, RSD, etc, those can be recovered from and healed from. This RSD nonsense almost got it right by saying there ought to be more recognition for the social aspects of ADHD but telling young ppl "your disorder that you cannot change means you will always struggle this way with relationships" is toxic and destructive. You won't always feel that way, ADHD is not a curse of depression and loneliness. Ppl w social disabilities deserve to demand change with how society treated us, with how kids at school treated us, and we deserve a chance to heal from that and find peace with a part of ourselves we were born with.

My point being that there isn't something fucked up with my brain that makes it hard for me to form relationships with others but rather that I was treated cruelly by my peers for something I could not control and its taken work to heal to the point I'm at now but I'm proud of that and I no longer despise my ADHD, it isn't some destructive force ruining my life, it's just a way that I'm different from others and it breaks my heart to see other ppl coming to the conclusion they have ADHD and then immediately being told "and that's why you're depressed and struggle to form healthy relationships with others"

#asks #do not reblog #anotber anon asked abt this i hope this kinda answers it #i want to actually make a proper post or maybe eveb video essay abt all this one day but im on mobile waiting at a bus stop rn lol #long post