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The Rules

The Ten Commandments of Ownership

1. I confirm that I am my master's slave.

2. I give my master the right to have power over me.

3. I recognize my servitude My master does own me. I am my master's willing slave.

4. I am willing, eager i will do what my master asks of me.

5. I will not abuse that, and neither will my master. Therefore, if my Master orders me to do something I do not want to do, then I will not threaten to leave my master. And also, on Master's end, if Master wants me to do something that I seriously can not bring myself to do, Master has no right to make me.

6. I confirm that we have a relationship.

7. If one person isn't having a good time in the relationship, the relationship is useless and almost obscene. So, therefore, my master must give and take, and I must give and take. My master gives me the pleasure of being a slave and takes the pleasure of being a master. I take the pleasure of being a slave, and my master takes the pleasure of being a master.

8. I respect that on a legal, moral, philosophical, religious, platonic, and all levels that are not sexual, we are equals. Only in the time we have agreed on am I not equal to my master, and this is because I have let myself be small and my master has let become big. This is what makes the relationship equal.

9. I promise that I will not let being a slave ruin my self-confidence, and I hope that my master will not let Master's dominance inflate my master's self-esteem.

10. I admit that if my master does not like this relationship anymore, or if I do not like this relationship anymore, I confirm the normal right to either end the relationship, or end the BDSM part of the relationship.

Safety first

11. Both I and my master must each respect the principle of SSC, or "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".

12. If this is violated. master and i will discuss it and move forward.

13. There is a difference between feeling unsafe, and pain. Being unsafe is when something potentially harmful to the body happens. This could be anything from the possibility of choking from gags to blood loss, or the possibility of infection. Anything with serious health risks should be avoided at all costs. Pain is more like, a whipping, a spanking. You probably will not die or be seriously injured, if done properly and safely, from a whipping. However, if your master happens to think a good punishment is, say, slitting your wrist, that is unsafe. Also, he belongs in a mental institution.

14. Insanity is something that is ridiculous lying out of limits. An example: your master orders you to do 50 jumping jacks, while naked, in front of your local police station. Here are some general things (and this is a generalization, perhaps in select cases it could be different) If it could get you arrested, raped, hurt, injured, or at worst: killed, you a) should not do it, b) get out of that relationship.

15. Concentual means that both people are agreeing to do it. I am introducing something I devised myself; the three levels of concentuality.

Slave wants to do task: Greenest

Slave is okay doing task: Greener

Slave can do task: Green

An example for each.

Suppose you are really into ageplay, and your master also enjoys it. Your master says that you'll spend one day being a baby. Greenest (you want to be your master's baby)

Suppose you can tolerate, say, cross-dressing. Your master orders you to do it. Greener (You tolerate it but don't want to do it)

Suppose you have been naughty (hopefully not!) and your master decides to whip you. Green (You don't want to do it, and it's not something you'd normally do, but it is not something you can't do- it's not against your limits.)

16. You have the right and responsibility to limits.

17. A limit cannot be anything you don't really want to do. A limit is something that for some psychological, physical, irrational, rational, or human reason you can simply not bring yourself to do. A master who has a slave with arachnophobia should not and can not chain the slave down, and put a hairy spider on the slave!

18. One of your first and most important responsibilities as a slave is to inform your master of all your limits.

19. There are soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are breakable. Like, say you for some reason you can not masturbate in front of your master. If this is a soft limit, your master can take you, with baby steps, through this soft limit until you've eaten threw it completely.

20. If it is a soft limit of mine, my master can slowly take it away. But if my master moves too quickly, I retain the right to ask my master to slow down (politely, of course).

21. Hard limits I may never get rid of. Sometimes they might turn to soft limits. My master must respect my hard limits.

22. I have a safeword. If this word is uttered in a task or a punishment, my master must stop immediately.

23. I will never use a safeword unless my master has transgressed one of my limits, or if I legitimately think something is unsafe, insane, or unconsentual.

24. Using it otherwise is frowned upon, and I can and should be punished for it.

25. If I am unable to say a safeword, (like if I am gagged) my master will and must tell me something else to do to inform me if he has transgressed my limits or if it is insane, unsafe, or unconsentual.

Bill of Rights

26. I retain the right to have a relationship between me and my master.

27. I retain the right to limits.

28. I retain the right to have my own life aside from the relationship I have with my master; this includes work, friends, studies, social events, and any family or religious events. However, I must work with my master to formulate a schedule, and if I need time that he has with me, I will ask him first. (if you are a live in slave, and you are working, any money you earn goes to your master, he decides how it is spent).

29. I retain the right of having the relationship between me and my master not purely sadomasochistic; there should be other elements as well.

30. I retain the right to a time period in which I have the ability to talk freely and openly, if not disrespectfully, about what I seriously believe about how this relationship is going, and what my master and I both could do to improve.

31. I retain the right to aftercare if I need it.

32. I retain my right to a safeword.

33. I retain all other rights I have discussed with my Master.

Now that I've just gotten all those freebies... It's time for something I have to do!

34. I will respect my master.

35. My master has control over me.

36. Master's command is what I must do. As long as it is not insane, unsafe, unconsentual, or in violation of my limits, I will do what he orders me. (We assume from here on out that commands are not in violation of limits, unsafe, insane, or unconsentual.)

37. Master's command is my pleasure. No matter what it is; whether it is degrading, whether it is painful, whether it is humiliating, whether it is disgusting. No matter, I must do it. I must do it.

38. Master will respect me as long as I respect him.

39. I will do his commands as best to my abilities. I will follow his orders with as much rigor as I can muster, and with the most exactitude possible.

40. I am his slave.

Some generic rules*

*I do not promise or confirm that your master will demand these things of you. I would like to reiterate that these rules were not written to be a standard. I am merely writing this to give an alternative view to that of the other 128.

41. I will refer to my Master directly however Master commands me to. This means that I will never answer Master, "Yes" but rather (for example) "Yes, Master" or "Yes, Sir" or "Yes, Ma'am".

42. Never will I refer to my master by name, unless Master has specifically ordered or asked me to do so.

43. When I am talking about my Master to someone else, I still then will not call Master by his proper name, but the honorific or title he has told me to use.

44. I must be well-nourished. Therefore, not just for Master but also for myself, I will try to stay healthy. For Master, it is perhaps for the looks. Or perhaps he legitimately wants to see me healthy. For me, it must never be about the looks. I must never have a low self-esteem, either because of my position or because of exterior things.

45. I will always do my best. For master, and for life in general.

46. While we are in a session, Master's pleasure is of greater importance than of mine. Hopefully, however, his pleasure will be my pleasure.

47. I will not think of others lustfully.

48. I will not date, go out with, or become romantically involved with anyone apart from my Master. Master will do the same*.

49. I will nto have another Master. Master will not have another slave*.

50. I will not have sex in any capacity, be it oral, anal, or vagina with anyone but Master. Master will follow suit*.

(* There is a fetish that exists called cuckold play. If this is a part of your relationship, then your Master is exempt from these three rules only if a) you have agreed on it, b) you understand that paradoxically he is having sex with others for your pleasure, at least in part.)

51. My master owns my body. I am just an 'object' and nothing more to Master. An object for Master's pleasure.

52. Master 'owns' all of my body. My eyes, my ears, my nose, my arms, my legs, my heart, my lungs, my toes, my feet, my fingers, all of my body. (FOR GIRLS) His/Her toys are my breasts, my nipples, my pussy, my mouth, my ass. (FOR BOYS) His/Her toys are my cock, my balls, my ass, my mouth. (EVERYONE) Therefore, I will not play with Master's toys unless I have been given explicit and specific permission from Master or a command from master.

Trust

53. I confirm my trust in my Master. I trust he will keep me well. I trust he will honor my rights, and I trust he will take care of me.

54. I trust he will take care of my body. I trust he will take care of my mind. I trust he will make sure all of my needs, be they physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, psychological, or sexual.

55. I will trust my master. in all things, in all ways, for he knows what he is doing and has my best interest in mind.

56. However, I will trust him until he transgresses my limits or SSC.

57. When such a transgression occurs, I must trust he will make it up to me, so that I will fully trust him once more.

Tasks

58. I will do any task my master orders me.

59. I will try to do it to the best of my abilities.

60. If this task is within my limits, safe, sane, and consensual, I will do my best. If one of these aspects is outside of my limits (for example, humiliation) then I am exempt from it.

61. This task will always be serving both my pleasure and my masters. Sometimes more of my pleasure, sometimes more of Masters. I will either be working for my master or entertaining my master.

62. This task may be painful. He or she may ask me to cause myself pain (such as spanking yourself), accept pain he or she administers to me (such as a whipping), or perhaps accept pain from exterior causes (such as having toothpaste rubbed around the genital region). Pain is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this type of task.

63. This task may be degrading. It may usually be roleplay (some examples; ageplay, forced feminization, petplay, etc...) which usually utilizes other types of entertainment (such as humiliation). Degradation is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this type of task.

64. This task may be embarrassing or humiliating. Here, embarrassing is like a light humiliation. Embarrassment is something lighter, like for example a female walking around in public with a wet T-Shirt, or a male walking around in public with a wet spot on their pants. Humiliation is more like walking around on a leash through a busy street. This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

65. This task may be disgusting or messy. Disgusting usually involves human (or animal) waste. This would be something like drinking piss or having a golden shower. Messy is more food-based and could be like rubbing an egg yolk into your hair. Then again it could be both disgusting and messy. This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

66. This task may be sexual. This means that I may be ordered to fuck my Master, someone of my master's choosing, or act as a prostitute (whatever money is made through that act, is given to my master. It may also include masturbation, edgeplay, roleplay in sex, or sex toys. This is obviously used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

67. The task may include nudity, be it public or private. [Note: Public nudity is against the wall, so be very careful with what you do with this.] This is mostly used for entertainment. I will accept this task.

68. This task may involve chores. This could be anything from cooking to cleaning to acting as a secretary ( It may be done involving disgusting/messy (ex. cleaning out a toilet with your mouth- , with pain (ex. cooking while having clamps on), degradation (ex. a male cleaning the house with a French Maid outfit on), humiliation (ex. answering Master's phone saying, "This is Slave___, ____'s sex slave, who may I ask is calling?") sexuality and nudity (ex. cleaning naked. Gee, I didn't expect that.) This is, however, mostly used for working. I will accept this task.

69. Tasks may involve multiple elements (ex. being a baby, and wearing nothing a diaper- disgusting, nudity, humiliation, degradation)

70. I will try my best with all tasks.

Reward and Punishment

71. If my master assigns me a task, of any type, and I fail to do it, fail to do it correctly, or worst of all refuse to do it or if I disrespect my Master or break one of Master's rules, Master has the right and responsibility to punish me.

72. Master's punishing me serves two purposes. Firstly and more obviously, it is an epithet for Master's sadism. Secondly, it is to offer me guidance and redirection. It (hopefully) teaches me that what I did was wrong and that I shouldn't do it again.

73. An appropriate punishment is worse than a task. Master probably won't use flagellation as a task.

74. Punishments relating (no matter how coyly or cleverly) to the transgression I have made are best.

75. Punishments can cover any of the areas a task would, but more extreme.

76. Remember that it is fine to use your safeword in a punishment.

77. But Master will also provide rewards for when I do something well, right, or good.

78. I trust master will be creative in both his punishments and his rewards.

What About Switchdom relationships?

79. A switchdom relationship is one in which the role of master and slave alternates.

80. If mine and Master's relationship is like that, then I promise to keep my dominant side inactive when I am a slave, and when I am a master to keep my submissive side inactive.

Worship

(This section only applies if your relationship includes worship.)

81. I worship my master.

82. I enjoy every chance that I have to spend with him. I love being with him, and the closer I get to him the happier I am and the better behaved I am.

83. My master is, in my eyes, a perfect being. Every aspect of him and his life is beautiful.

84.

For people in Maledom relationships: (84 a) I worship my Master's cock. I worship it all the time. When I get to see it my eyes fill with pleasure. When I have it in my mouth, or even better; inside of me, I swell with pride. If it is in my mouth I will do my best to keep it clean and to make sure He is satisfied.

For people in Femdom relationships: (84 b) I worship my Mistresses' pussy. I always worship it. It is beautiful, and my favorite part of Mistresses' body, for it is the part I can physically pleasure best. When she lets me clean it with my mouth, or even better, be inside of it, I will be proud and make sure she is satisfied.

85. I also worship not only my Master's genitals but their entire body.

86. I worship Master's ass.

87. I am devoted to my Master.

88. I will have no other Master but master.

89. If my Master wants me to, I will bow down to him/her.

90. I confirm that worshipping is not worshipping in a religious sense like a person can worship a God, but rather holding to be special beyond belief, and of great value.

Signs of Respect

91. I respect and will always respect my master. I will respect Master in my heart. I will make sure to put in the extra effort to show how much I respect master.

92. I will never speak while Master is speaking. If I am speaking, unless we are having a conversation where we both are equals, and Master starts speaking I will immediately stop speaking and listen to him. Failure to do this deserves a punishment.

93. When I listen to Master, I give my undivided attention. Failure to do this deserves a punishment.

94. If Master has told me that s/he wants me to make eye contact, I will. If Master has told me not to make eye contact, I will not make eye contact. If Master has not told me specifically, I will do whatever I feel is right.

95. I will always call my master by the Name or Title he has assigned to me. Failure to do this will get me punished.

96. I will thank Master for every reward, no matter how small. Failure to do this may result in taking away the reward.

97. I will thank master lengthily at the end of each session.

98. I will lengthily apologize for each transgression I make, before and after the punishment. An example of an apology (for, let's say, a girl masturbating while not having permission- that's a big one.)

Quote:

I'm sorry Master! I am so sorry, and it is my only humble request that you will find it in yourself to forgive a slut like myself so that I can serve you better, for it is my greatest pleasure when you are happy with me. I care what you, Master, think about me more than anyone else. But I am a filthy, filthy, useless, disobedient whore, who does not deserve to be with you Master. But you took pity on this cunt, and for that I am forever devoted to you. Nevertheless, I have occasionally led astray. I blame no one but my slutty, horrible, nasty, disobedient, filthy self for this. Though when you specifically banned masturbation, I had the nerve, the gall, the CHUTZPAH to still do it anyway. Please, please, please, master I beg of you. Forgive me!

99. I will try to follow Master's instructions, rules, and orders to the best of my abilities, capabilities, and power.

Love

100. If I and my Master are in love, I will love him/her for as long as I love him/her (hopefully forever).

Which is the greater pleasure? My masochistic pleasure, or the pleasure of serving?

101. I acknowledge the two major reasons why I have become a part of this relationship/ the BDSM part of this relationship.

102. The first one is the pleasure I get from serving. It makes me happy to serve my Master. I am devoted to him, and his pleasure must always come ('cum') first. It is my satisfaction when Master is satisfied with me. I am happy when master is happy with me. I love serving my Master, and I trust him.

103. The other big reason that I started the BDSM part of this relationship is that I am a masochist. I love pain, I love humiliation, I love degradation. Pain to me is pure pleasure. With humiliation, I am boisterous and filled with the glee at humiliating my slut self. I am worthless (at least I pretend to be) and love the feeling of being treated like it.

104. These two reasons are equal in both Master and slave. Masters should get pleasure out of control, and torturing their slaves. Slaves should get pleasure out of submission, and being tortured.

105. Since this is a give and take relationship, Masters must make sure that their slave's two desires are accounted for. And slaves must make sure that their Master feels in control of them, and that their Master can torture them.

I admit my sexuality

106. I and my Master are both sexual beings.

107. This means not that I am only a sexual being, but that part of myself is sexual.

108. I am not to be ashamed of my sexuality.

109. I am also a sensual being.

110. I am not to be ashamed of my sexuality.

111. It is my Master's duty to make sure both my sexual and sensual needs are taken care of.

112. Therefore I'll do everything I can to do the same for him/her.

113. If Master allows me to choose clothes, then I will choose my sluttiest clothes for when I am with Master. (That is, unless he does not want me to.)

114. When Master orders me to do something I'll do it as sexually and sensually as I see fit for the occasion.

115. If I and Master have sex, I'll do my best to pleasure Master. If this sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both of us, Master will do the same for me. If this sex is only enjoyable by Master, then I will accept it and move on.

116. I will follow my master's orders.

117. I will respect my master and my masters rules.

118. I am his/her slave.

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