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heyzeil · 1 year

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Hey I have something important to share:

I have made the decision to filter out any vent tags for the sake of my own mental health.

I’d like to make it extremely clear that IT IS PERFECTLY OKAY TO VENT ON YOUR OWN BLOG!!! Venting can be a good way to let things off your chest and can actually help people!! It isn’t wrong to vent about your thoughts if you feel need. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to express them. You shouldn’t feel bad about venting. Please don’t stop yourself from venting if it really helps you. <3

And please if you have vented to me in the past DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT!! You didn’t know and you had no way of knowing. I’ve gotten over those times and now that I look back I am genuinely so glad you had someone to talk to. I don’t regret listening, and I was never upset with anyone and I’m certainly not upset now. Your feelings are valid, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Please don’t feel guilty, it was never your fault. Again, I’m genuinely very happy you had someone to talk to.

It’s just that I get very anxious about certain touchy subjects and what ends up happening is that it occupies my mind for a long while. I often end up worrying about them so much that I can start spiraling and it negativity impacts my mental, and even sometimes physical, health.

I wish I was stronger. I wish I could help more. But everything becomes too much for me. And after a genuine talk with my mother about it, we both agree that it would be for the best if I avoid those things.

I feel bad about doing this. I care about my mutuals and really anyone going through hard times. I want to listen and I wish I could be stronger for them. I thought that I could just “suck it up” and put on a brave face. And I did for a while. I thought that if I couldn’t handle being there for my friends it would just make me a selfish jerk. But now I realize I’m not the right person to do this.

Please please please don’t take this the wrong way and think that I don’t care. I do care. I care more than anything, and I genuinely hope that things get better. I want to be there for you. I’ve tried but know there’s only so much I can do. I’m with you, and I support you. I do love you and you’re all my friends. Im so sorry about everything. I wish I could be stronger. But I need to take care of myself.

I’ll always be here to try and make you smile. If you need to forget about something or you’re just really stressed and need to calm down, you’re always free to talk to me. We can find something fun to do together or we can just have a normal chat to get your mind off things. If you think that would help you, please don’t be afraid to reach out to me about that. But if you’re looking to dive into deeper waters, then I suggest talking to another trusted individual.

I guess I could’ve just blocked the tags and not have to have made a huge post about it, but I felt like you deserved some kind of explanation. It felt wrong to just leave you unaware about this. I don’t want anyone thinking I don’t care. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I care so much more than you think.

I hope and pray that you all have the right support systems that can help you through hard times. Remember that there are hotlines you can call if your mind ever goes to a darker place. I love you all and I’m here with you. Please know that I care about you and your feelings are valid to me. /gen

Now im unsure of myself. Does this make me a bad friend? Is what I’m doing selfish? Should I rethink about this decision? I wish I was stronger. I’m so sorry. I’m sorry about everything. /gen

#Krinkle Kingdom #AND THIS ISNT DIRECTED AT ANYONE EITHER IVE HAD THIS PROBLEM FOR A WHILE NOW #all of this is /gen #tw: vent #im putting this tag here just in case #but it’s ironic isnt it?

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birdsong-warriors · 5 years

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AAAH THANKS SO MUCH FOR ALL THE KIND WORKS YOU GUYS (and I'm so glad to have therapist approval haha!) , I'll try and write down a few things, but I will say that going in to something like that is highly personal to whatever you need. And while at an amazing place, there were a lot of horror stories from other institutions there, so I think its individual to everyone. That being said, I'll try and share the most helpful things I picked up!!

(I'm gonna tag this as... let's go with "Bird's Psych Adventure" lol so if this isn't your thing, I won't be offended if you filter that tag!!)

First and foremost, look up the locations near you. I had two options. One place had one star on Google Maps, and I had heard many unpleasant things about it, so I took a risk and went with the very new but highly praised place and that ended up being a good choice. They do have rules about these places like controlled release of information and stuff (basically, you can choose I think just one person who they can update your situation to. Anybody you didn't sign an agreement for can't get any info from them about how you're doing!!)

I read this article before going in, and found it helpful on a practical side. ^^

1. SOCIALIZE. I'm not kidding this is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. The place I went to would let you hide, especially the first day, but they got a point; festering in your negative emotions will only make things worse. Start small, because it will be hard, but everybody else is in the same boat and there will always be those who have been there longer than you and can tell you the basics and what to do. And it keeps you out of your bad feelings and very distracted. They're gonna take away your phone, so you gotta find other ways to stay entertained haha. Even if its just doing crossword puzzles in crappy crayon in the common room. But whenever you can stay in said common room instead of your room, do it!! It helps you feel less trapped too.

2. Get outside, if you can. We had limited outdoor time, but they let us have sports stuff and I got to play Frisbee with a VERY PATIENT older gentleman who helped me learn to actually throw and not hit someone in the head. XD On a related note, they usually have showers and stuff you can basically use anytime, take advantage of that and take care of yourself. It's kind of the only way you can spoil yourself there, and it feels good to put time into feeling better about yourself. ;u; That being said, they got CRAAAP DEODERANT AND THAT GETS SUPER ANNOYING SO SHOWERS ARE GREAT.

3. Breathing exercises are super crucial to keep calm, and it's easy to get homesick and upset about the situation. But the good thing is it does make you appreciate what you have when you go back in a way you will never reach without the experience. Take the time to self-evaluate and plan for simple stuff you'll do when you go back. I focused on thinking about renovating my room to make it a safer place for myself and sorting through my stuff. And don't plan for other people, plan for you, you're all you can control and while its EXTREMELY HARD to let go of your limited control of others, focus on you and what you need for you. <33 Reach out to those you love, but as someone told me there, have no expectations of what they say, and if they dont say something that's helpful or worse, say something uncalled for, ignore them. Those that matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter. <3

4. They'll put you on meds to help, and you gotta tell them whether they're helping or not. If its making it worse, they want to know so they can help!! And eventually you should find meds that WILL help!

5. I know it doesn't help for everyone, but it helps me to think "five years from now, this hard moment won't matter and I'll be strong enough to move past it". Try not to say "I'm trying..." but "I CAN BE" or even better "I AM" AND GIVE YOURSELF POSITIVE TRAITS. If you deem yourself negative, you'll be negative, you can be better than that, you can be whoever you want and YOU ARE AWESOME AND WORTH IT DANG IT I WILL PERSONALLY FITE U AND TELL U SO DANG IT. <3333

6. The most important lesson I learned was "where did I get these doubts? Could I have learned wrong?" That's not how it was phrased exactly, but basically that you don't deserve these awful doubts and can KICK THEIR BUTT.

7. They should give you a journal, use it to put your feelings out there in a protected way and process them. My biggest stressor was a couple family members are big time triggers of mine and it helped me to write a letter to them that I never gave them because I was able to say "I don't care, I'm gonna work on my own life" but its still a big struggle.

TLDR; these people want to help you, but only you can help yourself. They aren't trying to """fix""" you, they want you to be the best you that you can be. You can do it, believe in yourself and you can get through this!!! I pray you can overcome any struggles you have, I believe in you even if I don't personally know you YOU GUYS ARE ALL AMAZING AND ILU AND I HOPE THIS POST IS AT LEAST VAGUELY HELPFUL IM SORRY IF ITS NOT BCOSHFBCKSBF

#bird's psych adventures #bird rambles #anon Im lookin right atchu i believe in you ten thousand percent i dont even care that i may not know you personally #we can all get through these hard times #RAWR MEANS ILU IN DINOSAUR #RAWRAWRAWR

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