#i find it funny to see people critique these ridgid and contradictory ideas of gender with the idea that it proves trans people dont exist

[uncanny-tranny]

I wonder if the discontentment some people have with their gender stems from the contradictions in expectation for their gender.

I mentioned this in passing, but as a man, I've found there's this simultaneous expectation to be hyperindependent and hyperindividualistic while also being concerned about if the people around you accept your masculinity or manhood. It's an interesting paradox to both be expected not to care but also to care so deeply that it alters how you see yourself. It's the contradiction of hyperveneration and hyperscrutiny and, even, hatred of manhood.

This isn't even touching on the intricacies of nonbinary and intersex experiences with the way people enforce these (cissexist) contradictions of what you "should" be.

#gender #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #i find it funny to see people critique these ridgid and contradictory ideas of gender with the idea that it proves trans people dont exist #if anything the hyperscrutinization of all gender to the point that trans people 'dont exist' is a symptom of exactly what i mean #at the core it isn't about a set of ideas but more like a set of rules that will be enforced through any means necessary #and in that way trans people often face the brunt of that force #i know i've faced that sort of attitude by general society even *pretransition and pre coming out* #and obviously not all trans people share in that experience but it also is not an uncommon situation to have had #shoutout to my phone for softlocking itself and deleting this original post #see like i'm also not binary (also not nonbinary) but i functionally live as a binary man irl which is why i speak as a man versus as a man+