#how does this society function

[oatbugs]

i have a job interview tmrw im actually so so incredibly nervous even tho subconsciously im like. ik even if it goes badly my life won't end i am sooooo scared my heart has been beating super fast for 2 days...the worst thing is i have the most minimal info abt the role and i cant find much online so i have like 0 idea what they will ask etc etc...this is my first proper job interview that takes place irl for like...an actual research team etc etc

#its in central ldn too so commuting there every day will be like...relatively quick but expensive idk #anyway when i tell u am fucking scared. ALSO WHAT DO I WEAR #i was told to dress grown up but not in a suit #WHAT DOES THAT MEAN HOW DO I DRESS GROWN UP i dont own like. normal clothes that i need to function in my society

[divinekangaroo]

Was contemplating the whole ‘Tommy has no friends except Alfie’ thing/thought (it’s my own internal running joke too) but it can't really be true?

Tommy appears to have this huge social network, groups of people he’s still in touch with from the war, including internationally, and including in the officer class; these supposed very reliable contacts in Ireland which I can only assume ties back to the family connections to Ireland and maybe some visit across in his past; the huge respect (and edge of fear) network in Small Heath extending broader into Birmingham; seemingly a very *useful* social-climbing networking he's developed to be able to get the mayor and various politicians to the Grace Shelby charity opening in S3, a society networking which he maintains and builds upon all the way through to Tommy being able to invite actual upper crust society to a ballet at his house (and people attend!)

I mean, there's a level of reserve (rank/war respect) or transactional basis (professional tit for tat society networks), but he also had more friend style connections with say Barney, Freddie (even if it’s soured by the time we see it) and Danny (again, changed by Danny’s own PTSD into that Sergeant-Major thing, but lots of hints it wasn't always like that).

I’ve imagined Tommy puts a significant effort into his social (and society) networking as he does into his business - staying in touch, staying useful, even to the point of using Arthur (or let's imagine his secretaries, his ministerial aides, Polly; picking the right 'hand' who can maintain that relationship for him) to ensure letters and communications keep happening so people remain aware of him, and he stays alive in people’s minds at any possible level of class. He'd have to be maintaining that network like a garden.

The party for Lizzie also didn’t seem like a first time thing for them so I also imagine he hosts quite a lot of social affairs to remain current and connected, which becomes vitally imperative in a different way as a politician compared to a businessman.

But I think that default inner joke, Tommy has no friends and is isolated, is sometimes the claustrophobia of the actual seasons/scenes we see, which are so zoomed into him, into the family, into the worst, that I sometimes double think myself. Just...there’s no way he’s as successful as he is without pouring buckets of effort into society. Admittedly, maybe hardly any of these networking connections are deep connections in the odd way Alfie became one, or Ben Younger could have been one, but Tommy would be talking and meeting and greeting and hosting and writing letters allllllll the time

#mr professional social butterfly; very possible that he still has no friends except alfie #but he'd have to be in society as a social well-connected man to hold his position the way he does #as a bookie or a gangster or a businessman or a politician or a patron of the arts or any of the various fields relying on networks #the next question is how naturally it comes to him or does he try to break it down into a formula and grit his teeth through it #i like to imagine he'd be quite social and entertaining if not constantly in a borderline panic attack due to Circumstances #i have writ elements of this in my fics and there is a theme here for me with Mosley mocking Tommy's social efforts as gauche/blatant #but yeah anyway i always run headlong into this wall of how close/claustrophobic his life/manner is shown when he'd HAVE to have personal- #-connections everywhere to work the way he does and would have an invite to some function or another every third day

[9w1ft]

Don't you find the strict rules of society in Japan overwhelming for you and the kids?

not one bit

#i can’t express how safe i have felt here versus the US over the past several years specifically #no guns… good healthcare… clean environment… good childcare benefits… good food… #no strong religious chokehold permeating society #vaccines and masking aren’t a moral conundrum #functioning public transportation system #functioning postal system #don’t have to worry about people randomly yelling at you #many convenience stores open 24/7 #focus on seasonal eating so produce tastes better and you appreciate it more #i can walk the streets at night #in my city all childcare costs and child medical costs are waived up to 3 years old #cost of childbirth fully covered including a week long stay in the hospital after #you can drink the water #early public education has a focus on community and natural science #credit cards are automatically set up to autopay out of your bank account #my company does my taxes for me #did i mention no guns? #i could go on #like i have my philosophical issues with the country for sure but my base needs are covered and that means a lot as a parent

[tracfone]

AU where after the events of portal 2 chell becomes a homeowner but she comes back and moves glados in with her so she won't have to suffer alone at the facility. Except like, she doesn't transfer her to a smaller body, she just hangs the entire chassis from the ceiling (glados insists on never being out of her body again). The upside to having a live-in supercomputer plugged into her house is that she manages the building's power and appliances (like a souped up Alexa but like....NOT a cop), and keeps a damn good house, but the downside is the power company keeps asking her why she's the only house on the block consuming like 10x the electricity of all the others and she keeps having to give them excuses so they don't come investigate

#portal #chelldos #glados #chell #personality cores remain functional on as low of power as 1.1 volts i know #...but i assume that's the base core not the 25-30ft chassis body #i assume chell also has a cushy enough job or otherwise the means to cover the power bill idk #i don't know what money looks like post-invasion so i don't know what people use to exchange for goods and services #it would be funny if the hoa got involved but that would mean society reinvented the hoa by coincidence (ough) #pray to god they only care about the outside of her house and never go inside. she does not have guests #glados also would want to keep doing science so chell gives her the whole basement to work with #she whines about how small it is but prefers to have chells company so she deals with it

[qvincvnx]

i wanna know where all the go to therapy / seek help are getting their data on therapy actually being good for you

#does it heal you or does it make you compliant. is my question. #how do the thoroughly therapized function. not in society but in their personal relationships

[nature-played-a-trick-on-me]

It's almost funny how I talked with ppl from school like 'fair warning, lots of people overestimate me because I look like I've got it all sorted and I get good grades but please please listen to me when I say I can't cope' 'ohhh no we're not going to overestimate you!'

Guess what happened?

#Iconic!!!! Iconic the pattern of my life #Literally 'knowing how to learn' + having self insight etc? Makes people think I'm healthy normal functioning #When both skills were developed to try to cope with my inability to function in daily life #Studying? I did research for a long time and got to know myself so I can study efficiently bc I don't have a lot of energy. #Self insight comes from navigating group homes and care all by myself because all my mentors would leave within months #Iconic #Being able to sit in a chair and contemplate things does not equal being able to participate in society 🙃 #Unfortunately being on the spectrum + having undiagnosed untreated trauma means i have very little energy #And my ~ compensating by contemplating ~ also takes. Energy. #(Over)thinking to navigate the world is my life lol and I think its okay as long as i can find a place where i can like. Live. #Id like to graduate high school 🤡 start therapy 🤡 reassess after like a year of therapy #To see if i can like. Go to college or get a job i can cope with.

[transdimensional-void]

.

#trying to establish the recent history for my asoiaf bookworm AU just really highlights for me how politically broken westeros is #yurgenschmidt is simply too functional of a society to fit asoiaf fuckery djdjdjdj #i’m like hmmm I can’t realistically make robert archduke of the stormlands because like literally zero nobles would have backed someone #THAT incompetent #the only thing he does good is violence lol #but if robert isn’t at least the heir to the stormlands then his betrothal to lyanna makes no sense #so i was like well the baratheons are probably a branch of the targaryens #so maybe i could make robert a prince who is rhaegar’s half-brother rather than his cousin #but like once again who is backing robert for the throne against rhaegar???? #because there’s no way aerys stays king for as long as he did in asoiaf when he’s behaving that erratically #his own retainers would probably support forcing him to abdicate in favor of rhaegar #and probably like the minute rhaegar is old enough to take over #so rhaegar is already king #dany is probably never conceived #there’s no need for the southron ambitions alliance against aerys #everything falls apart because the nobles of yurgenschmidt are less enamored of violence and more concerned with competence

[torchickentacos]

oh my god i am so crampy that i cannot move right now so fuck it. ag watch through is happening. will be tagging it with #ag watchthrough if anyone wants to mute that. one post with all my thoughts per episode .I did this once before but couldn't commit, but I'll try again. I need something to focus on right now, but not something I need to THINK about and this feels like a compromise. The goal will be one episode a day, counting queueing posts. Will I regret this a third of the way through season one? probably but so it goes.

#long tags. accidental methodology infodump #my therapist wants me to schedule time to relax so i can do this and say i set aside at least twenty minutes a day #genuinely need to get the cramps sorted out before i stop online classes though #i cannot function out in society like this #doctors were like 'yeah sounds like endo. no we won't check.' #like okay :) thanks :))) 👍 #would love to see more studies and info on the link between endo and eds #bc there are heavy anecdotal links #it seems like a really common comorbidity #i found one study that showed a link but it was from 1995 and was of 41 women #and it wouldn't let me in to actually read over the study and methods. it was author info and the abstract only #so idk how much was self reporting or what #and it looked like a voluntary selection which skews stuff BUT I COULDN'T GET IN TO LOOK #bc like ok here's the thing #Do I think there is a link given how heavily people report overlap and given the width of eds comorbidities? yes #but in a study where people volunteered for it #if they saw 'eds/gynecological disorder study applicants open' #then people who experience eds AND gynecological disorders will likely be the ones who apply for it #so any link might be misrepresented as having a larger correlation than it actually does #GOD I would love to get into this kinda stuff for a career if i could only do math #and like it gave numbers but no baseline #it said that the correlation was certain percentages but did not give percentages to compare it to for the general population in the abstra #and numbers like that are important due to their context and can be meaningless or innacurate without it #like. COMPLETELY RANDOM AND INNACURATE example. numbers are bullshitted #you can say that people should avoid traveling in cars because five percent of car crashes are fatal #that sounds worrying doesn't it? you can accept the 'thesis' as fact based on that statistic. it sounds reasonable. #and 70 percent result in up to severe injury #but you need the context to look at how many people use cars every single day and don't get in crashes #you need that larger context to it because cars ARE safe actually #and also think. what does the statistic count as 'injury'?

[eatyourdamnpears]

“elevated ANA levels are usually markers for an autoimmune health condition!”

well, not when the rheumatologist you see is completely invalidating about it and your rheumatology blood panel comes back negative for anything!

#I can accept that maybe I don’t have a disorder like lupus or ra that they were testing for but like #the fact that out the gate he was just like ‘‘yeah some people just have naturally elevated ANA levels it’s usually nothing’’ #like SIR???? #I’m sitting in your office because I’ve had elevated ANA levels for over a year now and I cannot function in society due to my health issues #it probably IS something #I don’t know I wanna see if I can see another rheumatologist about it but what would even be the point? #no one wants to see me anyways because of my chronic Lyme diagnosis it took FOREVER for this guy to just see me #it’s at a point where when my doctor needs to refer me to places she leaves that off whatever she sends to them because otherwise #they won’t see me #like the only reason I haven’t seen a neurologist yet is because the ones I get referred to all refuse to see me #they can’t outright SAY that #but I remember my mom constantly checking to see about the referral and the receptionist basically said it in a way so it wouldn’t be #like grounds to sue for discrimination or whatever #even my mom tells me in appointments like this that I shouldn’t bring the Lyme up unless absolutely necessary #and every time it does come up the vibe instantly changes #like I don’t get it??? why do doctors hate me??? #anyways yeah and I don’t know if it’d be a waste of time to see another rheumatologist because of the results I’ve already gotten #but I also can’t find them anywhere in the MyHealth app when I swear to god I had access to them before so?? #I don’t know. I’m sorry I’m complaining. I just remember the time my doctor first brought it up to me and how excited I was #to finally have a lead on what could be happening inside my body and how to treat it #and then I get crushed when I realize that it doesn’t mean shit to anyone #I’m just having a hard night tonight #and no one wants to see Ethel Cain with me either and I’m just sad about that #and my depression is all fucky lately #everything is so big and loud and overwhelming and I’m so tired of it #vent tw

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

having a lot of thoughts about how people use 'normalize' when they mean 'destigmatize' or 'make the nature of into common knowledge,' and how they conflate 'the perception of this thing as normal' with the thing actually being a normal occurrence, and how it is in fact incredibly harmful to try to convince people that an ideal situation is normal when that does not map onto their lived reality or the dangers they need to be aware of to avoid. it is 3:33am though so writing up an actual poast about it will have to wait for later

#whosebaby talks #this post brought to you by 'spreading awareness of what an abusive relationship is and looks like compared to a nonabusive relationship' #'is fantastic and i support it fully and think it's deeply important. giving people the false idea that abusive relationships are uncommon' #'and are flukes that go against the grain of society functioning as it normally does; is insanely dangerous to people who are potential #targets; and incredibly alienating and isolating and cruel to people who have already been targets' #'in uniquely awful ways depending on whether they're already aware of that or aren't. don't fucking do that' #it applies much more broadly than that; but it's an instance i think about A Lot and it's what led me to this line of thought to start with #there's also 'normal does not mean good and saying so has incredibly unbelievably harmful implications keep that shit out of your mouth' #but that is so obvious it boggles my mind that it has to be explained to anyone on this site; and it is talked about often enough #that i would rather focus on the parts i don't really see talked about much; if at all #also like the fact that 'statistically average' normal vs 'things are functioning as they usually do' is a critically important distinction #they are closely related and interplay heavily with each other but they are Not the Same Thing #and how 'normal' can refer to different layers and aspects of a subject--people with rare health conditions are not statistically average #and that by itself is fine. and those people having conditions that are disruptive to the usual functioning of a space or system #is avoidable in some cases by establishing as much infrastructure as possible to integrate their more common needs smoothly #and unavoidable in others; which means the normal functioning of a system/space that accommodates people with unexpected needs #has to account *for its normal functioning being disrupted sometimes* #and bend around that disruption without either breaking down or rolling right over the disabled people who Cause Problems #and at the same time 'rare health condition' gets applied to health conditions that are not rare *at all* to not only justify not bothering #to make the system integrate their needs in general when it could do so easily; but make it so that accommodating their needs anyway puts #immense and unnecessary strain on the system; so there is zero margin for anything you didn't specifically fight tooth and nail for already #anyway it's a really extensive subject and a fascinating one. for later. sleep now #abuse cw #ableism cw #the salt files #is there a name for that tag

[silenthillbunni]

.

#ngl i am feeling veeeeery depressed rn #idk what to do.. i dont get *any* help at all w my mental health nd it just keeps getting worse #rn i feel like there is absolutely no hope at all. no hope for a better life. no hope for me to ever get better #no hope that i'll be ok. that the surgery will go ok. no hope that i'll ever get to move away from here #i feel so fkn stuck and i just dont have any energy or motivation to do anything at all #im so fkn anxious abt my health issue nd the surgery nd recovery #on top of that im so fkn stressed bc when smth like this happens i go completely non functional #so i dont know how to do my schoolwork now. i cant go to class bc i cant focus bc of the pain nd stuff #but if i dont do school what will happen w my wellfare?? #idk idk idk what to do there are just too many things #and there is absolutely NO FKN HELP AT ALL in this wretched society #no help. my mom does as much as she can but she's also sick nd deals w years long burnout #im at a point where i dont feel like i know how to keep going. i just wanna lie down nd give up #but then i might become homeless nd that'll be so fkn much worse so i have to do smth #i need to try to talk to school nd my wellfare worker but i dont expect help #they'll just tell me to suck up the pain nd do everything anyway so idk i dont even feel like trying #im feeling more depressed than ever and it doesnt matter if i ask for help bc there is none for me #i want to get out of this nd make a life for myself but idk how #and i see NO light at the end of the tunnel at all. no light whatsoever. everything feels fkn pitch black #everythings just bad nd it is contaminating my mind completely nd idk how to stop it #i cant even cry i just feel so empty yet overwhelmed i want it all to just stop i cant keep up cant do it anymore idk how #but ending it all takes too much effort. there rlly should be just a pill u get prescribed. it is inhumane to force ppl to go thru more suff #also i wont do that to my mom so like im stuck here either way. i dont want to feel like this i want to feel ok i want to feel hopeful #and bright nd like maybe there is a chance nd way for me i dont wanna feel.. utter despair

[vhstown]

you guys imma be real i have like... 10k+ words of an oc x peter parker (college age) fanfiction and like the entire plot laid out scene for scene its just not a priority so i never plan on finishing it but thinking about it and the 2 and a half parts i have of it makes me kind of happy

#vee chats #my oc is so cute and does not know how to function in society ! #thinking of her on the daily

[anendoandfriendo]

*Sigh*

Look, we're not going to screenshot this because it's from a kiddo, but things like "why would anyone want functional multiplicity? Alters are an intrusion on my life!" are the whole reason we are so anti-fusion as a default when treating it as a systemic plurmisia/ableism/saneism issue, to the point of considering it a murder — because with seventeen year olds who only know about sysmedicalism we can never actually be sure if all headmates consented to the final fusion.

You don't go around shooting your sister in the head (or poisoning her, or suffocating her to death, literally you don't murder your sister in any way shape or form) because she's "an intrusion on your life" when you're a decent person. Same with...literally any other person on the planet.

Don't go around harassing the system this post could be over, but like, if they're receptive and do ever see this: there is a better world out there and you do not have to see these people as intrusions in your life. There is a world where you can love each other (weather it's familial, romantic, or something else). "The point" of functional multiplicity is that this world is even possible and, at least for us (Rusanya) a way to fight the oppressive structures that want to kill us.

We grew up in a world where that wasn't an option in so-called "therapy" and the only reason they buckled was pressure from plurals and their allies (yes, this does mean endogenics too; but also traumagenics).

That's all we've got to say here.

~~~~~~

EDIT we lied apparently that's not all we have to say, we put this in the tags and think this might illustrate our point better/more:

#we feel it's a bit different when like. someone is inclusys and knows how their system functions and treats their headmates like the #sapient beings that they are weather or not they say they are people or something else. #but as a SYSTEMIC issue. we HAVE to take a hard line somewhere. until society at large loudly accepts all systems #(yes even the dirty nasty endos.) #and we can all confidently talk about the plurmisia of pushing one or the other on people in middle school health classes. #does that make sense? #it's the difference between assisted suicide and “asissted suicide” in quotes. the latter isn't actually a choice. #and THAT'S why we trust people who are inclusys a little more and don't call their headmates an “intrusion on my life” lol

[seilon]

you know im realizing now. with the exception of a few resident psychiatrists, ive had like. no good experiences with mental health professionals

#most recent occurance is eating my brain alive right now because I feel just so. degraded and offended by how she chose to evaluate me #I won’t get into it because it will make me spiral even more and get angrier and more overwhelmed but tldr she didn’t acknowledge #anything I said about my symptoms both out loud and via written test. chose to ignore or dismiss anything that came from me #as if I couldn’t be trusted to recount my own experiences and feelings. also did not take into account that I am an adult and thus have Had #to learn to mask and shit so while she brushed off So Much Shit because i seemed (in the three hours she met/saw me) #functional Enough. that’s only becuaee I put in a Lot of effort every day to do so. and that effort does not last forever #and of course because. like I said I’m an adult. I’ve been yelled at I’ve been punished I’ve been put through courses and #through the ringer of Society in general to the point where I mimic Normal Person Behavior at least somewhat decently when im prepared to do #so. she treated me like a child and didn’t acknowledge most of my major issues. ignored me when I said I don’t avoid social situations out #of fear/anxiety I avoid them because it takes a lot of energy for me to mask and try and read people and act accordingly #and in her report suggested generalized anxiety. part of the reason I was there is because anxiety HASNT ever properly described my #avoidant behavior. #and just. yeah I said I wouldn’t get into it but here we are. this always happens #it’s just eating at me because I keep realizing more and more things she just fucking disregarded. literally wrote that I ‘listed many #relevant symptoms’ and kept it at that. did not actually give those symptoms any validity. basically just implied I was listing things #just. becuase? #some shit was just blatantly wrong like claiming that I have a variety of interests when I told her outright that I can only be interested #in one specific interest at a time- example being the entirety of last year being only interested in One (1) video game. and this is to such #an extent that it’s difficult to make and maintain friendships because I have no interest in anything else but that One Thing for however #long and won’t care about other things people try to get me into in order to have something in common with me or whatever or just. yeah. #issues. #she didn’t acknowledge the issues I have with low empathy or overstimulation. didn’t acknowledge my history of taking things literally to #such an extent that it has caused problems with people. didn’t acknowledge anything that was self-reported and not being displayed in that #moment right in front of her eyes. it’s just. really really disappointing and. yeah degrading honestly #especially because it took months upon MONTHS to get this fucking appointment #and to just be not listened to and dismissed. #anyway. yeah I’ve also just only ever had really shallow relationships with therapists (at best) #and have never felt helped by them or like they ever put in much effort to try to Get to me so to speak. only my psychiatrists have #been open minded and Listened to me. but they were always residents so they’d leave in a year or so. I don’t have one at this point. #kibumblabs

[righteousruin]

listen I just can't with how she was like 'omg you killed that guy' and bane was like 'i didn't do shit he ran away from me' and she was like 'why did he run from you' and bane was like 'because he knew about the blood test' and it's just this like 5'6" old woman arguing with this 6'8" 30-something Famously Ruthless Man and she's just like

'are u okay'

and he Stops being defensive Immediately because no one NO ONE has ever asked if he's okay before and he's just learned that he truly is alone in this world and he tells her he doesn't know how to feel about it and she just sits with him and talks to him and puts a hand on his shoulder like WHO DOES THAT?? TO BANE??? I love her your honor I would take a bullet for her your majesty

#she's the hero of dc idc #yet another reason why I will always say fuck t1m k0ng for thinking Bane would do anything to hurt her -- like Kill Alfred?? #Alfred wasn't even on Bane's original 'hurt batman' hit list (in Secret Six) that man's always been safe with Bane #Well...safe is a strong word -- Bane knocks him out but no more damage than that #ooc #i am so emotional about this every day of my life #the way bane -- at the first opportunity to act right -- does his best to learn how and be supported and be a functional person in society #the first moment someone offers him gentle kindness and safety he says 'okay i'll do my best' and then he DOES HIS BEST #fUCK DC writers who bad-faith Bane he worked SO hard to grow

[irisseireth]

The social commentary on this show is really off the charts

#extraordinary attorney woo #it didn't have to go as hard as it does but I'm glad it did #early on they already had another autistic person who was much less 'functional' on a very difficult case #to make a point about ableism #the comment about dr Asperger? amazing #later on: do north koreans deserve to be treated like criminals or are they refugees? #and how do we as a society deal with what they do because they are desperate? #another: are children people? can they decide what they want to do? #also a lesbian couple!!!! #girl sabotages her own marriage so that she can run off into the sunset with her girlfriend of 10 years #iconic #nobody is doing it like them #i adore this show already #also: the cute girl tm isn't bitter over the popular guy falling for young woo #and helps her and gives advice both professionally and personally #and is generally just really nice towards young woo