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#happy birthday or whatever komaeda 🙄🙄
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I feel like Hajime's parents probably wouldn't like any of his friends except for maybe Chiaki lol
Also I am Intrigued by your thoughts on Nagito's parents and would like to hear more if you wanna share 👀
Oh gladly !
I kind of think the opposite! I think that Hajime’s parents are very, very fond of talent. I think his father especially. I think that because they don’t have talent themselves, they really look up to those who do, which is where I think Hajime got a lot of his insecurities around being talentless from. So, I think that Hajime’s parents would love that Hajime is friends with people who have talent. I think they’d have some…Reservations about some of them (Souda LMAO), and I think they’d 100% have to lie about Kuzuryu’s talent but overall would totally approve. With Komaeda, its reservations and him being unsettling and holding huge signs of trauma and abuse that they, especially Hajime’s mum, can spot from a mile off, on top of him not even having a real talent that they become less fond of him. Plus, Komaeda is just a weirdo. So whereas Kaz would be able to overcome the reservations they have towards him by just being himself, Komaeda…Well. NKQDNKQNDKWN. But oh, Nanami????? Yeah, They Adore her. They’re always asking after her. Hajime’s mum is always trying to get her to come over, even makes her bento sometimes which is SUPER embarrassing for Hajime but Nanami finds so touching even if she doesnt understand why they like her so much.
Im actually kind of thinking of writing something that lightly explores Komaeda’s relationship with his parents, so i’m still working out the kinks here and there but im very invested in his parents and childhood and upbringing. *puts on badge that says I’m Sorry I Have A Masters In Psychology*
Idrc to know what Komaeda’s parents did for a living. Im not rich enough to know the jobs that people do to get rich. Its probably just a long line of a family being rich. But i like the think that they were artsy.
I think Komaeda’s dad was a proper jokester, prankster, dad-joke dropping nuisance. I imagine him being the life of the party, and loving to entertain people. I think he was very musical, with him being able to play the piano really well, and his wife being able to play violin and they do it together at these big parties they constantly throw. I think he’s very proud that their first child was a son, and boasts about how he’s going to be talented and have something amazing about him. Very loving and doting in the early years when this is still a possibility. Komaeda is almost like a trophy child. This lessens as the time goes on and no talent (that they can recognise) surfaces in Komaeda. But not consciously, if that makes sense. He still loves his boy very very much.
A side tangent on whether they themselves are talented, im stuck on it. I think maybe not though, because I think Komaeda is supposed to mirror Hajime like this. Hajime and Komaeda are like the same character, so I think it makes the most sense that Komaeda’s parents also not be talented. Also side side note, the only thing i can remember about Komaeda’s parents being discussed in canon, other than their death, is Komaeda saying that his mum never called him pretty or whatever he says. If theres anything else thats why theres contradictions.
Komaeda’s mum is a very graceful woman whose also very artistic. Like i said, i think she can play violin to compliment her husband’s piano playing, but I think she’s more of a painter. I think she’s quite sly, able to cut through her husband’s joking sometimes in a way even he doesnt realise but others in the room do. Its very hard to tell sometimes when she’s being genuine in her words or if she’s actually making fun of you, especially because she smiles so easily and so prettily, it makes it easier to forget that she could have any ill intentions. I also hc Komaeda to be mixed race, and his mother to be French. She leans on the excuse of Japanese being her second language to get herself out of tricky mishaps she gets herself into and it only sometimes works LMAO. Her husband has to step in to defuse half the time. I think Komaeda’s birth was very very complicated and a really rough process. They both really really wanted a baby, but Komaeda’s mother was told it wasn’t going to be possible. Komaeda was a bit of a miracle baby in this sense, but also I think his mother struggled A LOT a lot. Postpartum depression out the wazzo. I think the lasting scars of this develop into postpartum psychosis and manic depressive episodes that sort of change her completely from the person she was before he was born. This leads to her being very distant from Komaeda when he’s really young because she simply cannot handle caring for him, meaning the care was left mostly to nannies. This slowly got a bit better, and by the time he’s walking she begins to build a relationship with him, but its still difficult. I think she was probably very hot and cold towards komaeda in a way he couldnt understand. One minute she’d be loving, brushing his hair and complimenting him and reading him stories, then the next day or even a few hours later he’d ask her to read to him and she’d be catatonic, or acting strange and scary and then the nanny is pulling him away and saying she’ll read to him instead. I think she really does love him though, and in the moments where she feels enough that she can she shows it, she’s super affectionate, half through a guilt bc of how she treated him, half genuine love for her miracle boy. Komaeda really lives for these moments. He’s super helpful around the house, and runs to boast to his mum about how helpful he’s been because most of the time when he does she’ll give him attention for it. When his luck starts to show through, and terrible things start happening, Komaeda’s mother’s anger can be explosive towards it all or completely numb. Komaeda takes neither very well, but her lack of reaction always hurts the worst.
I think Komaeda’s father was in no way equipped to deal with any of this. He was ready for a child, but not for what it did to his wife. He sort of just shies away from it all, scared of and unable to understand whats happened to his wife and not really wanting to accept it either. Its especially hard trying not to blame Komaeda for it, especially on harder days. I think he pushes for Komaeda to smile a lot, and has no time for Komaeda’s negative emotions, often getting angry and frustrated when Komaeda is upset but he cant make him stop crying or calm down. When things do happen because of Komaeda’s luck, and it upsets Komaeda, he defaults to trying to find the brightside of what happened to make him feel better. He’s very focused on positive emotions, always laughing and smiling and never letting anyone see him down, to the point where he wont let himself feel down and always takes another view or another perspective on things to make the situation good again, even when its really really not appropriate. Mega mega toxic positivity. He’s way too unserious a lot of the time, and too away with the fairies to be anything solid and reliable to even begin to combat how much of a ghost of a person Komaeda’s mother can be sometimes. He likes to think he makes time for his son, but what he doesn’t realise is the only time this is is in front of other people for performance purposes. Even then, half the time he’s more invested in the guests than he is Komaeda.
Image is very important in the Komaeda household, so keeping up appearances of everything being fine was rlly important to them both. They tend to focus on this more than Komaeda, so Komaeda is roughly forced into performing the act of the perfect, docile, well read young man and is basically ignored throughout the performance except for when his dad wants to boast or rare, odd moments where his mum will sit next to him and ask what he’s reading and compliment him on it.
I think they’re also really involved with talent, in much the same ways that Hajime’s parents are. They really wanted Komaeda to be talented, and wanted him to be friends with people who are when they started to think that maybe he wasnt. I think that, in a universe where they survive, they would still love Hajime at first for appearances sake, which just slowly develops into genuine affection when they get to know Hajime. Also he’s like the only person Komaeda’s ever brought home, so they instantly have a soft spot for him because he’s Komaeda’s first friend so they try and push away any biases they have towards him not being talented. They also have the buffer of living comfortably, which Hajime’s parents don’t.
But they didn’t survive so this doesnt matter LOL.
Even so, i think there was maybe money or family stressors on them that made them really want Komaeda to be talented. I think Komaeda maybe had this on his shoulders as well, and felt this directed towards him but like didn’t really understand it. He just understood that talent was really really important. And that all good people are talented and non-talented people are bad.
Wow that was long. I hope that was interesting at least ! Thanks for giving me an excuse to blabber about that LOL
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