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nightswithkookmin · 3 years

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BLOCK AND REPORT THIS PERSON (s)

@irenysaridirae

@chimchim something something and

@everyone you come across who is guilty of the following.

For the following reasons.

1. Allowing BTS room to express their frustrations and resentments towards things and people they feel strongly about but silencing everyone else who dares to have values, boundaries and feelings.

On more than one occasion, we've seen BTS go off and cuss at and even threaten to stab people with poison needles.

And yet God forbid if we as fans have an opinion, voice it out and share our frustrations openly. Please stop oppressing anyone who isn't rich, famous, Asian and Male. BTS fans deserve to be loved too🤧

2. Dehumanizing anyone who isn't BTS and only creating space and room for BTS to be human.

They tolerate the humanness of BTS, allow for them to make mistakes, grow and show empathy and consideration towards them but leave no space for fans of BTS to do same.

Their kindness and love and empathy is performative. They preach it but they do not in any way practice it.

They terrorize, bully, oppress and take away others right to be human simply because they have differences of opinion.

3. They are fake fans of BTS

Anti bullying is one of the core values of BTS. They promote love, empathy, kindness and are against Racism and bullying of all forms.

They give BTS a bad rep and are the reason people call BTS fans TOXIC.

BTS is against Bigotry and the intolerance of others thoughts and opinions.

They disguise their bullying and harassment and abuse and bigotry and homophobia under the pretense of standing up for their faves when in reality there is no real value they are fighting for.

When i disagree with BTS or people, it's usually because our values don't align and one value oppresses the other.

BTS hate racism but when we the fans call out racism against us a fraction of the fandom go wild. Please Asian is not the only race in the fandom.

Men are not the only ones whose rights deserve to be recognized and uplifted in the fandom. Women exist in the fandom too and when they make certain remarks about us it makes us uncomfortable. Women's rights matter too.

Skinny people aren't the only ones worth celebrating in the fandom just because BTS are skinny. Fat non skinny non white people exist too and sometimes the language and behaviors they promote oppress us😵

Please let's develop sensitivity and consciousness with regards to the 'others' within the fandom. We are humans in here too.

4. Performative Wokeness

BTS are the goofiest group of men on the internet. From Jin, Jungkook to Hobi, they've all called themselves Vampires and even engage with fans on the internet over this joke and yet these people out of bigotry bully people on the internet for making similar Jokes.

They carry themselves around as if they are gatekeepers of speech but really aren't promoting any value at all other than that they hate what others say.

Shippers did not invent the term Alpha male and yet they go on blogs trying to censor people regardless of your background for so much as usuing this word.

Please expand your vocabulary beyond shipping and ABO fanfiction thank you.

6. These people have no respect for human rights and feel no type of way about violating others human rights and abusing them.

Information:

Every human has the right to information. Blocking and deplatforming people simply because you disagree with them or do not share their values prevents them from accessing whatever information might have been available to them otherwise and that is a human right violation.

Education:

Everyone has the right to be educated. Blocking someone out of hate does not in anyway educate them on whatever they might be doing wrong.

You're instinct as a decent human being is to teach and help others if you can or leave them to access whatever information might be available to them that might help them learn.

But they can't do that because guess what? Everyone blocked them😊

4. Right to Religion, Assembly and Association:

If you can't tell any religious body that they are worshipping right or wrong, YOU CERTAINLY CANNOT TELL ANY SHIPPER THEY ARE SHIPPING RIGHT OR WRONG. THAT THEY ARE SHIPPING UNETHICALLY OR ETHICALLY.

Fanfic writers write the most heinous of things and you consume them for whatever reason- I'm not judging. You have no business reading about how fast or slow your idol thrusts into his bandmate. And yet here we are.

If it offends you the type of shipping I do out here, think of it as FICTION. I have no qualms with that. It's ridiculous to me when people find my blogs as - what did she say? Hold pls

Discussing the intimate life of idols but if these same blog posts are slapped with the label FANFICTION then suddenly it's OK.

I think she confused as a person.

You saw the SHIPPING SIGN POST ON THE DOOR DIDN'T YOU? That is a valid label as Fanfiction and I don't know what you think you were gonna find on a SHIPPING POST.

It's like going to the slaughterhouse and yelling murderer.

PLS THIS IS SHIPPING. THIS IS ALT SHIPPING. FUCK OFF if you are not a shipper and don't like shipping.

5. FREE THOUGHT FREE SPEECH

This little license allows me to say Jikook gay. It allows me to say Jikook fucked. It allows me to say Jikook Fucking. It allows me to say Jungkook is in love with Jimin, Jimin is in love with Jungkook, Jimin suck- dick. Jungkook suck- ass. IT ALLOWS ME TO SAY WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT HOWEVER I WANT IT.

So if BTS are promoting a lifestyle that is inconsistent with my Values I WILL SAY FUCKING SO.

I'm "tarnishing Jimin's reputation by discussing his intimate life."

GIRL BYE.

TELL THAT TO JIMIN AND JUNGKOOK DISCUSSING THEIR HICKEYS ON LIVE TELEVISION.

TELL THAT TO JUNGKOOK ASKING JIMIN TO EAT HIS ASS- was it ramen🤔

They are the same thing to me.

TELL THAT TO JIMIN PLAYING WITH JUNGKOOKS DICK ON TV.

I did not ask them to the gay. If they do it and i spot it bet your sweet behind I WILL TALK ABOUT IT.

BECAUSE I HAVE THE RIGHT TO FREE SPEECH FREE BELIEF FREE THOUGHT AND FREE RELIGION.

JIKOOK IS MY RELIGION. THERE.

Let me worship in peace.

We will have 10 virgins at the alter and watch Jikook senpai at vesper service next Friday.

I'M SHOWING RESENTMENT WHEN JIMIN IS CHOOSING TO CHANNEL HIS MASCULINE SIDE.

Fuck you for thinking building muscles is only a Man's thing. Fuck you for the sexism and misogyny.

You dont think there are Fems and nonbinaries who build up too?

What is she channeling?? Some man's dick?

Lemme guess, you are one of those who think he looks 'like a submissive girl/gay" without the hulk muscles???

BA HAHAHAHAHA

I spent that entire post yelling about my values and how i felt it didn't align with Jimin"s anymore and you are gonna reduce that to him channeling his masculinity??

If muscles is what makes a male a man then I'm sorry there are women that are better men than men and I couldn't be more grateful I'm gay.

You think I'm worried he is building muscles??? Are you dumb?? I thought you said you was a lecturer. You've failed your students Professor and lost my respect 😥

Here, lemme spell it out for you- I'm worried he is sending a message to others that being muscly is the only valid and nice body to have because I noticed he'd been making self deprecating remarks about himself for sometime leading up to all that exercise talk.

It's just like Hobi saying today that he wouldn't eat a midnight snack because it would make him ugly(fat) and he won't look nice in photos and fans are not gonna like him and that when he thinks like that that's how he stops himself from over eating.

If you don't see how both scenarios are problematic that's on you. We all have different values and different perspectives.

Thankfully I have disillusioned myself but I think I would have descended into a very low and dark place over Hobi's remarks if I hadn't had a brush with JM's situation first.

As for how I deal with pain and trauma, pls have mercy on me like you do BTS😥 I'm human too😥 I deal with mental health issues too😥 BTS are not the only ones who deserve sympathy and empathy 😔

There are billions of us in this giant blue bulb🤥 how can you only care about the welbeing of 7 members😥

Be a good human being just like Jimin preaches on his shirt😔

ZOOOOOMMMM🤡

GOLDY

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femslashrevolution · 7 years

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It ain't that deep, bro. It's just important.

This post is part of Femslash Revolution’s I Am Femslash series, sharing voices of F/F creators from all walks of life. The views represented within are those of the author only.

So, this may catch some folk by surprise considering how ridiculously queer I am, but, fun fact: your humble author didn’t actually learn that queer people existed until she was in high school.

(This is relevant. I promise. Hang in there.)

I’m not kidding. I was sitting behind this girl in a creative writing class, my first week freshman year of high school. She was telling a story to another student, and in the course of it made a joke in which she pointed out how incredibly bisexual she was.

It was like I got struck by lightning.

I’d gone to a catholic school from kindergarten through eighth grade. And Holy Family was actually one of the more progressive, kind-hearted schools in the area. I know now that most of the teachers didn’t actually believe the official Church doctrine on the subject of The Gays. So instead of telling us that homosexuality was a sin, they just…never brought it up. If they never mentioned gay people, they wouldn’t have to toe the line and say we were going to hell!

Aaaaand the end result was that I literally was never informed that liking girls was like…a thing? You can do that? That’s an option?!

Mind you it still took me like another six months to figure out why I’d had such a powerful reaction to that realization. Because, you know, obviously I wasn’t gay or anything. You can feel free to insert a mental laugh track there, I’ll wait.

I bring this up because to this day, I remember that lightning-strike sensation. The birth of a whole new universe, fresher and wider and better than the old one, right behind my eyes. I swear to god the colors were brighter that day.

In the months and months between that moment and the moment when I was willing to admit even to myself that maybe, possibly, like girls just a little, I started reading femslash. I read a lot of highly questionable het fics too, obviously, because I was fourteen and look shut up we’ve all made mistakes.

I’d be lying if I said femslash was what helped me realize I was gay as all hell, because it wasn’t. I handled that just fine on my own, thanks. The fics themselves weren’t actually the catalyst, it was just that I realized I was seeking out f/f pairings and, hmm, you know, maybe there was a reason for that. Really, femslash didn’t start to mean much to me, or connect me to a community, until I started writing it. And…oh, man. That was the watershed. That really was where I came into my own.

I was seriously unprepared for the level of gratitude femslash authors can receive.

Thing was, I wasn’t even really…doing much, from my perspective. I was just…writing fic, like always. I’d watched the Star Wars prequels and fell in love with what was to me the obvious femslash pairing–seriously, watch Phantom Menace and tell me with a straight face that Padme’s handmaiden isn’t in love with her. And I’d gone looking for fic only to discover a massive pile of nothing. That’s thankfully changed a little since; I like to think I kicked off the Padme/Sabe renaissance. But for a decent chunk of time there, I was the only person writing that pairing on the entire Internet.

Let me tell you–that was a trip and an half.

And the response was…pretty average, as AO3 goes. It wasn’t like I became an instant celebrity or anything. But people got so freaking excited, to a degree I had never expected. I think I’m a decent writer, I’m pretty used to people liking my stuff–but people, when they read the Padme/Sabe fics, were freaking out. They overflowed with enthusiasm, they tripped over themselves talking about how invested they were in this pairing now. Overwhelmingly, responses fell into two categories: “I’ve shipped them for years, I thought I was the only one!” or “I’ve never even considered this, but now I can’t stop.”

That’s the moment. That, right there, is the thunderbolt.

It’s why I work so much with what are, on the surface, kind of done-to-death tropes. 5+1 fics. Sith AUs. Humorously snowballing miscommunications that result in Hijinks And Shenanigans™. Dark AUs. Single-point canon divergence “what-if” fix-it fics. Coffeeshop AUs. My flagship Padme/Sabe piece is, loosely, an Arthurian mythos AU. Hell–my current project, because apparently I hate myself, has turned out to be a series of ~20k oneshots for a different Star Wars femslash pairing based on the plots and settings of Disney movies, just for fun.

Now to my credit, I do pull twists on the tropes! I adapt them, I explore variations, sometimes I subvert them entirely because some tropes are pretty unhealthy relationship models; but the fact is, my playground is tropes and AU settings. The latter is because I, as a writer, really enjoy stripping both plotlines and characters down to their core. (What are the really essential elements of this story that I can use to transplant the plot into a Galaxy Far Far Away? What are the core personality traits and features that these Star Wars characters would keep, their turn of phrase–things that will make them instantly recognizable even if they’ve been relocated to 17th-century France?) But the tropes, that’s something that for me is an integral part of why I and a lot of other people read and write femslash.

I do it for that lightning-strike sensation. That moment where someone stumbles across a Beauty and the Beast AU, or a faerie tale, or a story about defying fate to escape an arranged marriage, or something else they’ve seen a million times–except this time the protagonists are queer women, and nobody questions it, and they connect to the basic premise in a whole new way.

Sure, the characters’ love may be forbidden–but it’s forbidden for the same reasons straight people get to have forbidden love. Because one of them is a commoner, because they’re Sith and their masters are rivals. Because the Jedi Code forbids it. Not because they’re queer. Never because they’re queer.

(Mind you I’ve also written some Meg/Christine stuff, wherein the problem is ABSOLUTELY that they’re queer. There’s a place for that. But you’ll notice, if you read my Phantom of the Opera fic, that Mme. Giry figured it out ages ago and, while she might worry, she never disapproves. We face enough examples in the real world of parents rejecting their queer kids. I don’t feel a need to include it in my fic.)

And for a lot of people, these are just fun fics about their favorite pairing. That’s great in and of itself; we’re all starving and scrabbling for crumbs, and my readers are honestly the sweetest and most appreciative people I could ask for. If I just make them happy, hey, my job’s done. But every so often, I get a review or a private message and I can see that thunderbolt realization. I can see their universe opening up.

We can be fairy tales too?

We can have soulmates, these archetypal stories I grew up loving can be about me? We can change each other for the better, we can be heroes, we can be murderous self-indulgent evil-is-sexy Sith, we can be the ones charging the dragon?

We can be genre fiction–stories about assassination attempts and royal duty, intergalactic politics and Greek mythology and dramatic rescues that have nothing to do with the sexuality of the protagonists? We can just…be there because we are?

We’re allowed to do that?

That’s an option?

About the Jo:

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22-year-old Psychology major; cis, very white, extremely queer, terrible Cherry Coke habit. In a continuing blood feud with the continent of North America, will bore you by talking about dogs and/or various other animals if you give me half a chance, and I reject the false Star Wars/Star Trek dichotomy. Star Trek is for hope, Star Wars is for stabbing Nazis in the face, and both are Good.

#mylordshesacactus #I Am Femslash #Femslash February 2017 #Femslash February #Type: Meta #submission

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