#god adulting is shit sometimes

[amorgansgal]

Nothing like losing any shred of dignity you had left because you're screaming at an automatic robot voice on the phone who can't understand your policy number.

#god adulting is shit sometimes #i just want to transfer a pension policy #i'm going to cry because this stupid pension has £60 in it but the easier one to transfer into won't let me #it's a defined benefits pension and they don't transfer those #but the charge applied on the policy means it'll probably dwindle down to nothing by the time i do retire #i don't want to lose what little money is in there already #and now i have to do it all by post #pension #retirement

[rainymoodlet]

Kiss Me in Komorebi 🌹 pre-show

An Exclusive Interview with the Bachelor! (part four) including a never-before-seen picture of Daniel Taylor's family!

pictured from left to right, birth order in brackets. Thomas (5), Matthew (7), Alan (3), Sofia, Rachel (2), Jordan (6), and Cheatham (4)

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more about the family below the cut! 🌸

Dan's family has been incredibly off-the-radar until now. He kept them almost entirely a secret during his earlier career, and only Jordan (a rising Simstagram model) has been exposed to the public eye and featured in his SimToks. He's not supposed to have favorites but his baby siblings, Jordan and Matthew, are definitely his favorites.

Daniel's father, Lt. Daniel Taylor I was an intensely abusive man, rigidly militaristic and a drunk to boot. Dan was the firstborn, and his namesake. Every sibling that was born after him was automatically under his protection, and he values each and every one of them above himself.

If you'd like to read more of Dan's history, you'll find his entire history written here, on his old profile. His history is not public knowledge: I just love writing and was too impatient to reveal it slowly!

Sofia Taylor (nee Perales) || Dan's mother. She can do no wrong in his eyes, and is literally the most important woman on Earth to him. Getting along with and being respectful to her will be very important. She suffered immense abuse at the hands of Dan's father and put up with it for years for the safety and advancement of her children. Dan never blamed her for anything, and the minute he got enough money from his show, he bought her a cottage in the rolling Henford countryside. Dan pays for everything, and she wants for nothing - which is, as he says, how she should live out the rest of her days forever.

Rachel Howard (nee Taylor) || The second-born. She is shrewd and sharp-witted, and very much a product of her father's stern household. Though she has a warm smile and a soft touch, the scar on her lip and the hard steel in her eyes belies the kind advice she's wan to give at any given moment. Rachel stepped in to take care of her siblings alongside Alan when Dan was shipped off to military school, and the three eldest siblings have a very close (if incredibly easy-to-aggravate-one-another) bond. Has two twins, a boy and a girl. Was so eager to shed her last name that she legally changed it once her boyfriend proposed.

Alan Taylor || The third-born. Alan has all of Dan's taciturn stoicism, but he's been softened by years of fatherhood and a quiet life lived in peace with his husband and children. Alan admired his eldest brother immensely, and was the one who felt the most abandoned when Dan left (seeing as he became the next Oldest Boy in the household). It took a long time for the two to reconcile after Dan's small rise to fame, but the two would say they're even closer now than they were before Dan left. Literally the most dad of all dads - if Dan never wanted to give his own children a chance to face the cruelties of the world, than Alan wanted his own children to be able to experience nothing but love and kindness that the world has to offer. Has three kids, two girls and one boy.

Cheatham Taylor || The fourth-born. An absolute rascal, Cheatham is the Uncle Bumi of the family. Largely ignored by their father for his weakness of health in youth, Cheatheam began acting out and rebelling at an early age to garner any sort of attention from the Lieutenant. He and Dan were at odds for the majority of his youth, and it wasn't until Dan was forced from the house that Cheatham was forced to confront their reality. Cheatham spent a few years on the road with Daniel before taking over the family ranch (and turning it into a weed farm, just to spite the old man) He's a spitfire and has the best laugh in the world, and though they are polar opposites, Dan finds him to be the easiest to confide in. He is happily married and has two children, both boys.

Thomas Taylor || The fifth-born. The Clark Kent of the family, Thomas was the Lieutenant's "second attempt" at a Proper Son. Thomas was a sweetheart from the moment he was born, and though his father taught him all the things he'd taught Dan, bullied him and beat him like he'd bullied and beat Dan, he never lost that innate sweetness and goodness that kept him Thomas. Sweet, simple Thomas. He was young when Dan was sent away, but insisted on sending him letters every chance he got - and Dan saved every one. He owns a garage in Starlight Shores, and he and Dan have beers and watch football together on the weekends.

Jordan Perales || The sixth-born, Matthew's twin. An aspiring Simstagram model and the baby sister of the family, Jordan was very young when Daniel was sent away, but she remembered him incredibly fondly. Daniel was even more protective of his younger siblings in his father's later years, as the man seemed to get impossibly worse as time went on, and both Jordan and Matthew were constantly at his side. The two of them view Daniel as their father figure, and he and Jordan are particularly close: she's the one who convinced him to go on Jupiter York's bachelorette, and she's the one who convinced him to try The Bachelor Challenge for himself. You'll want to bond with all of his siblings, sure, but Jordan is the one you'll want to be friends with the most. She changed her name the second she turned eighteen.

Matthew Taylor || The seventh-born, Jordan's twin. Matthew is the youngest and final Taylor, a surprise baby hiding behind his sister in the ultrasounds. Matthew struggled the most as a child in the Taylor household, which is saying something: but to put it in perspective, Daniel took more punches, beatings, and bloodied noses for Matthew than any other child in the house. Daniel holds the world in his palms for Matthew, and the two are incredibly close. Matthew is trans, and he knew from a very young age - which, as you can imagine, didn't exactly sit well with the Lieutenant. As Daniel will have the public know, Matthew is a boy, was always a boy, and if his deadname or the traumatic history of his transition was ever made public, Daniel would personally John Wick whoever was responsible.

#ts4 #ts4 edit #ts4 bachelor challenge #ts4 screenshots #ts4 simblr #ts4 challenge #kiss me in komorebi #;kmik #oh my god this took me too long dsfkff i'm a mess #but seriously this was too fun!!! i tried to make his siblings look diverse but god #my sims are so same-facey sometimes sldkfsdlkf #and yeS that is a MOTHER AND SON i have no poses for adults kdfhjsd #i love them all i had so much fun piecing together their faces and personalities #they are all very important to daniel and there's nothing he wouldn't do for them #and i said it here!!! befriending them is going to be very important for our contestants #the first impressions made by all of these personalities WILL have be shared with dan #whether or not they influence his decisions... we have yet to know #anyway!!! i hope you guys are excited!!! #its my birthday and we are so close to fruition on this bc!!! i am so hype!!! #also yes omg the amount of headcanons and shit i could give you about these guys AH #but i will repeat: jordan's the one you wanna win over!!! #also yes daniel is mixed 🥹 selvadoradan and WHITEST WHITE ASS WONDERBREAD (his dad)

[kataraslove]

I just really hope that the new ATLA movie will be interesting, bright and exciting, that it will pay tribute to all the characters, but especially to Katara. And there will be kataang in it: wonderful, respectful, supportive relationships. And a huge number of pro-Katara, pro-Aang and pro-kataang new fans will come to the fandom. I hope that the time will come when a respectful and competent and deeper gaze of the canon and canonical characters will dominate the fandom, and the toxic z/tara will remain in the minority (I have nothing against zutara as a ship but I am against lying about characters and hatred, and, unfortunately, I saw most of this in the z/tara fandom). Let the era of peace and kindness finally come for the fandom, as Zuko would say.

one can only hope for that, anon! after that leaked image of adult gaang came out, i saw antis do a complete 180 about their perceptions on kataang. so who knows? however, considering that it's been 15 years, i don't think perceptions on here - or in other places - are really going to change much from people who vehemently despise kataang. i think every interaction and scene between katara and aang, no matter how positive it is, will be spun to be made as if it's negative. i mean, we literally saw their reactions to a COOKBOOK that stated that aang liked to cook for katara. "wow, i can't believe you need a cookbook to confirm that aang does the bare minimum," or, my personal favourite, "katara has to literally baby aang by controlling how much sugar he eats!"

that being said, i'm not interested in changing the minds of people who genuinely believe kataang to be an abusive relationship. what i do want instead is for the adult gaang movie to provide a fandom environment in which kataang shippers are not afraid to admit that they ship kataang. for a whole week after the leaked image was released, there was a kataang renaissance that occurred on twitter, with viral kataang tweets and people coming out and admitting that they enjoyed kataang. much like the kataang renaissance that occurred after the legend of korra first aired (with canon confirmation that katara and aang had three children before bryke ripped that perfect family perception to shreds), i want that same thing to happen following the adult gaang movie, except in a much larger scale, with much more fandom content.

at the end of the day, though, what i really want is for katara to be done justice by this movie; for her to receive the recognition that she deserves after 15 long years of absolutely null. i do believe that she will receive justice in the form of good writing and canon recognition - the signs are all there - but at the same time, i am a little cautious just because it is bryke behind the wheels. those two, in their efforts to explore what they believe to be nuance, tend to leave out a whole bunch of details. simply put, they're not the best writers, and even worse, they've been horrible at receiving criticism in the past. so i hope those are attributes of theirs that have changed over the years, as they've matured and gained more industry experience. i think it has, just based on the things that i've heard from the two, and the fact that they're now part of a gigantic hollywood megacorporation and streaming service that is dependent on the success of avatar studios. speaking of which, you have no idea just how much paramount is riding on avatar studios to become a commercial success. the fate and future of avatar studios are absolutely reliant on this adult gaang movie becoming a huge commercial hit.

... which is my other area of concern. just what are bryke willing to do to ensure that the movie will be a huge hit? what plot points will they introduce? what will they do with the characters? i don't think that they're going to pander to fandom demands (have certain ships become romantic) because they said that they're not going to do that. at the same time, however, what exactly are they going to do? katara and aang aren't the most popular characters in the series, their romantic relationship is an area of contention and controversy among the fanbase; from a business standpoint, how exactly will avatar studios handle this? i don't want any cheap, convoluted, soap-opera. i also don't want a marvel movie in the form of avatar. i want fulfilling character arcs and dynamics and plot points that stay true to the themes of avatar the last airbender. as we've seen with the kyoshi novels, we know that the spirit of avatar can be replicated if the right creative voices are in the writing room, holding the pen.

i suppose that's something that bryke will have to deal with and figure out. no use losing sleep over things we know nothing about. just based on the things that i've seen and read, the contextual clues over the years, the new content from avatar studios, i think we can expect the best, especially as kataang shippers. however, i do approach this whole scenario with some (read: a lot of) caution.

but i absolutely agree with you here (and what you said about zutara shippers):

And a huge number of pro-Katara, pro-Aang and pro-kataang new fans will come to the fandom. I hope that the time will come when a respectful and competent and deeper gaze of the canon and canonical characters will dominate the fandom.

i long for a future in which katara fandom analysis isn't essentially, "she's horribly mistreated by the gaang as their resident Mother. that is, until zuko the liberator comes save her. this is why she would be a perfect firelady." if nothing else, please let the outcome of the movie allow for nuanced perspectives of katara's character.

#kataang #but tbh i've kind of reached that fandom threshold where i'm like idrgaf what you say this is MY interpretation in which i have every right #to hold #sometimes i think about the adult gaang movie and kind of worry but then shrug my shoulders and go 'eh that's a bryke problem' #i just hope they don't sellout their artistic integrity for business god i hate when creators do #like say what you will about lok but that was all their stupid decisions that were subjected to fierce budget cuts #like i respect them in that sense that they will make the Worst Writing Decision Possible (losing the past lives) with their full chest #anyway long story short i think bryke has a lot of potential so long as they're not writing shit #i wholeheartedly believe in u kenneth lin

[sophiethewitch1]

in my hater era

#sophie speaks #tw vent #like. what. what??? #i do try not to upset anyone with trauma dumping or whatever but sometimes that bites me in the ass because people assume I'm not strugglin #struggling hugely #had one of my most violent meltdowns ever recently and it was after pushing myself to do something #and you know. thats on me #but saying like #im NOT trying?? #i dont want to start any problems but oh my GOD what do you think being sick constantly does to a person #what??? #trying to be a proper adult here but i am quite upset #idk how are you supposed to deal with shit like this #express this has upset you and that you are having a hard time #but then they dont believe you?? #trauma dump it is. hope you enjoy my psychiatrists notes #like im level 2 support needs autistic. i need a little fucking leeway or i genuinely try to kill myself #i KNOW its pathetic i KNOW its weak but my number one priority is keep myself alive #im so tired #ive been suicidal for like 7 years now #my life sucks so incredibly hard and I'm in constant pain and that just #it doesnt make me willing to deal with this shit #cripplepunk core lmao #cripple and im going to kill you #this is just geniunely upsetting #i feel like i need a good cry #i really am so tired #i feel like i just dont want to do this #why am i paying for this? why am i doing this? #if im not enjoying this why the fuck would i do it

[opens-up-4-nobody]

I desperately need to be a scene kid for Halloween this year

#idk y but i suddenly realized that im an adult and could potentially buy the goth bullshit at hot topic #that 12yo me desperately desired. and then i was like oof but i like the contrast of color #like i think i really wanted to be somewhere between scene and emo really #but thrn i was looking at scene outfits and im like woof. this is the kinda cringe i love. all thr fucking patterns. all thr colors #i even have thr 1nvader z1m graphic tees in my closet... i think #i just dont kno how tf to do that to my hair and also i dont have actual makeup lol #but i must be a scene kid for Halloween. i want the most ostentatious outfit. oh god im gonna have to go to the mall #i havent been to the mall in ages. i need to go to hot topic and claires. is pacsun still around? do they still sell skinny jeans? #i feel like everythings all bland now in stores. where tf do i go to get early 00s and 2010s clothes #good will maybe??? oh god. its like 3.30am and my hormones r all fucked up so i was experiencing like the type of fear you have when youre #like a little kid in a dark room by yourself. its not fair. when my hormones shift it goes: im so depressed to im full of rage ill kill u #to the world is so fucking beautiful im gonna kill myself. like in a not worrying way idk how else to express the feeling. to the type of #unhinged and undirected fear that belongs to a kid who doesnt kno shit. also lil heart palpitations and sometimes feeling like im gonna die #its bullshit. y does my body hate me? ugh. at least ive got a Halloween plan now #unrelated #oh god. dont let me cut myself bangs. im trying to grow my hair back out lol. im an emo with no bangs

[c-119]

Meeting ur dad’s friends be like

#planes: fire and rescue #planes 2 #doodles #disney planes #the smokejumpers #cabbie mchale #cabbie #silly little fellas #sometimes Cabbie talks on the radio #he always ends up telling people about his kids #he’s so proud of them #he’ll never say it to their faces #they adore him too #they adore each other #family goals #adult version of ‘oh my god is that a puppy????’ #‘holy shit are those your kids’

[digitaldollsworld]

When have I ever given my mom the impression that I’m a Christian. Seriously. In what about the way that I talk about things and the way that I live my life ever gave her that impression of me

#she sends me posts sometimes like Oh You Have To Keep Your Faith In God like. hello? #do you know which one of your kids you’re talking to? the gay trans one? #she just sent me an I’m Proud Of You post on messenger which is sweet #& I appreciate the sentiment but that shit said #you love God and God loves you #WHOOOO? who loves God? we didn’t really grow up going to church so why are you trying #to push this shit on us when we’re grown ass adults? I am your youngest child #pls stop sending me this stupid shit thank you‼️ #I don’t subscribe to your religion I’m so sorry #rjb.net

[tritoch]

thesis: for all that it's weird about things like food and elitism and government secrecy, sharlayan must be at least kind of normal about sex and relationships or otherwise people wouldn't be constantly being like "HEY warrior of light did you know alphinaud GOT IT ON at the studium??"

antithesis: due to extratextual restraints, no one close to the player can be either confirmed or denied to even have romantic tension in-universe with anyone else. both y'shtola/runar and thancred/urianger are examples of dynamics that are affected by this, where the parties can only be repeatedly indicated by the story to be Nebulously Close to each other because everyone in the story close to the WoL must be able to be in a relationship with anyone and no one. thancred is even suggested to have stopped having casual hookups at some point since ARR, in part because urianger dunks on him about it. read by itself and not as an expression of extra-textual restraints, this suggests the party, almost all culturally sharlayan, are kind of weird about relationships.

synthesis: because sharlayan is literally just a giant college town and basically everyone works for the university-government, its people have arrived at a cultural double standard on this point. while as a cultural and political matter, sharlayan sexual and romantic norms are more or less do what you want, live and let live, as a professional matter you gotta have that shit on lock once you get your archon mark. it's necessary to keep every single matter of state and society from descending into an avenue for grad student cohort incestuous bullshit. you can still court and love and marry and hook up with whoever, no one cares, but you must keep it to yourself. your juvenile relationship drama will not imperil my grant application!

#it's kind of weird and notable that FFXIV has exactly two main characters who have “haha you've hooked up with so many people” as a gag #and it's alphinaud and thancred. both men. both raised in sharlayan. both have jokes made at their expense on this point by sharlayans. #in this model urianger ribbing thancred about his drunken hookups is simply how adults in sharlayan relate to one another #sometimes you dunk on your bro like hey remember the time that our somanoutics study group fell apart? why'd that even happen? #oh bc you got wine drunk and hooked up with Scronchifaut? oh my god i totally forgot about that. haha. anyways what are you drinking tn #not merely as a matter of dunking on your bro but as a matter of cultural norms replicating themselves through your behavior #between alisaie and krile with alphinaud and urianger with thancred you can make a case that dunking on your buddy's old hookups #is a common and culturally supported behavior in sharlayan that operates to remind people to keep their shit on lock

[pyreshe]

full offense- if you’re one of those shitheads who is constantly going on anon to bitch and moan about how “you are not active enough for me :( cater to me personally and ignore your irl responsibilities :( you are bad, actually, for not prioritizing your hobby that you do for fun on my behalf :(” i am PERSONALLY going to fill every one of your shoes with guacamole.

#✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ: ooc / [mothman vc] take me home country roads #like baby girl we're adults and shit with jobs and school sometimes writing every day isn't a fucking option #and that is in fact a you problem #if someone is not active enough u can simply unfollow them? why the fuck u gotta write whiny little bitch letters #lamenting about how because u have no friends or life or other hobbies everyone else MUST prioritize their rpc career?? #my god u will not survive the winter

[drinkingbitterboy]

troubled son is already basically therapy for me so what’s the rest of the album going to be like

#all his interviews for this and for change the show abouit taking a new perspective on life and growing older and all that??? #GOD i need to take that view and energy and put it in my life #like when he said that change the show had 'the most honest songs [he's] ever written' #but like now that i'm like a Real Adult it's getting easier to relate to the Disaster i was in my twenties and it's just like so therapeutic #to listen to mk songs that have the same vibe right? #he's been through shit and feels bad about it sometimes but he's got friends and he's content and i'm AHHHHHH #also GOD the vibes from the opening of the song it feels like me and my ipod in 2006 again

[skrunksthatwunk]

jumpscared by least favorite seasonal chore

#I THOUGHT WE WERE JUST LEAVING IT THIS YEAR SINCE IT WAS SO LATE. FUCK THE GRASS IT'S SHITTY GRASS #it's almost xmas why did you not rake the yard while i was um. not around #IT SUCKS OKAY. I"M NOT A TEAM PLAYER #ALL'S FAIR IN LOVE AND MANDATORY POINTLESS YARDWORK #it hurts my back and my joints and it takes me forever and it's always stupid bright outside and i hate kicking the rakes and it's never #good enough because if i'm raking the yard it should be perfect right?? it always turns into a 3 day thing and the yard isn't even that big #we just all suck at it except for my dad so he spends the whole time being like well why don't you just do it this way. dad i CANT that's #why i'm doing it my way. it's shittier but it's Possible and yours is not. bruhgh i hate raking the yard sorry that's all #i am feeble and sore and i hate moving please don't make me do this #he's like why do you sit on the ground to scrape the leaves into the bags girl what else do you want me to do. i can barely do the dishes #without sitting sometimes and you want me to rake for 6 hours??? what????? #look i know this is mostly trivial but it sucks okay. fuck my stupid baka life #i have been exactly this bitter about such chores my whole life and im not stopping now. i hate being made to do stuff on a whim that hurts #me for an entire day when i wasn't expecting it okay. i feel like that's a normal response adults are allowed to have even though children #are not. something something children's autonomy etc #and honestly i just hate being in my yard doing manual labor in full view. you should not be able to see me moving around what ew gross #(<- super weird about being perceived doing anything physical) (<- hates being seen moving awkwardly and so anything but small practiced #movements are just. agh. unless they're silly and i can make them smoother but like exertion? No. oh my god i hate that) #shit like oh i don't wanna put a bra on bc that's uncomfy but what if my neighbors ogle me while they drive past i don't want that #just some gangly twink failing a basic task in the clumsiest way possible and fucking all their joints at the same time. sucks. hate #(<- man i don't even feel right EATING around people for the most part like. you want me to RAKE?? movement is a performance and you put me #up there with no rehearsal no script nothing just the wikipedia page for hamlet. i can't do this all of a sudden. what. what) #(<- i just. waughhUAGHH i hate it so so much i don't like it okay. for reasons that are yet to be diagnosed) #(<- no body language is natural to me so it must be practiced to feel natural AND YOURE PUTTING ME ON THE SPOT. IT FEELS WEIRD) #aughh. if i had the leaves on a table and a chair or something i'd be better. not great but better. but all the bending over and crouching #and scooping and getting leaves under my gloves and the scary scuttly bugs and scraping myself on the branches mixed in on accident i just #do not like it. gross #ugh at least now i have wireless earbuds. used to yank out my corded ones with the rakes pretty regularly and Oh Boy Did That Not Improve M #Situation There like. whewwww #and my dad's always like hey i know we're starting late (it's past noon here) but ummm i'd really appreciate it if we could really push

[batking-lich]

"i'm not like those Other People, i only consume Unproblematic Media™ with Good Representation™ and i don't like Irredeemable Media™"

"i'm not like those Other People, i don't like this Sanitized Media™, i only like Real Art™ with Bad Messy Representation™"

you are literally the same people wearing different hats the only things you disagree about are what counts as bad media and what counts as good representation

#bats makes a post #oh this ''bad'' representation you love was made by an actual queer person? depicting their lived experiences? #and/or you like it because it in some way reflects your own actual lived experience? so you think it's good rep then. #and this other queer media doesn't reflect your lived experiences at all? #and it feels too clean like it was made for straight people and not actual queer people? you might even go as far as to say it's... bad rep #''i don't like Show A because there's not enough good rep'' ''i don't like Show B because there's too much good rep'' #You Are Both Grown Adults Arguing About Shows For Children. You Are The Thing You Claim To Hate. #everyone needs to chill the fuck out and get some nuance and recognize this a giant community where everyone has different needs #and that we all have better shit to do than argue over ultimately nothing #and to be clear i'm not different from any of these people either! none of us are! we all like it when things are good #and don't like it when things are bad #and it's completely within human nature to argue over pointless shit so i don't necessarily blame anyone #back in the day you had to get books published and shit to be a philosopher #but now anyone can be a philosopher for free and share their ideas with the world #and that's wonderful! but god is annoying to read sometimes #(and to be absolutely clear i'm not coming specifically for people who love ''bad'' rep #those are just the takes i see more often due to content curation #and therefore the side of the debate that annoys me more because i actually see it regularly #and generally is the side i agree with more often in the broad strokes which Makes It Worse when they're annoying about it)

[britneyshakespeare]

you know i mentioned last night that i realized only *after* i started rereading david copperfield that since i recently became an aunt, i was gonna see the story from a whole new angle and start relating more to betsey trotwood. i didn't even think about how at salem house i was gonna be poor mr. mell...

#i mean i didnt really think about mr. mell much because he's more of a minor character #he doesnt come back throughout david's life like steerforth or traddles or emily or agnes or #or or or all these other dozen major characters #in fact i only think of salem house as a minor part of the book. the shit we gotta get through to get to aunt betsey again #in a sense i cant wait to be done with it again #but oh my god reading about the rowdy schoolroom and how he's hardly managing to handle his stress #MEEEEE!!!!!! ME AN EDUCATOR #diana rereads david copperfield #literally just let me fucking play my flute badly in peace #you know i really have grown up a lot in the past 5 years bc all the adults used to just be caricatures to me #in the sense that all of dickens' characters are kind of caricatures. theyre exaggerated and silly #whether theyre supposed to be archetypal good or bad people. #because the way dickens uses hyperbole. sometimes it's just too true! #like the assholery of steerforth. how disingenuous but charming and persuasive he can be #that is SO true to how it feels to look up to older people as a young child. david copperfield's yielding to him is so realistic #david copperfield's own childish innocence throughout the early chapters seems comical but is emotionally true to how childhood feels. #these were the parts of the novel that resonated with me very deeply at 19. and they still do #but oh now. now i understand the position of the working adults. especially since i work w kids now how different it all feels. #and have worked w kids for several years too. but only about a year after reading dc. actually almost 2 years #im one of the bumbling incompetent adults. oh dear. oh lord.

[theradicalace]

thinking back on my childhood and coming to terms with the fact that i was maybe slightly neglected emotionally

#ace rambles #my mom always comments on how i was such an easy child to raise #because she could just set me to a task and i would stay there for ages #(except for when i would randomly decide to leave the house just for funsies) #which #we're not even going to get into how absolutely autistic coded that particular trait of mine was #but like #i have a lot of childhood memories of being. largely unsupervised #and it wasn't really my mom's fault what with her being chronically ill and my father working a 9-5 #and i really WAS an easy kid. apart from my wandering spells i didn't really get into much trouble #but sometimes i wonder if i would have turned out different if i'd had adult figures to actually bond with more often #i don't know #my childhood wasn't BAD #it just could have been better #god don't listen to me wtf am i saying rn #i owe my mom a lot she tried her absolute damnedest and i generally turned out fine #ughh why is this emotional unpacking shit so much work

[barnbridges]

twofers and autism moms on the venn diagram should be like, 80% overlapping and 20% out, but it's so rare to see anyone with actual autism or awareness of that it's a fucking disability hang around the mommy circles it disappoints me endlessly.

#like i do not mean to be mean towards all neurotypical caretakers #i am very sure a lot of them are fine people and take care of their children #and especially people who have adult children with high support needs i applaud them #but my fucking god does it sometimes feel like everyone is promoting shit like aba and the conversation is more like #a mommy blog #than about what being a PERSON with a DISABILITY is #like sometimes i do understand its hard - being a mom is an identity #and fathers esp those of disabled children can be flakey #but i cannot fix your family #but you invade spaces for people like me #to worry about raising your child not to be happy not to support themselves not to be comfortable but to be “normal” #and frankly that's terrifying #like yes spaces for parents are important #but godfucking damn it does it feel dehumanizing sometimes #like the tism is just for nonverbal children - who these parents talk about as if they are pets #and adult people are just a little offcolor #i am looking for spaces for me that arent the chess club at my university (shouout to our coach remus how ya doing u autism creature) and i #its so overwhelming and dehumanizing a lot of the time when parents walk in and make it so much about THEM #like i empathize with you and i might give you insight into your child MAYBE but other than that... where is MY support #I NEED SUPPORT - skyler white

[sunnibits]

anyways not to pull out the “I’m literally neurodivergent and a minor” card but I honestly something makes the whole Discourse™️ thing in this fandom extra funny for me is the fact that I’m a minor (or at least will be for two more months lmao) and most of the people I see arguing all the time are like. grown ass adults in their 20s and 30s. like I’m sorry but isn’t it my job to be annoying and immature on the internet?? and y’all’s job to mind ur own business and be normal???? I think someone missed a memo here like don’t y’all have taxes to do or something 🤨 stop writing 2k+ word discourse posts online and go grocery shopping girl. your bread is literally growing mold as we speak

#why are you sending suicide bait to a teenager on tumblr dot com. aren’t you supposed to be like. mature #it’s so hysterical #idk I’m sure some of the ppl being annoying are teenagers #but like I will literally see people posting the most insane nonsense and then find out they’re 30+ 💀 #what tf are you doing #you got bills to pay buddy. you got other shit to do with ur time. #like that post ab how 14 year olds should never be argued with online bc they’re 14. except y’all are literally working full time jobs #pls don’t misunderstand me I don’t mean this post like ‘ewww old adults’ lmao god can you imagine. #im just joking around bc it’s funny #but it genuinely boggles my brain how some of u take the discourse SO seriously but you don’t even have the excuse of being a teenager. #how is it that important to you. what r u doing. get off ur phone for like two seconds go walk outside. talk to real people lmaooo #and don’t get me wrong I’m sure I’ve been guilty of being an Annoying Minor before. but at least I’m not making callout posts shdghdgg #idk sorry for being salty I try not to put my toe into this stuff but sometimes I can’t resist