#get away with EVERYTHING. like my SIL just has no boundaries and its gonna cause a lot of problems down the road

[clamorybus]

i know "kids showing respect" usually means "shutting up and doing what their told", but my niece genuinely has no respect for her mother. its kinda fucked up to see, but it's my sister in law's fault; she just has no backbone, and has set no boundaries for that child

#it feels really mean to say but she genuinely doesn't #and i don't mind her being a lenient parent #i mean kids aren't little robots they're gonna fuck up and talk back and be moody #so its honestly good my SIL is flexible #but its to a fault #she'll say smth like 'i'm not going back and forth between floors with an arm load of toys for you #you're almost 8 you can grab some dolls by yourself' #and as soon as my niece pouts my SIL immediately cows and does it #and i do get it its not fun to be strict but she is her MOTHER. her job is to parent and raise her #being her friend should be a secondary concern #and again i don't think or even want her to be a super strict parent #and its not necessarily good for a child her age to be super independent #but an (nondisabled) eight year doesn't her mother in the bathroom with her yknow? #and the thing is my niece is a super smart and indepent kid! just not with her mom because her mom let's her #get away with EVERYTHING. like my SIL just has no boundaries and its gonna cause a lot of problems down the road #mickey.txt #its hard to explain if you don't see it every day but its just not a healthy dynamic #just. im the aunt and it feels like i do more parenting than she does #(which isn't true at all but there are moments where it feels like that) #(also my brother is far from a perfect parent but that's a whole other post. and my niece does respect him) #(again that feels like a nebulous thing and i promise i don't mean in sense of obedience)