#fenix basically goes (injury) mh i know she can deal with that she saved my ass so many times :)) (emotional pain) CALL AN AMBULANCE PLEASE

[vvanessaives]

hey sorry if you’ve been asked this before, but how do vesper & fenix deal when the other’s hurt (either physically or emotionally)? who’s the more protective of the two? 👀👀

aaaa thank you so much for the ask sophie!! this is such an interesting question, i don’t think i ever spoke about this so i'll try to not ramble TOO much jskjfj

in general vesper is the more protective one, her mindset is literally ‘a loved one>i need to protect them from everything in the world’ (perfect example is how she constantly worries for her younger brother). while fenix is the kind of person that worries but doesn't show it, he keeps a watchful eye but he's not going to vocalize his worry like vesper would do. so yes, vesper is the most protective one but fenix is the one that freaks out the most if something bad happens.

if we are talking about physical pain then vesper is the one that reacts with a colder mind. she knows what to do and how to deal with it, and she especially knows that when someone is hurt the best thing you can do to help them is to remain calm. an anxious mind doesn’t help you to act. ofc it gets a biiiit more difficult if we are talking about very very serious injuries, she still tries to keep her cool but her hands might be slightly shaking. fenix on the other hand couldn’t care less if he’s the one hurt but if it’s vesper then he’s bound to act more foolishly. he knows she can perfectly handle herself but if we get to more serious business (for example they are in open fire and vesper gets injuried) then he FOR SURE would start very carelessly and end up injuring himself too 

the funny thing here is that they both know how to deal with physical pain but when it comes to the emotional side...they are such a mess. put two people that NEVER speak about their emotions and keep everything inside even to the point of fucking up relationships (theirs a few times fhdsjf) in a blender and you will have a cocktail of things left unsaid. vesper doesn’t speak up when she’s hurt because she’s too prideful, she gets angry a lot to hide the fact that what she’s feeling is pain, not anger. fenix simply...shuts up, doesn’t talk, maybe disappears for a while when he gets emotionally overwhelmed. if one of them gets hurt by the other then it’s going to take a while to work this out, they will avoid each other until someone decides to speak (FINALLY), they are working hard to improve their communication when it gomes to fights.

if the reason one of them is hurt comes from outside the couple then ofc vesper is still not going to talk about it and she will pretend everything is fine. fenix will try to ask her about it (he already knows she will not immediately talk, she needs 2-3 business days to process that) and then he will mainly offer comfort with physical touch, a hug, a lil cuddle session...just what vesper needs to ease her mind a bit and talk when she’s ready. fenix this time is a bit more open about his feelings, you can perfectly read it on his face when something troubles him and he’s hurt. vesper will ask him about it (she needs to pull the words out of him but in the end he WILL speak) and then try to cheer him up in any way, maybe he will drag him to do something he likes, buy him a little gift, do something fun together...fenix is such an upbeat man sometimes that you can perfectly see when he’s feeling down while vesper will simply keep on going with her life. that’s why fenix worries a bit more when there’s emotional pain, if you don’t notice vesper going through Things then she will never talk about it and just...suffer in silence </3

#shadowglens #ask #AAA OKAY I RAMBLED I'M SORRY HFKJSDFHSK i can't stop myself when it comes to these two #fenix basically goes (injury) mh i know she can deal with that she saved my ass so many times :)) (emotional pain) CALL AN AMBULANCE PLEASE #while vesper is more like..i think she thinks she's not allowed to Freak Out because by freaking out she will not be able to help in #the right way?? so she needs to be very calm about it all the time (she's screaming inside) #physical pain is soo much easier to deal with for them since they are both emotionally constipated hskjf <33 #THANK YOU SO MUCH for this ask sophie i just. i love them so much they are my homemade blorbos <33333 #oc: vesper #oc: fenix