#don't forget to go bask in some sun !!! ((if she's out wherever you are))

[klarriel]

Nimrod

Summary:

Dean Winchester grapples with a relentless double life, working two jobs to make ends meet. In the small town of Smith Center, he keeps to himself, his father's words in his head a never-ending reminder of the past he'd rather forget.

When the mysterious musician Castiel Novak becomes his next-door neighbour, both men are sent on a journey to realise who they could truly be.

In 1979, at the cusp of a new decade, Dean will discover that some people will only stay if you dare to ask it of them.

Tags: Slow Burn, Fluff, Angst, Happy Ending, 1970s Musician Castiel, Mechanic Dean, Store Clerk Dean Winchester, Small Towns, Alternate Universe, Friends to Lovers, Character Death, not dean or cas but oh my god im so sorry don't hate me please, Repression, Childhood Trauma, Flashbacks of trauma, Homophobia, Religious Guilt, Past Sexual Abuse, Past Child Abuse, Implied/Referenced Child Abuse, Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Recreational Drug Use, Past Torture, Sad with a Happy Ending, Dean Winchester Needs Therapy, So do I, But writing this is cheaper

WIP

Read Chapters 1-5/? now

Excerpt under the cut

As the door to Apartment 7 creaks open, he glances around. He’s never been inside another apartment in his building before - it’s kind of disturbing to see one near-exact to his that isn’t his. The identical shelves of the kitchen alcove on the left are packed with plates and boxes not yet stored away. A ratty maroon sofa bed sits to the left of the main room. A rolled-up rug leans against the far wall, between the two windows looking out onto the street below. The golden glow of the evening sun streams in, basking the floor in warmth. 

“You can just put them down wherever” Anna smiles, placing a box of records on the kitchen shelf, before calling out, “Cee! Our neighbours here!” 

Dean decides that, in the interests of not disturbing whatever decorating plans they’ve got going on, the spot next to the front door is probably the best bet for him to set down the items he’s carrying. He places them down carefully,  leaning them against the wall. Hearing a noise, he glances behind him towards the source of the rustling coming from the room to the right of the apartment - judging from the layout of Dean’s own apartment, the bedroom. The door is closed just enough that he can’t see who’s in there, but almost as soon as he looks, a figure steps out. 

The golden light filtering in through the bedroom window illuminates the figure from behind, casting a shadow over them so Dean can’t see their face. Golden tendrils dance around them, and if Dean didn’t know better, he’d say they were glowing. 

‘Oh, hello…? ” A gruff voice tinged with surprise.

“Dean!” Anna interjects, walking over to join the figure, “Dean, this is my brother Castiel.”

Castiel walks over, and Dean can make out his deep blue eyes, and the hints of stubble covering his jaw. His buttoned blue shirt pressed mauve trousers are a match in tone to his sister’s outfit - clean, presentable. He seems still in every way, apart from his mess of brown hair that is tousled wildly, and Dean wonders if it’s so messy because of the stress of moving, or if it always just sits like that. He holds Dean’s gaze, his expression not quite readable. Together, Castiel and Anna make their way over to him, Dean to nervous to invade anyone’s space to move. 

“Hello, Dean” Castiel says, smiling slightly before his eyes drop down to linger on the items on the floor next to Dean.

“Anna!” he scolds, turning to his sister, “Please tell me you have not shirked your responsibilities onto someone you’ve just met ?” 

“A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet?” She offers, but at Castiel’s lack of reaction she wordlessly drops her gaze to the floor, guiltily scuffing her shoe on the wooden floorboards.

Dean could get mad, especially considering the guitar-to-head incident, but at this point he just doesn’t have the energy. Plus, the kid looks like she could use a break.

“It’s fine really, I was just walking in and she looked like she could use a hand,” Dean says, turning to meet Anna’s gaze, “No biggie.”

Castiel huffs out an annoyed breath, running his hand through his hair and furrowing his brow, but he smiles anyway.

“Well… thank you, very much.” he says, before rushing to pick up the items, “We really won’t keep you any longer.” 

Something niggles at the back of Dean’s head. He can’t define it, but it wasn’t there when he left work. Maybe the guitar induced more brain damage than he thought. 

He takes the opportunity and leaves with a wave, hearing a shouted “Thanks, Dean!” from Anna as he walks downstairs.

#dean winchester #castiel #deancas #destiel #deancas fic #destiel fic #nimrod #i posted this like a year and a half ago but i've completely rewritten it and it's actually proving to be very effective free therapy lol #spn

[alvsstudies]

Punishment to Reduce Aggressive Behaviour

🌱 Note! Please reach out to me if you notice any mistakes or inconsistencies as I don’t want to spread misinformation. Besides, I’m here to learn so letting me know would only be of help! With that said, happy reading!

Source: Aronson, E., Wilson, T. D., Sommers, S. R. (2021). Social psychology (Tenth Global Edition). Pearson Education Limited.

Severe punishment and its (lack of) effect

Let’s get straight to the point: Punishing aggression to get rid of it? No-no. Bad approach. Ineffective approach. While threats of immediate and harsh punishment may stop the undesired aggressive behaviour short-term, it won’t get to the roots of the issue. The reason the person acted out in the first place still isn’t dealt with. Despite the punishment, their aggressive values remain (and might even turn more extreme!) Besides - especially when it comes to raising children - severe punishment is a way for the punished person(s) learn that 'oh, if I'm tired or frustrated with someone it's okay for me to scream at them and grab them', which, Yikes.

Harsh punishment (screaming, threatening, getting physical, extensive negative consequences, etc.) -> Target is likely to respond with anxiety and/or anger (not increased cooperation or a change in their internal values)

Physical punishment (punching, hitting, grabbing, spanking, hair-pulling, etc.) ->  Increased risk for development of low self-esteem, depression, and violent behaviour. Target is likely to become even more aggressive and antisocial over time

In sum, we shouldn’t use severe punishment because:

Aggressive values that caused the behaviour in the first place remain; No long-term effect

Teaches the punished person that the punishing behaviour is okay, e.g., ‘ It’s okay for me to hit people if they’re being unreasonable’

Only teaches the person who behaved aggressively what they shouldn’t do, not what they should do instead; Doesn’t present them with an alternative; No constructive feedback to promote change 

Will bring about a heap of negative consequences unrelated to the act that’s being punished, e.g., low self-esteem

So no punishment? At all?

Does this mean that no punishment whatsoever works? Is punishing someone always wrong? No, not necessarily. An alternative that seems to work better is mild punishment. Even a punishment just powerful enough to stop the behaviour in question (e.g., giving someone a stern look) is more likely to make the behaviour stop long-term than severe punishment is. The psychological principles behind this method are quite interesting, actually. I’ll keep it short and concise, but basically what happens is that when you refrain from acting the way you want to act without sufficient external factors to explain why you’re restraining yourself, your brain tries to find the ‘why’ and comes to the conclusion that ‘hm, maybe I didn’t want to do that thing that much after all’. It does this in an attempt of reducing the discomfort you feel when you’re resisting a temptation. In a situation like that it simply makes us feel better to have some sort of justification, such as thinking ‘I didn’t really wanna do that anyway'.

And that’s that on that! Hopefully you found this an interesting read and will think twice before you decide to start yelling at someone. Good luck with your studies & take care! ☀️ 

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