#cis gay men get a pass on tiktok and are allowed to be slay queens as well

[andthespidersfrommars]

I truly can’t believe I have to say this but I am so so sick of some people my age (namely those who are tiktok users, and therefore are deeply influenced by “woke” stereotypes about queer people and queer identities that are often perpetrated on that site) telling me that it’s weird to talk about growing up as a female or about experiencing sexism because I’m not a girl? and that it either “makes it seem like I’m not really nonbinary” when I talk about my connection to girlhood or that these things “shouldn’t concern me.” because they very much do and that’s such an ridiculous and inconsiderate thing to say.

I was afab and whether I wanted it or not I was treated like a girl and experienced childhood as a girl. I am not out to many people in my life and in their eyes I am a girl.

as a nonbinary person I still experience and feel very connected to my girlhood and the solidarity that I have among girls and women because of shared experiences despite not often identifying as girl myself. this is because of many factors including socialization, oppression and personal identity. truly can’t believe most people I know (and quite a lot of people online as well) still don’t understand that the oppression I have experienced as a queer person who was afab and the oppression I have experienced being seen as a girl are interconnected and that we have to address multiple layers of discrimination simultaneously if we want anything to change. this is. not new information. I can’t believe people don’t get this.

#like there’s a very obvious regression to backwards gender roles on tiktok atm #and this affects people who don’t identify as female or male as well because if you have your girl boss girl dinner bimbo queens #and your borderline abusive masculine energy manly men #then nonbinary people are put into this third easy to understand category of #uwu they/them no gender goblincore inhuman elf cuties #and obviously this is as harmful like the other two because it generalises and stereotypes real people into toxic trendy groups #but it’s also harmful because people will think that if you are one of these then you can’t be another #cis gay men get a pass on tiktok and are allowed to be slay queens as well #but if someone is trans than they have to act very stereotypical of their gender or they’re questioned #I have seen this far too much in tiktoks to pass it off as a few harmful users and not the marjority #bc it really is the majority #and if it was only like that on social media I would care less but people literally act like this irl everyday #my aerial class in particular is really bad for some reason #every signal teenage girl there acts like this and says really harmful stuff and I’m just like #do you hear what is coming out of your mouth ??? #and they have pronoun badges even tho they’re apparently cis and dyed hair and the like #which I think makes them think they look like woke gen x girlies #but doesn’t help them with actually being normal and respectful to other human beings #from the groups they apparently support #shit I really ranted here but I’m so fed up #sexism #misogyny #girlhood #nonbinary #anti tiktok #tiktok critical #gen z