#but statistically speaking — just STATISTICALLY — half of you are uhhh more sinning than sinned against

[leupagus]

I’ve had a post go moderately viral, oh God

but I will say I’ve been scrolling through the replies/reblogs to this and it is F A S C I N A T I N G to see how many people use it to complain about the way others have behaved toward them without once examining how they in turn have behaved.

Thinking of yourself as primarily the victim of other people’s unkindness is treating yourself as a character (albeit a main character) and that might be the most fucked up thing of all.

#that post is not for people to think ‘yeah! right!’ #it’s a post for people to think ‘oh no’ #and yes of course OF COURSE many people have been treated badly by others #but statistically speaking — just STATISTICALLY — half of you are uhhh more sinning than sinned against #let's put it that way #and let me also be clear: I include myself in the 'more sinning than sinned against' half #I have treated so many people in my life like they were just supporting characters #and very few people have treated me that way (at least that I've noticed) #and although I hope sincerely that I've never put a character's nonexistent feelings above a person's I can't guarantee it #so this is not a wagging finger sort of thing #this is a 'damn shit's messed up' sort of observation #but there are a LOT of responses mad at me for not being clearer #which indicates that at least a few of them are hit dogs hollering #so here you go: clarity motherfuckers