#but like. it doesn't work. theres no additional grace people will offer you for disclosing disability

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"is ADHD real or have we made another category to encompass freaks and sick people who don't fit neatly into any personality disorder diagnoses and make too much eye contact for autism?" longest thread on the DSM fandom boards, closed down after 1817168179 comments when one user got doxxed for calling another the r word. (answers yes btw)

#ohhhh the fighting that will occur over words and labels #why dont you have a little meth and see if it helps your depression/ptsd/autistic sociopathy then come back to me #“ADHD is made up everyone has it now” YES!!!! ITS ALL MADE UP!!!!!! #we are hurling language at the unknowable grey mass we call consciousness and seeing what sticks #as displayed above ^^^ (autistic sociopathy->ASD) these labels come and go and its always stupid and kind of annoying and reductive #mental illness and its categories are a tool of ontology #often used as a hammer to beat those in need of help #sometimes used as an excuse for evil #but always describing Something #if everyone is getting an ADHD diagnosis and you feel like its faddish and posery #maybe interrogate why other labels come off as more legit to you #if you are defensive of your newly acquired ADHD diagnosis for more than purely practical reasons #why? #why is it important to highlight it? is there something exclusive to having this diagnosis that gets you around certain hurdles? #and if not what is it doing for you? #im being fr here cause I definitely do this in some social contexts when I can tell ive hurt someones feelings or that they are annoyed #by me for reasons I cant suss out #but like. it doesn't work. theres no additional grace people will offer you for disclosing disability #and none that youre entitled to beyond what anyone else should get #which is not me saying “bootstraps it fucko” #its me saying “why focus on carving a space of understanding and compassion for a label when we should be busting down the wall?” #if its grace you want for something it should be grace for all of us #we're all tired and pathetic #none of us can meet the deadlines #ADHD is a useful way of measuring suffering under capital #same as most other long term diagnoses #it is a gateway to getting drugs that will keep you alive #it is also a measure of relative class privilege #(if you are doctor dxd) #and an avenue for discrimination